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Vegito323 6y ago
Girl waved hi to me on the bus, usually I’d say hi back and go to my seat, but this time I remembered that was a signal for a invitation. I sat down and had a nice conversation about school for the entirety of the ride. Feelsgoodman small steps
Trumeau 6y ago
Well on the women front I've been trying to get a sugar baby but they so far have been even crazier than normal girls.
In life news I am waiting for my marks but I totally think I got my 4.0 in engineering. Fuckin proud of that one.
Just enjoying time off and lifting to avoid getting fat off all this Christmas baking.
[deleted] 6y ago
Got back from college and did almost no exercising, went to bed late everyday, and haven't even been shopping for gifts.
With a random stroke of motivation and willpower, I am now starting to figure out what I am going to do over the break, what will my diet look like? What will my exercises look like?
Also if anyone knows any good workouts/programs with only dumbells and barbells and no machines, that would help.
Thanks all, I have noticed my life getting better since TRP. Easier to talk to others, easier to make friends, less stress, more happy, lifting more, and I lost about 20 pounds.
aussXvill 6y ago
Started a schedule and a no fap today. Idk why it feels so hard but I think I need this to sort of breakthrough my habits and become stronger within my mind. Waking up earlier helps me get a lot more accomplished throughout the day. I’m running 2 miles a day every week and doing about 20-30 push-ups/ sit-ups 3 times our of the day. It’s just a start but better than nothing.
asapkokeman 6y ago
Positives:
Getting more consistent with my hobbies. I work on one of them every day.
Sticking to my gym schedule.
Have been eating well for the past couple weeks.
My frame is improving. A tiny example, this guy approached me at the gym yesterday as I ended a set. We made eye contact, so I took out an earbud. Then we stared at each other for two or three seconds. I think he was expecting me to get out of the way or speak first. I just stood there and he finally asked if he could work in, to which I happily obliged. A couple months ago I would've said something like "oh, yeah man I'm sure you want to work in, uh let me get out of the way". Small example, but it's nice to know i'm improving.
Negatives:
Had a bad semester in school. Nothing I can't come back from, I just need to use it as a kick in the ass to get my study habits up to where they were before.
I'm not doing well with my morning routine.
willingfiance 6y ago
I started monk mode a few days ago. It was okay at first. I had some university classes and work every day, but now it's Sunday. I keep picking up my phone and putting it back down. I keep opening Reddit on my laptop, then closing it when I realize what I'm doing. Usually, I'd watch a series just to have something to occupy my mind and browse Reddit aimlessly to keep myself distracted, so it's weird to sit here and not know what to do with myself. I guess I could think of a few things I should do, but instead I'm sitting here, so out of energy from doing nothing, that all I can do is nothing.
I've been doing a lot of reading - The Rational Male, Illimitable Man, and the TRP Handbook. It's been great. But I also know that's not all I should be doing in monk mode. I want to write, I want to work out, I want to do something, but I'm finding it so hard to find the energy to do any of it. On a positive note, I did manage to get writing last night. Probably written more last night than I have in the entire five years prior.
mushroom_overlord 6y ago
Have to get back to work, only really have time to say that my study habits have greatly improved. If I get sidetracked I'm a lot more invested in getting back on track, partly due to my pre-RP ideas but a lot because of the ethic I've developed from focusing on a Mission and not giving a fuck otherwise.
Drakkenstein 6y ago
Career/Uni: Worked hard throughout my semester and landed a 3 month internship last week with a big bank. I am working in credit risk department. My summer break is nicely filled with an internship.
Hobby: Been learning guitar for 8 months now. I can finally play intermediate level stuff and taking classes on music theory and improvisation. I wanna join a band and write my own albums someday. Guitar has replaced my previous hobby of video games. I play guitar after work. Sometimes an hour of xbox before bed lol.
Social Life: Moved in to Australia last year and so far know a few people. None I can call friends. I am a semi-introvert and can't stand fake people. So, no progress here. My weekends are spent on self improvement (learning career skills such as coding or I practice guitar). Plenty of girls here, but I never thought girls are worth investing time on. I am not attractive either so it doesn't help (5'7). I want to get laid so bad though. It feels so bad, I see a lot of hot girls in train everyday to work. I go home and jerk off to keep my head clear so I can focus on things.
Physique: I am a broke student so I cannot afford gym or the diet required to get buff. I just run for 2.5 miles 4 days a week. I have a clean diet and slim body.
