tl;dr: it's short anyway, just read it.
Body: If you seek a relationship with a woman, mentally prepare that the relationship will last only for a short period of time, 3, 6, or 9 months, maybe 5 years if you get lucky, then she’ll get bored. That’s how current relationships go now.
Lift and ace shit tests
Pay nothing for her. She can work and pay for herself. You are not responsible for her well-being.
Don’t live with her. Live separate if you guys are dating. Bitches are crazy these days, so not having to pack all her shit is great after a breakup.
Place all your priorities first and her last. On a few occasions, you can make her first, but don’t over do it.
Don’t show your insecurities, initialize operation dread game if she is out of line.
Keep improving your SMV.
When she bitches about random crap, just nod slightly and agree with whatever she is saying. “That’s great” “ahh huh...no way, that is terrible.” She is not looking for you to solve her problems.
Read TRP everyday.
Lessons Learned: Everything above.
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Improve your SMV until you hit 8+.
Women date up. Men should date down if they want an obedient sex slave. Once you hit that 8+, dominating a 7 shouldn't be a problem (unless you're a pussy). And 7s are good enough to fuck (no condom of course, that's the point of an LTR) for at least 6-12 months. Over one year into my LTR with a 7 and I'd still rather drop loads in her without a condom than bang some random tinder/club/bar slut with a condom.
And of course, never live together.
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I'll give a tl;dr: Modern relationships are short term, treat them as such.
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You don't. End of story.
You can't win all the time; if you don't win all the time, she goes on to another.
tits_out_forTheBoys 8y ago
Rule #1: ABC. A - Always. B - Be. C - Closing.
Always be closing.
If you aren't able to - i.e. if you're "too nice" to consistently gauge the quality of options that are available to you in the dating market, then you are setting your relationship up for failure.
Realize that no girl wants a Nice Guy, but every girl wants a badass who has other options.
Don't chase, replace. At ALL times. Regardless of what anyone tells you, that's the only thing that will keep a man's relationship with his woman in tact.
You have no other options? You're nothing but a cuck to her.
You have plenty of options? She'll blow you every single night if that's what it takes to keep you.
That's the most important rule of relationships: Always keep two in the kitty.
Kill_Your_Ego 8y ago
Excellent primer for modern dating.
Start from here and work down the details. You won't meet any quality women unless you continue to approach. And I'll tell you the years I was "married" atrophied my approach skills. No reason I shouldn't have continued to at least get other girls phone numbers.
Hell your modern woman deeply believes everything that the herd tells her. I mean the women who matter. The ones young enough to have any value. And the old women are pathetically desperate for their feminist dreams to come true. So they aren't telling the young women to stop being sluts yet. To stop reducing themselves to sex objects, only good for one thing.
And why invest into a woman? Every second you invest into a woman is a second less you invested into the only person who is really there for you. The one who matters. The person you spend your entire life with. Yourself.
Do not forget who the important one is. You.
Don't listen to the news. Who gives a fuck about that shit? How does that help the important one? You.
Who is going to be there with you in thirty years? In fifty years? The government? Lmfao! Have you seen the pathetic joke we call "an election for the most powerful man in the world? And what the fuck does this have to do with making my life better? Every single one of these clowns does the same shit. And we can just sit back and ask ourselves? Who can better manage the bureaucracy?
The bureaucracy must expand. To meet the ever growing needs of the expanding bureaucracy. Where the rent seekers rule.
I just have to sit back and ask myself? How is thinking about any of this shit helping the truly important one? The star of this movie? You.
We're all really the beta males. We live outside the herd and poach the hotties. We let other men raise them. See a weak woman in that herd? Game her and give her that dick.
That's a successful beta.
If we want to define terms the way they really are.
Do not ever forget who the important one is.
You are the important one.
StraightTalkM 8y ago
I'm pretty sure the alpha is the only one who gets the attractive females. The beta mates with other betas. The omega is the one who mates from the sidelines. If we want to define terms the way they are...
tekn0_ 8y ago
Man.. That just hit me hard in the chest. Truth hurts.. Ouch!
