"You're a misogynist!" In this day and age, all men are likely to have this accusation thrown at them again and again over time. There are times when it's best to just walk away from a stupid argument, but ONLY doing this by default is essentially yielding to the frame of others, and can be a missed opportunity to steer individuals and groups away from using this Feminist buzzword carelessly. Even when you've picked your battles, there are times when you need to engage this accusation effectively for the long term, such as with family or co-workers.
Here's how I've used Verbal Judo to better understand and respond to variations of "You're a misogynist!"
I'm sharing my successes, along with mistakes and failures, and look forward to hearing how other men on this sub have dealt with this as well. This is a followup to my post about Verbal Judo theory, offering examples of putting it into action.
A Verbal Judo perspective guides us to avoid the expected move of fighting the accusation head-on, where the attacker expects it and is strongest. Instead, you want to rhetorically pivot away from the blunt force of the attack, and deftly guide the attacker's energy and momentum against them.
"You're a misogynist!" is loaded with presuppositions, which must be recognized so they can be dealt with accordingly. These are the presuppositions or assumptions underlying these three simple words:
- Your words and behaviors must result from an underlying hatred of women.
- I'm qualified to make this judgement about you.
- Whatever you just said or did therefore becomes wrong without further qualification.
- You should be silent or leave now.
- You should feel (and behave) very ashamed.
Your verbal attacker expects you and observers to agree with these presuppostions and respond to them in a stereotypical manner. I'll refer to them by number below, and for further brevity, assume all examples begin with: "Her: You're a misogynist!"
What has NOT worked
Some responses and avenues of counterattack lead to rhetorical minefields or dead ends. Recognize these on the fly, because better options are usually available. In general, you want to avoid being pulled into the accuser's frame, and choose a weak presupposition to counterattack, instead of the ironclad ones the accuser expects.
Directly confronting (1) is the expected move. DEERing or explaining how and why you're NOT misogynist is the "But my best friends are black" of Feminist tropes.
Me: It wasn't misogynist, this happened to be a gay man talking about his own experience.
Her: Someone can be gay and still be misogynist!
This is a rabbit hole of well-planned traps. I've seen the above example used by Feminists to argue that someone raised by a Feminist mother, and even a WOMAN can be a misogynist. There are no examples solid enough, nor any logic or principles that can't be twisted or abandoned once someone feels you're a misogynist.
Attacking her qualifications per (2). You don't know the boundaries of what she considers as her qualifications, and she's probably got at least one book or semester worth of words to spew in order to make her case, however faulty.
Me: Just because you've taken a Women's Studies course doesn't mean you're qualified to declare me misogynist like that!
Her: I've taken THREE Women's Study courses! So, I know misogyny when I see it, and obviously you don't!
The conversation continued with her acting triumphant in the face of further rebuttals; she wouldn't back down from feeling like she'd "won" so I walked away after a few sentences.
Behaving as though (3,4,5) are true, thus entering her frame. If you carelessly explain why you're not wrong, are silenced, or respond with some form of, "I'm sorry, but..."; it's tantamount to conceding that (1) is true, so you're basically left arguing, "Yeah, I'm a misogynist, BUT..."
Vigorously deny (5) with an anti-PC rant, or other blustery, sounds-guilty response. Humans love simple labels and categories, and once you're pigeonholed as us/them, you'll only ever argue past each other at best, or fall into a well-planned rhetorical trap and lose at their well-honed game.
Him: I haven't done anything wrong! You damn liberals are always trying to push these guilt trips on people!
Her: You sound angry! What is it you're trying to hide or deny here?
Him: I'm NOT ANGRY!
Her: So, you're not angry, either? (Women snicker)
Him: (Fuck!)
I'm not saying you have to become a Feminist, but if you intend to thoughtfully engage or influence them (not just antagonize and bail), according to the principles outlined by Dale Carnegie, it pays to understand a little about their jargon and mindset, and try to find common interests to build upon. "The only way into the citadel of a human's mind is arm in arm with the owner."
Effective responses are more than just scripts.
