I've asked myself the same thing. "What would she do if I was dying"? A perk about me always being ill due to stress is that I get to see how the person I'm with at the time reacts. Some cheat on me for being weak and hospitalized, others do nothing to support me and do quite the opposite. AWALT. Good read.

At the risk of sounding like an ass, her reaction to his cancer is not uncommon. It sucks, it's horrible and she dealt with it in the worse way possible, but a loved one with cancer is a very, very hard situation to deal with. My ex has had to deal with recurrent cancer for sometime now. Her last surgery was too much of an emotional blow to our relationship as she couldn't handle the fact that her body kept destroying itself time and again. I stayed in the relationship longer than most would, got us counseling, supported her through her surgeries but in the end, I had to leave to because it can be a lot to handle. This woman may have left because of a loss of utility or she may not have been able to handle the emotional toll.

Thanks. You absolutely broke me inside.

LOVE= man>woman>children>puppies and dog>man

If this happened to me I would find the bitch myself and give her some justice treatment that would inspire poetry.

But if you don't marry you will die alone.

Lol what a crock. Assuming you are one of the 20 percent (whatever it will be in 50 years) that doesn't divorce your woman will be stuck in an alzheimers home while you slowly die at home or vice versa.

This comment is better than 95% of the sub posts.

Ok but on the other foot my mum sat at my dads bed side for months and months while he was dying of cancer. So there's that too.

That sucks. For every guy like that there's a poor woman like him with cancer getting screwed over by an asshole dude who's cheating. Assholes aren't gendered. Remember John Kerry's running mate John Edwards, he got a woman pregnant while his wife had cancer. People can be pricks. It's about luck, vetting, and then you have to sometimes trust. There's no way around it.

I truly hope that bitch will get the worst karma out there. I would fucking laugh if she would get anal raped and tortured to death. Fuck her, WHORES like that make my blood boil. I feel sorry for your friend, may he rest in peace. Poor guy.

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This is a good story. Of course I won't judge a sick dying man, ever. But this comment got me so blue pilled up, I might menstruate, binge eat chocolate and cry for a day because of it. Better hit the gym & lift, don't you think?

Completely fucked up, but unfortunately when I read this it meshes with other stories I've read.

I'm glad you put in the "I don't want to hear he is blue pill loser". Absolutely.people on this sub are busy being beta jumping through hoops to act all alpha to retain their girls attentions.its pathetic as fuck. Women give fuck all in return for all our love and investment

This is one of the most beautiful posts I have read on Reddit. Thanks for sharing.

They will leave me to die alone, no matter what I've done or how much I love them, when I serve no more use to them

This is one of the deepest, darkest truths about human relationships I've ever read.

This is worthy of a main post.

Awesome comment man. I have to add, that men's relationships between each other are based on very different things than men's and women's sexual relationships. Things like honour, respect, "till the end" attitude tend to be present in male relationships but absent in male and female relationships. So, of course, your relationship with your brother was very different than his with his girlfriend.

I think this is down to genetic survival. Basically, a young woman needs to be with someone that can reproduce, for the good of the species. As a young man needs to be with a young woman. It works both ways. I have heard stories of a similar situation as yours but reversed genders. The young man left the young woman.

It's important to always remember the cold hard truths underlying the emotions. Relationships are based on utility - for each other firstly, and for the species secondly - and feelings are just genetic adaptions to make sexual relationships work. I think women just get turned off towards men who will die if they are in their prime. It's not personal, it's necessary.

That was depressing as shit.

FWIW, this is one of the most well written posts Ive ever seen here.

I really enjoyed reading this story. Very deep and impactful on your life I'm sure. Allow me to impart some wisdom that I learned from a mentor of mine.

Her behavior is not unique. Her behavior is not surprising. If you get really sick with cancer or other severe illnesses, your girl will leave you. Why? Simple. She is with you because you have value to her. Social, financial, physical, emotional, whatever it is. That's why she is with you. She is benefiting from being with you. Once you're in the hospital with cancer, the tables turn. Now she is the 1 with value and you need her help and at the very least, emotional support. She has now not only lost her source of value (you), but also is being forced to become a source of value. Of course she is going to leave you!

It's nothing personal. It's just nature. Be aware of this. But don't let it dissuade you from pursuing women. Just understand what will happen if you lose your job or become severely ill.

Yeah, I'd heard somewhere that when Humphrey Bogart was dying, his wife, Lauren Bacall, was out fucking Frank Sinatra.

That's real man. Your brother sounded like a good dude, may he rest in peace.