Goomich 8y ago
That's what RP is doing for you. But after all pain is weakness leaving the body.
OrangeCub 8y ago
While I agree with the basic RP tenets you are describing, it seems like it's coming from a totally ''inadequate to RP philosophy'' place. From what I understand RP philosophy says that we should align ourselves to reality and live accordingly. From there we can choose to do this in whatever way we like: whether that's bitterly, because we secretly wish reality to be different (thus actually not fully living RP philosophy) or with a smile because we have accepted what is and are happy with it.
knifpearty 8y ago
„You are not responsible for her well-being.“
Men need to learn this.
Trpidation 8y ago
I wish I had fucking known this in my failed LTR.
awalt_cupcake 8y ago
PLEASE FOR FUCKS SAKE LEARN FROM ME.
Letting her move in kills EVERYTHING. At first it seems great. You have someone to go to bed with and wake up to. You both pee with the door open. Sex turns into little games that turn kinky. But then IT happens. She's moody. You're no longer mysterious. She knows everything about you now. The way you complain in the morning, talk about your "feelings", you've cooked every meal you knew how to cook for her, and she's stressed and being around you isn't being the stress reliever anymore because you're always there.
And for fucks sake it doesn't stop her from flirting with other guys. In your own bed. On Facebook.
Moving all that shit out and then she claims ownership for some shit. Now you hate eachother and have to get her shit out. Days go by and you have to see her mother now because your ex is a lazy piece of shit who depends on others (AWALT) and she's still lingering in your life while she's getting fucked by another guy.
Fucking fuck it's just not worth it. Let her spend the night for a few nights. Let her pack a fucking bag and tell her to bring plenty of condoms, but don't let her MOVE IN.
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"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
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"Familiarity breeds contempt."
are old saws for a reason.
Redasshole 8y ago
My place is my sanctuary. After an experience similar to yours I decided I would never allow any woman to live with me ever again. This is MY place, not me and her place. This is the place where I rest, find relief from the outside world, where I can take off my armor and be vulnerable. When you live with a woman, when you go back home from work you can't take your armor off. In fact you have to be extra careful.
Never again. My place is holy to me. I want to be able to eat breakfast in my pyjama without having a bitch yell to me and insult me in my own home.
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My girlfriend of a year knows I'm not interested in moving in with her as it stands. The other day in conversation we were talking about my upcoming job and the likes, and the possibilities it opens up for me (me, telling her what I would be doing in the future). She's finishing up school for the next year, and I'll be working plenty making some serious cash - I spoke of buying my own house and renting half of it out. She mentioned 'maybe' moving in with me after that year, and my immediate thought was "Not a chance." Told her she's not allowed to just drop in and take a piece of the pie like that. She told me she'd cover her share of things, and I replied "not with that attitude" (she's been working a ton lately and is tired/stressed but that's no excuse for becoming bitchy).
Don't know if I'll ever let her move in with me just like that. Few days stay sounds good.
rebuildingMyself 8y ago
Good call, broseph. If she's bitchy now, just wait until after she moves in
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She's usually in a great mood, but her ridiculous 50+ hour work weeks between two jobs, from early morning until late evenings, have her on edge and kind of irritable. I can't blame her entirely, since I know I'd likely get a bit cranky too, so I'm going to tough it out for a bit longer and see how she is once her hours are reduced and she has a normalized schedule with school.
Redasshole 8y ago
You know she sees you as a provider right? She wants to get the house, get married, get some kids and divorce rape you.
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Eh. That could be jumping to conclusions a little bit since she doesn't want kids and as far as I'm aware would sign a pre-nup, were we to ever even get married. I'm not thinking about anything like that right now though, since I'm more focused on me and where I can get myself... Could care less if she's there or not in the end.
Plaidlands 8y ago
Yep, can't be a closed book really if they move in.
