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[deleted] 6y ago
The good: Side girl tried to ditch me because she doesn't think I can give her what she wants. Managed to turn that around and went back to her place that night, and she introduced me to her friends that own a local brew house. Told me I'm the best dick she's ever had, and that's an ego pump coming from a slut.
Accomplished a lot at work this week. CEO and VP know my name, and mentor is highly impressed with the progress I've made on my project. Today sucked though because I was at girls house until 1 a.m.
I recently bought a house and am remodeling both the bathrooms. Managed to get one in good working condition so I started moving in and staying here.
The bad: Girlfriend and I are in turmoil. I love her but don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. Haven't told her about side chick. She was supposed to move in once I finished the house and help with the mortgage but now I'm not sure that'll happen and I'm a little paranoid about the money.
Didn't accomplish as much as I could at work and on the house because I'm hardly sleeping.
Diet has been suffering due to stress, and I've been drinking every day and haven't made it to the gym in a month.
42-AX 6y ago
Good:
• Planned my weekly workout and started it Wednesday.
• Have been more social than usual - lost my voice cheering the Astros and made the waitresses laugh a bit
• Learned to forgive my parents and move on
• Planning my finances. Paying my own bills for the first time
• Deleted all my dating apps because it doesn't help me irl
Bad:
• Still have bad anxiety performance. Can't do cold approaches.
• Ex texted me. I turned her down but lost my cool in the process.
• Still put women on a pedestal.
• Took literally no risks. None.
• Eating too much fast food.
CuckedAndLoad3d 6y ago
Pros:
*I've started to take daily trips to my local park to just tunnel vision on the surrounding birds, people & grass - this has helped my eye sight (I spend a lot of time on the computer) whilst also listening to mentors
*Consistent meditation
*Being more social, going out more, a genuine happy-ness is within me that I am cultivating
*Started putting in effort with talking to girls online, like I have things to say to continue the conversation and it's happening with ease
*Being more receptive, listening deeply whilst conversing (form of meditation)
*Laughing more
Cons:
*I could also be working out, push ups an all, but I'm not
*Haven't tried cold approaching any girls
ratpoison987 6y ago
Jesus Christ. If you picked up smoking this week - drop it this week
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DiscordantMonk 6y ago
Improvements:
Third week in the gym, I got a solid baseline for all my muscle groups now and the intense soreness is gone so I can go full throttle in the gym.
Met an attractive woman at the gym who began orbiting me and I reciprocated with attention. Not sure if I should pursue. Is this considered shitting where I eat?
I pulled a girl to my place and escalated, but was met with LMR after I moved my hand from the outside of her undies to the inside. Continued the push pull but just couldn't close, not used to LMR so it was a highly entertaining experience and I'll see where it goes.
Improvements needed:
I need to set a meal plan and eat a bit healthier, it's hard to manage when I spend a great deal of time with my family and they regularly don't eat well.
I've heavily moderated my drinking/smoking but I need to further reduce to maintain a solid frame. It's coming along though
chadwick_thundercock 6y ago
Improvement:
Finally made it to 69 KG's (bulking process).
After 5 months of lifting, my legs are starting to look muscular.
Non improvement:
Jgalayd 6y ago
Good-
-closed bank account in final steps of being entirely under a credit union (minimal fees and making small bits of many on savings)
-freelance business is a booming! I now have clientele that works with me on my terms
-on several occasions started up conversations with strangers getting them to continue it so I can absorb information. 1. Group of industry workers one ex-cia getting real as fuck 2. Two college girls walking next to me as I went to my hotel 3. Fellow patron at bar who I discovered shared mutual friends 4. Female alt girl sat next too me at bar, talked about her bdsm sex book. Kept talking but decided my goal of hitting the hotel gym was more important.
-finally getting back to gym after having viral infection
-tried new foods as I went to restaurants by myself
-getting back into reading, somewhat 10 pages day
Bad
-fapped four times... I am now two days free
-talking to my sub possibly ltr too much
-not cooking making home made meals, needmeal prep
[deleted] 6y ago
-being assertive in speaking with others -2nd day no fap 5'9 270 Still smoking No car Wardrobe sucks Laying mental groundwork
IBeMadToo 6y ago
Good
Gym is solid. Seeing gains and getting compliments from people saying I'm looking ripped.
Gamed a backpacker who worked at my work in housekeeping (left a couple days ago). Got heavy IOI's and she became obsessed with me but I didn't pursue because shitting where you eat and she had her boyfriend hanging off her half the time. Practiced DGAF, A&A, Pressure flips, non-neediness, and got her doing stuff for me (giving me free food etc.) - ended it kind of awkward (see Bad section) but remained cordial and said we'd keep in touch (we are worlds apart in location).
