'I just want you to be proud of me.'

I hate to admit it, but I got a feel.

Wish my Dad could've read this.

Because my mom fucked him over in court (pretty much like your wife would've if you didn't know about redpill), and ruined the family. Fast-forward a couple years, and my brother is the product of single-motherhood with a ruined life because of it. Hell, I was lucky enough to decide to live with my dad.

Anyway, I sincerely thank you for writing this. Men who are already married, and in the shit, can use /r/theredpill to help them get out of the danger zone.

Thanks for sharing,still a rookie,so it's helpful to read about the changed interpersonal dynamics when one goes from blue to red.

Must be a shock for any wife/LTR to wake up to a ex-beta, whose newfound poise,strength and leadership "scares" them. As you continue raising your SMV through continual improvement it's almost sounds like you the ultimate dread game. As others have said- well done.

This is awesome. Damage control is way harder than starting over. Well done.

Granted, there's always the possibility she cheated. Or tried to find somebody else but couldn't.

No, even if she couldn't find somebody else, she'd still resent you. Her change in attitude is a response to your changing frame. Congratulations man keep up the good work.

Awesome SKS! It's really funny how Game can turn a roaring bitch into a doting puppy. I hope that everything turns out really well for you and your family. The nice thing about implementing TRP in a marriage is the fact that it makes the decision for you. If the relationship needs to just die already, it does. If the relationship can be saved, it becomes even stronger. You both were in love enough to get married, and I really hope that ya'll can find that again. I'm going to stop writing right here before my sappy inner romantic breaks the door off his holding cell...

Well done. You took control and you are getting what you want.

I would say that recovering a failing LTR is worth it because you have already invested so much into it.

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Shit works...Every damn time.

Congrats man, I just started the process 3 months ago and the early results are very promising.

Just wanted to add to this thread - I work in a department which is mostly female. Big range of ages. But there was just a discussion in the next aisle over that was essentially them talking about "getting back" at their husbands. Including referencing small things mentioned by their husbands up to a week ago. I had to pick my jaw up off the floor after accidentally overhearing that.

Multiply this by tens of millions, and we will remake society into something worthy again. Red Pill Marriage is a return to sanity, and a return of men and women to the roles they were meant to be in.

Well done.

Congratulations on fixing your marriage! I don't really agree with all of TRP, but reading posts like this makes me happy it exists for some people. Confidence, making yourself attractive, challenging your partner, all these things help immensely in making one present in a relationship. People thrive best, I think, when their selfishness is challenged and not allowed to flourish.

Leading by example. Nice one, man. This is what every man should do, and you just made it. Keep it up.

This is amazing. Saving a marriage using RP theory. How can people be so against the practices of this sub? We should show them things like this, it would definitely change their views.

Great report, congratulations on saving your marriage. Would love to read an update in the future. Keep exuding that masculine energy!

In an earlier post, I tried using this technique with every woman I came across... even besides my wife.

It was a failure. Why? Cause I already did this subconsciously. That has always been my success with women. The only thing I had to work on was patience. I have a lot more patience with children than I do with adult women. I still have to work on it.

Well done sir.

Great post. I am a veteran of a 15 year marriage that never got to where you were from the 'close to divorce' perspective but I did let myself get fat and I did settle in to supplicating myself to a job I hated in order to provide for the family and our sex life dropped off a cliff. Then I decided I wanted to look better and feel better, changed my body and my diet and my mind to a more 'doing my own thing' kind of mindset and now everything has changed in our relationship, all for the positive. I'm slim and built and she's running marathons in order to keep in shape, which she has point blank told me she's doing in order to keep my eyes on her. The funny thing is, she's happier than she's been in years. She smiles all the time, greets me enthusiastically every time I come home, constantly talks about how much she's enjoying our life together. It's all for the good.

