The main causes to premature ejaculation are:
- Weakened pc muscles
- Imbalanced pc muscles
- Penile hypersensitivity
- Performance anxiety
I can help you with the physical side of things, if you have performance anxiety then I strongly recommend you consult with a sex therapist.
So let’s start.....
Are you able to recognize both of your pc muscles separately?
The first one is between your asshole and your penis (scrotum) and the second one is between your asshole and your tailbone.
When you pee you use the first one, when you poop you’re using the second one.
To last longer in bed, you have to get better at the second one; a lot of people overtrain the first pc muscle and it can actually cause more trouble because it creates an imbalance
You have to train those muscles separately so you gain more control over them.
Start by pulling inside (contracting) and hold it for a few seconds, then push it out (release) for a few seconds; this will both stretch and strengthen the muscle.
Do the same exercise for the first and then the same for the second. When you figured everything out, next step...
Now you should start to edge WHILE practicing those muscles, it will improve results tenfold and will make you used to the sensitivity as well
Here’s a video I practice to while exercising my pc muscles: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5b2f925589611
If you practice once a day, you will see results in under a week. If you get penile skin irritation, put coconut oil on your dick and start again in 72h.
If you want to practice with your GF, make sure she’s on top because missionary makes us use a lot of strength from our abs/legs/back to maintain the position; it makes it much harder to control, especially for beginners.
Good luck !
Zokalex 5y ago
Also, read the book the multi orgasmic man. It works.
panzaghor 5y ago
Do you have any guides on how to make those same muscles weaker? sometimes it takes me hours to ejaculate and i don't even masturbate regularly, i don't know what to do in order to fix this
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Making them weaker shouldn’t be your goal, try to stretch them instead
Look on google for how to stretch pc muscles, there are plenty of guides
panzaghor 5y ago
I’ll do it once i get home, thank you.
krimpenrik 5y ago
Dont have pe but think i have been training the wrong muscle for a long time.
soundnpound 5y ago
Serious suggestion.
Would extra-thick rubbers help?
DayGameChirality 5y ago
Sometimes, but not for me. Those methods in OP are the most reliable.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
As a short term fix yes but it won’t help with control, only with sensitivity
no_delay1 5y ago
Stop watching porn.
Bust your first nut quick with a chick who cares. Hit that 2 or 3 more times.
Don't call her.
max_peenor 5y ago
Exactly. Just keep going. Even if you have a refectory period, do something else to her until you are ready to go again. She won't care as long as you don't stop the festivities.
DayGameChirality 5y ago
You must be experiencing really shallow sex. More to explore upon you!
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
That won’t solve PE, porn has nothing to do with it.
People who should stop watching porn are the ones who have erectile dysfunction
Edging to porn for PE (with PC training) is a recommended method by sex therapists
BitsAndBobs304 5y ago
that's quite hilarious, these guys over here saying porn = premature ejaculation, and those guys over there saying porn = delayed ejaculation
:''')
no_delay1 5y ago
Everyone should stop porn
https://youtu.be/gRJ_QfP2mhU
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
I based my reply on facts and scientifical studies for licensed sex therapists, as well as my own findings
As I said, not everybody has the same issue; you can’t generalize based on that
Anyway, I’m just here to help
Noblefiz 5y ago
Your post is poorly thought out, written and factually lacking. Where are these scientific studies from licensed sex therapists? All you have is anectodal evidence which doesn't amount to shit.
Don't criticize others when your own information is garbage.
golden_juicebox 5y ago
Recommended reading: Your Brain On Porn
Might change your perspective as it did mine.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
It’s not about perspective, it’s about resolving PE from a physiological perspective; I said if you need help for the psychological part to get help
Noblefiz 5y ago
You mean the sex therapists that are entirely indoctrinated in a BP mindset that exists within the femcentric gynarchy? Yes. Totally.
TheAiphaton 5y ago
You may not be wrong but i think that watching porn causes more damage than it is worth curing PE trough watching porn. You are essentially fucking your brain up with porn and the dopamine rush.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
It depends what your priorities are...