Held in high regard with the ladies at work. I have one of the higher SMVs where I work, and my conversation skills are up their with some of the best. Guys also know me for being smooth with the girls and I have always been able to bring girls to our social drinks even if there aren't many girls here which the guys love as it's a sausage fest usually.
Finances are going great. Saving over half my pay into three categories: Holidays, Investments, Personal Savings/Emergency Fund. The rest is Rent/Bills and spending.
Eating great, every 2-3 hrs high protein and carbs. Not counting calories tho as I'm bulking and have good metabolism and low bf%.
Personal health has been great. I got a new face wash recently and it has improved my skin alot. Using teeth whitening strips and am seeing improvements.
Bad
Have been anti-social at times. I do shift work in mining so days and nights. Nights I can have poor sleep and it makes me feel like shit. I'm also in an isolated area for 2 weeks at a time with alot of men and scarce on the ladies so social life takes a hit sometimes - looking at new jobs as we speak though but the money I get is great so I'm making the sacrifice.
Slacking on meditation. I still do it every now and then but not every day like I want to.
Sidebar and book reading has been average compaeed to my usual. Reading The Prince by Niccolo Machiavelli as well as Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand. I'm not too fazed about this as I've already finished the Art of War by Sun Tzu recently (easy read, tho). I'm the type of guy that reads multiple books at once.
Hobbies besides gym, reading, and other creative things are almost non-existent at work due to the small-scale operation I work at in the middle of nowhere. As said before, looking for better work as we speak as I want to learn a martial art as well as pursue other hobbies.
[deleted] 6y ago
Love that book, I'm reading it too, the Tim Parks translation. Machiavelli gets a bad rap.
norofren 6y ago
Good
-240 days(or more) sober
-Bench press 70 kg (5x5), squat. 85 kg(5x5
-Joined stoicism philosophy
-I read a book (Writing best quotes in my notebook, It’s more efficient. You should try.
-Made a tattoo
-Decided to be a entrepreneur(but I need capital)
Bad
-Couldn’t find a job (I graduated this year, still can’t find, but I’ll) -Still working as a waiter in a wedding venue for my expenses. -Halfway through MGTOW. (Which is I don’t know is that good or bad) -Still living a country that I don’t want to live.
whatlegend23 6y ago
Good
• 1 week no fap • have slowly been taking colder showers everyday • have been hitting the gym with more motivation and commitment • talked to a girl that I wanted to (really stepped out of my comfort zone and said fuck it)
Bad
• the convo wasn't that great, but I'm glad I did it • need to count by macros •want to get laid
Side note: I have been reading TRP and have changed the way I view things thanks to a friend of mine and we are both looking forward to what we can accomplish now.
selfimprovementjunki 6y ago
Missed this thread cause have been a bit disorganized/concerned lately about future/studies. But Haven't worked out in 4 days.
Been neglecting studies a bit. Need to manage time better. Started 30 Days of Discipline - > But have trouble sticking through with it everyday. Realised I have INTJ personality type (more of an ambivert). Ghosting a friend right now.
Meditating succesfully Attending tution successfully. Eating 3 Square meals to maintain my weight.
Novelty of ADD meds has worn off. I am on my own now. Ordering Modafinil to help me study better for tests. "Waiting for L-theanine to arrive to help me relax better. Realising I am Neurotypical now which menas no Anxiety/ADHD/Depression holding me back. Grateful for that.
Reading Book of Pook. It's good philosophy and has some good practical advice.
Been neglelcting talking to strangers the last couple of days I've been withdrawn from school. Only talked to one old friend. Girls are a back-burner right now cause I have no place to interact with them.
Any advice on career/college? Wondering what I should study, what career is best for money.
Warhammer0917 6y ago
Good
• Been taking cold showers for a while now, feels amazing during and after I finish
• Competitive soccer player here but have been working on getting a bigger physique this year. Add another 1kg this week to make it 4kg gained so far this year
• Taking a proactive approach to setting goals especially for what I want to achieve next year
• Lurking alot in TRP and associated "Manosphere" sites. Been reading Rollo Tomassi works, feeling enlightened. All about application of knowledge though
• Trying to fully hone in on my schoolwork, more important than ever as uni is right around the corner. This means not drooling over pretty girls which is tough.
Bad
• Crammin study sessions in with bouts of procrastination, not efficient at all
• Possible case of Oneitis...
• Fapped to take exam stress off and to take my mind off my Oneitis...fuck me
Vintage_Cola 6y ago
I've just about swallowed the Red Pill finally. I'm coming to grips with the ideologies shared in this sub, and mentally clearing my mind of Blue Pill thoughts.