Women love to feel they've figured you out, once they feel that they feel like they're better than you and have nothing left to get from you, and are just waiting for the next upgrade.
Staying closed book keeps the relationship more solvent until you get tired of it (unless you don't get bored easily).
IronManScum 8y ago
Was nodding my head the whole time reading that. I'll take it from you.
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Except this. Never let the woman control contraception. You use condoms that you supply, she uses the pill/IUD/Dutch Cap+gel, or whatever. If you rely on her being on the pill, well she can 'forget', or if she does it in front of you, she probably knows there are fake pills for sale on the internet. If you let her have access to the condoms when alone, she goes on Yahoo and learns how to sabotage them with nail scissors. Getting you hooked by becoming pregnant is the oldest trick in the book, so be careful out there.
Bung_Eye 8y ago
Holy Shit! Thanks for warning about the fake pills
awalt_cupcake 8y ago
Shit I didn't think of that. I mean I always checked and the condoms were still sealed, so.
Redasshole 8y ago
You get a needle and poke a hole in the condoms. They are still sealed but... that's how my ex tried to get me pregnant.
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Be very careful if she wants to put it on you because it is 'sexier that way' so she gets to remove the wrapper coming to bed. If you can check carefully then fine. I know about fake pills, not heard about being able to buy fake condoms, just read stuff about using nail scissors so they 'accidentally' tear, or perforating with a needle. Women can be pretty desparate.
awalt_cupcake 8y ago
I've always put on my own condom. I've never heard of that shit. That's frightening.
rebuildingMyself 8y ago
I also have never used a condom I didn't have in hand or brought with me
cleverley1986 8y ago
Ex is just moving out. Never again
markyLEpirate 8y ago
My current gf is trying to tell me we are going to get a place in Seattle once I finish school and I'm like "oh yeah for sure" till my lease is up with her and my other roommate. Women are fucking pigs when it comes to being clean. Piles of fucking clothes everywhere, dishes stack up, trash I'd just left there for me to throw. Fuck getting a place together
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This is no joke.. I've lived with 4 girls..
I've cleaned up after 4 girls.
I've kicked 4 girls out for this reason
markyLEpirate 8y ago
Never will I live with a female lol
Bung_Eye 8y ago
Wow, It's the exact same thing with my friend. He pays all the gas, water and electricity and she STILL barely does shit around the house.
When a women gets something from you, it becomes an expectation now, not a privileged.
Redasshole 8y ago
Ever noticed how women ever say thank you anymore or how, when they say it, they don't mean it. It's normal to them, everybody is expected to do them favours. In fact, they ressent men for "having to say thank you".
That illustrates well their mentality.
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markyLEpirate 8y ago
It is if you let it get like that. If by some reason I live with a female again I will set the rules before she steps foot in or she can stay wherever she is living
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SkorchZang 8y ago
That's exactly what it is. Sometimes it's a simple switch. Sometimes, bait and switch...
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There's nothing more fattening than a wedding cake.
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cleverley1986 8y ago
last 8 years i have been in LTR's with various women. I always play superhero...
One girl had a fallout with her parents and moved in. One girl lost her job and moved in. One girl had come to the end of her tenancy and couldnt afford a place by herself and moved in. One girl left her boyfriend and said "why pay rent for two places if I am here all the time?" and mother fucking moved in.
Do NOT allow this. Fuck 50% rent. Fuck deciding to choose the shit she likes in IKEA. Fuck "feature" walls.
and FUCK (right in the ass) any idea of you having a mancave or some special place in the house that is yours (usually the garage or shed out back) leaving her to have the whole house.
Redasshole 8y ago
This idea that a man has to consider a cave his home is disgusting.
Like we are afraid of a woman's capacity to punish us with - oh my God! - no sex if we don't abide by her mighty ruling.
markyLEpirate 8y ago
Right?? If it's your house you should be free to do whatever the fuck you want wherever you want
tuzki 8y ago
This right here. The whole house is mine, I pay for it. not some tiny shithole room.
vengefully_yours 8y ago
I own this shit, I will not be relegated to a tiny space amidst her shit. I'm purposely building a small home, so no bitch can move in. None of her shit will fit in here with mine. You gotta go home now, get the fuck out.
