27/M here. I belong to a part of the world where the patriarchal society still rules and it's a good thing, per se. It has let me be humble in certain situations which demanded it, and I couldn't have achieved it without imbibing certain ways of life from my parents.

PAST

Anyway. I have been in an LTR for 6 and half years; a major chunk of my time in college and I'm working right now, so you can imagine that the amount of time I've spent in this relationship has been immense. Although yes, the girl is one-off, pretty, and has a killer body, yet I've never found the zeal and the initiation from her side, ever. Everything is a routine and the only initiation to sex from her side is after we had a big argument. I've been a tremendous boyfriend and to say that she smiles today despite her troubled and emotionless upbringing is because of me; wouldn't be so wrong.

We are both established in our field. And neither of us require financial support from each other. Saving grace.

What has constantly irked me was the constant improvement on my side to become a better person for her everyday, and she changing to the same old person 2 days after having a fight. I haven't called the relationship off because of two reasons.

  1. I have a big exam coming up in a few months' time and I do not want to fuck it up. Getting out of this can create a charged-up situation in my mind and if that fucks my concentration, I'll fuck my exams.

  2. She's preparing for an exam herself as well, and although after being a lurker and reading up contributions from the community, I do find that AWALT is actually true, but she's a good person nonetheless, so I'm giving her the time too.

I HAVE BEEN IN THE DATING GAME

I've been in the dating game before I got into this LTR, and although, I'm average build, I was cocky and had an IDGAF attitude going in. In my face, ladies hated me, but I got quite a few of them hitting me up with ,' You're too chummy, but I like it.' 'Nice dewy eyes!' 'I saw you looking at me. Wanna hang out?' , so yeah, I think I had the game before but 6.5 years into a relationship does suck out a lot of it from you. Even sometimes, when random girls hit me up, convos quickly became boring. I was asking generic questions and yes, they did lose the interest.

TRP AND MY PRESENT

So, I took a solo trip to a coastal region a couple of weeks ago, and I found this sub just a couple of days before that. I've read up a lot of stuff and watched videos because I had free time with nothing to worry about in months, and I read up pretty quickly.

And I realized that I had become the quintessential blue-pill, the 'taken-for-granted' good guy, the safety net, the fallback option.

And I started hating myself from within. The anger, was justifiable, and it is still there, but I am working on channelizing it.

PROGRESS

  1. Reduced the amount of time communicating with my girlfriend. She's obviously increased the amount of attention. She's sexual more than ever, and is asking me to get a day off so that she can blow me, tells me,' You need a break and I'll suck you dry.' 6 years, no initiation. 2 weeks of being a asshole, and she is ready to make sex her business. Amazing.

  2. We used to have sex almost everyday and I had a strong porn addiction until even the trip. It's been 15 days since I've last jerked off and had sex, and honestly, I feel much better and not so addicted anymore. TRP principles were real as fuck.

  3. Made a list of things I care about. Reviving my hobbies, taking up DJing and Drumming after exams. Caring for my parents ( honestly I realize that the only woman who should matter to me is my mother and I have adopted this right away) , ace-ing my exams, and looking at the mirror and saying, 'You're the best, let the world fuck right off.'

I'm being the asshole I desired to be in 7 fucking years, and simply it, this is massively satisfying.

  1. I am dead sure, I will lift after my exams are done and dusted. I know I should start right now, but I really want this exam ordeal to end once and for all. But I'm doing it. Dead fuckin serious.

  2. Gaming 4 girls on Tinder and Facebook. The dating game here is a little different from the West, per se. But I'm still sticking to the TRP.

One girl, I know, wants the good stuff. I'm keeping her as an option right now.

Another one, I hooked up on Facebook over a band and I'm onto her as well. Haven't raised sexual tensions yet, but I'll get there once I am done studying.

I girl hooked me up on Tinder, and she immediately clicked. BDSM, erotica, what not. But she texted she doesn't want to fuck me because she came to Tinder when she was broken and now she has a boyfriend. I told her we're fucking or we're not. I ain't being a shoulder.

Still sends me cosplay pictures of her. And I told her I'll make her cream the next time we meet. Has a boyfriend, suck my cock.

Another one has been texting me for a little over 3 months. She really needs me. I haven't been responding at all. She drunk texted me last night, that I was an asshole and she didn't want to know my opinion. I said I was, and shut out. Not texting. Not talking.

SUMMARY

Honestly, TRP is a hard pill to swallow. But like everyone, if you are guided by some awesome people, like the contributors here, you'll be able to do it. I have been making TRP a part of routine, and the level of self-belief and positivity I've found in myself is tremendous.

A big thank you to everyone here. A few tips on Monk Mode will really be welcome as I want to ace this exam and I have 2 months at hand.

Also, I am free to any criticism. It's all about self-improvement. I gotta learn.

PS: I hope the post met TRP standards.