I've started to get back into reading books, made of paper, that were suggested in this sub. I've started dieting again, and I'm considering Nofap. Hopefully, this sudden change in personal direction won't cause me to fall off the wagon and default to my sedentary beta lifestyle. Wish me luck!
amekooky 6y ago
ok first of all and above all since you live a sedentary lifestyle (I know from experience) lift and diet be consistent with it for a a month or two before you start trying to accomplish other redpill theories/advice, your mood will change.. and please dont waste your time getting a light exercise on the treadmill, cardio machine etc. lift only. you can get deep into cardio later on.
your hormones will click eventually and then you can move onto the fun stuff the red pill advises.
read the sidebar and get informed. reading a paperback, nofap etc can come second.
Allgoingwell 6y ago
Just got back from a 6 week period in Middle East where I was working 24/7 so needed rest mostly.
GOOD
Sorting out crap and arrangements in my apartment. Threw out lots of stuff I didn’t need and visited furniture store to get some inspiration for new furniture.
Did Muay Thai training 3 days straight (didn’t do any sports while abroad - was tough to get back into it)
Before weekend was on track with eating only healthy stuff
Slept a whole bunch (I’m on leave so I deserve it ☺️)
Sorted out new rental agreement for my apartment
Got my car in for the annual check up
Bought some new gadgets (iPad & Bluetooth speakers)
Finished back log of work so I can enjoy next weeks of leave without worry.
BAD
Didn’t do any social activity this weekend Pigged out on chocolate and pizza today
Plan for upcoming week
See friends See family Work out (Muay Thai) at least 4 times this week Approach cute girl I know from the gym Do some more work on my apartment Figure out what to do with a seriously bloated savings account ( invest, stocks, bitcoin ?) Read Allen Carr book on smoking
[deleted] 6y ago
Improvements:
Stronger than ever, benching almost double what I was benching just two months ago.
After going to the gym yesterday, I was curling when I noticed my bicep vein, I've been trying to get the bicep vein for almost a year now, finally got it! (Both arms too!)
Needs improvement:
More productivity, between work, gym and social life, I don't feel like I'm being as productive as I could be, I've got a couple of side-projects I'm working on however.
Sort of off-topic, but if it turns out I do have sleep apnea, literally every symptom I have will be explained by that, and the possibility of finally curing my problems is the greatest feeling.
m-elyas-jr 6y ago
Good
Gave auditions for a tv show. Really helped me gain some confidence.
Went on a photowalk.
Didn't masturbate.
Didn't starve.
Made good social contact with everyone.
Bad Still haven't finished 48 laws of power.
Diet needs improvement. Need money for that
Haven't started looking for a job. Need to get it done.
I'm great at texting, but need to work on face to face communication with girls. I realize that if I just stay calm, I rock everyone.
Didn't take any classes last week. I'm going to take all from today.
liberty1127 6y ago
Good:
Up 12 lbs in 3 months. 185 lbs 12-14% BF
No gym memebership, no excuses. Working out at home with dumbells and bodyweight for now
Completing daily training for a new career
Very strict diet. 1 cheat meal every month
Sleeping 8 hrs plus a night
Minimal alcohol and marijuana use....once a week/once every 2 weeks.
Not spending money on anything other than food and bills.
Bad:
Bad situation at current job, told employer I was going to quit because he owes me money.
Trouble maintaining frame at times with LTR
Need to repair my car but I don't have the money for parts right now because of my job situation.
Imgoingtogetit 6y ago
The Good:
-Finally saved up enough money to fix my recessed chin and have money to spare. Soon I won't be able to make the excuse that looks are holding me back.
-Finished 70% of my new novel, sent it in for peer edits.
-Talked to someone new everyday.
-Worked out everyday, starting to see some big mass gains.
The Bad:
-Relapsed on nofap this week. I'm 2 days clean now.
-Didn't study as much for my classes as I should have. Even though they're pass fail, I still need to try. This won't cut it at Uni next semester.
-Failed to meditate
The Ugly:
-Watched too many movies
-Haven't been eating clean enough
-Neglected student government responsibilities
-Didn't have enough exciting adventures or memorable moments. Even though I'm training this semseter so I can have a fresh start at university, I can't let my life slip away.
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Good
Bad
manifesto18 6y ago
Began Ironman triathlon quest and committed to reading one book per week.
Camelsinthedesert 6y ago
Just discovered red pill and so I'll post some of the stuff that's happened to me over the past month as my starting place here:
Good: --started waking up earlier in the morning to go on a run and eat breakfast before work. Been lifting around lunchtime --got my car cleaned. It looks and smells great and I'm not embarrassed whenever someone asks for a ride --did some cleaning on the common areas in my apartment building. They were starting to smell pretty bad and now they don't --been listening to podcasts more while driving instead of the same old, lame music --haven't texted the woman crush from work in a month. She's done nothing to deserve my attention and so I'm working on not giving it to her
Bad: --my apartment and office are still pretty dirty. Need to clean those up --visited my family two weeks ago and went to church with them. Saw some old family friends at church that I haven't seen in years. The sister looks gorgeous now and we chatted for a little bit and I definately picked up on some signals from her, but I was too afraid to ask for her number and try to catch up more. Thought I could make up for it with a Facebook friend request and a message later, but haven't heard anything back from her. I really need to get out of that mindset... --still think about the woman crush from work way too much. There's still bitterness in me about the rejection --been trying to cut back, but still watch too much porn --still spend too much time on my phone playing games, scrolling aimlessly through Facebook, or reading the latest drama and gossip from our politicians --still don't have any focus on the studying I need to do for work. Been dumping a lot of knowledge I need to know for my job because it's easier to blame it on being depressed due to rejection rather than try to be the best that I can be
Entropy-7 6y ago
I was a total fail this weekend. Trying to do better. I get married next month but we are in different cities and that is really grinding on me.