For people with PE, it’s way more important to them to be able to last longer; they have no issue being hard they actually get too hard and then cum
TheAiphaton 5y ago
Yes, that's completely right. I agree. It's up to yourself if you want to cure PE and risk fucking your brain up or live with PE ( i don't know if there are any other methods of curing except that one that you described) and not watching porn. You have to set priorities for yourself.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
I’ve researched and did consults for YEARS to cure this problem of mine; I went to specialists and spent thousands of dollars on this issue
When PE is under control, they recommend you keep doing it without porn then finding a partner to keep it up but many can’t
Porn is bad only if you abuse it, doing it once a day for edging and PC control is anothing thing entirely; you don’t have time to focus on the video since your full concentration is on not cuming
no_delay1 5y ago
My statement doesn't correspond to your statement. Chill
Fking-T 5y ago
Wow, I’ve had this problem for a long time and looked up for a bunch of info and never saw this, I always worked the first one, I hope it works. I had trouble identifying the second one as I thought that was my asshole, but after training it for a while I can now see the difference. Thanks for the advice
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
I had this problem for a while as well, it took me a long time to find out that the whole issue is because of that second muscle being too weak
I’m glad you got help from this, that’s the whole point
Have a nice evening bud
derpderp5000 5y ago
don't want to advocate the easy way out but pills can help. iirc there is some evidence to support on demand SSRI .. like taking paxil an hour before sex. I used to use tramadol a lot. All I needed was 25mg and for 7 hours i'd be rid of any PE issues. Could go for 20-30 min in the first few hours after dosing, and maybe 10 min in the last hour after dosing.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
SSRIs can help for people with serotonin imbalances, if you don’t have an imbalance then you’re better off not taking it because you will create one
If SSRIs work for you, you might have underlying issues such as anxiety or depression (mood disorder)
For anybody without underlying issues, a shot of strong alcohol will do wonders for their GABA receptors; lowers stress almost instantly
Darksh4dow88 5y ago
Or you could use phenibut. Makes you a sex god while not impairing you like alcohol.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Phenibut is much harder to get by than a shot and takes much longer to kick in
But yea it works too, it’s a GABA agonist
Darksh4dow88 5y ago
True, but it's also cheaper than alcohol. I used to go out on pheni a lot because then I can legally drive, unlike with alcohol.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Thats more like addiction though, I used to be addicted to xanax I know how that feels
Darksh4dow88 5y ago
I strictly kept it at two times a week max and every two months I took one or two weeks off. Never had signs of addiction, at least with that substance lol.
Stokestix 5y ago
I don't understand this. So I practice those muscles, I feel them. But shouldn't there be something I need to do during sex to prevent ejaculation?
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Yes, use those muscles.
During sex, you can contract those muscles to make your dick harder and pleasure your partner even more then whenever you start losing control you then push and hold it so that the blood keeps flowing; that way you won’t cum
It’s all about control, if you can control yourself while edging then you’ll be able to control yourself while doing it
Iamthebest98 5y ago
Between asshole and tailbone? How the fuck? I only feel the one between my peepee and anus but no the other one. Am I mutated or something?
Noblefiz 5y ago
To be honest this article is short, very uninformal and generally incorrect on almost everything, but he's not wrong that there are two muscles. The PC (pubococcygeus) is one muscle and controls the ever talked about kegel muscles, allowing you to hold in farts and shit, and prevent blood flow to the penis, but is actually one of the primary reasons for PE. Alot of men have very tight pelvic floor muscles that react in a very sensitive manner to penile stimulation, causing uncontrolled contractions of the PC muscle as well as the BC muscle (bulbocavernosus), which is the muscle that actually pushes semen up and outward, as well as urine.
It's taken me a couple months to actually be able to feel each muscle individually and be able to flex them separately, but the results are awesome. The BC muscle is the muscle that you feel when your dick starts contracting leading up to ejaculation, and is also the muscle used to pee. Most men use a combination of abdominal and BC muses to get the flow started, especially if their pelvic floor is weak/tight.