Can't emphasise the importance of finding the good people among the hordes of shitty ones. There's a lot of shitty people out there, particularly at college age. From then on, people either mature and turn into good people or else they learn how to hide it better. The cynic in me tells me it's the latter.

Insecurity, jealousy and nastiness are rampant in your late teens, particularly in girls. That's just been my experience.

I'm sorry for your loss. I appreciate that you chose to share this story with others.

I will build on this with a quote from a very controversial writing that may help pass on this perspective to those reading along:

"Reject the parable of 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.'

Do only unto others AS THEY WOULD DO unto you, and no more." - Anton LaVey

This is a reminder to keep the warmth and love alive in our hearts, but to award it only to those who have proven that they deserve it.

"Magnanimity, not carte blanche kindness." (sic) - IllimitableMan

I am certain that many men will benefit from the lessons your big brother passed on.

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Awesome comment man, thanks for posting. And at the risk of sounding trite (I'm sure you've heard this before, but I'll say it again anyway): I'm sorry for your loss (re: your "big brother").

I went through something similar about 10 years ago (although my process wasn't quite as long and drawn out, and I didn't die, obviously, though I came very, very close): I was engaged to a woman at the time, a young Russian girl who, I thought, was "The One" (so you already know where this is going)...

Was friends with her for almost a year before we finally started dating (major red flag right there, little did I know at the time), dated for a couple of months and then she hit me with "I'm going back to Russia to visit my family, if I get stuck there, you'll come and get me, right? You'll MARRY me, and bring me back to the States, right??" "Sure!!" I said, thrilled that my one-itis and I would be tying the knot shortly. Of course the girl got stuck in Moscow, couldn't come back to the States (visa problems), I flew over to marry her, and the authorities actually wouldn't let us do it (despite the fact that I had all the paperwork etc), because, get this, they didn't believe we were a real couple!! (There's another red flag for you, when a total stranger doesn't believe that the girl sitting next to you could possibly be your real girlfriend.) The woman who worked at the marriage license office said "Come back in 2 months, if you still want to get married then, we'll let you do it." "No prob!" I said, "See you in two months!!"

So I get back to the States, start having trouble breathing (I'd already had it for a few months but now it was getting REALLY bad, like I could barely walk), saw a bunch of doctors, nobody knew what was wrong with me, and then finally, one day I physically collapsed just getting out of bed. Rushed to the ER. Turns out: I have the most severe case of blood clotting they've ever seen. Docs can't believe I'm still alive. Can't believe I'm even breathing. They want to do open heart surgery ASAP--like, crack my chest open in the next 5 minutes, and start scraping. A friend pulls me aside and says "I overheard the docs talking, they don't think you're gonna make it. Anything you want to do IN THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, do it now. You have 5 minutes." I told my friend where to find the screenplay I'd just finished (and who to get it to), then I texted my fiancee and said "Call me RIGHT NOW, I'm going into surgery, and I may not come back out. They don't think I'm gonna make it." (She knew about my breathing problems and that I'd been seeing doctors all over New York, so she would have known this was no joke.)

Thankfully, a new doc rushed in a minute later, and recommended they put me on blood thinners for a few hours first, to see if that'd help dissolve the clot. Surgery postponed--for now. I'm wheeled to the intensive care unit, where I sit for 10 FUCKING DAYS. Seriously, people who'd had full-on heart transplants came after I did, and then left before I did, it was that bad. The next day my mother arrives: the hospital, AGAINST MY WISHES, had contacted her, telling her flatly "Your son isn't gonna make it, come get the body as soon as you can." I joked "Yep, still here, I guess they miscalled that one..."

And of course, all this time: NO WORD FROM MY FIANCEE.

Finally, after almost a week in the ICU, I get a call from her. How am I doing?? she asks--like nothing's wrong at all, not a cloud in the sky. "Still alive" I say, "Though barely..." I ask why she didn't call earlier. There's a LOOOONG pause on the phone, and then (get this) she says "Baby, you know how it is... The phones, here in Russia..." (That's an exact, verbatim quote. I'll never forget it. Never.) I say "So let me get this straight: I tell you I'm dying in the hospital, and you're telling me that you couldn't call me because you couldn't find a working phone. IN MOSCOW." I couldn't. Fucking. Believe it. And then, here's the best part:

"You're still coming to marry me in a few weeks, right? We're still on for that, right?" I tell her Alas, no can do, thanks to my life threatening condition, which I'm still recovering from, I won't be flying anywhere for at least a year. Doctor's orders. "Oh" she says. "All right. Fine. Feel better. Bye." And that was it.