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vengefully_yours 8y ago
My utilities are going to be dirt cheap, I have a unique heating system that uses water as the conveyor and metabolism as the energy source. I'm staying on the electrical grid for now, but plans are solar, wind, methane and ethanol powered generators, with a switch for grid power.
My shop however, is large. And I will build another one in a couple years. Don't need as much space to live as I do to play.
Fedora_Tipper_ 8y ago
As someone in green energy design, in curious to where your home will be located.
vengefully_yours 8y ago
Northern Michigan, far northern. We get lots of snow.
Di-onysos 8y ago
The golden rule of relationships is "the one who's the least invested has the most power".
Your greatest power and leverage is your ability to walk away and make a clean break of the relationship at any moment, any time.
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While I agree with that I gotta say that if you do hit the jackpot, you should go all-out, it doesn't really matter how she reacts as you will still be able to simply walk away and if she wasn't the right one you can at least look in the mirror and tell yourself that you gave it your best instead of regretting for the rest of your life. Wouldn't you agree?
awalt_cupcake 8y ago
My ex would tell me this and get upset about it
musclebound92 8y ago
A guy told me one time "Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."
omar_coming_yo_ 8y ago
I logged into my account just to thumbs this up.... good work..... also..... heat is one of the best films ever made. .. cheers
musclebound92 8y ago
Agreed. It is a movie that, in ways, really exemplifies TRP.
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musclebound92 8y ago
If thats an honest question then that is ridiculous and I can't even answer that.
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6030747 8y ago
So how would you apply this to an actual relationship?
Considering the fact that its the man who has to do the approaching, the its up to the woman to either allow or deny him access to sex; how would you suggest that men hold the power in the relationship?
Doesn't approaching a woman with an intention to date her put you at her mercy?
skoobled 8y ago
It's not a relationship at that point, just a mating dance. After that the negotiations for a relationship may begin. Since relationships tend to benefit the woman more, she should be demonstrating what she has to offer you
Di-onysos 8y ago
Not really, depends on the context. Approach nervously, outcome dependant, and you're giving her the power. Approach casually, relaxed, outcome independent, and it's a different story. If she says no, then so what? It's her loss and you move on to the next one. Communicate that with your attitude and she has no leverage.
6030747 8y ago
I'm assuming outcome independent means not caring about the woman rejecting your advances, right?
How do you become this kind of a man? When you're attracted to a woman, how is it even possible for you to not care when she turns you down.
Di-onysos 8y ago
Practice, experience, having truly high value. If you are used to success with attractive women, one rejection doesn't even register. You might have to fake it before you make it. And also in regards to that, I know that many people preach "approach approach approach, it's a numbers game, etc." IMO if you get rejected constantly, you're a salesman trying to sell a shitty product, and at that point you should monk mode and lift to make your product competitive.
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Most of my relationships started with the woman being the chaser.. Sure I would flirt, but they usually made the first sexual move
6030747 8y ago
Maybe you're a handsome alpha, but not everyone is. What about average guys whom women don't chase?
[deleted] 8y ago
I'm just average, average height, average build. It's mostly personality in a social setting
daygamer69 8y ago
No need to read TRP every day... I'm addicted to this shit (visit the sub 5 times a day (not exaggerating)), and it's getting worthless. But the theory reading on the sidebar is fucking holy, everyone here should be re-reading that once every 6 months.
_the_shape_ 8y ago
Exactly.
It's pretty much as simple as finding your purpose in life and devoting as much energy and attention to that as possible. If you want to become a producer, for instance, you should have beats and compositions bouncing around in your head at all times, not whether or not you should text this girl back in 15 min or 23 min or an hour, whether or not you should hit the gym harder because bigger muscles = more chicks, or whether you ought to amp up the level of dread in your LTR because you sense that you might be losing her. FUCK ALL OF THAT. Figure out what you want out of life and eat, breathe, and live that shit, non-stop.
