Hi, i had a fwb during almost 2 years, it didnt scalate to a serious relationship becouse she had a kid and i didnt want to be involved in that at this age (im 22, she is 25) so it really was a relationship that had no future anyways
our relationship was a little bit toxic, i mean we argue a lot but the sex was the best (she told me that i was the best sex of her life ) and that she sometimes had sex with dudes before but she never keeped a friend with benefits for almost 2 years, she always ended in a relationship, i was the first guy in her life that had sex with her for so long without any commitment
we had a fight (one of so many lol ) and we were apart for like 2 months, well i really liked her sense of humor and we hang really well together so i thought to ask her to be friends after that 2 months, and well she agreed, so we talk a bit, she told me that she is seeing someone else, and i thought that i wouldnt care. but oh shit i cared, i was feeling really shitty and i couldnt understand why i was feeling that way if i was getting bored of the sex with her before we had our last fight
my question is what can i do to like get this shit off me? after hearing that i was like okay, well thats logic or natural for her to be seeing someone else, but a day or 2 after she told me that she was really waiting to meet this guy again and i was like "naa fuck this shit i dont want to be that kind of friend" so i told her and we cut contact(she blocked me on everything lol), the thing is what can i do to stop caring? i feel stupid bc when i was with her sometimes i feel like i wanted her out of my life, but now its funny how i dont like her being with another man (the thing is that there is no way im having a serious relationship with this girl ) so that makes me feel more stupid because i know this was going to happend one day or another, but still i cant get this out of my mind, what can i do? (now im unemployed and im studying maths to get into university and im working out, but this year has made me loose almost all of my friendships so im alone with this feeling, what can i do to make it go away? )
i know that with time, or when i get into college im going to be able to have other girls and so so but im feelling like its not going to be the same, or some stupid oneitis like that, but well if you have any advise to help me i would really appreciate it c:
thanks
DeepC1980 3y ago
You have oneitis my friend. She probably did you a favour by blocking you on everything.
Keep hitting the gym and getting what you're feeling out of your system. You have to keep working on yourself and get mentally in a place where you can get past it. Work on your other goals and mission. Mainly though you really need to approach and start fucking other women. Once you have options, you'll develop an abundance mindset and the oneitis will fade away.
invisible 3y ago
you are right, its funny how the mind works, before i could have her whenever i wanted so i didnt care, but now that she is over it i feel atracted, damn lol, but you are right thanks
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invisible 3y ago
Thanks bro i will watch it now ! c:
JohnnyKingD 3y ago
Btw dude if ur dream job is in university go for it , otherwise gtfo of there cuz u will be in debt , broke, alone-er and brunt out seeking a job that won't wire u after studies ,btw I agree what the guy said at the bottom, I made a youtube channel called drewsurselfup if u guys are interested, it's me af so expect more vids, dm me here or on YT for questions, Gluck
Redsabre2003 3y ago
This world is amazing man you’ll get so many more chances with the women of your dreams. It’s almost like God knows what you want and places them around you. Focus on improving yourself and they’ll pop up in your daily life don’t be afraid go up and make conversation each experience is one to learn from.
This is a video that really helped me understand women and red pill philosophy I’ve also linked it in my bio.
https://youtu.be/ewT018ysDO4