So today (Wed) I have been talking to a girl on tinder and the conversation got turned sexual very quickly (hardly any rapport) and I decided to schedule it for the weekend (even though she was available for me the whole week, but I want to catch up on some red pill sidebar since ive gotten rusty after a recent LTR turning me a little purple pill). For these days leading up should I try and text as least as possible? or should I try and build some rapport (although currently I have passed most shittests and this may be bad)
Also It is very clear that she is coming to my area for sex and I used the excuse "Youll have to come over to my area then for some drinks and netflix" as so she has deniability for her friends. Should I take her to a bar (1 underground stop away, could use underground for kino), or as it is clear she is here to fuck should I directly invite her home for the drink? (keep in mind that the excuse of netflix may be a bit shit then as I have no TV only a macbook).
Thanks!
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
Just do whatever you feel like doing and invite her along. Try out that cool bar, go for a walk, play sports, cook something nice together, ... The thing I've learned over the past years is that I don't plan my days around 'potential' dates anymore. The amount of days when I've set up dates with girls from Tinder, only for them to flake, is unreal. Now I do whatever I want. If she flakes, that's fine, I was going to do that thing anyway.
And yes, try to keep texting to a minimum. You've met her on Tinder though, she's probably texting multiple dudes and making plans with them. As for your date, yes, keep it fun, flirt, touch her, escalate and try to end up at your or her place.
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coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Fuck off dude. No one cares about your spam
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orbilius 2y ago
Unless you're considerably more attractive than her, this:
should tell you that she's a turbo slut. And that's fine. My only point is that you should expect she's also doing this with a dozen other dudes.
So, it seems to me that the problem you have is keeping her on the hook until the weekend meetup. She's texting other dudes, and if she gets a better deal for the weekend, she'll take it and forget you exist.
One tactic you should be using is getting her to invest ...somehow. Examples of investment are:
See, in regular text conversations, guys are flirting and that's just entertainment for the girl. There's no investment from here in that. It's like turning the TV on and entertainment streams out at you. You don't mind turning it off or turning the channel.
The alternative to this is a conversation where you engage less, and even imply that you're bored with her, and (if she goes for this), she makes more of an effort. If you can get her into that mindset, then the difference between you and any one of those other guys will be the effort she put in.
The obvious thing is pics. I guess it could be money if just that fucking good at this game, lol. But basically, if she's given you something, then she'll be less likely to ghost you this weekend.
I say "no" to the bar, as the first thing you do. That's just asking for you to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. I've fucked up that way myself in the past.
On the other hand, depending on how far she traveled, you might need to let her chill for a minute before you start romancing her. I've moved too fast before on a girl that drove an hour and pissed her off.
One thing that worked really well for me one time was, I had driven a ways to see a girl, and I told her I wanted to take a shower and change before we hit a club. She took me into her bathroom and was getting me set up with towels, and I just started undressing her and she was very into it. So, first fuck was in the shower.
I took off my shirt first and she was clearly turned on, so I just went with it.
Maybe some play like that can work for you. I would definitely try something sooner rather than later. After you fuck, you can hit a bar.
pfeilmacher 2y ago
Invite her to your place. Fuck her. Then go to a bar if you still want to. Then go fuck her again.