I (now recovering AFC) found this blog through r/deadbedrooms and it has been the first self-help reading that has actually worked for me. I feel like everything I've read up to this point was for women by women, but this and the book No More Mr Nice Guy are for men by men.

Finally someone who can both explain my situation to me, why I'm there, and how to get out.

edit: link here, didn't mean this to be a self-post http://marriedmansexlife.com/