So the girl I thought I was in love with, was gonna spend the rest of my life with, etc etc: as soon as I'd exhausted my usefulness to her, I was forgotten in an instant. The fact that I'd almost died? Didn't matter one bit.

Briffault's Law above all else: the relationship continues so long as the woman continues to derive practical benefits from said relationship. WHEN THE WOMAN CAN NO LONGER DERIVE BENEFITS FROM THE RELATIONSHIP, THE RELATIONSHIP CEASES TO EXIST. If you're in the process of dying, all she's thinking is "Right, this guy's done, gotta find a new provider, let's see here..." And the hunt begins anew. (This assuming she doesn't already have backup guy in place, which she almost certainly does).

I like to think of is this way: a woman finding out her man is dying is like a man finding out his job is going to stop paying him soon. If your boss called you in and said "Hey man, we love the work you're doing here, but just to let you know, WE WON'T BE ABLE TO PAY YOU ANYMORE, STARTING 2 MONTHS FROM NOW", you'd start looking for a new job right away, right?

So it is with women and their men. We're just "jobs" to them, practical providers of products and services. Nothing more.

Holy shit. Well worth the read. If I may, allow me to do a short Tl;Dr. Not out of spite or sarcasm just to spur interest in this solid post, seriously.

Tl;Dr: Op had a friend like a brother who was dying of cancer and learned the true nature of women through this when she cheated on OP'S friend 2 weeks into him going to the hospital for treatment... what a sad and provoking story.

I don't mean to interrupt the circlejerk, but what does she really get by staying and putting herself through that? I think she could have been much more gracious, but would any of you do that for a woman? Someone who you literally cannot have a future or even a present with? What would she get by getting more invested in something that will just cause her more heartbreak? Of course the Christian thing is a crappy excuse. I don't see this as some condemnation of women, just of human nature in general.

Psh surprised? All a girl has to dob is log onto any social media and BOOM 300 random (not necessarily in her state) dudes are desperately trying for nudes let alone to actually fuck... Very few females cab be trusted... My boy taught me some wise words... "Every woman but my mother is potentially just a whore... And for some even their mother is a whore"

no one who's swallowed trp would be surprised at all. That's the entire nature of the sexual marketplace. Women are the gatekeepers of sexual contact.

I doubt most people would be surprised.

Dude.....girls literally don't understand why guys learn game because its just that easy for them to get laid. They can't conceive that its actually kind of hard to get chicks to fuck you (if your a scrub).

I'll settle down when I find myself a girl who loves me as much as I love myself.

Gold.

And NEVER forget : the first disqualify : she nexted.

Abundance mentality. She is either a resource or a burden. Next her if not willing to be a resource to you.

I've vowed to myself to never stop growing, to never stagnate again. And honestly, every single day, to maintain my momentum and keep heading towards my goals I have to take immediate, massive action. So I do.

Something just clicked in me. I do the constant growing myself but the best part is I am in a constant state of "congratulations" whenever people interact with me because I've always made some worthwhile accomplishment.

Or just don't settle down. Women are disqualifying machines. The one who you think "loves you as much as you love yourself" is just putting on a show until you fail at the slightest thing and she gets the opportunity to disqualify you.

"I love you" is code word for "I want you to love me, so I can feel 'naughty' when I go fuck someone else" and nothing more.

Do you know what a shit test is? Why women created them? Why would a man need a shit test to test the genes of a women when he does it with his eyes?

TRP in a nutshell: Be the guy she's fucking, NOT the guy that's thinking about her.

The weird thing is whenever I do this it makes me hate them more than anything else. like they're not even worth my time, but idk. Maybe it's something along the lines of "we hate things we can't have"

I think you might be retarded. That's not how any of it works.

lack of information you have about her.

that right there is the most important part. the less info you have on her, the more you yourself hamster in your head "what could be" or "what is". you are creating a false reality for yourself about this person and thus propelling yourself further into the rabbit hole of this false identity you had just assigned her. then, when you find out that she's the complete opposite of what you had made up in your head, you feel "betrayed" and think "how could she do this to me". kek. don't be a hamster.

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Like seriously this saved us SO many nights of lonely blue balls

But you not wanting to think about it is exactly why it works. Depending on how bluepilled you are it will send shivers down your spine and you'll immediately stop wondering about all the stupid relationship shit and going over the things you said to her in your head.

Of course this wont work if the reason you are ruminating over her is directly because she is fucking other guys.

The setting is you're with your bro, and you're annoying him by fawning over some girl so he says "yeah . . . she's probably out getting fucked" and you're like "holy shit fuck yeah" then you snap out of it and focus on your video games or whatever the fuck you were doing haha.