Barring rare cases, shit tests come all the time. Try not to look at the words or intent too much but instead ask: "In response, do I honestly feel better (or look better) if I jokingly tease?" If the answer is yes, it was a shit test. If no, it was something else (what it was varies; sometimes girls just speak normally too, though you wouldn't know that reading this sub). This is why amused mastery and frame are such important skills. After you've (re)established frame, you'll end up with amused mastery on almost all the time. A fun, knowing, not-too-serious attitude toward most of the words that come out of her mouth.

All the time however doesn't mean every second word she says is a shit test. It's more like in every conversation... maybe several times per conversation. Sometimes it sounds like teasing, subtly derogatory comments, out-of-context questions, even abrupt shifts in topic. If she has even an ouce of girl 'game', they are virtually impossible to detect consciously in real time. It's easier to internalize the action / response pattern of replying in amused jest than trying to figure out what precise statements constitute a shit test and what doesn't on a case by case basis.

Note: the below is almost exclusively applicable to LTR game.

Comfort on the other hand is often misunderstood as just being emotional insecurity. It is in fact something which occurs whenever she defers to your knowledge, status, etc. You have to prove you understand that she's reliant on you, understand she's weaker and less competent than you (and that's why she's now coming to you), and still care enough to help – a bit. Do the bare minimum to prove competence without losing frame, then go right back to playing off shit tests.

A good example of this is being asked to help your LTR move. It's beyond her physical capacity to do this herself and, if she thinks you're her alpha, she will come to you. To say no outright would be social suicide in most societies. But it'd also be stupid to jump like a beta and come running. Make her move on your schedule, when you don't mind and have time, and if that isn't okay she'll have to find another solution. Don't argue logically. Don't explain yourself. This is simply how it is.

Now, let's look at the opposite: refusal to help her move altogether, which really shows the comfort side of this. While 'independent' in theory, outright refusal is usually a poor move because it shows you either don't care or aren't competent enough to handle simple problems in life. It will lead her to doubt your ability to provide for her. And, even if you're alpha in her eyes, her irrational dream is to make you her provider. That isn't to say you have to help every time she defers to you! Exercise sane rationale and simply be aware, if you refuse or invoke dread, you risk more comfort tests down the line. Go too far and dread can go off the rails in very... strange ways. But let's not get into that right now.

Emotional insecurity on the other hand, the more traditional form of comfort test, is a different and far simpler beast. A hug, cuddle, lighthearted banter, maybe something romantic, is all you need to pass these. Emotional comfort tests are easy to spot because amused mastery results in increased insecurity and discomfort. You can, of course, deflect comfort tests with shit test responses – the result is simply more comfort tests... and eventually dread, if you go too far. A simple way to handle these tests is to keep deflecting (presumed) shit tests until you sense something isn't quite right, then comfort, and go back to the way things were before. Worst case, by which I mean you really can't figure out what the hell is going on, invoke soft dread. She'll come to you. You can comfort. And then go back to the way things were.

That last option is a bit of a hack job but I've found it invaluable trick, such as walking into the other room or speaking with someone else while out, and waiting until she comes to cuddle. Can take a while and may result in a silly discussion but I find those easier to deal with than failed comfort tests. Haven't found out how to bounce back from those without being apologetic or submissive, which always sounds insincere and just makes everything worse.

Tangentially, if you are good at speaking 'emotionalese' (most guys are not) you can act in a broader range of ways than you can with 'male' communication skills. The fact of the matter is that it doesn't really matter what you say per se. It's all about how the words make them feel; subtext and emotional impact are the only things that matter. So a 'discussion' about politics can basically be the same as conventional dirty talk. Seriously. It's not about the topic or the words. It's about getting her hamster spinning and building the image she desperately wants in her 'feels'.

So, for example, arguing the merits far right ideology or military expansionism with a liberal chick is basically the same thing as projecting a bad boy attitude by insinuating you're going to ravish her. The underlying message is the same... IF you back it up with different actions and more creative wording to ensure she knows that, yes, we're actually talking about sex and not politics. Obviously this doesn't work on idiots who don't grasp the subject matter but it will on most mildly educated women.

And the reason this is important is simple: you will get bored pulling the same emotional play over and over. And so will they, especially if you're in an LTR. Even worse, you may eventually become tangled in social situations like polite society or family, where you cannot speak openly without loosing face but still need to convey the message that, „yeah, we're going to fuck later, and I want you thinking about that right now.“ That last bit is also IMO the only way to play game when in the presence of an otherwise more obvious/traditional alpha... or a BP 'friend' who's constantly and clumsily getting in the way.

This is a key aspect of game that isn't widely understood by most on this sub (or anywhere, as far as I can tell). RP knowledge is a framework to model your behavior by. The core concepts are often portrayed in stereotypical 'examples' but the underlying lessons can be abstracted and adapted to work in many other circumstances, with other means, and with other methods. And learning how to use this knowledge dynamically (experimenting, and failing) will help keep relationships fun and prevent the otherwise mundane routine from becoming a drag.

100% wrong take, most likely she was dumped by the guy and then all of a sudden her hamster made the guy into abusive and obsessive.

I would say it depends on how long after the breakup it was, and how sexual this girl is. She might have been looking to branch swing, a sort of post-hoc branch swing. It also depends on what their (TS and the girl) communication was like prior to the coffee meet-up conversation. Depending on these factors, it could be that I'm entirely correct, or you may be. I didn't think the information entirely through last night.