I/we need an exit plan.
TissueBabies 6y ago
Well, I really don't want to spend the time to lay out all of my stuff here, but I did just recently make a great mental gain. I need to learn how to self validate. And more than just accepting myself, to me self validation is respecting myself in my actions. I need to be someone who takes good care of everything within my agency. I have to respect myself in my actions not just as an over arching life plan, but daily in the way I spend my time and the person I am. If I can do that, self validation should be a breeze. And I'll be someone who brings value as well. I can't expect to be respected any more than I respect myself.
coco5440 6y ago
Under 250 lbs for the first time since the 1980s.
Had a first date this with a good looking lady 10 years younger than myself. She asked me for a second date so I guess you could say the evening went well.
Need to start saving for a new car. The old Volvo's is just a few clicks short of 200K.
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Archangel_1993 6y ago
Improvements:
Went to the gym 3 times this week. Aiming for 6 and to run twice a week. (last week was 2)
Needs improvement:
4 days nofap, fapped once this week compared to 3 times last week (aiming for a week)
Still behind on where I want to be in my studies
My diet
VoidInvincible 6y ago
I went out to the bar last night. Met some people. Played pool. Went to their house and did Coke. Interacted with various women too but mostly just broed out.
Attractos 6y ago
Started working out to lose weight.
10211799107 6y ago
Linear Progression gains came to a stop on my Advanced Novice programming this week.
Got the new program for my slow taper down to my 500lbs deadlift and 405lbs squat in December. 405lbs will come way earlier luckily.
Amazing what te human body is capable of if you're not a pussy and push through te weights.
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[deleted] 6y ago
After a lifetime of pussying out every time I saw a hot girl in public, I did my first cold approach ever. Got rejected, girl had a boyfriend.
Feel AMAZING knowing that while approach anxiety may never go away, at least I know I can overcome it.
Didn’t hit the gym much this week but that’s cause I was busy studying for 2 midterms.
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amekooky 6y ago
keep the gym membership and also your gym equipment.. showing up to the gym keeps you accountable instead of only working out at home.
theoracleofbromaha 6y ago
Try to dial in a bit more on the sleeping. If your not sleeping well you won’t see the benefits of your solid dieting as much as you should.
Scabsandwhich 6y ago
19 years old, found myself lost after HS. 5 years spent getting high doing nothing in my room alone.
Improvements:
6 days clean, no interest going back.
Painting and drawing in my free time furthering my knowledge of art. Scored some work doing album art for a local band.
Started a couple college courses in music theory and the concepts of color/art.
Said bye bye to my constant drive of needing to feel like I was gaming girls.
Got back into martial arts, creating a foundation of discipline and strength.
Got back to lifting 4 days a week.
Tracking my time, schedule, and finances for the first time ever.
Taking care of my shit on a fundamental level rather than a supressive one as I had in the past.
Training my puppy in preperation for a journey on foot.
Needs Improvement:
Letting go of anxiety.
Seeking peers which influence me positively.
Attention span and focus.
Ability to approach with RP mindset (I can, I will, and If I fail may the challenge be my reward).
Want to leave my job and find something better suited for me.
Need to consume more protein and get back into counting macro nutrients and calories.
Need to get back into my instrument of choice (harmonica) and do more public performance.
Let this be the first of many improvments to come.
ShellOuting 6y ago
Hey,
Great work man. I'm also a college sophmore who started smoking at 14 and am now in the process of quitting weed so I can live a more Red Pill life. It's absurd how much time, energy and value weed can waste in ones life. Wishing us both the best of luck in facing our problems head on and proactively improving all facets of our lives.
amekooky 6y ago
make the macros a priority next week, see if it helps with anxiety ... it helped me immensely when i started to lift and eat clean. just dont half ass it, and you should see results with your anxiety in 2-3 weeks
tropzumuch 6y ago
When I started to really believe in TRP and tried to use it i thought I could just proceed without digging as deep as i can into my BP character and find the roots of broken human being.
This week I realized where I am, what issues I have. This was emotionally my worst week ever.