Squeezymypenisy 8y ago
Or download the books. Some of the stuff on here is getting weird.
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Those are kind of hilarious, in an absurd, bizarre way.
bluedrygrass 8y ago
If i understand what you're saying, you're mentioning things that are part of the broadest sense of the red pill, the dark enlightment, which comprehend all the aspects of society, and not only women.
If you're not interested in the world you're gonna live in, then move one, ignore those threads, your loss.
But don't pretend everyone to be here only for "how to fuck".
Otherwise you're only another PUA.
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bluedrygrass 8y ago
Political views aren't retarded only because they conflict with your lefty vision of the world.
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vengefully_yours 8y ago
Yeah no shit. The mentality that it won't happen to them, they're too alpha to have a bitch cheat on them so real alphas get married and don't get divorced, is bullshit. Every bitch will cheat if given the opportunity and plausible deniability, and it doesn't even have to be Chad fucking her, it can be Matt the omega that kisses her ass just the right way and she will fuck him. She jumps to him and discovers within months that he is a waste of skin and oxygen. She fucked up the best thing for her with this loser, so now it's her ex's fault. Our she gets pumped and dumped, but so blames you and gets can and prizes.
It can happen to you, no matter how alpha you think you are. Fucking kids thinking they're different.
redpillschool Admin 8y ago
There is no "real alpha" and anybody claiming otherwise should be reported to the mods. We delete that on sight.
I think what is more likely is that you see people who are willing to take the risk, and it makes you question your perspective. Remember, everybody here is entitled to their own perspective. Doesn't mean there's an invasion, that's utter nonsense.
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redpillschool Admin 8y ago
If you see something you don't like, report it. Shit doesn't clean itself.
The fact is, I've been here since day one and the conversation has actually done a remarkable job of staying on topic. We've always had blue pill trolls come in and try to sway people. This isn't new.
redpillschool Admin 8y ago
Guys need a place to speak openly about their views. Guys feel disenfranchised by the system, why wouldn't they want to vent that?
Don't like it? Skip those posts. Nobody forces you to read everything. Bitching about it certainly doesn't bring up the quality of the content.
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redpillschool Admin 8y ago
Society and culture are 100% related to sexual strategy. You either deal with it or don't. Now stop concern trolling.
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redpillschool Admin 8y ago
Discussing it doesn't mean you have to agree, and it certainly doesn't imply that it's off topic because you don't agree.
And you are concern trolling. And I do get to accuse people of concern trolling when they decide they know better than me what's on topic and what's not. That's my job, not yours.
bluedrygrass 8y ago
Then you don't belong here, but to /r/seduction or /r/pua.
Red Pill IS NOT about fucking females.
Fucking females is only an (optional) part. Red pill is about bettering yourself, taking care of yourself, reclaim your inner value, and discover why and how society is trying to fuck you up in a hundred different ways.
Red pill is all this and more. The subs you linked have nothing related to red pill. /r/Darkenlightment would have been a more correct choice, but again, it's clear you're here only to fuck something that moves and text your scores to your friends.
So stop bitching about useful things only because you aren't interested in them.
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panzergling 8y ago
Was just thinking this. I don't frequent often at all, just what pops up in my feed. The fact that this post is around the 3rd page of my reddit either says the stupidest bullshit somehow rates popular, or that I need to subscribe to better subs.
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I hear so many people, mainly women say that social media is the #1 killer of relationships. Anytime she's pissed at you, there's a whole plethora of chads waiting for her holes at the stroke of a keyboard. Not even 20 years ago, the only way to communicate was face to face, over the telephone (mainly landline), and snail mail. Instant messenger and email was a fairly new thing.
Although I know a few women who don't do social media, post butt selfies, or anything typical of the modern e-slut and it doesn't keep them from slutting around. All you can really do is make sure you learn to spot red flags and icebergs (chads), keep improving yourself looks and career-wise, and make sure you pick a girl from a good family whose parents are good respectable people.. Even then it's still a gamble.
