I got red pilled 2 years ago.. in hindsight, i dodged a bullet. She had a tonne of red flags.
A very high n-count, constantly needed attention/validation, daddy issues, dresses really skanky, low IQ, addicted to social media etc.
She was fun, cute we had stuff in common. I looked over it. We only dated for 7 months, but she monkey branched.
Now i know I know, i learnt a lot, she already decided in her mind before she ended things, i was too beta.. etc. etc.
But what still haunts me was how cold she did it, like i meant nothing to her. the "light switch effect"
Honestly after this experience and heart break, i never want to be in a relationship again... imagine being with a women for years and then she leaves you because someone else give her tingles and your genuine care and love for her means nothing?????????
it's really haunted me ever since..
i don't want my ex back, who wants a gf like that? Yuck. ... but i fear of ever being serious with a women. is it normal? what do i do?
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0-fenix-0 3y ago
I think you have to come to terms with the same thing I'm struggling with right now. "On a long enough time-line, all women leave." That's something we have to be okay with and enjoy what we have in the moment.
Think about this: There are probably people you know like a grandparent that got married at 19 and stayed together until they were widowed at like 80 years old. Apply some sci-fi magic and now humans can live to be 200 years old. Would they really have stayed together for 150+ years of marriage??? Yes? Then extend it to 300 years, so on. You'll hit a number where eventually you or they will for sure get bored and try someone new.
We can either let that fact take the joy out of relationships, or we can accept it and let go of the things we can't change.
TooManyFaces 3y ago
The value of a relationship (before marriage) should never be tied to your self-worth.
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no_name_user_me 3y ago
Not a relationship expert, but me as well. Almost every relationship with a girl has a pain at the end. Better accept the way things are and expectation of pain too. Accept it and move on.