Communication is more than just words, it involves volume, tone, and inflection of voice, as well as body language like posture, proximity etc. All three channels must be congruent, otherwise credibility is at stake. The importance of this cannot be over-emphasized. When someone is sending you mixed signals on these channels, the body language probably reflects the truth. One weakness of neoliberals and SJWs is they can be dogmatic to a fault in their application of rules, making it easy to trip them up by their own standards. Use only the amount of force you need to win the argument, without going over; and make sure you understand the rules you apply, and pressure flips become a powerful countermove in your rhetorical arsenal.
Indirectly confronting (1) by agreeing and amplifying.
Me: Oh yeah, I'm a misogynist all right... have to go back to the office and crack the whip on my binders full of women...
Her: That's awful!
Me: So is declaring someone a misogynist, based on flimsy evidence like that! {Shift to (2)}
Her: Wait no, I didn't mean it like that...
Indirectly confronting (1) using preselection
Me: Women who actually know me would strongly disagree.
Her: I doubt that.
Me: We could call them right now. How many would it take to convince you?
Her: Well, they're probably a bunch of sluts, like I'm going to listen.
Me: That was strangely misogynistic of you to say!
Her: Cusses me out over her shoulder, into an echoy atrium for maximum comedic effect.
Indirectly attack her qualifications (2) by questioning the outcome of her judgement and pressure flip.
Me: You don't know me nearly well enough to make that kind of judgement.
Her: Okay, I didn't mean YOU'RE a misogynist, I meant that sounded misogynistic when you said it.
Me: That's an important distinction to make. I have a real problem with people who don't know me but throw out accusations like that.
Her: Extensive apology and explanation
This started out as a non-flirting conversation, but she turned it in to one after that. We ended up making out on her couch for an hour a week later, but it never went farther because her girl game was shit and completely lacking charm.
Behaving as though 3,4,5 are not true, in a charismatic way, NOT caddish or indifferent. Risky because it may further antagonize the person/group; best if they consider your SMV sufficient. You want to ignore the foolishness and guide the conversation to a better place, not stomp on it and indicate nonverbally that you consider it even 1% true.
This is NOT a Shit Test! The above examples are direct accusations of misogyny, however unfounded; and are NOT a component of flirting. Shit tests, on the other hand, ARE a component of flirting, so they have a much different profile of presuppositions. "You're a misogynist!" in this context means:
- I'm interested in you, but I need to discover your rank in the social hierarchy.
- Here's a challenge, big boy! Are you an Alpha or a Beta before me?
- Could be anything, and this likely won't be the only one, but ummm... Oh! You're a misogynist. There, your move.
Handling Shit Tests is well-covered on TRP; from a Verbal Judo perspective, you win them by satisfying the first two presuppositions. To respond to the third verbally is to miss the point of the shit test, therefore nearly certainly lose.
One more caveat: Verbal Judo won't save your bacon if you're actually making arguably misogynistic statements. It's not a fine line between having this randomly thrown at you like a pejorative, and being like the uncle who spouts uncouth statements and legitimately makes family gatherings become uncomfortable without understanding why.
Women learn verbal manipulation from an early age.
Verbal Judo and understanding the hidden presuppositons within attacks offers a framework that helps one recognize verbal traps on the fly, and to not simply avoid them, but to turn the force of verbal attacks against the user. ^^Edit-Format
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Why are you arguing with accusers. Your Response: yeah... what ever... Go back to doing what you are doing. These accusers are willfully ignorant, devoid of logic and often have a host of kafka traps. Don't waste your time with them.
Datruyugo 8y ago
I've had a girl call me white priviledged after I said hello to her in her language. I laughed in her face and left, no need to argue.
I've had a girl ask me if I have a girlfriend 5 times and told me she can be my wing woman. I told her a fisherman doesn't ask a fish on how to catch fish.
Besides that, your points are awesome. Flipping the switch on them.
Joseph_the_Carpenter 8y ago
If she uses the word misogynist, how's patronizing with something like "Mmm, that's a very big word for a girl your age."
Roshambo_USMC 8y ago
My go to is :
"What? I love Women. I have all their albums."
I'd say fuck all this debate shit. The goal isn't to convince ladies you have some objectively valid point, who gives a shit? They certainly don't. When they call you on something use a line like above or anything else that sidesteps it and move on lightheartedly. If they keep pushing this shit then move on, because by that point this is at the same time-wasting level of arguing online about random shit that doesn't matter. Either way, if it is some chick that continues this banter, you should next immediately. You certainly don't want to be in this conversation with someone that you professionally deal with, so that group is gone, leaving nobody that can do you any good and that nulls even going further at all.