Please advise me what I could be doing better. I am 26.
pugh88 6y ago
You definitely need to bulk up my friend. Look up how to bulk on a budget, plenty of videos and can be done for peanuts. Buy 1kg bags of milk powder from Woolworths or Coles, about 6 dollars each, and drink 2 litres of full cream milk with scoops of that added in every day on top of your existing diet. You can workout using free outdoor gyms doing calisthenics if you can't afford a gym. Do lots of pull ups and dips. Add weight once you can do 10 reps body weight. Look up progressions if you can't do any reps. Do sprints once or twice a week instead of runs.
Socially, join clubs at uni - Uni is an easy way to meet people through clubs and societies.
You're right, girls aren't worth investing time on. , get big and strong. Join societies. Look up how to dress well and have good hygiene. You will get laid if you do all that.
Katuik 6y ago
I gotta agree. Press iron. Make room in a budget for a gym, it's worth every penny.
[deleted] 6y ago
New deadlift PR 5x5 115kg Changed up my routine on other compounds from 5x5 due to stagnation and focusing more on form/higher reps at slightly lower weight. Got a top grade for an assignment.
Negatives would be that other than gym yesterday I've been unproductive this weekend. Need to start reading again. Need to get back into my regular workout and boxing after 2 weeks away on business where I could only really do compounds and a few other exercises and was limited in time. Also need to increase social interactions (work 9-5 gym straight after except wednesdays) and start talking to girls
Hussy68 6y ago
Positives-
finally cold approached a chick and got her number. However, I’ve been subject to radio silence, with no reply back.
Been lifting of course!
Negatives-
Although I’ve finally approached, still a bit anxious so need to work on that
[deleted] 6y ago
Went to a party last night with the intent of gaming a few girls. Everything was going well but I made the mistake of hitting a dab pen which made it nearly impossible to talk to anyone, much less flirt with girls. I regret getting so high; I could've gotten a lot more out of last night but at least I learned from my mistake.
LaserEyes2029 6y ago
Joined a gym after spending the last 10 months working out at home.
Having access to heavier weights has resulted in 6 lbs weight lose (down 166 lbs from 172 lbs) with noticeable gains.
Also noticing more attention from women as a result. Before girls would flirt but now they're more awestruck and I get to lead the conversation.
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PhaedrusHunt 6y ago
< Today I hit on 5 girls and got 0 numbers.
Dude. No. Today you WEEDED OUT five girls, built up more innocculation to rejection, and worked on your game.
You have to go through this process. Eventually you'll just know when to actually talk to a woman and get her number. I have quite a few women I'm involved with so it's not like I go around asking women for their numbers all the time.
But the thing is as you get older and more confident you know the exact woman that you want to talk to when you see her. The results of that is theyre are a lot more responsive. Unlock I'm not bragging and saying I've got some crazy game or anything here it's just a result of knowing who to talk to when from years of doing it. But I honestly can't really remember the last time I asked a woman for her number and didn't get it.
Again that's not from having some crazy game it's from reading the situation but you HAVE to go through thise rejections, and you have to legitimately NGAF when the rejections inevitably come.
Focus on the fish you caught not the times you cast and reel back in and cast and reel back in.
pugh88 6y ago
Good job for the approaches.
[deleted] 6y ago
Been lifting for 51 days straight and just hit a 150 lb overhead Press for two clean reps. Girls are more receptive to me and this 17 year old was flirting with me at work today and when she found out I was 21 she started flirting harder. I might do some cold approaches in a bit because my confidence is so high right now and I don't give a fuck.
pugh88 6y ago
Do it now man while momentum is with you.
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[deleted] 6y ago
You say she was an hb9, and yeah that's cool, but what did she do for you to improve your life? Was she just nice to look at and have around or did she actually leave a meaningful impression on you? Women should not only be valued based upon their looks. If the first thing you think about is her looks, then she wasn't that valuable of a mate.
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[deleted] 6y ago
Don’t let your emotions influence where you think you are at, i.e. oh I’m feeling sad, I must not be over her, oh ok, I’m not over her, that’s right.
Our emotions and thoughts can be in contradiction all the time. For example, there was a military general who said cowardice is not when you feel fear at the front lines, it’s when you act on it. That’s to say it’s completely normal to feel fear in that situation, it’s about what you do with it though.
Same situation here, it’s completely normal to feel sad after a break up. Don’t worry about changing that feeling. You know what’s the best way to make a feeling go away? To not think about it and to keep calm and carry on. It’s like if you told someone to not think about penguins, they’re gonna keep accidentally thinking about penguins. Best way to not have penguins come to mind anymore is to do something else. And if it just so happens that something reminds you of penguins again (i.e. sadness), that doesn’t mean anything about you and work you need to do on yourself.
