Other than changing the subject, is there anything one could do to make her not only talk about herself?
She’s a 9/10 and is used to living in the world where everything revolves around her, with guys bending over for her and doing whatever she says all the time.
It’s literally to the point where someone will add her on social media and she’ll go on for minutes about how what they might think of her and why they followed her. It honestly seems like she’s never experienced a guy who didn’t let her just talk and talk about herself.
It might just be a lost cause or something I’m not quite ready for, she’s older and more experienced than I am. I change the subject or just tell her I gtg and leave. I could maybe tell her that ‘whatever person on social media or life’ doesn’t actually think or care about her so much? Seems blatantly stupid to say that and even make it that real.
What do you guys do in this kind of situation? I’ve never experienced one this deep into that world she’s in.
Strif3 2y ago
Could've sworn I'd answered this already but whatever. Positive reinforcement bro, your most potent weapon is your attention. Simply give her more of it when she talks about things that interest you and withdraw it when she starts talking about herself. If she's invested in you, she'll subconsciously associate the good feelings your attention brings with her talking about things other than herself
Musicgoon425 2y ago
Why are you staying with someone annoying?
If you don't have options, go out and get some.
Kuntason 2y ago
You don’t control the frame of your communication but most importantly you don’t control your own frame. She is a high value woman that as you say “seems like she’s never experienced a guy who didn’t let her just talk and talk about herself.” You need to nag her ass and bring her down from her high sky ego to the mud. Do it smart with cocky funny way and she will get it. Next, control your interactions. If she starts bragging about shit, don’t allow it. You need to lead the conversations as you like them to be. Be more assertive with it. NEXT, control YOUR frame. “ It might just be a lost cause or something I’m not quite ready for, she’s older and more experienced than I am.” shut the fuck up with this stupid shit. You don’t ever show her you are bellow her because if you think that way you are that way. It’s all about how you see yourself and see her. Work on seeing yourself as her leader and her as your submissive dog. This is the nature that she carves.
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Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
You already said it. ( She’s a 9/10 and is used to living in the world where everything revolves around her, with guys bending over for her and doing whatever she says all the time)
Have fun with her as long as you can stand it, or just have fun and leave afterward. Treat her like a plate, one on the verge of breaking.
You aren't going to change her. As others have said, you remove attention, see if they get it. This one, VERY unlikely, she's probably got 5 other guys in your same position, she'll just rotate.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
"Ok, enough about you".
Withdraw attention if it persists.
"Stop talking or I walk". Then walk (you'll have to do this a couple of times).
But she might be so far gone it can't be fixed........ why are you sticking with it? Why are you allowing this in your life?