Long story short, I've been seeing this girl for a month now and, as a matter of fact, she also did this the first time we had sex where she would put up her anti slut defense and told me like 15 times she is going to sleep just when we were making out I was about to escalate further. I broke through it when I took out my phone and started browsing internet.
Anyway, also on the first night she even complained that I'm "commanding her" during sex but I just paid it no mind and kept moving her in the positions that I wanted. Nowadays she often says she wants to switch positions because it's "uncomfortable" I usually just say no and do my own thing but it doesnt always work out.
The thing that I dont understand is that,even now, when we are seeing each other once a week, she always stops me a few times before we actually have sex. Clearly its amusing to her. One time I got tired of this and withdrew all attention and started making myself coffee, when she asked what happend I replied: "nothing". After that she told me to come to bed and you guys can figure out the rest. Thing is, this does not stopped her from doing this again and again.
Not sure how to react to this, are these shit tests? Am I supposed to always go cold on her everytime she does this? For the next time we see each other and do a sleepover, I'm actually considering NOT initating for the night and seeing if she will do it herself, because up to this point, she has never once initiated sex.
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NotThePook 3y ago
Cant just leave the place or make her leave because we always fuck on my family's dacha late in the evening in the middle of nowhere.
So If she is staying over for the night again and I start escalating and she says dumb shit like: "Okay I guess it's time to sleep" then I just stop whatever I'm doing, go to sleep and then ghost her for two days?
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NotThePook 3y ago
btw I said we should meet tomorrow and she said: "we will see". This has never happend. She said she might have "other plans".
Turns out that Im no longer her top priority. She said she would text me back in a few hours but I hope she wont text me back. It's clear she has lost intrest or found someone else.
edit: she texted and said she wants to meet, not sure what to make of it.
sohojmanush 3y ago
I think she is playing with you. Also, @Fawk_Face explained that nicely on his #2. Which means dominate, don't get dominated. Search "Command train" and apply, then also apply push-pull. Also, remember the Stone-gold rule, please do always remember you always have the stones. And during sex try not to listen to her, do your thing. My ex used to say "You are hurting me", but also she doesn't want me to stop :P . Some girls say the opposite of what they wanted.