Watch out for the stories you attach yourself to. Let yourself feel sad, but write your own stories instead of letting your emotions write them.
mountainbiker178 6y ago
Sounds good. Keep lifting and forging ahead. You've got to stop looking back. I know that's easier said than done (I still struggle with it). Why are you so hung up on her? Who broke up with whom?
PhaedrusHunt 6y ago
Keep it up. Go get some strange. Keep working out and working on yourself. If you happen to run across her or hit her up again, just hate fuck and leave.
Abave 6y ago
I've swallowed the pill two or three weeks ago, and started reading compulsively all the material I could find on this sub.
Yesterday night, I had sex for the first time since a year and a half. She was an Australian tinder girl passing by Paris for something with uni. I've followed every advice you gave, and it went perfectly at every step of the way.
( Notably, I held frame by talking french to her the whole time, eventhough it was obvious that she was struggling a lot.)
I have to thank everyone here for this, and for all the other ways my life is starting to get better. I don’t yet have the money to lift a lot, but I’ve been doing hundreds of push ups and crunches regularly and started buying a lot more food. Hopefully, with the christmas money, I’ll have enough to start going to a gym. My relationships with my friends and peers are also improving, as I now try talking to them on equal grounds (I’m naturally a deferential beta). I no longer care about their validation, and therefore, just try to have fun and be respected. And I think it makes me more likable in the end.
I'm very happy to have found this sub at 18. I felt my life was getting nowhere, and now, I can't wait to see and get what it has to offer, it's going to be a great ride.
[deleted] 6y ago
Check out the subreddit bodyweightfitness and their FAQ for a routine you can do to build muscle mass without weights. You don’t want to do hundreds of push ups and crunches because that just builds endurance. You need to do low number of reps that are very difficult (i.e. five push ups with hands in a diamond instead of a hundred normal push ups and then progressing to more difficult push up variations).
Abave 6y ago
Thank you for your advice, I'll do that.
Schrodingersdawg 6y ago
Congrats. I found it a little later than you, but congrats.
Trooper_1868 6y ago
You POS. i wish i found this at 18.
That aside, you are doing great. Keep it up!!
thebrandedman 6y ago
Preach. I found it at 28 and realized how retarded I'd been. Now I've got to kick high gear to stay competitive.
Trooper_1868 6y ago
Im 24 man and its rough. So many missed encounters in college. That time my friends would joke about me being a prince, girls would eat it up, and i should have played along. Beta me just fucked unexplained the whole thing ahahaha
Abave 6y ago
Thank you ! Haha yeah I'm a lucky bastard. Now, I guess my responsibilty will be to do the very most of it, and contribute back as soon as I can.
gELSK 6y ago
// , As you get older, your friends will start on different life trajectories than yours.
There's much to learn from their mistakes or absence of courage.
I wish that I had been so lucky as you.
And while it's possible to feel that way, it's unlikely that you're NATURALLY a deferential beta.
https://bookofpook.neocities.org/#ch-16
Abave 6y ago
Thank you for your answer !
Yes I imagine. But it's so deeply wired inside me that it really feels like I have to change my nature. I think it comes from years of (very) feminist education and bullying through middle school that left me almost autistically shy at the beginning of high school.
So right now, I'm completly reeducating myself from scratch, deciding on my own what to keep and what to leave.
GoGoJamMan 6y ago
Mate I can relate to your story so much. I am also 18 having found this sub a few months ago. What's weirder is that I'm reading this in Paris currently, being Australian myself.
Abave 6y ago
Hahaha that's a weird connexion indeed, I hope I didn't fuck any sister of yours ! Sadly, I fear that's a pretty common story for people of our age.
What are you doing in Paris ? we could grab a beer someday.
GoGoJamMan 6y ago
Haha mate I hope so too. I'm in Hungary now, but it's good to know that the bond spreads worldwide
gELSK 6y ago
// , Yeah, your approach sounds like you're getting back to what is natural, and peeling away learned behaviors from school.
So glad I skipped that BS.
TheFloor_Is_Lavaa 6y ago
Positive:
Started getting into lifting these past few weeks.
Have generally not been giving a fuck at all.
Have been talking to a ton of girls at school.
Negative:
Haven’t been lifting ENOUGH, although I just started. (Not an excuse.)
Fucked up with one of the hottest girls in my grade, because her dad came upstairs and I got psyched out; wasn’t able to get fully hard. But whatever, it was a good learning experience, and pulling that girl in the first place bolstered my confidence a little bit.
