Hi y'all! Let me begin by saying that I've been a lurker of TRP blog for the last 4 years and this is my first post. I guess I'm a bit nervous folks. Anyways, I've recently broken off a 4 years long intense LTR (probably had oneitis I will freely admit) and long story short, I decided to go on a solo trip through the USA to put a conclusion on that chapter of my life.
So far the trip has been more than I hoped for, and I met some amazing people along the way! I mostly stay in hostels and never had a down time since I left my hometown.
Quick bio: I'm 6"2 asian. Average looks. I speak 3 languages. I dress very casual. I'm a doctor and of course, I lift although I'm more athletic looking (not really buff yet).
With introductions out of the way, I want to share with you guys my FR of last night. Overall I think I did good considering the circumstances, but I'd love to hear your input. I did feel shitty the morning after and so I'm trying to learn from the mistakes I made.
So I've been staying in this hostel downtown for the last 3 days. Met some cool musicians and made a few new friends but not much game happening. Overall, I was having a blast in this music city and last night was my last night. I was heading back from a great concert and planning to take it easy and go to bed early since I've been partying pretty much every night for the last week.
I walk through the lobby and I notice this group of about 12 people, mostly girls, around a table playing some kind of drinking game. I recognize half the group, and so I decide to get closer and see what's happening. Since it was pretty much a closed circle, I find the corner of a couch and sits slightly slanted from the table. Usually I would introduce myself more formally, but I was in a very relaxed mind set so I just watched for a few minutes. A cute blue and pink haired Aussie girl next to me (an 8 in my opinion) notices me and we introduce ourselves. I make playful banter and find her very receptive. One of the guys around the table even comments on how smooth I was. I did feel like I was in the zone, very focused yet at ease with the situation. At one point she didn't believe my age (I'm 26 but looks 21) and wanted to ID me, as a joke of course. We made it into a game where if I'm right, she would have to do something. I thought about going for something bolder but since I didn't care that much, I made her open me a beer instead (I didn't carry a beer opener).
A Swedish girl was sitting next to us so we included her into our conversation. The Aussie girl was giving me a lot of non verbal signs of interest during our entire chat, and she proposes we play pool. We escalate with some kino during the game. At that point I feel great and in the zone. I noticed one of my musician friend out in the corner. We jam for a bit (kinda forgot where the Aussie girl went, which was probably not a good move on my part), and I really get into our music. I'm not a great musician by any stretch but I can play a bit. She comes back at one point and after some piano duo with the Swedish chick (probably a 7-8 but was feeling sick so not really into the mood for much), I propose we go for a walk outside.
As soon as we get out, we start making out. It goes on for a awhile before she stops me. I ask her what's on her mind (thinking she probably has a bf back home and is having LMR). She looks at me and tells me she's not looking for anything serious but wants to have fun. We start talking logistics, and that's where I hit my first obstacle. She lives in a 4 bed dorm and I'm in a 8 bed one. She's top bunk and I'm bottom bunk, so we head to my room. Unfortunately there's 2 new guys there with lights on, so plan A is a no go. Her room is similarly packed. She asks me if I want to just cuddle or have some fun. I'm thinking of giving up at this point and call it a night, but she insists we go back to my room. I bring her back, the guys are now in bed so I close the light and we get started on our bunk.
At first, I'm really into the foreplay, but we constantly get interrupted by my roommates going to the bathroom or opening some light. Then as we progress I realize I don't have a condom and nor does she. She insists I pull out, but I'm hesitant due to obvious risks (I just finished my medical residency so my head starts filling up with potential STDs). With all this, my boner decides to take a field trip. She keeps trying and begging to get me to do it, and I'm slowly losingy confidence as I feel like less of a man by not doing it like in all the FR I read here on TRP. This goes on for hours, and I start giving her beta compliments just because I feel bad for her. Very cringy stuff. I quickly realize this is not good, so I go take a shower and tries to fall asleep cuddling her. She gets the message and starts sleeping under my arm. Probably the shittiest sleep I've ever had. At 5 am, she wakes up, gets her stuff and goes back to her room, all without sayng a word. Finally I get some quality downtime.
I wake up at 7 and packs up for my morning flight and here I am writing this on my iPhone at the airport lobby. I sent her a quick FB msg saying : "had fun last night, enjoy ur 4th of July and your vodka lime (inside joke from last night)".
