A recent post brought up the idea that there's something wrong with cold approach, specifically day game, referencing the fact that feminists think this is somehow sexual harassment (understand, this is a tiny, tiny, but very vocal portion of society--most women are not like this, and many, many women actually hate feminists as much as we do).

Here's the thing guys: if you follow the sidebar and general advice on TRP, i.e. lift, read books, have a mission, dress with some sense of style and fashion, and are socially competent, most women will actually THANK YOU for approaching them.

Why? Because it doesn't happen that often, or if it does it's not done well. Most guys are pussies these days swiping away on Tinder or offering their limp dicks on Insta with pathetic comments like, "yer so beautiful" on every girl's DMs. Yes, there are some communities and cultures where men are more aggressive, but even then, if your approach is on point, you'll still stand out.

The key is calibration. Should you approach a 9 if your SMV is at best a 5? Probably not. But there's nothing wrong with approaching a 6 or 7, depending on the circumstances. Should you approach a bitchy looking woman in the coffee shop with a sticker on her Mac that reads: "kill all men"? Fuck no. Obviously, you want to use common sense.

But remember: women live for validation--AWALT--and the best kind of validation they can get is to have a random man who looks composed and has his shit together telling her that she's attractive. Seriously, do you think girls spend thousands or tens of thousands of dollars every single year on clothes, makeup, and other bullshit and dress up every day spending hours doing their hair and makeup NOT to get noticed or to look attractive?

Right.

What I've found since doing cold approach is that when you're first starting out, you'll come off as somewhat awkward and/or goofy, but in that case if a girl rejects you, it'll be like putting a puppy back in his kennel at the pet store--you're not a threat to her and she appreciates the compliment. However, even when you're starting out, a lot of women will give you their number no problem.

What's cool is that as you get better, it almost becomes possible to avoid a situation where there needs to be any conflict. You get a sense if a girl isn't into the interaction and excuse yourself as soon as that becomes apparent, or when she says she has a BF--and you pass the shit test only to find out it's not a shit test--she actually does. Either way, you can bow out respectfully.

However--as stated earlier--if you're in good shape, take care of yourself, read books, and are a TRP man, you'll mostly get a lot of numbers and start going on a lot of dates if you keep at cold approach. You'll even start to pull some women that same day or night. Yes, sometimes you'll get rejected, but most women are thankful even then and it's rarely a big deal. I've only had one or two true blowouts in over 300 approaches.

Stop being afraid of rejection. It's not illegal to talk to someone in public. If you're so damn afraid of everything all the time, get off the sub and go join MGTOW. Because yes, women are bombarded by offer for dick all the time--but it's mostly online and via SOD (swipe/online dating). It's actually rare for a lot of women--even really beautiful ones--to get approached IRL, and most of them like it.

Additionally, there's are several huge advantages to meeting women this way:

1) You present as an alpha--you are being confident, socially adept, entitled, outcome independent, etc.

2) You're creating a narrative or a story of how you met, which women love.

3) If done correctly, you can immediately turn the dynamic sexual, so that she sees you as the kind of man who's adventurous and accomplished in bed.

4) Best of all: there is no better test of your frame. If you're failing at cold approach, it's almost always because you're not holding frame. So even if you still want to meet the land whales on Tinder, you'll have much better on dates and in relationships if you do some cold approach.