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For the nofap shit, it's largely pseudoscience and placebo. I'll say there's definitely benefits to REDUCING masturbation (as in, 1-2 times a week vs multiple times a day) in that it increases your libido and helps you kick your own ass a little bit. But it's not like you gain some magical benefit at 21 days that you don't have after 3-4 days.

There's definitely a sweet spot. I've played around with it for about a year now, with streaks anywhere from getting off every day to 2 40 day blocks back to back of abstaining. I've found after 1-2 weeks, it's benefits and the "energy" I feel wane and I flatline, giving me almost 0 interest in sex, which is the opposite of what I want. So for me once a week is good to keep me almost satisfied but still hungry for more.

My success with chicks also corroborates this. I had basically 0 success on those long ass streaks, as they were in my early days of experimentstion, but now I've got WAYYYY more confidence so whether it's been a day or a few weeks, chicks are quite affectionate with me. It doesn't give you some magical motivation or presence, as much as that horrible sub would love to tell you otherwise. Your own self image and body language are far more important.

I'll keep this really short

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It's funny how not a single person on this subreddit can write a succinct post. TRP must have the longest average OPs by character count of any sub, it's pretty ridiculous.

 

The blonde was probably a virgin... NOT !

 

I've had stretches where I just let time go by and wasn't having sex at all, then you get laid and it all kind of comes back.

The saying that it's "like riding a bicycle" is true... you can get back into it really easily even after long breaks.

 

8 year old dry spell? Consider yourself lucky that you are not married and have had to endure that.

Congrats man. Keep the momentum and never look back.

I think the biggest hurdle is just lifestyle changes. You moved around a lot so were never able to develop a social life. You have problems with being bold and assertiv, chances are this has nothing to do with "game" but more so with insecurities within yourself. People on trp tend to get caught up in the little details like not escalating, not approaching, acting beta. But all of these can be fixed by weeding out insecurities within yourself. Once you figure out what your doing wrong with your life you won't have to make a conscious effort to approach girls, escalate quickly, or be confident or bold. Youll do all these things naturally. You'll do them because you want to do them.

This is just my personal experience.

sits down and lays on my lap

It should be 'sits down and lies on my lap'.

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We hung around for a hour or two then she invited/persisted me to come to her house.

Da fuq? If that happens to you, you check the logistics and you get the fuck out of there as soon as possible. Thankfully you managed to not screw up in the next two hours, but seriously, next time chop, chop!

both orally

I hope you mean kisses. Don't eat pussy, it will give you throat cancer.

New meaning of something just dropping on your lap. Guys need to also not take this as a common occurrence and think that girls will just fall into you like that. It's one in a million chance, but congrats man. Even though she initiated, you played it well enough to close, keep it up! Hope it motivates you to keep playing.

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I almost pulled the pin on sex with her

Just curious, what do you mean by this? Almost came early or something? Wouldn't blame you after 8 damn years.

The fact you move around a lot is killing your social value.

You need to have great looks, great cash or great social group. Focus on making friends (male) to go out with, solo man in a bar is at a huge disadvantage.

Wow. What would you attribute to the 8 year dry spell? Not approaching enough? Low confidence? How many women did you approach in 8 years???

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Awesome man. I'm 26 and now trying to start my sexual life from nothing after a year of being here. Moving city, getting a new job/career, trying to sort my health issues and fitness, work on my mental health and depression. This is really helpful to see you persevered and then pulled through. I let myself get really down a lot about my own perceived lack of experiences. Good luck, cheers for the post.

Dry spells are usually a result of believing in the beta myth that :

• girls will make the move
• you dont have to game
• that ONE girl wont need to be gamed

Even without looks or money, you must have game, whether that game is being secure in yourself to have intent and action to fuck a girl, or actually approaching heaps of women, on tinder or out in the street.

One of my good buddies in high school taught me a lot about his inner world when it came to approaching women. Whatever he did, he never let a weekend go by where he didnt spend SOME time in the act of approaching women with a view to escalate, this could even be just talking to sub par women, just to get practice. Even if he was a bit aggressive, he had the idea that it just takes practice, you cant expect to get the 10 unless youve practiced yourself.

My advice to you now is this: KEEP THIS MOMENTUM GOING, you arent done just because of one woman, keep going to other girls, explore, see how different girls are and how they react to different things, experiment!

Rule number one: Never fuck a drunk girl, unless you are willing to dispose off her body afterward. Please do not forget this OP. Lives have been ruined because of this.

...i mean not even tinder? If you're decent looking you are guaranteed laid from 6s and below