I got an appointment with a psychotherapist in about two weeks. I will dig as deep as I can and build a complete new self.
I was on some level successful until I hit a wall.
Advice to freshies: If you start with TRP but can’t feel the vibes because you don’t succeed slowly on all levels you set your goals in, you should see a psychologist to determine if and what issues you have.
If the base of your character development is weak, you are not gonna make too far until you run into a wall of emotional conflict with yourself.
E: wow shit sounds depressing. I think it’s part of my uphill battle, though.
scepticferret 6y ago
I actually get you. Do you mean put on a whole other charector?
You are under no obligation to be the same person you were even 1 second ago.
tropzumuch 6y ago
Yes I will try that. The problem is not my character but other issues in social aspect.
scepticferret 6y ago
Think of what you want to be and be it. Do not be apologetic for not being what you were before
tropzumuch 6y ago
Sexual Anorexia Plus trust issues plus a lacking father. Since a very young age.
I have to overwork my whole interpretation of social interaction. I can’t help myself on this level.
-Space-Cowboy- 6y ago
Good: Been hitting the gym 6 days a week since my LTR ended, Hikes on Sundays.
Diet is great. Meal prep all of my meals, has cut down on food expenses a lot.
Currently reading The Rational Male, and have shelved several other books i want to read.
Sleeping 8+ hours everyday. Set a routine sleep schedule.
Bad: Fapped once
Been slipping up in school here and there, trying to stay focused in class and not skip but not doing great.
Checked ex's social media twice.
AskForARoast 6y ago
Overall week: 8.4/10
Social 9.5/10
School 5/10
Fitness 10/10
first week of training program completed. best workout week in a while.
Goals 9/10
personal project: video #1 fully complete
Working on video #2
Dark driving complete.
Overall pretty great week. School is annoying but Im fine with it.
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FirstNamesMusic 6y ago
Good:
Worked out everyday to exhaustion.
Still in monk mode, ghosted ex plates.
Lost 10 lbs so far and climbing.
Sleeping schedule is better
Almost no video games.
No snoozing alarm
Bad:
Procrastination at work.
Not eating enough and feeling exhausted
Sleeping too much.
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majorketone 6y ago
Good
Bad
Finessence 6y ago
I’ve relapsed into masturbation, and I’ve concluded as long as I keep up with the personal progress this isn’t too bad. I don’t know if NoFap is correct about the broscience or if the haters are, or somewhere in between. I ran 6 miles and lifted three days this week. I had a date with this hot chick with a good personality and we made out after going back to her place. Trying to avoid one-itis with her. We snapchat often throughout the day. Shes bringing me free coffee from her job at Starbucks later this morning, so that’s good.
scepticferret 6y ago
Free coffee? Go blue pill and marry this bitch
slim2_None 6y ago
Haha. Good reply. Don't...just don't ????
Finessence 6y ago
Nah I told her to bring me coffee.
TrenGod37 6y ago
Improvements:
375 days sober
212lb 6 foot. Hovering about 9-11% body fat.
cleaned up diet this week. Cut out Oreos ????
things are going well with the side business. Banking a good amount of money to invest in other areas.
Needs improvement:
need to read more. Have been losing focus very easy. Also need to start meditating again
going crazy at my other job due to the shift. I don’t have enough time in a day. Time to start looking around or asking for a shift change.
need to get more sleep.
batraz 6y ago
212 lbs 6 foot 10% - you are pretty much jacked, congratulations. How did you do it?
What side business you do?
Keep on the good progress.
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EdAnt 6y ago
Let me help you with the LTR question. The answer is no. No, you don't want to be in the LTR. That's why you're messing around with someone else.
bunny1947 6y ago
Everything was going great, then headaches hit me. :(
Mr_Badass 6y ago
If you need to read more you can try the free app Pocketbook and use their Text to Talk feature with e-books. Instant audiobook.
Jgalayd 6y ago
Based on the current book I'm reading "the shallows" this is the same as browsing the internet. I myself have been slacking on the reading but my current book shows based on scientific research that reading a physical book is more valuable in gaining knowledge than any internet basedsource. Ouch I think that was a run on sentence.
Disguised_Devil 6y ago
Good
26 days sober
20 days in nofap
Started using glasses
Been three months lifting. Was weighting 56 kg when started and now i'm weighting 62.3 kg
Reading 48 LP. Currently at law 40
Everyday i'm approaching a girl and analysing how i can get better sets and why i don't approach (whenever i get anxiety and shit)
Bought a notebook and write it down my daily objectives and activities to plan better my day.
Bad
On tuesday, i got really depressed and couldn't do shit
Expenses this month are too high
Because this week i'm traveling, i have not been going to the gym since tuesday.But I wil return on monday
And because of this travel, i'm eating less. Afraid of losing weight
EDIT: format
Mr_Badass 6y ago
Do you tend to get anxiety alot? What helped me alot was taking a magnesium supplement every other day. Helped calm me down.
zbf 6y ago
Give us a little report on that kiss man!