Looking for a solution to relationships in the modern world is like asking how to become a billionaire. There's really no established path other than mastery of your skill/craft, luck, timing, patience, knowing the right people, etc..
Ephidemical 8y ago
"I don't chase 'em, I replace 'em." - Notorious BIG
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What does "initialize operation dread game if she is out of line" and SMV mean?
itsallsympolic 8y ago
You can find that information by searching or in the sidebar, nobody is going to waste their time giving you adequate info on the basics.
DaBaulz 8y ago
Good advice on how to date, but one line I take issue with -
If you seek a relationship with a woman, mentally prepare that the relationship will last only for a short period of time, 3, 6, or 9 months, maybe 5 years if you get lucky, then she’ll get bored
Untrue. Women don't get bored of the alpha man in their life, they get bored of the betas in their life. If you know how to run a relationship, if you know how to be the man she will never get bored of you. If you said that many men will eventually fail enough tests, or a better alpha will one day come around, or sooner or later they will become the beta, I could agree. But there are strong men who keep their frame, and who keep their relationships well lubricated and whose women never stop getting the tingles. The question is, can that be you?
tropicalpolevaulting 8y ago
Do you really think you can out-run the hamster... for the rest of your life?
We talk about alpha and beta all day here but no one is 'alpha' 100% of the time, and if your woman is beside you nonstop one day she'll see you break. What, you never cry/feel depressed or defeated/have a really shit day that fucks deep with you? That one chink in your armor and she'll latch on to it like a mother fucker!
And even if she doesn't, women will do women things - she'll bitch and moan and shit test you, and that crap doesn't stop however alpha you might be. It will be less frequent but it won't fucking stop! Can you really take that for the rest of your life?
For me it's gonna be a string of medium term relationships (3-12 months) and when the hamsters bust out of the cage I'm ending it.
DaBaulz 8y ago
Your 100% right, you can't be alpha all the time. People will have weak spots in their life and as we age that likelyhood is inevitable.
But I would say this conclusion, is a problem for both of our strategies:
For your strategy, there may come a time, when you are down on your luck, and down on your health, and you lose the ability to be alpha, your plates who you have never kept around often, may just stop calling at that time. And you may find it very hard to have any companionship if you have pushed them all away during that time.
For me, your assessment could be true, and is true in a lot of instances. But there are other examples as well. But right now, my mother is pushing my dad in a wheel chair on a trip he wanted to go. Why isn't she leaving? Womens lib? Or perhaps my dad was an alpha his whole life, he has established the relationship, he has established servitude and loyalty, and the order of things in their relationship, and she believes it because of the way he nurtured the relationship. Maybe part of the problem we face as red pillers is acknowledging that many LTRs devolve into blue pill fantasies, with men that begin to exhibit have beta behaviours. They ditch their friends, they go out less, they show that they would be heart broken without the woman. This is extremely common and is the NORM for LTR's.
To be honest, I have several relationships. But in my main, 9 year relationship. I rarely get shit tests. I do however get plenty of shit tests in my short term relationships. I think that in the first couple years it is natural for a woman to challenge your dominance, or your frame. But if you maintain that frame, solidly eventually they quiet down.
bluedrygrass 8y ago
A lot of posts here have confirmed the opposite is true: you can be the alphaest possible, and still come home early and find your bitch getting fucked by some loser.
Yes, losers. No lifers. Betas. They're novelty, fresh air for the mind.
I remember a thread of a guy here that found her plate in bed with a guy obviously lower than him in the smv scale, and bursting out laughing seeing how even his dick was smaller.
theorically, it shouldn't have happened.
Doesn't matter, bitches gonna bitch. Women are always bored by things, always.
