Hey guys, this is my first post on this subreddit, and I know that it may not be perfect, but it's basically the gathering of a few comments I left on some questions on texting on asktrp which were quite appreciated by the OPs and other men. I figured I'd make a post about it and hear your advice in case one point doesn't make sense.
I’ve been seeing a lot of posts on asktrp lately enquiring about texting. The questions varied in shape and content. Some asked when to text the girl after getting her contact, others wondered if they had passed their shittests without sounding autistic. Some go as far as questioning whether using emojies is beta or alpha and which emojis to use. I have helped some, and my help was appreciated, but I was asked more often than not to elaborate a little on the tips I’m giving in the comments. Because I’m restricted by time, I usually don’t give the full the picture. So here’s a post me elaborating on my tips and explaining the good old “Text Game” a card that should be up every man’s sleeve.
A brief contextualization
To start off, when did we actually start using texts as means of communication? I’m not talking about some guy wrapping love letters around the legs of pigeons and sending them off across the country to his beloved. I’m talking about a guy actually grabbing his communication device and sending a text to a girl.
Texting hasn’t been a thing until the invention of the cellular phone. The latter reached a peak during the ending of the 1990s and the beginning of the 2000s. Do you remember those phones your parents used when you were a kid to send “Happy birthday” messages to your relatives? For the old schoolers in here, do you guys remember those phones with 9 keyboard buttons and each button containing 3 letters? You had to press number 4 twice, wait a little, and then press it thrice to write a simple “Hi”.
My point is, texting was extremely difficult. You can’t just text someone back in those days. You had to put the time and efforts. And not only that, you were also paying by character. So it was also costly. This explains why people kept their texts short and most importantly, stuck to the logistics after getting the girl’s number.
Now, fast forward a dozen of years and kids are texting their parents on Messenger and WhatsApp asking them to come and pick them up. Unlike the old times, texting is not expensive and is not difficult anymore. Texting has become means of communication just like speaking to each other, the only difference is that it’s done virtually through smartphones.
Let me elaborate a little on this. The coup d’état in Turkey on July 16, 2016 was organized on WhatsApp. The leader of the “rebellion” legit created a WhatsApp group with the army officials and declared that he will be making official statements through this medium. You may argue, “Yeah, sure, that’s why the coup failed in the first place”, but that’s not the point here. The point is that texting has become so easy, cheap and useful that it’s become so practical beyond measure. To the point that army officials are using it to organize coups. Look up the casualties caused by that coup in Turkey and you’ll understand what I’m talking about.
With that being said, let us proceed to the actual text game.
How to text a girl
If you ask a redpilled man on advice on texting, they’d most likely tell you, “Texting is only for logistics and nothing else,” which is partly true, but used to be the absolute truth back in the old times.
After experimenting with texting on my TRP journey, I came to the conclusion that texting is a really powerful tool that you can use to seduce a girl with. Here’s what I mean.
First of all, you should always bear in mind that you are texting to actually get to meet the girl. No matter what the context of the conversation is, you should always close the conversations with both of you agreeing on where and when to meet. This goes without saying. You can’t date a girl through text, that couldn’t get more beta. If you’re TRP-aware, texting should be used as a tool of building rapport, which is my second point.
After you meet the girl, you need to GAUGE HOW MUCH SHE WOULD LIKE TO BUILD RAPPORT over text. And it’s different with every girl. Some girls are totally okay with having short conversations over text with you before meeting about why their cats are depressed or why they failed the algebra test last week or whatever. Because you’re living in 2018 and not the 1990s, you should use text as it’s used nowadays, for actual communication. If you only stick to logistics you’d end up sounding autistic for some girls.
So the first thing to do after you get a girl’s number is to build rapport with her. The building of the rapport can literally be anything, but what I recommend is to casually mention something that happened between the both of you, something only the both of you know about, when you met and got her number. This will remind her on an unconscious level that SHE DOES KNOW you in real life. From here, you can go on for a few more texts discussing bullshit and then close with you guys agreeing on where to meet.
Some guys would recommend that you text the girl 6 times building rapport before starting discussing logistics, others maybe less or more, but again, it really depends on the girl, which leads me to the next point.
MIRROR HER GAME. Meaning, if the girl is replying to you in multiple/long texts, then reply in equally long or shorter texts. This also tells you something about the girl: SHE’S OKAY HAVING FUN TEXTING. She won’t regard you as beta if you keep on discussing some bullshit with her over text. Especially if you do it right (more on this later).
But if she’s keeping it short and sweet and not replying as enthusiastic as you do, then you realize that the building rapport phase is over and you should start discussing logistics right away. I’ve had a lot of cases with both types of girls.
So here’s a timeline of how your text game should go at this point:Build rapport ==> Gauge ==> Close by agreeing on a date
“But, justarandomguy15, how do I actually get to ask the girl out?” the actual closing. Remember that you’re absorbing her in your world. She’s a passive being and she’s only there to enjoy joining your busy and wonderful world. There was a symbolic scene (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UHyGkpP7ZZE) in a movie called The Tourist in which Angelina Jolie is teaching Johnny Depp how to ask her for dinner (skip to 2:41).
“Women hate questions”.
She should have also said, “WOMEN LOVE JOINING YOUR FUN LIFE”.
So when you’re about to close, you should let her know that you’re doing something special on Thursday and if she cared to join? You shouldn’t come across as if you’re ordering her telling her what to do and shit. I’ve seen a post on TRP legit advises guys to tell girls shit like, “Ey, I’m having a burger later at McDonald’s, be there by 13:00”.
Unless you’re Brad Pitt or the next fucking Bill Gates, she won’t have a reason to join you. But being a sweet gentleman giving her a chance to join your world could be luring enough for her to accept.
What kind of activities you should be asking her out for? A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G, but again, we recommend a beer. I usually disguise this under, “Ah, I’m finishing work at 6pm on Thursday and all a man can use is a beer after such long day, wanna join?” or “This week’s been pretty hectic for me and feeling like grabbing a beer this weekend, are you free Saturday 7pm? I know this bar with cool sangria”.
Remember, women are all about plausible deniability. You should always contextualize the whole thing as “hanging out as friends”.
Name the place and name the time specifically, don’t give estimations like “Sometime next week…etc etc”. Just let her know when you exactly can see her and wait for her response.
From here on, she would either tell you that it’s okay she can make it or unfortunately she’s busy (ffs they’re humans as well, sometimes they legit don’t have time) and you know that she’s still interested if she says something along the lines of,” What about some other time! I’m free on Friday and Saturday!” if she doesn’t say anything, next the bitch. That’s what I usually do. You gave her a chance, she declined it, she’s not worth your time. Next.
So that should be your basic plan. Building rapport, gauging her texting receptiblity and closing with a date.
Now, a few more points.
I hope that was of help, lads. If you have anything to add or need some clarification on something, please let me know!