So that my story so far. My first time posting on reddit so apologies for the poor structure and/or too much details. I wanted to post this because I feel like I can learn from this. I haven't had an ONS since I was 19 (now 26), so I don't know if my experience is common. Anyways, any advice or comment is welcome. I don't mind negative feedback so type away.
Geleemann 5y ago
yeah this is why i'll never stay in a shitty shared hostel
epixs 5y ago
Bro I hooked up with plenty of chicks in hostels. Take them to the bathroom and bang away. Thats what I did. I did bang one chick in the hostels in my bunk , but the other guy was dead asleep. Good times.
PrettyBelowAverage 5y ago
Dude, I'm gonna be straight up, if you're staying at a hostel DO NOT fuck in the dorms. That's incredibly rude because it is impossible for others to not hear and know what is going down and it is uncomfortable for everyone just trying to get some sleep.
They usually have private rooms in hostels, all you have to do is upgrade your room for one night.
Other than that you did a great job, nothing wrong with your actions brotha!
RedLegendx 5y ago
That was actually not bad at all, practice makes perfect. Also, nice job on not going raw, there is a lot of STDs going around and that’s the last thing you want. I wouldn’t have messaged her though.
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
I will always take the Raw risk test. STDs won't kill you.
Beerbeer007 5y ago
there are at least 120 variants of Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) that can go through the layered condoms, still wanna risk getting it?
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
I just said I don't care about using condoms. Why would I be scared of STDs going through condoms?
Beerbeer007 5y ago
Because maybe you wanna share your own STDs to the Worldwide population?
Psilotheos 5y ago
But your future child might
Morphs_ 5y ago
She was very likely to be using birth control in this case.
Psilotheos 5y ago
Not if shes telling you to pull out. I was only replying to that blokes ideology always going raw tho
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
I'm not worried about having children, I can support and raise a child by myself.
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StraightWhiteMaleLOL 5y ago
That may be true, but do you really want your child's mother to be a thot?
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Morphs_ 5y ago
Basically your only point of improvement is that you always need condoms around.
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When a one night stand insist going in raw, not only does the doctor side of me gets suspicious, but I start wondering how many guys have heard that line before, and how many of them had to pee fire the following day. STD is no joke, this is how most people catch it. Always carry a condom in your wallet gents.
jh1871 5y ago
I think the lead up was good, it’s all practice and the more you do it, even without the close, the better and more knowledgeable you get.
Obviously the one key take away you should have taken from this is “fail to prepare, prepare to fail”. Not having a condom, or having scoped out a place to bang have the same root issue, lack of preparation. Next time find a stairwell, alleyway, other place hidden from public eye, but still in public, for a place to get a quickly in and also make her remember the thrill for a while. Going to bed for cuddling was the beginning of the end.
All in All, you did well. Just make sure your ducks are in a row.
ImmunosuppressedTau 5y ago
Good job on having the restraint not to fuck her raw. Good job overall for your first ONS in a long while. Always carry a condom so you don't do a load of work in getting a chic back and then not being able to go all the way.
finclover9 5y ago
Thanks I'm glad I didn't do it. And I agree, that message was not the smartest idea. I guess BP habits die hard.
chaseexcellence 5y ago
Good job Doctor, but watch it with the STDs. I recommend you move to a big city populated with hot women. I am getting reports out of Chicago that the hot white women are dating minority men cause many of the rich succesful white guys are not looking to get into LTR with the chicago girls cause these girls make it too easy to sleep with them if you rich and successful. You are a doctor, you are a man of status. Good job. FYI I wish I was a doctor like you.
SuperCrazy07 5y ago
This might be the dumbest thing I've ever read. There are few, if any, quality white men in Chicago avoiding white girls at all costs.
finclover9 5y ago
I was a actually in chicago 1 week ago and the dating scene is terrible in my experience. The girls must get used to being hit on because with me, they had their bitch shield up to 200%. I do agree I saw a lot of attractive girls downtown... Perhaps others with more experience in Chicago can share their success.
wheresMYsteakAt 5y ago
If I'm not mistaken /u/abdada is from there.
therealapex 5y ago
May I ask what type of Doctor you are, I myself just graduated with a Doctorate's in Pharmacy and I feel proud at the moment. I am sure you are too! I cannot wait till this type of experience hits me, but hopefully will have a condom ready and prepped.
shinolas 5y ago
Hostel tang is the easiest tang. All women traveling alone are looking to fuck. No exceptions.