Just wanted to share something which happend to me recently. Was dating this chick and there were things that she was doing that were sketchy and there were red flaggs popping all over the place but I chose to overlook them because I thought Im so "based and redpilled" and I can handle anything she throws at me. Wrong, even if she didnt cheat on me she would have.
One night we got drunk and we got into a conversation about threesomes, I tried explaining to her difference between trains and threesomes (as Patrice O Neal saw it) and was generally amused by the whole ordeal. Then, all of a sudden she says she'd like to do the a train with but "you'd be fucking me while the other guy would be touching my pussy". Later she said she gets turned on by other men. I was dumbstruck and didnt know what to say but this gut feeling that I felt for months prior to this increased tenfold. When we were ready to go sleep I tried asking her if she thinks what she said is normal but she just shut me off and accused me off wanting to start another fight. She also said she was using me as an example and she didnt mean it literally that she'd want to do a train with me lol. Logic.
On the next day, I broke up with her over the phone just when she was at some house party (she'd go out quite often and she'd never invite me despite me inviting her a couple of times when I went out, tried confronting her about it a couple of times but to her i was just whining and she gave me some bs excuses as to why she never showed me her friends) RED FLAG. I said I will come on the next day and give her things. When we met she was all in tears, crying, apologizing saying that she had no idea what she was saying that she doesnt need any other men, that none has ever been so good to her, blah blah. I left saying this isnt going to work anymore and blocked her everwhere. Another hell ensued, she started calling me from a bunch of different numbers and finally she used her friends acc on telegram (tho of course I've never even heard of this girl prior to the whole break up) saying she will come to my house and that she needs to talk. We met, she started crying again, beggining me for a second chance, trying to kiss me and hold my hand, said she'd stop smoking weed, that we can together to a next party etc. I left saying Its over. When i came back she was still there waiting for me and was trying all her best to change my mind lol.
After a couple of days she texted me, repeating the same bs she said during our meetings irl and then finally a week later she called me twice. I didnt pick up the phone and that was the end of it.
The way I see it, she thought of me as too meek despite all my "based trad redpill knowledge" and thought she could get away with acting the way she did. When I broke up with her she realized I'm much more valuable than she thought and her behaviour changed 180, she was a better girlfriend for those 3 days than for the entire duration of our relationship. Also redflags are real, if a girl has no father and lost her virginity at 15, you run away even if you are think you are so handsome and intelligent and think you will be able to handle her. You wont.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 2y ago
Know that feel, I got drunk with a gf once and she told me she had a phase of selling handjobs to her friends in college for fun. She didn't even need the money since she was a rich girl. The mood of the evening went immediately from fun and jovial to "oh shit".
I know it sucks now, that's why you're writing this post, but you'll forget her in time broseph.
splifferoo 2y ago
Hahaha what the fuck
NotThePook 2y ago
reminds me of this 4chan post where a guy said his "loving, family oriented gf of 2 years" confessed to doing a gangbang before they met and said she loved it. She was also drunk when she said this. Thank gods for alcohol.
anon55 2y ago
i laughed hard as fuck op.
Intrepid_Place53900 2y ago
Imagine as a guy, your most carnal sexual things you'd fantasize about or want to try.
Then imagine that you could go on tinder and within a day get 20 girls (decent looking or better), to do it with you.
that's what it is like for a good looking girl today.
I don't approve of it, I don't feel sorry or pity them. I just understand it and accept it for what it is and use it.
This is the way.
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NotThePook 2y ago
How could I go ice skating with her or have her talk to my parents or do any of the silly things couples do when I'd always had it at the back of my head that she literally told me she gets turned on by other men and she'd like to do a train? Not to mention, she wasnt a good gf overall, It was dumb of me to have made her my gf without proper vetting because she'd often do things that no submissive good gf would have done. Her confession or whatever it was was a final nail in the coffin and it helped me realize what kind of person she was. So part of me is glad it happend.
Doubleaxe90 2y ago
That's your problem, read the sidebar and build a strong frame, decide what you want from your LTR in the future and stick to it but know that all women have fantasies, you should not care.
NotThePook 2y ago
I did read it. If your gf told you she'd like to be fucked by other men would you just dismiss it as "womans fantasies" or would you do something about it? I'm not sure I understand what you are saying.
Doubleaxe90 2y ago
Depends on the context, in this case i would realise that i fucked up the attraction with my actions, did not vet her properly and silently demote her to plate while fucking other women and not reacting to her words. If this was the only red flag i would apply dread game, but that's not the case here.
If my gf told me she would fuck Brad Pitt i'll just ignore, if she told me she has a "rape fantasy" i might role play with her.
NotThePook 2y ago
yeah if it was something like you are describing I would have ignored it too... But with her constantly texting other guys that I never met and other suspicious behaviour, breaking up with her was the only way. I just wish I had done it much sooner.
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
Reminds me of my fwb who I was considering upgrading to LTR material. One night we were drunk, talking about sex, and she hit me with the classic "How many girls have you slept with?". After passing all her shit tests, she revealed that she has had wild periods during college and basically hooked up with all the male 'friends' in her group of friends. Immediately I was disgusted. At that moment, I couldn't look at her the same way, just kind of ruined it for me.
So, I know what it's like. Couldn't even imagine a LTR saying this to me. You dodged a bullet, OP, always trust your gut and remember... AWALT
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
What's the question ?