The ability of women to carefully craft statements on the fly to externalize blame and create positive spin never ceases to amaze me.

However, about 6 months ago it was revealed that one of the main instructors (redacted), was pursuing romantic relationships with various students, all young women, and all within a short time frame or overlapping.

The use of the verb "pursuing" here serves to immediately make the instructor the active and even aggressive party and minimizes the role of the women involved here. Of course, if a man ends up romantically involved with a woman, it stands to reason that he pursued her. Women don't pursue men, except for in exceptional circumstances.

I am one of the women that experienced this.

Again, word choice. She "experienced" this. She didn't involve herself with him. She didn't make a choice. 'It just happened'.

Now looking back, I feel that he used his status of being an instructor to mislead me in his intent, which quickly turned into pursing an intimate relationship.

Good Lord, there is more to unpack here than there are words in this sentence.

"I feel". There's that phrase again. Can't tell her it's wrong, because they're her feelings and you're not experiencing them.

"Status of being an instructor". What is she getting at here? Is it that he was an authority on the art of dance that made her feel honored to be chosen as a partner? Were the other women offered a similar spot? Or was it his "status" as leader of the class that led to her romantic involvement with him? Was it that quality that led, as she so artfully and completely omits from her writing, her to choose to become involved with him?

"which quickly turned into pursuing a romantic relationship" I couldn't help but chuckle here. It's almost as if she originally wrote "which quickly turned into us pursuing a romantic relationship with each other", but then quickly realized "ah fuck, that makes me look like I played a part in this" and then deleted all the pronouns.

I was told that a contract was put in place which would require a student and instructor to disclose if they were in an intimate relationship. However, I strongly believe that the overarching problem of an instructor repeatedly targeting students for personal relationships was not addressed. To my knowledge, there were no further repercussions or actions taken, and [redacted] continues to teach there today. I stopped taking classes due to this experience and the disappointment of a business owner not taking further action on an issue I would deem as alarming.

Even though there are paragraph and line breaks here, I lumped all of this in together, because she's saying the same thing 4 different ways for emphasis. Translation from woman-speak: "I want this man fired, but without me having to ask directly that he be fired, because I don't want to be directly accountable for that outcome."

Overall, I really enjoyed the classes, instructors, and the community of dancers at this studio, however, I think that this is important for future students (and possibly current ones) to be aware of.

And finally, translated: "I am still a virtuous and positive person, and I don't want to feel like I'm not, or anyone to think that I'm not. But at the same time, I do want to wreck this man's ability to gain new clientele and make a living, without being directly accountable for that outcome."

This guy did some scummy shit, no doubt. And it was especially dumb and disingenuous to do it when he's not the owner of the business. But the vast majority of this #metoo shit is all the same. Woman fucks man. Woman enjoys fucking man, and reaps all the benefits of fucking said man. Woman eventually finds out that, surprise, attractive men have sex with lots of women and are resourceful in their ability to do so. Woman retroactively regrets fucking said man and engages in social and emotional damage control at virtually any cost.

Tale as old as time. Beauty and the Beast.

He's clearly using the professional space to get laid. It's probably interfering with his work and affecting the quality of his work since he's putting pussy over work.

I'd argue that putting your job before women is more redpilled than using your job to meet women. This guy's unprofessional behaviour is kind of trashy. A couple of times is natural but it sounds like this guy is systematic in the way he bags his students. If I were managing a gym or a dance studio I wouldn't want my staff behaving like that. In fact I would have stern rules against it. It's bad for business, he's killing retention rates. I've worked in businesses where we send trainers to companies and trainers who use it as a way to meet women are noticed very quickly and dismissed for a good reason. It's got nothing to do with #metoo. It's unprofessional and harms the business to have guys like that representing your company.

I'm all for guys chasing women, of course I am that's why I'm here... But nobody should be prowling women all day every day when they're supposed to be doing their job. It shouldn't even be in the top 3 things on ones list of priorities. It's far more important to be professional and have respect for your own work.

There's a few parts to this story.

Part one is he's in a position if power, women want to learn how to dance, he's a proficient in this regard, they get the tingles around the situational alpha.

Part two is he's a moron for shitting where he eats and endangering his livelihood and reputation to lay a few slags.

Part three and this is speculation, but I'm fairly certain if it, this guy was banging a couple chicks, each one wanted the situational alpha for himself, found out he's pounding all the girls he teaches, so they're nothing more than another hole to him. They try to save face/bring him down so that no other girl can have him by painting him as this predatory man who takes advantage of his poor little innocent students(young woman as she says) and absolves herself of being just another one of his hoes who put out,she's now the "victim".

"The cake is not just mine? Buah!!! Rape!! Toxic masculinity!! Call the president cuz the world don't care about me!

Fuck the same guy cuz now it will be different."

LOL, once you get it you wonder: how da fuck did we let this come to this point!?!?

I feel that he used his status of being an instructor to mislead me in his intent

This is the most telling passage. I didn't realize that our society imbued dance instructors with some special status that allowed them to force women to fuck them.

This really only became a 'problem' when she found out that he wasn't being exclusive with his attention towards her.

Uhhh I mean she may very well be lying. But fwiw if I had an employee that was randomly trying to bang customers, I would fire them. Like, I'm sorry, I don't pay you to "have needs" and get laid. I pay you to make me some goddamn money mickey mouse laugh.

Guess what? You can take the money I pay you, use that to go to a bar, and get laid there. Like everybody else.

Let's assume what she's said is true. He's romantically involved with multiple students and actively pursues students, herself included.

