What women are attracted to, more than anything, is perceived status. They are evolutionary programmed to seek out the most powerful alpha male they can. In civilization, power doesnt mean muscles or intelligence, it means social status. Social status doesnt simply refer to career or money (as many people falsely believe it does). Social status is a perception. You can be a drug addict thug, but people can perceive you as an alpha male (as many women do).

In a group of friends, the poor ugly one can be the alpha. Its all about behavior and perception. Its about who leads (alpha) and who follows (beta). Who is assertive (alpha) and who isnt (beta). Who feels lucky to be in the group (beta) and who feels is laid back (alpha).

When a woman perceives you as high status, she sees you as an alpha. When a woman perceives you as low status, she sees you as a beta. Women want to be with the highest status man they can.

We see this in other primates. Females seek out the alpha male of packs, and when the alpha male is dethroned, they no longer have any interest in him. Ever hear the idea that most women will lose attraction to you if you tell them about your depression or lose your job? Same thing. It destroys their perception that you are high status, which consequently destroys their attraction to you.

This is why so many women are attracted to jerks and have no interest in nice guys. When you are a jerk to a woman, you are asserting social dominance over her. On the other hand, if you treat her like a queen, you are acting submissive to her, and she will consequently perceive you as lower social status. If she perceives you as lower social status, she will not be attracted to you. Heres an analogy to elaborate on this-

Imagine you met a celebrity that you liked. How would you act around them? Probably a bit nervous. You may be tempted to compliment them. If they made a suggestion about something (like a restaurant to go to), you probably wouldnt oppose it. Youd feel like you were lucky to meet them. If you managed to get their number and they texted you, you probably wouldnt ignore their texts. These are just some examples. You can imagine what itd be like to meet a celebrity.

Now imagine how they would act. They wouldnt feel lucky to meet you. They probably wouldnt compliment you at all. Theyd likely lead the conversation, and wouldnt be afraid to disagree with you. If you texted them, theres a decent chance they would just ignore it, or wouldnt respond for awhile. Again, these are just examples, you can imagine how a celebrity would interact with an average person.

The purpose of this hypothetical is to examine human behavior regarding the social hierarchy. Your behavior towards the celebrity is the way that people generally behave towards someone who is higher social status. The celebrities behavior towards you is how people generally behave towards those who are below them on the social hierarchy. For effective communication purposes, lets just call it "alpha behavior" (how the celebrity acts towards average people) and "beta behavior" (how the average person would act around a celebrity).

Your behavior towards women is a huge factor, regarding their perception of you. If you exhibit beta behavior (always complimenting her, afraid to disagree, paying for her stuff, always texting back quickly, acting like you are lucky to be with her), she will perceive you as lower social status than herself, and will not be attracted to you. If you exhibit alpha behavior (never complimenting her, criticizing her, taking awhile to text back/ignoring texts, etc), she will perceive you as above her on the social hierarchy, and will be more attracted to you.

This behavior is enough to override other qualities. EG, if you are a tall, wealthy, good looking, successful businessman, but you exhibit beta behavior, she will still think less of you and lose attraction for you. You can be rich, handsome, tall, and muscular, but if you treat her like she is above you, she will believe it. She may keep you around for the benefit of resources, but she will lose attraction for you.

Similarly, you can be a total loser by many objective measures (a broke, stupid, drug addict thug), but if you exhibit alpha behavior, she will perceive you as above her. If you treat her as if shes below you, she will believe shes below you (and become more attracted to you), even if shes actually above you by all objective measurement. Its all about perception.