One of our biggest sources of suffering in life comes from our expectations. Our own expectations of how much money we should have. How many girls we should be banging. How much free time we should have. Then there is the weight of expectation that society puts on us, that our parents put on us, that our family puts on us, and how we have to live up to all of these.

How do we build up these expectations? Programming. From the day we are born we start getting fed. Religious ideas, social ideas. Ideas about Identity. Ideas that eventually make us into the men we are today. We get an agenda pushed down our throat from our families, our friends, the media and just about everywhere we look. Especially in our youth, when our slates are blank, we soak up as much as we can from our immediate surroundings. These early years play a big role in molding who we become and what expectations we will have in this world.

After we’ve been fed and fattened up with all these ideas in our mind of who we are and what we should be doing with our lives, we begin to reflect upon our expectations. Are we living up to expectations, our own as well as others. If we expect ourselves to do things we currently aren’t it can be a great source of unhappiness. On the other hand there is the expectations we have of others. Expectations of our friends, our partners, our bosses/employees. Even more so if we expect others to be doing certain things and they aren’t it can be upsetting. 

On a macro level for example: 

If we expect women to behave a certain way

If we expect Feminists to care about men

Other people to treat us the same way we treat them

And they don’t, it will be a constant source of disappointment. Our expectations of external sources to comply with how we view the world should be will only lead to incessant suffering. The only way to rid ourselves of that suffering is to understand it. To understand why woman behave the way they do, why Feminism exists and is the way it is, why other people treat us the way they do. It is only once we understand why things work the way they do that we can manipulate them to work for us. You may want to eat a great meal, but first you have to learn how to cook.

This is where programming comes in, we’ve been programmed to think things work one way, when in reality they work a completely different way. Programmed to think that if you give woman all your love, she’ll give it back in return. Programmed to think women are oppressed and you should actively be trying to fight for their rights. Programmed to think that life is fair and your efforts will be equally rewarded. Programmed to believe there is a floating man in the sky who is looking out for your best interests at all times. The list goes on and on, but by the time we hit adulthood very little of our thought processing is our own original ideas, most is simply a regurgitation of other peoples ideas. Ideas with some or another agenda attatched to it.

Most of the time we are programmed to believe comfortable, fluffy thoughts because they make us feel good when we think about them. They avoid us having to face the harsh realities of the world, because if we face the harsh realities of the world we would be forced to accept that for the majority of our lives we’ve been wrong. We’ve been bullshitting ourselves and the majority of our actions have taken place off bullshit principles. And by accepting we are wrong means we would have to change the way we operate. And changing a lifetime of programming takes effort, and most people aren’t willing to put in that effort so they would rather stick to those comfortable, fluffy thoughts, even though they are the source of their suffering. The gap between how we think the world operates and how it actually operates is the source of our suffering.

The only other option of course is to take the path of understanding. With so many ideas and agendas out there one has an abundance of information to weed through to get to truth. Most of us have a built in sensor for complete bullshit. But the finer details come from theory learning, converted into practical learning and then a conclusion based on evidence. So when one stumbles onto the bible, or a Jordan Peterson book or even TRP, what they are looking at is simply theory. Nothing more. Only once tested in practice do these theories hold merit. Only once the results mirror the theory can we claim to have an understanding, and even then we have to be open to the possibility that this truth could be overthrown by new evidence. It is only after this process that we can see things as they are.

This is we need to be wary when we’re told to fight for women's rights, or spread the word of Jesus. Be wary when we’re told that men need to fight back and get Traditional roles restored. Be wary when we’re told that the Left is freedom and the right is prejudice. Beware of being told American values are great, and Russian values are evil. The Left, the right, Feminism, Alt right etc, these are just ideas, spawned from the minds of other people, who are now telling you that this is the best way forward for you. Be wary of what role you as a pawn play in pushing these other people’s ideas forward. Figure out for yourself what is right and where you stand, you don’t always need to fit into an American Right Wing Capitalist Mens rights Box. Take the theory, Put it into Practice and distil the bullshit from the relevant and make up your own mind, this is understanding. Otherwise you are simply allowing external forces to continue to program your thinking. 

Bare in mind, you can only view the world through your current programming, if you were raised in a Christian household and then at 18 someone slaps you with the notion that there isn’t a god, at first this will sound ludicrous. It takes time to internalize change and undo lifelong programming. We have to be aware that this is the case if we are to further our understanding. This is why older generations speak about how great their time was, with great music and traditional marriages and that the younger generations are in decay. They are simply programmed to hold onto their generations ideals and reject the new ideas for reasons discussed earlier. A man who is best at getting it to work for him is not debating if the old system is better or the new system is better, he has simply understood/accepted that the system is the way it is and navigates it as best he can.

It is this position of understanding that holds power, and reduces suffering. Because if you understand how things work then you can’t be disappointed when results are as expected. It is only when you see how things truly are and not how you expect them to be that you can truly be free. Every concept on here is based on this philosophy. 

Game is simply understanding how woman work, and using these tools to yield the best results for you.

Frame is simply understanding how things work and then not being phased when they work exactly as they are expected.

You’re only told to lift because the nature of men and woman instinctively respect a thick muscled gorilla.

Hypergamy is simply an observation of the female nature, if you understand this it cannot hurt you.

When your expectations are in line with how the world actually works and not how you want it to work will you be free of suffering. You will simply be contempt. Sure you might still feel the burn when your woman cheats on you, or when you don’t get a pay raise because you’re a lazy slob, but you will understand it. You will understand the world is not how it was, or not how you want it or even how it should be, it simply is how it is.