Disguised_Devil 6y ago
Mini abridged field report:
1- She (HB6 - calling her VI) was with a group (2 girls and 2 guys). One of the guys left so i started to talk with the other to prevent AMOG.
2- Started talking with VI and called her to dance.
3 - Isolated VI.
4 - kiss
krazyh8 6y ago
If you're gonna be sober, might as well allow your self the sweet dopamine-releasing rush of ejaculation. You're going to burn out bro.
AskForARoast 6y ago
god damn man, seems you're doing some good work.
Disguised_Devil 6y ago
Thanks. I have to work hard to compensate years of being a lazy fuck.
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Hey dude. Sounds like you’re making good progress. I just wanted to say, your scale reading 205 isn’t really something that you fucked up “this week”, so I wouldn’t include that in the negatives. I would focus more on whether you took the right steps this week to lose weight (ate healthy, worked out etc).
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The good:
This is important for the next 2: Almost done sanitizing Facebook. Nothing with a hint of DLV or controversy. I "like" nothing not produced by a friend or family member, and show off the stuff I do and trips I go on. Also, changed date of birth from 1972 to 1992.
Testing some pics I staged on Photofeeler. I have one up now that is top 10% in attractiveness, intelligence, and trustworthiness after 20 votes. Hopefully this helps on Tinder. I aim to get 2 plates under 30 in the air by year's end.
The bad:
AshyLarry27 6y ago
Ruthless reduction in birth years! Chicks usually dig guys that age well so thats good though
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Dude, I'm running one of those photo scoring games, showing my pic to women 34 and under, calling my age 30.....after 10 votes, I'm in the top 20% vs 30 y/o men. No effects whatsoever. Same pic cropped further out with the honest age, I was top 5% vs men at 45.
No bragging....not not bragging I suppose....lucky, I guess....but then again, I got around the local park, 2.5 miles in 23 minutes, trying to get under 20.
Since my teenage years, I've been with 1 woman over 40....was with 5 or 6 back then. Life's weird.
buddhadarko 6y ago
Been snacking a lot and need to hit the gym on a regular basis again, but had a really good work week. Also, ran some dread game on my LTR as I felt it was needed and it yielded some sweet results. Sometimes working hard can make you miss some things in your relationships but if you have even an inkling of self-awareness, you can reposition everything back to where it should be.
boyracerjdm 6y ago
POSITIVE
. 1 week No fap - this is the hardest thing Ive ever had to quit . training 6x a week . no alcohol . no smoking (cigarettes and weed) . Started to put more focus on my career
Negarive
. I need to read more, Finished Rollo's "Rational Male" starting to read 48 laws of power . Realizing I still need to work on myself, contemplating another monk mode as winder is around the corner. . I also need to practice approaches more.
do_it_or_leave 6y ago
Too much DotA, too much sweets.
Finally good workouts after an injury through.
I am at 15% bf and I need to get it down fuck. I am going to meal prep 100% of the food for next week.
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
Dota will cripple your life unless it is your number 1 priority. 4 hours a day 6 days a week is for 2k plebs
do_it_or_leave 6y ago
You are right, I am a high 4k, but uninstalled. Shit fucks my mind.
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
Yeah it does. You will have to give up so much to break through 5 and 6k
If you truly love it and are passionate and can balance with exercise and diet by all means don't stop. For most people it's too much effort for too little reward. You have to sacrifice a lot to get half good.
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I'm basically at the time place as you and meal prep is so important. My problem isn't sweets but I work at a teriyaki place so it's really easy to just grab some food on the way out of my shift not because I'm addicted but because its easier. Making healthy food have the convenience of fast food is unthinkable helpful.
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Uninstall DotA, stop buying candies.
zbf 6y ago
Tried uninstalling just to reinstall. But rn i play 1 game per day which is fine.
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I used to be addicted to League, now I rarely play. The keyword is rarely. There's nothing wrong with playing every once in a while (I usually play once or twice a week). Honestly the "cold turkey" approach to quitting things doesn't work for me personally. I took eating half a pizza in one night and losing 10 games in a row for me to quit eating junk food and playing League.
do_it_or_leave 6y ago
Definitely this is what I should do.
Tried many times get rid of dota, as soon as I have free time I relapse.
I can avoid it completely while chasing girls, but sometimes I think I am better playing DotA, as I am not spending money and it doesn't occupy my mind during the day.
Rate my hamster.
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[deleted] 6y ago
I'm trying not to check out random girls (and give them free validation) but it's very difficult to accomplish that without abundance mentality.
RylanBlackwood 6y ago
This week my girlfriend went on holiday for a few days and I noticed a massive increase to my productivity.