As far as if you're just arguing for the sake of arguing, its pointless with women and you might as well stay home and masturbate, because when its over, at least you'll have a little something to show for it. Save intellectual discussions about objective/moral propositions for the smarter males in your life.
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Who can be bothered arguing about this type of stupid shit.
Her: "you're a misogynist"
You: "Ok."
Laugh and ignore her. That should end the conversation right there. Maybe you are, maybe you're not, but what you absolutely should be is someone who doesn't give a single fuck what some salty female thinks about you. Save your complicated rhetoric and argument for situations that benefit you.
A lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of a sheep.
beeker629 8y ago
are we obligated to like anybody? women included? cant you have a poor opinion of a certain group overall, but still judge people individually?
FLFTW16 8y ago
In Weimerica, yes, yes we are. More importantly, we are obligated to hate cis white heterosexual christian males because white privilege etc. Also, the 1%, because Bernie Sanders said so.
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Cyralea 8y ago
That's pretty good, similar to my own experiences. I usually use something to the effect of "That's cute" and laugh it off like they're silly for having attacked your character. The idea is to socially shame them for doing so. It's a variant of Powertalk.
There was one bitchy chick at a lounge that was just having a shit night, and wanted to make sure everyone felt the same. I used that line, which only amped her up, followed by "She's like a chihuahua" and started making yipping noises. People burst into laughter and it defused her attacks.
OP isn't wrong here at all, the idea is to subversively shift the conversation into your frame, rather than enter hers.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
These are great examples of:
Thanks for the useful contribution.
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If they shut down the attack without you losing frame, it sets a precedent that you are a formidible adversary, and should REDUCE frivolous attacks.
NarcoMalarkey 8y ago
I agree with this. This is true for conversing with virtually anybody, but especially women.
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I just say, "Yes, I am a misogynist." And you are a sexist for thinking I have to like you just because you are a woman.
Equality requires that you should have to earn respect just like men do.
dirtydog413 8y ago
At the end of the day, engaging these cunts in any way is a waste of time. They aren't interested in being right, they don't care if they are actually truly in the right, they 'feel' they are, and that is all that matters to them. So trying to win the argument with logic is futile. Likewise what they think of as equality is actually female supremacy while men are treated as shit, that in their minds IS equality. Anything else is misogynist. You cannot win so the best thing is not to play.
sir_wankalot_here 8y ago
See how it plays, all of your examples are good ones. I have been called this countless times, depending I might turn it around to no, I just hate you. Why do you hate me ? Well because you are a stunned cunt but it has to be done in a joking type manner.
You have to guage properly. It depends what type of woman they are. So there are certain types of women that are highly competitive, usually they have bisexual tendencies. So usually these types of women like to argue, like to fight.
It then can turn into no man has ever stood up to me etc etc.
One has to be able to read the woman. If you misread you will be in a world of hurt. I like playing with fire.
Ideally one wants to find two women like that to double the fun ☺
IndianGainzDance 8y ago
I'll just go ahead and say it: if you're having to worry about countering being called a misogynist, your game needed tweaking long before the words ever came out of her mouth.
FLFTW16 8y ago
No idea why you are being downvoted when there is definitely an element of truth to your comment.
Does this Chad get called misogynist, ever? It's highly doubtful. A red-blooded fertile woman standing in his physical presence isn't likely to show herself to be a raging cunt, lest his opinion of her effect her standing with the other women in the room.
Power plays happen, though. Chad may be more susceptible to being insinuated as 'gay' in order to shame him into competing for her.
Be buff, successful, well dressed, highly social -- and public 'accusations' will roll like water off of a duck's back.
mikesteane 8y ago
"You're entitled to your opinion, Cupcake, and I'm entitled to mine"
"!@#$%"
"You're just angry and you hate strong, independent men"
"!@#$%"
"Oh, classy"
niczar 8y ago
This is all so wrong, with the exception of the first part of your first "what works" example, it's all breaking frame.
Here's what's worked for me (initially from debating with a religious roommate on the topic of religion):
Agree and amplify. No need for further details.