DaBaulz 8y ago
I never said that all relationships with alpha men will always last. Of course there are examples that don't. The op said that after 5 years the girl will always get bored. That is untrue, and if it's happeing to you I'd suggest that there is something wrong with your lifestyle and e way you treat women that makes you boring after the initial lust wears off. I still have a neighbor fuckbuddy from high school, that's more then a decade. I have a committed relationship over 9 in which I am the king of the house and she is the happy servant. Will it last forever? I didn't say that, but it certainly is over 5.
You will find many men who commit and give everything of themselves away so that when/if the women cheats he is ruined. He sacrificed his friends for her (beta move), he put her dreams over his (beta move), he didn't control finances so she takes his stuff when she leaves (beta move).
The alpha enjoys what he has today, and if the woman does not provide him respect he boots her out the door. My neighbor fuckbuddy could stop being available tomorrow, she could bang my best friend, that's ok because I will not cede my frame to her and when she leaves, my head will be up high because I am always planning for that eventuality. I do not need her and that is what gives her the tingles and that's why alphas have abundance.
An ltr can cheat on you, That is certainly possible. That can happen to anyone. Alpha doesn't mean that your invulnerable, it just means that you have strength in the relationship, that follows your lead. If the time comes that the woman does that. You have two other women on Standby. Most of the posts you see here are from people who were alphas when they picked up their girl and turned into betas along the way with bad habits. In your example the guy laughed, and kicked the girl out, no loss. You should always be able to walk away from a relationship, and continue to stand tall, this applied for a 1 month relationship and it applied for 10 year relationships equally.
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Sticking around for too long is beta.
DaBaulz 8y ago
beta is the guy who doesnt get what he wants when he wants it. Beta is the person who works and doesnt get the reward he was dreaming of. Beta is the guy who buys flowers for the girl who wants to be with Chad. Beta is the guy who lowers his standards, or works to impress women.
Chad makes his own decisions, based on what is good for him. Chad tells them when he wants them, how he wants them to act. Actually Chad doesn't even have to tell them because they are constantly thinking of Chad, how can I impress him, how can I make him happy? See when your chad, your happiness gives them the tingles, when their happiness comes at your expense. Chad certainly doesn't care if /u/moodyprism thinks he shouldn't "stick around".
novaksnow 8y ago
NOT THIS.
You cant win all the time. Is actually a beta thing to have the idea you win all the time you work for it (outcome dependance)
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MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
Is it you? What's your personal experience of this? Mine is that 5 years is unrealistic and three is more likely.
Squeezymypenisy 8y ago
Be extremely rare with your time and any show of affection.
DaBaulz 8y ago
Well it all depends on the relationship.
I currently have one relationship going on the 9th year. I get home cooked meals, how i want it, cooked the exact way I described. I get understanding when I go out with my friends, and jealous clothes ripped off sex when I get back, I get morning bjs. My phone is always locked, and her phone is always unlocked, those are the rules, and I am the one who gets to make the rules. There are women who LOVE this type of relationship, They want to be the house servant for their alpha, they will be this person indefinitely. I dare say most women love this type of relationship. You just have to know how to give it to them.
I've also had relationships that after the two year honeymoon period the woman kept challenging, became distant, and resented me for everything nice i did. I hade MANY MORE of these types of implosions, but of course this is because I was blue pill and acting like a beta.
3 years is a good number, because at 3 the relationship definitely changes (more like 2). The initial lust is totally gone at 3 years, the new relationship energy is dead. It is up to the man to maintain his value, the vision that the woman needs to be a part of, and for him to keep the relationship structure so that she is always worried she will lsoe him. I just now finished a short exchange with a fwb (4 years on) that was complaining that I don't talk to her as much as she would like. She wants more, thats the whole point. You can keep this up indefinitely if you know how and want to.
vengefully_yours 8y ago
I had that for 9 years, just 7 months short of ten years together. Great sex right up to when she cheated. She stayed thin and would suck my cock on demand. I fucked her from 21 to 30, popped her cherry when I was 34 so I got her best years. Punted her out when I was 43 and have been fucking much hotter and kinkier bitches ever since. Three ways with 20 somethings is fun.