I managed to upload 10 videos to my YouTube channel and the increased activity meant that in this week my total views increased by 72% to a total of 44k this week. So I've significantly increased my passive income
Bought a ticket to a creative writing fair in Manchester where I have the opportunity to pitch my manuscript to a literary agent.
Began rewriting my cv in preparation for a careers fair at my uni (this is a recruitment opportunity for graduate employment)
took on more work with my dad. On the train to his right now. Working in Essex tomorrow 3D scanning a house. All savings will be going towards a car.
I think many blokes fall into this trap when they start an LTR and it can be hard to escape the lazy spell. When my gf got back I noticed the lazy spell returning.
Interestingly when she was away, if I'm honest I didn't miss her at all. I had so many things going I didn't even think about her. Technically I did miss her obviously, but I didn't really feel it on an emotional level.
Anyway I've ranted. Good night.
[deleted] 6y ago
Sounds like she's holding you back, may be time to cut the cord.
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AshyLarry27 6y ago
A+ relate-able stuff there. Amazing how the second you go through a rough period and feel the need to search out your friends, you come off overbearing. I've noticed moments where men and women are the same in that someone who seeks them out excessively is a turn off no matter what the reason. I also like your point on summing up a lot of how women function is based off insecurity and emotion.
theoracleofbromaha 6y ago
The good: I’ve been making more improvements in health. Have trained consistently for an upcoming triathlon. Have two solid plates and haven’t broken frame. Have been prospecting new jobs to elevate my income. Have set two new dates for certification exams in Microsoft technologies.
The bad: I have spent a little too much in my credit card as of late and justifying it by saying it’s for clothes to boost my SMV. I got sloppy drunk last night and ruined a great set I had with an HB8. Every time I go out now I’ve been getting sloppy drunk, I seem to have lost tolerance.
heshpacebull 6y ago
Good
Began lifting when the semester began and have consistently gone twice a week at 6am, and woken up at 6:30am on non-gym weekdays. Got in touch with a friend of mine who is now a powerlifter and got a new workout plan. It's starting monday, and I'll now be lifting three days a week.
Been working very hard on my academics. Turned down offer from potential plate to party on Saturday in order to stay in and wake up early to deal with the massive workload that weekend. Felt great to watch myself put the mission first.
Bad
Under the increased stress as of late, I've allowed my mind to become a bit fragile. I found myself a couple of times this week feeling bad for myself rather than getting it done. Got myself back on track but only after a lot of wasted time.
Allowed news of my NPD ex's new LTR throw me a bit off this week. Powered through it, but it took much longer than it usually does to refocus my mind.
Narcifist_the_Brave 6y ago
as someone who just got out of a 17 year relationship with someone with npd, be happy shes moved onto her next victim and focus on you. You got this.
heshpacebull 6y ago
I appreciate that, man. Stay strong.
CaptainSupream 6y ago
The good:
Making muscular gains, people have been noticing more. Strength gains are following slowly.
Days are jam packed and Im fucking exhausted at the end of the day.
Promotion coming for me at work.
Had a date with an asian milf, sitting on her bed tried escalating twice but failed.
Taking classes for my associates (nearly done)
On fucking point with my diet
The bad:
Lost my reading and meditation shchedule as my days got busier and workouts tougher
Losing some sleep with the increased stress from promotion, classes, and tougher workouts
Been playing 2hrs of video games after my day is done at night
Mountain of laundry to be done
Social life could be better
zbf 6y ago
How did you fail whilst sitting on her bed? I mean at that point what do you think made her resistant? Or was it bad/low effort on your part?
CaptainSupream 6y ago
Unsure theres a lot of variables, language barrier, 15 year difference she the older, inexeperienced me, choice of date (eating out). She currently works with me but is leaving in 10 days.
Lots of kino at her place before we left. She was orignally supposed to cook for me at her place. But didnt have ingredients. So we went out. Ate (little kino here, verbal escalation from me, her validating herself to me, she paid). Came back to her place. Was on her bed watching youtube videos. She kinod me first by wrapping her foot under my leg touching my foot with hers. I then started touching her leg she would immediatly grab my hand and say "no go home". I chilled off for a spell, she got me grapes. Tried again and it turned into sort of a play tussle before she broke away stood up and said "no go home captainsupream, youre dangerous". by this time I had escalated to feeling on dat big ass.
Seemed like a good time but I remembered the advice to watch her body language so I left after the stand up occured. She ran to the door opened it for me and I walked out. She watched me all the way to my car. Any advice you have would be appreciated.
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
You failed her lmr. "You dangerous" is flirting words. You stopped believing in the push pull. You have to pedal between gear 1 and 6 until you get a firm "fuck off right outta here"
CaptainSupream 6y ago
I took the "your dangerous" as a good thing. But when she broke off all contact and stood up. I thought that was the firm fuck off. As actions speak louder than words.