Simply mocking them. Double down on the supposed misogyny. "You're so cute when you're mad."
"So what do you mean exactly by misogynist? Ok, how does that apply to what I said?" and so on.
Answering with questions is an excellent, automatic way to hold frame. It puts the onus on the other person to defend their position, without having to cede one inch. It forces them to reflect on their argument and lose their emotional frame. By answering, they agree to your terms, at least temporarily. You can use that to turn them around OR, by keeping on the pressure and pointing out their contradiction, causes them to blow up and get crazy emotional.
circlhat 8y ago
I like how you added what not to say and what to say and examples of both. Please keep up the good work :)
GraphicSeniorNudity 8y ago
You're getting a lot of hate in these comments and I don't know why. I think this is great.
It's not always the best play to just ignore these kinds of conversations. It usually happens in a group of people when one woman decides to pick a fight with you for whatever reason. Clamming up, ignoring her, or shifting the conversation is not holding frame, it's jettisoning an escape pod and the people you're with will notice.
If it's just some random cock blocking friend, then yeah who gives a fuck and ignore her. But if you're in a situation with a decent level of social status invested, coming out on top from an accusation like this is important.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
This man gets it. It's usually not for the random strangers and insignificant Facebook Feminists that you do this, but for the observers and important people, some of whom you may not even have identified yet.
Kiluan 8y ago
I'd consider being flat-out called a misogynist as a victory, as that is often the last resort of someone who has nothing further to debate about and is angry you've countered all their frivolous points in a discussion.
It is a desperate maneuver to bring power back to them, but if you treat it as the death throws of a defeated opponent in a discussion, you lose no power and thus can use said power to end the debate on top and without any negative aftereffects.
Accuser - "You're such a misogynist!"
RPer - "Nice, I love it when someone calls me that during a discussion!"
Accuser - "Why?"
RPer - "Because that's a hail mary statement people/feminists make when they've lost a debate, guess this one is over!"
Put your own spin on it, but you get the point. This kind of reply only really works during a discussion, not so well if it's some asshat randomly interrupting something you're talking about or telling people.
bulletbill87 8y ago
Whenever I'm faced with being accused of being a misogynist, I prefer to respond with something like "I believe you used the wrong word there. I think you meant to call me a misanthropist. I'm not biased with my hatred. Geez, get it right!" That's usually a good way of shutting down any future shit tests. Rolling with the punches in a sarcastic manner, I believe, is the best way to hold frame because you also get some laughs from the rest of the group you happen to be with while solidifying your social status of the group.
BradPill 8y ago
You're on to something.....
"You don't know me very well, do you? I also hate/dislike men, so you would only be right calling me misanthropist. Right now you're just sexist."
vengefully_yours 8y ago
I usually go for the agree and amplify, and if they persist I throw something in there they didn't expect. I go with the yeah I am, and? Or "Yeah, and I'm sexist too" and they rarely respond.
A while back a girl said I was creepy because I told her friend she must be rather firm from her yoga hobby. She said I "should have said something like you're very toned" to which I replied, "So you think I should talk like a girl then." Ever since that night she looks at me different and she tried desperately to initiate, but she is fucking a friend of mine, and she isn't attractive to me. So no...she had never been spoken to like that before, had no idea what just happened.
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Apexk9 8y ago
My response.
1) I don't care about the opinions of a sexist man hating nazi
Or
2) I hate everyone and trust noone so go fuck yourself.
Or
3) I identify as a women you cis white privllage slut.
mojo_juju 8y ago
hahaha i love #3, gonna use that in the future
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
With the same conjugation and spelling. Sounds legit.
nzgs 8y ago
The best response is to talk to someone else and not expend a joule of energy on such a moron.
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teeelo 8y ago
A 4 syllable word much to big for simple minds.
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enkae7317 8y ago
Come on, guy! David De's, "What is it that you like about misogynists so much?"
Joking aside you should prob just not deal with this kind of stuff.
Subcommandante_Khan 8y ago
Or you could just tell her she's wrong, and why.
The Patrice O' Neal maxim is that most women have 4 levels of emotion which you have to counter with 5 levels of your logic.
