Summary: “Good girls” don’t exist. At least not in significant enough numbers to ever bank on finding one. And if you did end up with one, that’s not some kind of magical guarantee of a successful relationship filled with strong connections, respect, kindness, sex, and happiness. Good girls are still women. Even virgins divorce their husbands and take the money and kids. A happy marriage and a family is a blue pill fantasy. The reality is two choices: A difficult marriage with a 50% chance of divorce, or enjoying sluts.


A popular idea across many segments of the manosphere is that slutty girls are for fucking, but when it comes time to commit to a girl for a relationship (and maybe even marriage), a man wants a “good girl”. Opinions vary as to how “good” a girl needs to be for her to qualify as a good girl, but the common theme is that for a girl to be good, she must have a limited sexual history. Some rather extreme guys insist they’ll only be serious about a virgin. Some slightly less extreme guys might say that her partner-count needs to be less than 3, some might say less than 5, some might say less than 10. Some might say that she needs to have had absolutely no casual sex – relationship sex only. Others might be okay if she’s tried casual sex once or twice but didn’t like it and stuck with relationships after that.

But whatever a guy’s personal stipulations may be, the general theme is that fewer partners, less sex, and a more conservative sexual history means good, while more partners, more sex, and a history of casual sex or non-standard sex acts means slutty.

Unfortunately, the desire to fuck and discard sluts then settle down with a good girl is mostly unsupportable in 2019.

While the numbers vary depending on what sources you want to believe, over 80% of women have had casual sex. This isn’t too surprising, given the fact that most people are sold on the idea that causal sex is okay in modern times, can be fun and empowering, and is something everybody, both men and women, are supposed to do as some kind of rite of passage to find themselves and figure out what works for them sexually. While not every woman goes home with a different partner every weekend, 52 weeks a year, from ages 18-28, most women have at least a little casual sex. Which means there are very few “good girls” out there by most men’s definitions.

On top of that, the remaining portion of women who allegedly don’t have casual sex, and the women who try out casual sex and maybe don’t like it, aren’t necessarily sweet, pure, virginal women. They just have boyfriends instead of hook-ups. A woman who isn’t engaging in casual sex isn’t going without sex entirely and holding out until marriage like some kind of bizarre prude. She’s having sex with her boyfriend. And most girls who are at least average-looking tend to nearly always have a boyfriend if they want one, and change boyfriends every 6-18 months. While a woman who’s practiced serial monogamy and had sex with a string of boyfriends throughout her teens and 20s may end up with fewer sexual partners than a slutty girl who has casual sex, her partner count isn’t necessarily going to be small. And overall, she’ll probably have had more sex than a casual sex girl. Sex three times a week with your boyfriend tends to make for a lot more total sex than sex every week or two with a cute guy from a bar.

In 2019, finding a woman with a limited sexual history is a rare oddity. And why would we expect otherwise? If a grown woman who isn’t married and doesn’t have a boyfriend has an opportunity to have sex with a cute, fun guy, why wouldn’t she? Sex is fun, it feels good, it’s validating, and it’s not like anybody would ever know unless she told them. Is it seriously reasonable to expect a woman to go home alone every night, finger herself, and save her purity for some future husband she’s never met, who might never come? That’s silly. If anything, a woman who won’t have sex when the circumstances are right is the strange one.

Women with a limited sexual history that qualifies them as a “good girl” don’t exist, or are too rare to ever count on meeting. And if a super-cool manosphere guy met one, who’s to say she’d even be interested in him? My advice would be to stop fantasizing about meeting and wedding some kind of ideal, prudish, sexually conservative girl one day and set your sights somewhere more reasonable and realistic: Having fun and enjoying sex with slutty girls.

But let’s say, just for the sake of argument, that however rare they are, some sweet, sexually conservative girls are out there, available, and interested. The fact is, these girls are still women. Being sexually conservative does not exempt a woman from acting like a woman.

Just because a girl is a prudish virgin doesn’t automatically mean her personality is going to be amazing. Being sexually conservative doesn’t mean she’s necessarily going to be kind, respectful, helpful, and good to you. It doesn’t mean she’s going to eagerly have lots of sex with you. It doesn’t mean she’s going to never cheat on you or never end things with you, and that your relationship and your connection to each other is going to be strong, positive, and last forever.

All women – yes ALL women – will treat you badly, cheat on you, or leave you, if you ever fail to measure up and remain her best possible option. Just because a woman has never gone home with 20 different guys from bars doesn’t mean she’s going to be more devoted to you when you falter. Or more grateful to you when you do things for her. Or that she’ll enjoy sex with you if you happen to suck at it. Or more generous and supportive and respectful and submissive, or whatever else it is that you want in a girl. Being non-slutty doesn’t automatically bestow a kind and respectful personality on to a girl, nor does it empower her with the ability to forgive your faults or maintain a strong relationship with you throughout difficult periods in your lives.

All women, including the small number of sexually conservative women that may exist, hate losers and love winners, and if she catches the slightest whiff of loser from you, the fact that she’s not a slut isn’t going to make your relationship magically weather the storm more easily. Even if you find yourself with a virgin, your relationship with her may still suck. Virgin women are still women.

Some guys around here are doing this Red Pill thing, and this whole life-improving thing, entirely for women. They think that if they become amazing enough, they will attract a sexually conservative woman who will treat them well, have a strong and everlasting relationship with them. And once they’re an awesome Red Pill man with a conservative girlfriend, they can go back to their original blue pill fantasy of marrying a good woman and having a family.

Part of the Red Pill involves accepting the truth and letting our silly blue pill fantasies go. Working out, kicking ass at work, having fun hobbies, and enjoying the company and sex of slutty women is the ideal life in 2019. Meeting a good woman, getting married, and starting a family was the fantasy all of us had before waking up to the real world, but it was just that: a fantasy.

Good girls don’t exist. The tiny number that might exist aren’t interested in us – we’re weirdos who previously sucked with women and spend our spare time nowadays reading manosphere stuff on the internet. And even if you manage to get into a relationship with a sexually conservative girl, the relationship isn’t going to live up to the fantasy. Because non-slutty women are still women, and you’ll still have to work your ass off every second to remain the kind of guy who doesn’t get treated badly, left, or cheated on. Even virgins divorce their husbands and take the money and kids.

Here in the real world, you have two choices. Take your chances with the marriage system, or enjoy sluts. I know which one I’d pick.