Relationships between men and women require sacrifice to some degree or another. Modern society has done a great job of convincing men and women that they are making an equal sacrifice for the relationship, however, when evaluating our biological mating strategies, the landscape of an LTR is anything but equal.

Women look for the highest possible value man to be with. The driving force behind this is wanting to get the highest value genetics from a man to pass to her offspring, to give it the best chance of enduring the next phase of life. Once she get's her pick, she is happy and comfortable, they would mate and she'd fall pregnant. During this vulnerable pregnancy she would need protection, which a high value mate could provide. Once the offspring is conceived, the vulnerable mother and the child both need protecting. The male would fill this role. Over the course of a woman's lifetime she can only do this a couple times until her fertility wares out. The less fertile she is the less desirable she is. This means, her prime physical state is the best time for her to obtain a high value alpha male, and to hang onto him.

Men on the other hand operate differently, we don't have a little critter grow inside of us after mating. We are not limited to just one partner. Men can impregnate multiple women, thousands over the course of his lifetime. A high value man will be desirable to many women, thus the more he impregnates the more chance his genetic material has of passing through the next phase of life. A low value man will have far less options, driving him to hold on to the few options he could get.

We could summarize our paradoxical mating strategies into two distinct categories. Men are biologically driven to spread their seed far and wide, Women are driven to select the highest quality mate possible and hold onto it for reproduction.

With this in mind, when evaluating a monogamous relationship, it's pretty clear to see that the male is making a far bigger sacrifice on his inherent mating strategy to make it possible. He has to defy his biological drivers constantly to maintain his loyalty, whereas, if she has a high value male, she will be quite content. Sure, there's Hypergamy, but that tingle only starts to itch in the presence of higher value men, ours itch for thousands of pussies, all the time. That's why you get the age old scenario where a man cheats on his women and she wonders how on earth could he have cheated on her with someone so much less attractive than her? Well, because it was any other pussy other than yours sweetheart.

High value men are likely to suffer from the Barrier Effect. The Barrier Effect is that feeling you get in a monogamous relationship that only thing standing in your way from banging all the tightest, finest poon in your city is your partner. Your biology antagonizing your cultural programming. The less seed spreading you do the more your desire for other women grows, while the desire for your partner dwindles. Pre-selection plays a role too because you get way more IOI's from other women when in a relationship which amplifies this feeling. You eventually grow to resent your partner for preventing you from filling your biological need and it ultimately leads to the downfall of the relationship.

Considering males and females differing mating strategies, how could a man derive joy from a modern relationship, taking his biology into account? There's a few options:

  • Suppress all desire to ravage other women, live within the confines of monogamy. The lower your value the easier this will be, because other women aren't looking at you anyway. The higher your value, the more you will feel like a shaken champagne bottle on the verge of explosion. I doubt you'd be able to endure it without breaking up eventually and if you did you deserve a burial alongside mother Theresa.
  • Simply cheat without the knowledge of your partner. This appeases the feeling that the only barrier between you and a fuckfest is your partner. You are free to give her your best while dabbling in the SMP. More often than not you will find that most woman are far shittier than your partner anyway, which in turn increases your appreciation for the relationship, making you more motivated to participate. It allows you to execute your mating strategy, while she executes hers. You will almost certainly get caught eventually, know the risks.

You will find many woman to engage in the first two scenarios with(because obviously she isn't aware of the cheating). The next two not so much.

  • Engage in a polygamous relationship on your side. Allow yourself to have sexual relations with other woman, while she remains faithful. She accepts your position because she's still your main girl and you are a high value catch. You treat her as you would an LTR. Take care of her biological needs, while taking care of yours in the form of plowing other women when the urge arises. This is an extremely rare set up in modern western society, might still have legs in the middle east. Requires a very submissive woman.
  • You both agree to an open relationship. Although in theory this may benefit you because she is more driven to remain with one high value partner, while you are driven to poke everything that has a hole in it, it also opens some loopholes that work against you. It allows for unchecked Hypergamy, which in an open SMP is very difficult to manage considering many Chads would be willing to pump and dump her, but not commit. Your women fucking other men is also a tough pill to swallow for a territorial man. This set up could only hold up with your value remaining sky high high so that she doesn't really desire to fuck anyone else.

The final two options are possible but the social stigma and cultural conditioning that most women endure would leave far fewer women willing to participate.

Each and every man is free to choose any of the options above, but always be weary of the sacrifices you are making, and more importantly why you're making them. Be weary of what's been programmed into you culturally from birth and cognizant of what's been programmed into you biologically since the dawn of man in the form of biological drivers. Reconcile these two driving forces to create an environment that you thrive best in.