[deleted] 8y ago
and what does this accomplish?
you won't get an attaboy
Subcommandante_Khan 8y ago
Not much other than your personal satisfaction.
[deleted] 8y ago
you spelled ego wrong, and that guy will get you in trouble more than he helps
Subcommandante_Khan 8y ago
Usually not any consequences for arguing with someone if you can successfully counter their emotions with facts. Usually.
Ego calling out ego. Always cute.
[deleted] 8y ago
Not at all, I've just read the sidebar, and watched the real life examples.
You are more than welcome to look up what arguing with SJW accusations can do for you, I'm sure you'll find a wealth of examples why guys DEERing themselves end up worse off than when they started.
Nantafiria 8y ago
I've tried googling it, but I drew a blank. Could you please explain what this acronym even means?
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Might be Married red pill specific.
Defend, explain, excuse, rationalize.
MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
These are great, many thanks.
I was accused of being sexist recently for calling a woman moody. Apparently you can't call a person moody if it's a female person, because that might be slang for "on the rag", therefore it's sexist.
Damned moody bitch. I laughed.
BradPill 8y ago
Or pregnant. Which is clearly sexist as well, as some guy made her pregnant - you can not judge her about anything that comes with it.
frequentlywrong 8y ago
Being called a misogynist is hyperbole. I would ask for the definition of the word then ask for what makes me one. Acting dumb and being literal by forcing the other party to explain themselves logically. They would most likely start an appeal to emotion, which I would dismiss and persist on the logical explanation for their accusation.
Very few things people her or anywhere else say can convincingly be described as hatred of women. So forcing the other party to explain themselves just makes them look like idiots.
HappyScribe 8y ago
"I'm not a misogynist; I love bitches."
Followed by a shit eating grin, or wide-eyed innocent look
coolwords 8y ago
NO. Look, I know you mean well, but no.
Coming up with effective responses to meaningless womanese is not about making the right words come out of your mouth. Whether you label it a shit test or not, these cases are always the same at their core:
-Woman comes to you with a level of distress/anger/worry/sadness/any negative emotion which is not justified by the reality of the situation.
-You know that her reaction has nothing to do with reality because you have eyes and ears and a brain which works.
-As a result, if you do elect to respond, you respond to what she is actually communicating to your functional cognitive capabilities. Not to her words.
You simply do not respond to the argument created by the words that came out of her mouth since it does not justify a logical train of thought which addresses the issues which were raised.
Off the top of my head:
-Rushing in crying with trivial bullshit which translates to someone did something to me which is entirely within their rights but I didn't like iiiit sob*"
-"HOW DARE YOU NOT ANSWER MY CALL EVEN THOUGH I KNEW YOU WERE PREUCCUPIED AND EVEN IF YOU WERENT IT WOULD STILL BE YOUR PREROGATIVE!!!?!"
-"Oh God I am an adult who is no longer dependent on her family but I did this thing which my family will probably get really mad at and I'm so worried even though they have no power over me apart from what I give them!!"
-"I... I don't even know what to do with my life anymore... Someone who is my family/friend/partner did something so horrible that I feel so empty inside and I don't think I can go on living. Oh God. What? Yeah of course I did the same thing or worse to them countless times and I know a lot of people who do the same but I feel like this is different and that's what matters. Can we get back to my life losing all of its meaning? Hellooo? Geez...
And yes, also "You're a misogynist!" which could mean anything from "you have the mental capacity to draw statistical conclusions which I don't like from the empirical evidence provided by your experiences" to "you personally like one group of people less than others without justification just like everyone else who ever existed. Your group of less like happens to be one I prefer people not include in their lists of less liked groups.".
Though once again, words are not the primary means of communication for women. Regardless of the meaning of the words, all of these situations and countless others tell you that the reactions of this person in front of you have no basis in reality. You live in the real world. You react to reality.
All of the "shit test bustera" and the amused mastery and agree & amplify etc. we talk about here is not about saying the right words. Certainly not by premediation. It's about not taking their actions and reactions and words seriously unless it warrants being taken seriously. And frankly, when the worst possible meaning an accusation can have is "you have a preference which is not based on logic", it does not warrant being taken seriously and discussed as in the majority of your examples.