Do you not see how allowing a dance instructor to actively pursue romantic encounters with students could backfire? Romance is ephemeral. Sex even more so. What happens when he gets tired of a student? Or the student gets tired of them? I wouldn't want to go the same gym as someone I had a fling with let alone be taught Salsa by them! Explain to me how these romances end without me losing clients and therefore important revenue streams.

Just a friendly reminder that as TRP has been quarantined, we have developed backup sites: https://www.trp.red and our full post archive (and future forums) https://www.forums.red/i/TheRedPill. Don't forget to register on TRP.RED and reserve your reddit name today. Forums.Red is currently locked but will be opened soon.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

To the haters... good luck being professional when rubbing your body to hot girls while in a position of power. It's not like being a dance teacher is CEO 100k/day job, so let the guy have his fun...

an issue I would deem as alarming

If the man tried to rape her then she should deal with the police not yelp. If not there is no crime and she should shut the fuck up and stop deeming perfectly normal potential sexual relations as "alarming".

The dance instructor was essentially this chick's employee during the private lesson.

If anything, she abused her power. She was like a man sleeping with his nanny or cleaning lady.

Of course they're both consenting adults so that should be enough right there.

Well.... SOMEONE got pumped n' dumped.

all young women, and all within a short time frame or overlapping.

Because this is some kind of 'hate crime'.....

Guy's an unprofessional sleazebag. If you use your position of power to sleep with your underlings, you're trash. There's no two ways about it. If said underlings come onto you with no prompting, that's different.

Man sleeps with too many of his students and it begets drama, who would have thought.

There's a reason why everyone here says "don't shit where you eat"...

"I thought I was special. Turns out I'm not..."

Same as a personal trainer trying to date or sleep with clients. Or any other personal service. Guy is an idiot and if I was his boss I’d fire him in a heartbeat especially if it’s repeated behaviour.

Whether it’s valid or not it’s damaging to the business.

Probably - actually almost certainly - bullshit.

I've been dancing Zouk, Forro, Bachata and Salsa for about a year now. Let me tell you about the first three. The close position in those dances is really close, as in you're leading the girl less with your hands, and more with your upper body and right upper thigh.

Many beginner leads feel uncomfortable holding a stranger girl in such a position, and you will actually see more developed follows taking and actually pressing these poor lads onto them, as if to say "if you don't press your body against me, how am I supposed to receive your leading signals?"

 

One caveat though: there is a difference between pressing your body onto someone, and pressing your body onto someone.

I was a complete gentleman^TM when it came to leading any girl in dance courses and parties, since I enjoy dancing and didn't want a reputation of a creep to spread about me. But there were girls who, for lack of a better term, sunk their bodies into me. I could feel that they were enjoying dancing with me, and a little more, all coming from them. It helps that I'm tall, dark and a foreigner where I am, but I digress.

With the regulars who did that, I didn't initiate a thing. With stranger girls visiting from other cities, or when I was visiting a party in another city, I would gouge the situation and see if I can plan something, and I would usually be in the right about these girls, and we would have an after party at my place or theirs, the very same night or planning for another.

 

How this relates to OP:

This is a situation of don't shit where you eat, no doubt about that. Yet I firmly believe that these girls were the ones to initiate the sexual contact with the teacher, and never the other way around. The man read the signals they were giving him correctly, so this crap really has nothing with (ab-)using girls.

'Now looking back, I feel that he used his status of being an instructor to mislead me in his intent, which quickly turned into pursing an intimate relationship.'

Hamster cries METOO!!!!! The wheel keeps rotating. Isn't it hilarious? This bimbo gets the same victimhood status as a woman who was actually raped. And that's the whole shitshow that metoo movement really is. Painting all men in rapist's color.

Don't shit where you eat. He could easily go out dancing and meet women. Tell them he's a dance instructor and get laid. Assuming he's not ugly or fat. Which he probably is if it's being reported as a problem to all of these women.

// , In Cibber's play Love's Last Shift, 1696 we find these lines:

He shall find no Fiend in Hell can match the fury of a disappointed Woman! - Scorned! slighted! dismissed without a parting Pang!

"I tried to lock down a Chad, but he dumped me to fuck better looking bitches. Chad should be fired because I'm a salty cunt."

First of all, this better not be some disgruntled case who has a grudge against the business and put these as a bomb. If I've been reading reviews of all sorts of places on google, at least 10% of them are fake or planted.

Don't shit where you eat. Do not mix up your role as instructor with anything else. This soon creates an unprofessional image and ruins the business. Do not ever use your job as a guise for your real motives -- as an opportunity to meet women and get laid! At work, integrity can't be compromised.

In America, this is not nearly "alarming" because everyone's an adult and we know a lot of this is consensual. Were this a more conservative country, by now this guy could be considered as a sex offender. But this metoo didn't get nearly as bad as it could've been - guy could have been falsely accused of rape.

The main problem here is that this guy clearly spun plates at work, he was using his job to meet women and get laid. When none of them felt exclusive, they all ganged up.

I mean, meeting a potential girlfriend or future wife at the gym or the dance studio is one thing as society sees it and I am aware of a lot of people who get together like that, but this is another thing.

But don't use the workplace to spin plates, ever! This goes along the same lines of TRP's guide to women at work.

I think she's just bitter that she got pumped and dumped. Typical thot behavior.

This isn't an abuse-of-the-metoo-movement story, it's a shitting where you eat while externalizing the negative consequences onto the company/owner story.