I'm weighing in a little late for this. But I did want to get this in before the weekend is over.
Here are some things you men need to remember this weekend, and every day as you go into the world.
--You are a man. You were born into the sex that envisions, innovates, makes, builds, creates, plans, and executes. You are necessary. If it weren't for you and men like you over thousands of years, we'd still be living in grass huts and shitting into holes in the ground. If it weren't for men like you, we'd still be hunting animals with sticks and hiding from lions in caves. If it weren't for men like you, we'd still be dying at 30 from strep throat, TB, and diabetes.
--You have wants, needs, desires, hopes, and dreams. They are valid. They are good and right. No one has the right to tell you that you shouldn't want what you want, need what you need, or have desires. No one has the right to decide what your hopes and dreams shall be. No one. No one but you.
--Your aggressiveness, assertiveness, boldness, drive, determination, ballsiness, and all around go-getter attitude are good. They are right. They are useful and beneficial. They are good.
Your desire is good. Your desire for MORE, yes, your greed for more, is good. Your drive to make your life better is good. Your desire for power, and your willingness and ability to wield that power -- these things are good.
These are inherent, intrinsic goods. These things exist in you and comprise who you are, therefore, they are good. They are not bad. They are not evil. They are not immoral. They are good. They are good. Say that to yourself and read that to yourself as many times as it takes for you to get it. These things about you are GOOD.
--You have a sex drive. This sex drive in and of itself is good. It is inherently, intrinsically good. It means you are normal. Your desire for sex is very good. That desire drives you, motivates you, lifts you, and compels you to act. Your sex drive and libido are GOOD. They are not bad, evil, immoral, or perverted. They are necessary for your masculinity. They are good, right, useful, and beneficial. They exist for your good and the good of any woman you associate with.
--The profits you create and obtain are good, because you made them, and you are good. Your profits are also yours. They belong to you to do with as you see fit. Never let others decide for you what should be done with your profits and the fruits of your labors.
--Similarly, your time, attention, labor, and other resources are good, and they are yours. Never let others decide for you what should be done with your resources. They came from you, and therefore, they are good.
You are a man.
You are good.
What you want, need, desire, hope for, and dream for your life - these are good.
Your sex drive is good.
Your essential masculinity - drive, determination, aggressiveness, assertiveness, and power - is inherently, intrinsically good.
What profits come to you are good, and are yours.
Your time, labor, attention and resources are good, and are yours.
You are good.
Never forget these things.
Never forget.
Iceth_Thtea 3y ago
This is good
loneliness-inc Mod 3y ago
Amen brother. Well said. I have nothing to add except for this.
Milton Friedman was one of the greatest economists of our time. He explained very clearly how human self interest is the greatest driver for good when we're free to choose and trade with each other. We're each driven by self interest, but the world becomes infinitely better, more moral and more virtuous.
However, when we have well meaning, kindhearted people who wish to impose altruism on us, we descend into the greatest atrocities known to man.
I'd link to a video of him, but I won't because it's better to just put his name out here and allow the reader to watch many videos of him.
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I think it is far more nuanced than this. Clearly, you were summarizing a stance, but the idea is more that men will take up responsibility for what they have been granted the authority and power to protect and offload that responsibility when external forces render their efforts as a competitive disadvantage.
Right now, men have little authority to effect any positive change in their local communities and those communities have collectively decided to rely upon corporations posing as governmental authorities than charitable contributions. Women and disadvantaged men impose altruism as a simple tactic to shame strong, hard working men into giving up more of their authority and power. The less power they have to create the environment that favors them, the greater control and oppression is necessary to create an environment that gives the weak equal opportunities, which furthers slavery and the general unhappiness of society.
loneliness-inc Mod 3y ago
Yes.
My comment was bouncing off the theme of u/aldabruzzo that your self serving desires, sexual desires, quest for money etc etc etc are all good things.
On the surface, some will argue that selfish = bad for society. Good for you, but bad for everyone else. However, Milton Friedman debunked this thinking many times. As an example, there's a series of films called free to choose that can be found on YouTube.
Losers will still argue for altruism because they lost the game. By altruism they mean equality. By equality they mean subsidies by the winners.
You're right that my previous comment is a bit discombobulated.
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At this point, I'm much less concerned about men "effect[ing] any positive change in their local communities" and more concerned about men changing their own lives. I don't care so much about us saving our town, states, or nations; as I do about individual men saving themselves.
[deleted] 3y ago
I agree with that. Men naturally want to do what is best for their surroundings when given the opportunity.
Wrathful_Buddha 3y ago
I am in such a horrible life situation that I'm fighting to overcome everyday, and I really needed this. Thanks, and happy Memorial Day brothers.
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If you don't believe this, in one season of the Dutch version of Survivor, the men and women were split and given their own islands. At the end of 8 days, the men had a "Cafe on the beach," while the women were stealing from each other and had not yet built a hut .
The video on YouTube has been taken down... I wonder why?
justthewrestling 3y ago
I needed this today. Whoever posted this, thanks.
TepidRod 3y ago
This is objectivism
NoMindNoEffort 3y ago
Yes.
anonimoreborn 3y ago
Thank you very much,man. I really needed this. Cheers mate.
[deleted] 3y ago
Gotcha, women aren't bad, but they aren't good. Tee-hee.
[deleted] 3y ago
Thanks for this, this should be pinned as the first thing new members see.
NoMindNoEffort 3y ago
Amen. Reminds me of Gordon Gekko’s speech:
The point is, ladies and gentleman, that greed -- for lack of a better word -- is good.
Greed is right.
Greed works.
Greed clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit.
Greed, in all of its forms -- greed for life, for money, for love, knowledge -- has marked the upward surge of mankind.
And greed -- you mark my words -- will not only save Teldar Paper, but that other malfunctioning corporation called the USA.
TheLaughingMelon 3y ago
Thank you for this. It is good to hear.
Now men are lost and boys growing up in this world have no sense of purpose or belonging, as society tells them that being male is literally a crime and that they are responsible for all the evil things in the world. Then the same society tells them they need to man up and take care of women and do the hard and dirty work (because obviously women won't do it).
Griever114 3y ago
/u/Aldabruzzo
Thank you. Thank you for saying this.
Freelance_Sector 3y ago
This x1000. u/Aldabruzzo this is why I joined. Because mods here get it. It's not about them and being angry. It's about us, GYOW, and accepting that our "social conditioning" we were subjected to does not and should never define us as men.
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Love this brother, thank you for this
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[deleted] 3y ago
Sure, Mr. "I post at weird Japanese cartoon sites and fighting game sites".
Who exactly is the cope fucker here? Don't bother replying, asshat.
Zot.
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[deleted] 3y ago
Bye Felicia.
alivezombie23 3y ago
Here, take my downvote!
Re3ck6le0ss 3y ago
What does this have to do with Memorial Day?