This is GOLDEN. New RP-ers and Bitter Clingers take note: This man did NOT start treating his wife like an ogre or throwing orders around. He started acting like THE MAN. In return she started acting like THE WOMAN. I think this is why this forum is such a threat that it has to be mischaracterized as using a pump-and-dump strategy with your wife. TRP is not that. TRP says the man should be the man- and that is the REAL threat they are wailing about.

I always say Lose your Frame; Lose the tingles.

A corollary is: Get your frame back; get them tingles back.

TRP is not all about being dominant and in control Don't be afraid to be nice to your wife when she is behaving. Unasked for blowjobs and initiating sex is worth a reward. Cuddle, be sweet, pay attention to her, and listen to her prattle on about her dreams for a few minutes. Let her see a glimpse of your inner goo that only SHE can bring out of her Alpha bad boy- before resuming treating her with overwhelming indifference and Outcome Independence.

The dichotomy being that typically women are infantilizing of themselves or each other yet demand a mature respect despite being so. We are all best when we are doing what we are meant to, and it is the role of the woman in a heterosexual relationship to be the submissive. I've never dated a woman that made any allusions to the contrary, for them it was freeing and enjoyable to be treated as such rather than having to attempt and fail to live up to a social standard they could not mentally or emotionally handle. They wanted a man, not a girlfriend in a man's body, or a confidant to be the absorbent emotional tampon to be used up and discarded. It's really all in the hard wiring, and it sounds like you're really on track with your marriage.

Big applause to you for improving your marriage through insight, RP wisdom, finally just being who you are without apology. It takes tremendous effort to save a dying marriage, and it sounds like you're on course to beat the odds. Good luck to you, man.

"If she got louder, I'd get smoother. As a result, her tantrums got shorter and shorter."

In your shoes right now and this is working really well for me. I used to be willing to throw down and dial it up as much as she does. Since I adopted my "Zen master" frame when she gets wound up it ends faster with less drama and the outbursts have tapered off dramatically.

Another example of game\frame being critical to LTR.

Good post, thanks.

A lot of men blame women for how they act now . In reality men are the stronger more rational sex and women are simply getting away with what they are allowed to.

Good for you man. That's an amazing reversal.

Isn't it sad that you have to do all the work? It's great that you are able to learn TRP and exercise your will to maintain frame, but I just feel like you are doing all the work of maintaining your marriage. She isn't even helping, she is just basking in the feels of being around a guy that now knows how to maintain an Alpha frame. Has this changed your perception of your wife? Do you love her less now that you understand her?

She even used to talk about how she wanted to fuck me over with child support and alimony.

This isn't a good person. This isn't someone of high moral fiber. She may be nice when you are maintaining frame but this isn't loyalty or love, this is someone that possesses latent capability to relationship-rape you with little conscience.

Q: Has this episode changed your view of your marriage aside from the nuts and bolts of doing your job as man of the house?

Man, this reminds me how I was super RP (without even knowing this sub yet) when I met my last LTR, and how I got comfy with her and became more beta, then shit got fucked up, and after we broke up I went all RP again and now she sweats my nuts and regrets her decisions.

thanks man, opened my eyes, simple truths are the more powerful

Your post brought a broad smile to my face. Congratulation, brother.

But for the time being at least, RP has made my marriage better than it ever was.

Plus, you get the ego boost of having maintained your dignity. Congrats.

Impressive. Maybe I should show this to my father, haha

Cool man, thank you for sharing, glad to hear that RP is helping you.

One question: do you consider your wife attractive?

Because I, being in a bit similar situation, I am filling divorce papers now. My wife's fat and does not want to do anything about it, she's also pretty confident, so I guess she has some boyfriend I am not aware of. Or, she's a good player :-)

Congrats man. Have your kids picked up on the change of dynamics?

Posts like this gives a married brother some hope...thanks for that!

Well done. The community is proud of you. I subscribe to /r/deadbedrooms just to compare these two subreddits. I'm going to x-post your post to there to open up some eyes to the truth.