Overall I’m feeling pretty good this week, but the truth of The Redpill is making me feel a little bit nihilistic and depressed.
[deleted] 6y ago
wait, you're still talking about what grade you're in and cant get "fully hard"? .
From 8th-12th grade I couldnt get full soft.
Self-honest 6y ago
Haha truth. Thanks for the laugh.
RandomUser9921 6y ago
Positive:
-Got better at bench press, dips, pull ups ( I'll reach 3x10 soon)
-Reduced weight for the Rows -> form over ego
-I was really chill when going out with a friend. I focused on having fun first, which made opening people very natural and I did have nearly no approach anxiety. Focusing to much on approaching instead makes me really akward.
Negative:
-ate too less, to maximize gains
-A nice woman a decade older than me asked me for a dance and got very close by herself. I think I "scared" her away. I didn't look for her reactions much while increasing touching very fast, probbably too fast for her. I think I should have concentrated more on eye contact+facial expression in the beginning.
PraiseBasedDonut 6y ago
PROS ; -I acquired a better bulking plan this week.
-Chicks are checking out on me more often and returning looks most of the time for a second time.
-I got my passion back about my mission and future which i felt like i lost it for the last few weeks and it helps me at the gym.
-I would get angry pretty easily but in the last 2 weeks I got better at controlling myself.
-May not be a positive for most of you lads but I'm at 13 days of NoFap (but I had 2 wet dreams in that time period)
CONS ; -My grades are not bad but not improving either.
-I was so busy midweek so i fell back on my gym schedule for this week but I'll handle it.
-I'm still trying to develop better back muscles and still not seeing the results I want.
Overall my situation is good but I'm still improving and I'm still not happy with some stuff. Keep on rocking Lads.
(Edited for the back muscles.)
theoracleofbromaha 6y ago
The Good:
Have solidified that I am the fucking man at work. I get shit done and don’t bitch. Despite being on a failing project with shitty developers.
Gym 100% on point. Diet on 80.
Reading two books currently and learning agile methodology for work.
The Bad:
Lost a two plates in a new city. Normally would not care but it’s hard to get new plates in a new city so a bit butt hurt about it.
Drinking more, could be stress. Doesn’t help with physical goals.
[deleted] 6y ago
Positives:
Steps:
Fails:
This week's goals:
PhaedrusHunt 6y ago
Don't do it! Meet someone else. Forget about her. The next time she contacts you don't make yourself available right away, make her wait a couple of days.
And listen dude you don't want to hear this. But I can almost promise she's fucking someone else. If you've been hanging out with a girl and that situation and it's been casual, but she starts to get distant like that... There is someone else.
Remember it's not personal it's business. Hypergamy is.a woman's business instinctively. It's what keeps the species going.
Move along! Nothing to see here! Move along!
Self-honest 6y ago
This is the right perspective. It's not personal.
QuiteRandomDUDE 6y ago
Positive:
Misc/General
Academics
Negative:
Overall rating 7 - could be better.
Schrodingersdawg 6y ago
2 weeks into steroid cycle 3. Let’s goooooooooo
ShesLikeOMG 6y ago
Overall week 7.5
Fitness 9/10
School 7/10
Social 6/10
Misc 8/10
0x646f6e27 6y ago
how does your score scale work? I am interesting in this technique and want to do it too.
EDIT: oh, is it just your predictions of the score or you give +1/2/3 for each accomplishment you have done?
ShesLikeOMG 6y ago
its just based on my feelings really. If i feel I did everything I should have and everything went well, its a 10/10. if things went really shit and I was just lazy, its more like 2-3/10.
[deleted] 6y ago
he's just estimating and averaging.
Shaney96 6y ago
Positive:
NoFap for 1 month as of today.
Still reading Meditations every day.
Meditating is still habitual.
Persistent gym-going. Best shape I've been in.
I'm beginning to really 'get over' my ex. It's been difficult, since I talk to no other women (hoping to change this), however I had my first day off work on Monday and had a complete breakdown in the morning. I journalled >6000 words of introspection and reflection, and the conclusion of it all was how I'm now able to look to the future and appreciate the progress I've made and being able to visualize how much more progress I'll make within the next 6 months or so. Over the last few months I've seen futility in all the work I've been putting in, and have been very hard on myself and completely non-self-rewarding for my efforts. I've been looking backwards and my old mindset of "girls won't find me attractive, my ex was the only one I'll be able to be sexual with" came creeping back. Now, however, I'm more motivated daily because I'm able to look forward to how I'll progress, look forward to getting back to Uni, and look forward to encountering new women and developing connections with them - both physical and emotional.
