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Without knowing the specifics, I'll venture that she's under 35 and after three years, she's ready for another child. Hence, time for more sex!

He's not feeling it tho, gee, wonder why...

It never seems to occur to women that there are things men want, need, desire, and hope for from their relationships.

It just doesn't register with women that men are humans too, and they want and need things from their relationships too.

The only real woman tears are when she's alone in her home.

"...he doesn't see me as a sexual partner anymore and I'm heartbroken."

You mean like how you didn't see him as a sexual partner for years, but now that it affects you, it's not only a bad thing, but also his fault?

Low libido? Hog sh!t. Chances are the husband is getting a lot of attention from potential side chicks and the frigid wifey does not want to lose her plow horse. That is the only reason I see that she would try to warm things up.

Too little, too late.

3 years and no sex?

He's done.

The child kept him to try but there is a limit when men just throw a towel.

I'm not buying the "I had a vaginal tear in childbirth 3 years ago and the stitches didn't heal properly". Vaginal tissue heals like crazy, because it has such a good blood supply.

Source: I've sutured plenty of vaginal tears.

Haha that's cute she's shocked to find out that he isn't just a penis she can keep in a secure glass case and only be taken out on her demand.

I don't begrudge a woman time to heal from an injury but three fucking years is ridiculous. She has sent a very clear message that she does not desire him and it is very clear she's only really worried about losing her easy meal ticket and retirement plan.

Got a theory about this situation, after a certain point a guys mind auto places a woman into the 'no sex', like growing up with sisters etc. You cant turn it off once the woman in in this category.

her mouth hands and feet still worked all those years....even if her vag didnt

sooooo....oh well

Because you cant be sexual with your man if the vagina doesnt work..

i feel like i am missing what lead up to this, but you cannot negotiate genuine desire. She may try to keep you around with duty sex or love bombing if she thinks your going to leave, then stop once she thinks your back around her finger. The wait is never worth what she is offering.

Honestly, i think their marriage is done and she will cheat on him most likely. He doesn't desire her physically anymore and now that she got back into shape it won't be that hard for some random guy to come and give her what she wants. Attention and validation. The attention her husband doesn't give her at home.

Very very dangerous prospect to deprive a man in his mid 30s of sex. We're not like we were in our 20s. At some point our libido does go down and when that happens we start to look after our interest more. If you as a wife haven't taken your place among these interests, you may find yourself in an awkward position as the man is now able to picture life without you. He may leave you. He may kick you out. He may ignore you. He may just start treating you as a friend. You're not a sexual partner anymore and it's almost impossible to shake that idea once it's taken root.

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I won't deny that she could change, but likelihood is not there. Nor does it have to do with which sex, men or women. The fact is we are creatures of habit and proclivities and as the ole saw goes, "leopard don't change their spots", applies. For most folks it take an epiphany level event for change to occur. Something deep and personal has to occur for that to happen but I don't think a busted relationship is anywhere near that level.

I wanted to have sex but he was just not up for it.

My fault? No. How can that be my fault.

"No, but you just said there losing weight and getting back into shape after all this time.You.."

Shut up.You are being a rude misogynistic piece of shit.How dare you....x1000.