No LTR for me, ever again.
SkorchZang 8y ago
The 2-3 year schedule is spot on. You see it happening time and time again.
If you were to lecture on how you currently manage your bitches, what would be among the personal biggest lessons learned?
DaBaulz 8y ago
You always need to be ready to leave, she needs to know in her heart that if she left you tomorrow, you would be partying with your friends and a few women this weekend. This works together with her always being more invested in the relationship then you.
One of the biggest lessons ive learned, is the value of MALE friends. I have 6 best friends. We are a group of alphas in many ways. We go on trips together (guys only sometimes), we see eachother regularly, we call eachother for support. In my experience this is rare at 35+, many guys lose their best friends because of work and women, some guys never make them, some group dynamics don't allow each man to be an alpha. Good male friends work like preselection does with women. Women see that your friends respect you, see that you lead, they see the interactions and it raises your value. Plus, your friends are always there, competing for your attention. "Sorry babe, can't do the movie tonitie, Nick wants to go see the concert".
waylandertheslayer 8y ago
To sum up the post in a single sentence: She's not yours, it's just your turn.
epistemic_humility 8y ago
Damn, hitting all the nails on the head. That's a poignant piece of red pill ideology right there, perfect.
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musclebound92 8y ago
You should never stick your dick in a crazy woman, ever. Because they have absolute power in the modern day world, it is her word against yours and your word doesn't mean shit compared to hers in the end.
omar_coming_yo_ 8y ago
'Don't fuck crazy '
~ Jesus
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vengefully_yours 8y ago
I'm extremely tired of it being justified to think that way. If you don't live in the states, have no false accusations against you, or have never been destroyed in a divorce, then sure, it looks like paranoia.
From this side of being fucked over, it looks like protecting yourself from legalized extortion.
musclebound92 8y ago
Then you have not experienced the real world yet my friend. Pray and hope that you never do, I hope you never do man. But you probably will, and on that day you will understand that "paranoia."
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-uftw- 8y ago
Good post. Seems like you're in my head. That's the kind of shit that I'd like to see more of on TRP.
MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
Totally agree. Also, be very wary of exclusivity - it's more of a cost for you than for her, and getting back on the dating bandwagon is hard for you and easy for her.
The better ones are fairly easy to support and just need to be heard. DO NOT TRY TO SOLVE HER PROBLEMS. If they just bitch and look into space and drift off when you're talking, mentally demote them to fwb at the most.
bluedrygrass 8y ago
The problems arises when you see that behavious in your close familiars. Then conversation becomes impossible, because you don't care what they say since they don't care what you say. But you can't really ditch your familiars.
CD_Johanna 8y ago
Is there a dread game primer you can refer me too?
MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
There might be one as part of the sidebar, if not:
Nothing she can actually complain about, certainly no overt threats. It's very subtle, but it's all the things you'd do if you were about to improve yourself and branch swing. As a side effect, it helps you improve yourself and branch swing.
It can take 1-4 weeks, but it is usually effective.
I've only done this stuff at the dead end of a relationship I was already 75% escaped from, but the hamster overdrive was hilarious. Best moment: "why are you doing all this stuff now???" / "It's all about motivation" => hamster fucking explosion, as intended, because I subcommunicated "I care more about everything else than you".
Overt communication with women is generally ineffective because they don't believe men and try to beat down the general argument. Sub-communication can be deadly because they fucking believe all of it, even when it doesn't mean anything.
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RPmatrix 8y ago
lol great synopsis bro!
RP Lite!
Good info And it's an easy read, which is what I think you intended, sweet!
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I've taken an alternative stance. I view women as my personal entertainers. You might think that sounds familiar because that's exactly how women view men. Women are my personal entertainment and you would be amazed how Machiavellian a critical mind can become to rival and even surpass the uncritical innate female Machiavellianism.
bluedrygrass 8y ago
After all, you can't play fair against a cheater.
mrmeyhemn 8y ago
Step 1: Don't, pump and dump.