However your perspective has made me think that the firm "fuck off" you speak of would be coupled with a mood killing vibe and a tone of dead seriousness. Correct?
What do you think the stand up was?
ShotgunTRP 6y ago
however your perspective has made me think that the firm "fuck off" you speak of would be coupled with a mood killing vibe and a tone of dead seriousness. Correct?
I couldntve said it better.
The stand up is the hail Mary play. You back right off "ok. Ok." Then throw yourself right back so it with 100% passion kissing and hands. It could turn into a loop or stale mate, but it's hot human nature to let so much tension unresolved.
zbf 6y ago
Dont got much advice im not that experienced but you escalated and pushed until it reached a point where you knew you had to stop and didnt cross the line. Just weird how far you got to where you are on her bed, shes kinoing you yet she has so much lmr even after this point. Maybe just go in to kiss next time. Maybe she was down but changed her mind.
CaptainSupream 6y ago
I did sort of invite myself in after we ate. When we arrived at her house we got out and and as soon as we walked passed my car she turned around giggled and said "youre not going home?" i smirked and gave a chuckle. When we got to the door we both just went right in so it wasnt awkward or anything.
On my way home she texted "sorry captainsupream". I didnt respond. Now that you mention it maybe she did change her mind.
zbf 6y ago
What do you think she meant by you're dangerous? You should have replied to her sorry with "For what?". You know just to show that its not a big deal/ theres another girl you're gonna be fucking. By not replying i would assume you were angry with the situation, which imo is breaking frame.
CaptainSupream 6y ago
Dnagerous- that she cant figure me out, or a ballsy man
Ahh I see. I ve kept the texts to just logistics and have ignored her before. So i honestly didnt think anything of it. Dont you think that wouldve put me in a place where Im subconciously telling her that its ok to tease me and not put out?
Havent seen or talked to her since the date last Tuesday. Soft nexted. May reopen this and see where I stand or just to learn more.
zbf 6y ago
Yeah better not give her that impression. And it wont hurt to reopen.
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ilacknitrous 6y ago
I did keto and IF, AND cold showers. Dropped 40 lbs in 6 months, if you need any guidance feel free to ask away
slim2_None 6y ago
Hey, what's IF? Intermittent Fasting? I am 57 years old, been lifting a lot, and some cardio plus 1 hour 2x week karate and lost 4 pounds in 6 weeks. I have to refocus and do much better. (Activities seem fine, it's diet that needs work)
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ilacknitrous 6y ago
Yes it's intermittent fasting. Low-carb (subreddit keto) is how I lost the majority of my weight. Do your research for about a week, you can still eat burgers protein style, chicken wings, mexican food.
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Mr_Badass 6y ago
I highly recommend IF. Was an excellent appetite suppressant for me. Eat at Noon, then 8pm, then Noon again.
buddhadarko 6y ago
Very awesome. Especially the divorce, soberness, and Rational Male! That books is a must-have.
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ImHerWonderland 6y ago
Good
Started a diet the other day. Nothing like keto or anything, I'm just cutting my calories to lose some of the fat I gained when I bulked from 130 to 180. I'm hoping to get down to 10% body fat, and then I'll bulk again, a bit leaner now that I have more experience.
Have a potential plate that's a virgin. I've had her in bed, can't get to a bj or actual sex. I've been passing every shit test with flying colors, a bit unsure on what step to take next. Probably will just focus on work and school, and let her chase.
Been working my two jobs and recovering from the debt I had from my ex wife.
My studies are going well, going to take 6 classes next semester and Clep out of a few. Feels good being one of the few guys in STEM that's in somewhat decent shape.
Bad
I fucking miss my daughter. I'm going to be spending the next few months trying to get her back and keep custody of her. This is on my mind a lot.
I've been keeping laser focus and holding frame well, but every now and then when I'm alone I feel my frame and mental being crack completely and I lose my shit. After a bit I usually calm myself down, and go sleep and I'm fine. Not sure what to do about this, I feel like it's just the burnout from everything getting released all at once.
That's about it, everythings mostly been positive for me.
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The stress of fighting a custody battle over your daughter is a much heavier burden than most of us are dealing with. Breaking frame every once in a while is to be expected.
Of course, you should still try your best to constantly improve and be stronger than you were the day before, but just don’t be too hard on yourself about something like that
ImHerWonderland 6y ago
It doesn't seem like a big deal, but I appreciate that. One of the only redeeming factors about this is at least I'll have something to share for others in the future.
DiscordantMonk 6y ago
I didn't have a true custody battle, but I did manage to convince my ex-wife to give me custody of my daughter. It is an emotionally draining experience and the best thing I can recommend is to surround yourself with the best support system you can. These people that are close to me are what helped me get to the other side. I wish you the best brother! Just take it one day at a time
Work_In_Progress92 6y ago
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