Now, how you actually act and what you actually end up saying can of course differ based on the context. In any of the above case examples (incl. your dreaded "you are a yellowist!" one), you can respond lightheartedly, tease them, be dismissive, ignore etc. depending on the situation and what comes naturally to you. How would you normally react if some old man came to you on the street and preached about the aliens bringing salvation soon, or if they started angrily yelling at you to chew bubblegum? Everyone has different ways that they normally respond to things they don't take seriously and each situation has its own context to consider. But do what you would normally do in these cases, it's not that different.
You had one a&a answer in there. I guess that could work. But once again, it's not about the words. For all I care you could say "And you're a shlambaloo!" or some other made up shit.
She'll get mad? So what, read the whole thing again. Is her "madness" justified by the reality of the situation? Nope. Nothings changed, same common sense rules apply.
Sure, if she has actual power over you (which you give her by caring about whatever she actually has power over), than you can consider not engaging in this one. Laws of power and all that. Think what you want but act like others - or something to that effect. Or consider giving up or changing whatever it is that you have allowed to become a weakness for you (which you care about and she has power over).
But the vast majority of cases will not even be in this latter category.
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The term verbal judo is a good one and I have used it myself, but if you put yourself in a situation where someone who has leverage over you (work, teacher, etc.) feels compelled to call you a misogynist, you are doing it wrong.
Some random girl you are trying to game calls you misogynist, its either a shit test or she is s dumb hoe. Either way it doesn't really matter.
Some girl at your work calls you a misogynist, you need to reread rule 38 brah.
EDIT: Yes there are dumb hoes for whom "misogynist" is just what they switched to after "poopyhead" was passe, but no one takes their accusations seriously.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
How do you propose to "Think as you like, but behave as others do" your way out of this accusation? Apologize? That's just ceding to their frame.
That's exactly the context I'm addressing: When it's NOT a shit test, and when it IS worth confronting instead of ignoring. These situations are most likely to arise at work, and it's not always expedient to let it slide, no matter how dumb the accusation. In fact, the more off-topic and stupid the accusation, the easier to verbally judo the accuser to the rhetorical mat with the weight of their own stupidity.
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"Think as you like, behave as others" would make sure girls don't have a reason to call you misogynist.
Unless she is one of the girls who walks around calling everyone that, you gave her an opening.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
I agree, a milligram of prevention is better than a kilo of cure. That said, my intent here is to share my better/worse experiences, and crowdsource new ones, for handling this accusation once made.
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americans don't like the metric system, you might as well have been talking in swahili
rporion 8y ago
I will take that as my example.
The only way that this could happen to me is during negotiations with another company and then I would just ignore it.
There is no way that I would bring up any related topic so he or she would be completely out of line.
Don´t even blink an eye, do not take the bait.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
A completely nonverbal response like this will work in the right contexts, such as a business negotiation where there are high mutual stakes in the outcome. However, this is a context where this accusation isn't likely to arise in the first place.
Consider the case of a workplace group, where the future with the accuser herself isn't important (so she feels free to dish this out), but the future outcome of your response as witnessed by the rest of the group IS. Better to have brainstormed some verbal responses, than not.
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rporion 8y ago
"According to some definitions, I am. So ?"
[deleted] 8y ago
Terrible response. Being successfully labeled a misogynist is basically the same as successfully being labeled a racist. Everyone else will stop having any sort of dialogue with you at all. You leave yourself no room to maneuver if you agree to it.
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SirGuileSir 8y ago
Meh. Downvoted this response for lack of relative context.
rporion 8y ago
It is the answer I would give, I won´t play mindgames just to sidestep an issue that is arguably true.
In areas like this I not only do not give a fuck, I have no fucks to give.
Like, if I dug down deep, deep down would I find a fuck to hand over?
No.
Someone thinks I am x,y,z, who cares?
Well, antisemite, maybe, but all other allegations.....
edit: That "antisemite, maybe" ,might be a bit misleading.
See, I am Austrian and, given our history, that is a touchy subject.
That, actually would be social suicide.
MentORPHEUS Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
I understand your position, and pure IDGAF is fine with throwaway encounters with random strangers.
This post is for those instances where burning it to the ground or walking away is worse than effectively challenging. What might you do in these cases when (not if) they occur?
rporion 8y ago
Please give me an example of such a situation.