I have come to a realization, my friends. I'm disgusted at women.
I'm applying TRP teachings more and more, and my LTR of two years says (and shows) that she loves me a lot.
I don't. I've stopped doing that one month into digesting the pill.
She'll leave in another part of the country in August this year and really wants to keep us together. I know that since December last year. I cried my soul out then, not knowing how to do things right to keep us together when she'll be away. I've discovered TRP in April. Now all I can think about when she says that is "You bet I'll waste my committment on mostly FaceTime, messages and no sex except for vacations. I'd rather monk mode". Plus, from what I read, her cheating on me is 99% imminent, so yeah.
I just cannot love her, as I love myself for the young man that I am (18), for the things I'm doing and for the ammount of effort I'm putting in becoming as RP aware as possible.
I cannot love her because she is not my precious snowflake. Yes, I'm the only dick she ever got in two years and I'm sure of that, also I deflowered her, but since TRP I'm aware of the fact that she might be sucking another guy's cock anytime, even though I'm at my highest everyday.
Lads, don't let yourself fooled. Yes, I am happy, I am pleased. She's loyal, dedicated. She's in line. For now.
Always be ready to drop them.
theredpill22 6y ago
I was seeing a girl for the last three months or so.
I was / am madly in love with her. She told me she loved me first, I reciprocated a while later. We spent all day together for a full three months as we lived close to each other. I mean we literally didn't go 24 hours without seeing each other for 3 months straight.
We had a lot of sex. I would say an average of 20 times a week. We had amazing chemistry and we both loved each other. I'd make her orgasm every single time, sometimes more than once.
Call it blue pill, but having sex with someone when you both love and care about each other is on a different level to a hookup, and you won't get that level of intimacy if you have a few plates.
I am and always have been a very calm person. She would get stressed and anxious and I would always be able to calm her down. I was her rock. On the other hand, she brought some entertainment and fun into my life. I loved the way she talked about things, her little stories, she looked at life in such a less cynical way than I did.
We rarely went out to do anything, we got along so well that we would never really get bored of each other. We could spend all day together in bed, only leaving because we were too hungry to stay any longer. So we would go out to eat, then go back to bed again.
She had organised to travel Europe for three months before we were together with her (female) friend. She moved out of her college accommodation, but then moved back down to live with me for two nights before she left.
The time I spent with her was, without question, the happiest time of my life. I would say it was the only time in my life where I would call myself happy. I will be forever grateful for having her in my life, no matter what happens from here on out.
We were an exclusive couple, and she says that she won't get with anyone else on her travels. They're staying in female only hostels, and she cut the trip back to two months instead of three. She didn't get with any other men in the time we knew each other before we got together (~6 months), I know because we were living in the same house and she always came back after nights out and never brought anyone back with her. This was in a safe environment where she easily could have, and if she had then I would have heard about it.
When we were getting with each other she would always come back after a night out and stay with me. I was usually to busy to go out socializing and I'm an introvert so it wasn't my thing.
For the above reasons, I don't think she will be unfaithful. But I don't know, and I've swallowed the pill. So I know it's possible. Even though I'm 6'3, 7+inches, a male model and an electrical engineering student with a 3.5 gpa.
I'm willing to go 2 months without sex to see how things are when she gets back. We had something really special, I'd never have been able to spend that much time around someone and not get bored otherwise.
She's more worried about me losing interest in her, even though that's pretty much impossible, but I didn't tell her the full extent of my love for her. As in, I would like to spend the rest of my life with her if I could, or at least prolong the relationship we have for as long as possible. We make each other happy.
Now that she's gone I need to hold frame and keep my shit together, even though I miss her like mad. I plan on continuing to improve myself in every aspect of life. I'll just have to leave it as something out of my control and see how things are with her when she gets back. Whatever happens, I'll be forever thankful that I spent that time with her and I'll wish her nothing but the best if she has moved on. If I learn she has been unfaithful, and I will find out if she has, then she will leave me with no choice but to end it. I just need to accept that.
shredzro 6y ago
You've left out a variety of information that can help us understand better. How long is she leaving? Why is she leaving? Where is she going to be?
Also, a good way to thing about "AWALT," is to think of a gun. Whether unloaded or loaded you still treat it as if it is loaded. I did not make this up I saw it on this forum a while back. You've said it yourself that she's loyal. Most of the guys here are just bitter and of course you'll always see negative posts. You dont see rioters in the streets because something good happened do you?
The red pill is about taking back frame, realizing male and females cognitive/ biological responses to dating, and being prepared for the worse. Take only what you need from this forum. Do not take EVERYTHING.
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Probably the soundest advice I've read here.
MisterMandanglelow 6y ago
Excellent advice. Wise you are
perfidiousfish 6y ago
Long distance, relationship. Pick one, you can't have both.
[deleted] 6y ago
Relaaaaaaaaax you fuck. Give it tiiiiiiiime you horny crazy 18 year old fresh motherfuckerrrr. Relaaaaax, deep breaths, now go break it off and fuck a girl or something.
69SRDP69 6y ago
Sounds like you just really want a man in your life
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BestSC86 6y ago
You are too young and gullible to really swallow the RedPill......stop believing uncritically the shit you read on the internet.
And thinking you have anything figured out since April is silly...
It is very good to read the sidebar to get a general understanding of mating dynamics but stop the shit where you believe the crap posted in the comments by insecure babies who see a bad ass chad fucking their chick around every corner.
