Taking a stroll down memory lane and re-posting some classic content to finish out the year, it's fun to think about the process of becoming red pilled. Too many men thing it all happens at once- friends, no! You'll think you're all the way there and then something will jump out at you that seems so obvious now, but five years ago would have flown over your head. This piece is no different. Like most men, as a teenager and young adult, I was enamored with the cool girl. Whatever form that may take today- the "gamer girl," the "comic book girl," for some brahs the "sports fanatic"- it always seemed like the best of both worlds to date a girl who was "#badass" and could be a best friend too.

And then you learn the differences between men and women, and you get that the "cool girl" is as vapid as the rock n' roll t-shirt section at H&M- it's a pose, it's a fashion statement. What may look nice on the outside- her big fucking tits in a tight Metallica tshirt- is nothing more than a living room set-up at Ikea; don't look too closely and you'll be okay.

Which is when I realized... the cool girl is no different than the white knight- different forms of sexual strategy to hide their deficiencies and separate themselves from the pack.

[EXCERPT FROM "The Cool Girl and the White Knight: Sexual Strategy and Identity"]

Traditional sexual strategy for women involves those cursed beauty standards which keep feminists up at night. Girly hair and make-up, a charming feminine demeanor, and a sexually alluring body-type which may necessitate trips to the gym or a reasonably controlled diet. Not foul-language, not cigarette smoking, not beer swilling, nor an ego-obsessed girl bent on proving how cool and smart she is.

When women aren’t aesthetically gifted enough to attract high-value men they attempt to change the parameters by-which men are attracted to women through trickery and sophistry. They redefine attraction and attempt to sell the redefinition. Women assume that since authenticity and identity are important qualities which attract them to high-value men, in the name of universal equality, these things are at the forefront of what will attract a man to a woman- if only she can convince him that bikini-model measurements are embarrassing and unsophisticated.

Sex-positive women, or sexperts, attempt to swing their promiscuous behavior into the realm of intellectual sophistication. Of course, the difference between a dumb slut and a sex-positive sexpert is defined by the latter; a man should not want the unintelligent, unsophisticated dumb slut. Her promiscuity is inauthentic, she probably has self-esteem problems, or daddy issues; therefore the sex she provides is undesirable. Wait, what?

Modern female sexual strategy is intended to garner committed interest from high-value men, but end-ups only serving to coddle the woman’s ego and feelings; she’ll still have the same promiscuous sex with attractive men, have the same beta-male orbiters, and date men who exist somewhere between the two.

The white knight is the male equivalent of the cool girl, using a meticulously sculpted identity in an attempt to garner sexual interest. The white knight will rightfully understand that authenticity and identity are necessary for what will attract women, and like Christine, will consciously understand his own limitations and attempt to redefine the parameters of what women find desirable.

The difference between the cool girl and the white knight is that the white knight has to keep a keener eye toward what he thinks is reality whereas the cool girl could entirely dictate what she wanted reality to be. The cool girl can say outright that a high-value male should want an authentic girl with admirable interests, regardless of the reality of what actually interests him. She is able to do this because the cool girl will always garner partial results- as long as she’s just attractive enough, she’ll be able to receive some degree of short-term sexual attention from an attractive man while rationalizing his lack of continued interest (ie: “he was a jerk”), all while her beta-male orbiters console her (ie: “he was a jerk… but I’m not” [crickets]).

The white knight doesn’t have this luxury. While female sexual strategy is meant to capture the highest-value man, male sexual strategy is meant to capture the greatest number of women.

The white knight is a white knight because he cannot be competitive using traditional male sexual strategy- embracing masculinity, exuding confidence, exuding success, looking good, and understanding female nature; this is the way of high-value men. Since the white knight cannot compete on this playing field, he must attempt to redefine attractive as the converse of these attributes.

While it isn’t entirely his fault, trying to win by disqualifying the competition is certainly not honorable. The white knight is listening to the complaints of the cool girl who is upset that the masculine man only used her for sex. Since she isn’t able to emasculate him to his face (and likely wouldn’t want to if she were able to have his attention again), she blows off steam to the white knight. The white knight hears her complaints and takes them very seriously, and without experience or knowledge of true female nature, will come to the false conclusion that what she really wants is the opposite of the masculine man (“he was a jerk, but I’m not!”).

The white knight knows enough about women to understand the need to entirely buy-in to his persona as white knight; “authenticity” is necessary to a woman. This is why it may initially seem curious that men will white knight to one-another when there are no women present. Like Christine would use her cool-girl persona to coddle her self-esteem, the white knight will define himself, and derive positive self-esteem, through his white knighting.

The white knight is a misguided and failed attempt at sexual strategy. Like the cool girl, it is sexual strategy by-way of disqualification. Unlike the cool girl who is able to leverage her youth and easily-accessible sexuality to garner limited sexual interest, the white knight can only derive satisfaction from his lonely identity as white knight; he’ll then reach a crossroads where he’ll either angrily white knight even harder, like the broken gambler looking for that elusive big-score, or he’ll pursue a different sexual strategy entirely.

Sexual strategy is like that scene at the end of Wargames where Joshua the computer tries to launch nuclear weapons and start World War 3; the computer cycles-through launch codes quickly while keeping the bits of code that are a positive match. Most people unconsciously allow their brain to do this work, matching behaviors with their positive outcomes, and bookmarking those behaviors while discarding the ineffective.

The cool girl and the white knight mirror the end of the movie, where Joshua learns the futility of nuclear war as a zero-sum game through playing itself in tic-tac-toe, a similarly unwinnable game. Sadly, the cool girl will never learn this lesson by misunderstanding her limited sexual success and the white knight through a combination of willful ignorance and toxic social conditioning.

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