I'm enjoying my job more, and I think this is because I'm generally more positive all-around.
I'm more confident around people. It's interesting really: Since I've gotten into a more positive mindset, my natural behaviours are more attractive.
Negative:
Fucked up 'being organized' for my trip next Friday. Because of this, I'm now skipping my time in Brussels and probably fucked up a train or two.
I want to further reduce my carb intake. Having free fruit at work isn't helping this so I just need to cut out the fruit completely. It's either 99% or 100%, and as soon as you commit to 100%, shit gets much easier.
I still spend a lot of time being run by my mind and thinking about my ex. Yeah, "time's a healer", but I'm still wanting to try and observe my thoughts when they come around, rather than being overrun by them. Getting out each weekend (as I'm doing) and going interrailing and meeting new people should help the 'getting over her' process.
Foxxz 6y ago
Dude this is good. Keep going. Just went through a shit break up myself. Push man. You are coming out of the storm stronger. It will pass
Shaney96 6y ago
Cheers man, this whole thing's one big fucking journey for each and every one of us on here.
darchetype 6y ago
The reflection journal is so, so good for your psyche. I had a breakdown similar to you at one point, walked over to the park and just started writing down a year-by-year summary of all my relationships with girls over the past 7 years or so. Not an extensive list by any means, but having it on paper where I could see how I acted pre- and post-TRP really put it in perspective of how things improved so drastically.
FaderOne 6y ago
What great progress man, keep it up
Work_In_Progress92 6y ago
Positives
Bad
[deleted] 6y ago
Started ‘Brutality’ training program targeting DL and Squat for mass. Don’t have all the machines in the garage gym yet, but can cover 80% of it.
Workout reference: https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/brutality-squat-deadlift-workout
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Auvergnat 6y ago
Go the rational male blog and read best of year 1. Then best of year 2. It'll get you the concepts faster and more accurately than this sub's daily feed.
HellRaisor 6y ago
Change takes time. You dont internalize in a night. Yourself will fight in everyway to stay in its comfort zone and sink to nothingness.
All i can tell u is embrace the truth and learn to adapt to it. Good luck
[deleted] 6y ago
Get after it. Also... curing onetis doesnt mean the end of romance, it just means that you understand that the girl is human.
Nutty_Nutts 6y ago
Keeping pace physically, slowly acclimating to the leg exercises and extending the time doing them, yet to see any progress on back muscles, but that's only after 1 session of doing them after being shown them. Also running an average of 2.5 miles every time at gym for warmup and 1/2 hour cardio session. Goal for next week is to start doing daily morning exercises, just to wake myself up more and shake grogginess off, just doing 25 pushups this morning is helping. Only lost another 2 pounds, but muscles feel firmer. Going to wait another month before getting new additions to my wardrobe (starting to need them), wanna see if I can get to 210 at 6'3" by end of January.
Socially, 1 group is doing fine, yet had a awkward get together with one of my struggling male friends that I ended prematurely after he busted out his phone and shut himself off from conversation. Still in monk mode atm and not going anywhere new besides gym, looking at ballroom dancing lessons in area that might serve as substitutes for cardio sessions and learning the basics.
Made decent progress on "Rational Male" vol I but hard to keep momentum on binging interest when it's the same early articles I've read on his site before. Started listening to Patrick O'Neal, in an attempt to start listening to comedians to try to form a sense of humor I can bring to my conversations. Anyone else have any recommendations on comedians, particularly those with good material about society?
Trooper_1868 6y ago
Starting Strength or 5x5, is a good program for beginners. Also check out this guy called Mike Vasquez, he does some workouts for bodybuilding.com.
TheFloor_Is_Lavaa 6y ago
Bill Burr is a great comedian.
gELSK 6y ago
// , Here's one of his most "controversial" sets:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UjQnha99sTY
darchetype 6y ago
His podcasts are also great. Not a ton of comedic material but just the way he speaks really gets me in the zone before an important meeting or a date with a girl. Notice I start to mimic his mannerisms and helps me slow down my speaking and annunciation.
Nutty_Nutts 6y ago
Thanks, will check him out over the weekend then.
MostSolidFrame 6y ago
Positives:
-Career is going great
-found out I passed my medical boards. Fuck yes
-flying to Los Angeles tomorrow for my next job interview (UCLA)
Negatives
-masturbating twice a day: morning and night, (not using porn though)
-probably smoking too much
-not being religious about doing pushups and situps on days when I skip the gym.