One of the cooler benefits of relaxing and strengthening the pelvic floor and BC muscle is being able to pee easier/faster, but also increases your time in bed. If you can learn to keepthe BC muscle flexed throughout the day (done by keeping the muscles you'd use to pee flexed throughout the day) it prevents those pesky automatic contractions that happen during sex, which are also a predominant indicator of s soon to arrive ejaculation.
It can take some time to get the hang of this, but the results are awesome. Truthfully, the best way to learn to feel these muscles separately is to set aside some time and genuinely just get in touch with your dick. No homo. Learn to find your triggers and what turns you on. Go very slowly with it, focusing more on your body's reaction to stimulation rather than finishing the act in general.
Another tip is to desensitize your gland, which is on the underside of the penis, and is usually very sensitive to most men. This can be done by giving it constant stimulation and not allowing your body to run it's normal course of glans stimulation> automatic PC/BC, contractions. You'll notice this one very quickly;it feels like kegeling
You're not mutated. Youve just been fed garbage information from the internet as how to last longer. Flexing and pushing on the BC muscle prevents contractions and helps you last longer, but kegeling(squeezing the PC muscle) will help keep your semen in.
Hope this helps.
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AliBarakat 5y ago
Have you been to Chernobyl before, or spent a decent amount of time near nuclear reactors?
Iamthebest98 5y ago
I was actually born next to the fukushima reactor but thanks for pointing that out, makes a lot of sense now.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
That is due to an imbalance.
The only one you feel right now is called the Bulbocavernosus muscle
The one you have to train to get a better balance between both is called the Pubococcygeus muscle
Here’s a better view: https://goo.gl/images/uZuG4w
odaklanan_insan 5y ago
Holy shit! I have an opposite situation. The second one is very strong. First one is strong too but the second one is stronger.
Pelikahn 5y ago
We got an omega chad in the making here
OrbitalGram 5y ago
don't want to sound dumb, when you say start by pulling inside (To work the muscle). Do you mean for example if someone had to take a dump, they 'push', but for pulling inside, it's kind of like trying to hold in the dump, but with all one's might at once? is that the right workout routine. I also take whey protein and creatine when i do hit the gym - will those have any effect on increasing muscle size and endurance ?
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Yes that is exactly it, when you push you’re taking the dump and when you pull you keep it inside.
I couldn’t say for whey and creatine but Testosterone can play a big role in improving
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Vikingcel 5y ago
So you can take a shit with a full bladder without taking a leak as well? Serious question.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Not with a full bladder but yes, if you gather full control over those 2 muscles you will be able to
Same thing for erections, you will be able to make it much more hard while still being able to maintain your ejaculation
It can take months and even years to get there but if you start doing this daily you will be able to see slight changes in under a week; then it’s all about patience and keeping up
Vikingcel 5y ago
Fair enough
FearGarbhArMait 5y ago
Do Tren for one cycle, you won't have PE it will be DE.
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throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
I’ve done multiple cycles (test/tren, etc), this is just a temporary fix; it can make things even worse
N_H_C 5y ago
So, how do I go about "fixing" the opposite? Lasting forever not cumming?
redpillschool Admin 5y ago
Don't drink and fuck.
eyewant 5y ago
That's a good thing. Just go faster.
throwawaybpdnpd 5y ago
Muricayeeyee is right, this is usually due to watching too much porn and edging for too long; it can be fixed by stopping porn and by trying to jerk of the fastest you can instead of the other way around
In your case, it is psychologic; train your mind
muricayeeyee 5y ago
That is usually caused by death grip masturbation and desensitizing to real sex due to watching hardcore porn.
BitsAndBobs304 5y ago
no scientific proof of this.
quite hilariously, if this were true, premature ejaculation would disappear tomorrow "with this one weird trick" that costs 0 money, when men all over the world spend millions in snakeoil looking for a cure
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