The basic information you need to take away is that every relationship has a beta and an alpha...if you act like a whiny girl\beta who constantly worries about some jacked chad pounding your SO then she has no choice but to take on the role of alpha.
Is she posting on the internet crying about who you might start fucking when she leaves? Is she ranting to randoms complaining about the nature of women and not being able to love them? If not, then you are already the beta.
Coolnick154 6y ago
Guess how old pook was when he wrote book of pook?
Not age but experiences employ us to understand and take the red pill.
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Rares5555 6y ago
Never have I ever stated that I know everything. I'm still taking in the pill. And this was not a rant. I did not ask for advice or comfort. It was a realization, with little peace of advice for guys that might end up like me.
Plus I'm not whiny that X will pound my SO in the future, fuck that. I'm 18, but not dumb, plus I don't have the time to think about that anymore. (I had the mindset you were talking about in the past, I admit that)
DatingCoach111 6y ago
Hypergamy doesn't guarantee your girlfriend will cheat. It doesn't mean she won't, either. If it's a short leave, give it a chance to work things out. Believe it or not, some women are loyal to their relationships. Not all women are "bitches and whores", but they function upon instincts just as we do.
[deleted] 6y ago
How long will she be gone for? I would say long distance relationships are a bad idea most of the time.
aanarchist 6y ago
sounds like you have a keeper as long as you don't turn into a faggot pussy. be ready to drop her but at the same time appreciate a good thing when you have it. you should tell her that you'll be finding a girl on the side while she's gone and that if she stays loyal she can still keep you when she comes back.
Bear-With-Bit 6y ago
"I'm a feminist. It's about fucking time for me to let you go so you can become a strong, independent woman. Good-bye."
Here is your break up line, OP.
juliusstreicher 6y ago
I have a better one: "Of course, I'll love only you while you're gone! Text me twice, at least, every day! When you come back on vacation, or when I am on vacation and visit you, we'll do that oral and anal stuff! Love you!"
S-Blaze 6y ago
Your hate will pass it's the initial reaction to understanding how they can be cold but it's nature and the reality of our society right now.
As you adapt it's a natural mechanism to make you a strong and wise man who don't put up with bullshit. A fullfilling experience.
On this subject keeping a good relationship is much easier when one don't fap or pmo. You are at your best uncompromised by this behavior. Also picking girls is easy, they are naturally attracted to the pheromones and high energy because you're not wasting and tricking your brain and your body into thinking that you're already getting laid and doing the deed. Dudes dealing with anxiety have to try that. No PMO is dating and social made easier, much easier. Side subject.
Doogaru 6y ago
My only advice.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1daB2mUEBK4
SouthernAthena 6y ago
If all it took was reading a little bit of RP theory to make you fall out of love with her, maybe you weren't so in love to begin with. She sounds okay to me. And while no, she's not a precious snowflake, she might be able to be worked with, esp since you found her young. However, if this is the reaction you're having, there's a good chance monk mode and some personal growth are what you need anyway.
Pro_Like_Me 6y ago
dude you dont have to take the whole AWALT thing literally ya know...
CZ-75 6y ago
Yeah he does. Good call op.
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Infacts he didn't become paranoid. Thanks to knowing AWALT he can clearly see the bad risk ahead in a LDR and just say GTFO now.
If he didnt know he would maybe say yes then his gut would kick in (about AWALT and trust etc) making him paranoid, but that didn't happen.
That's what he's thanking TRP for.
Madeon929 6y ago
You don't own her, sir.
You are always renting the pussy.
If a woman wants to cheat, she will. With that being said, you adjust your mindset accordingly.
TheReformist94 6y ago
You adjust your strategy accordingly and cheat yourself. If she is gonna cheat no fucks given so are we.
alexyeahyeahyeah 6y ago
this.
biggest mind changer for me.
I_Need_More_Space_ 6y ago
Love is a made up word in the context of a romantic relationship. It does not exist. It was conjured by Beta Poets and Disney.
Love can only exist with offspring and parents as they are representative of oneself genetically speaking. We are narcissistic creatures who can only love ourselves or pieces of ourselves when reflected in family.
Cheers to you for learning that love does not exist in the context of romantic relationships.
MisterRoid 6y ago
For how long will she be away? If she will be gone for a long time, I agree that the relationship is doomed and that she will probably cheat on you as well before replacing you. Women - especially teenage girls - are fickle and easily influenced by emotions. Since you can't spend time with her to maintain the attraction, she will lose her feelings for you and end up with someone else if given enough time.
Desadarius 6y ago
Bro you gotta realize that while AWALT hasn't been proven false, it's applicable on different levels.
Yeah women will eventually cheat but yo girl hasn't done anything wrong yet. Just make sure yo ass is asking yourself every day if you can live without her.
If not, ya gotta drop that hoe.
DeathToTheZog 6y ago
Wait for what? Her to be a cheater while they are states apart? Long distance relationships work out about as well as marrying a single mother twice divorced.
unspecifiedthreat 6y ago
Welcome to the fold, brother.
You will soon learn to accept those things that you have no control over.
Until then, take solace in the fact that you are saving yourself quite a bit of grief and unfulfilled expectations that are inherent in a long-distance relationship.
Onwards, upwards. Your whole life is ahead of you.
SlippinJimmii 6y ago
so do it, firstly you wont regret it. Your the prize and you have this mentality because you know it. You said long distance relationships aren't your thing and you shouldn't make exceptions for anybody, your time would be better spent on yourself. Set your standards now and they can serve your through life