Tl;Dr: Life is about taking action. Losers are passive whiners. This is a step-by-step guide of how to stop being a loser. Set goals, mini goals/tasks, and have a weekly, even daily schedule to reach them.
Body: At 24, I was on the brink of dropping out altogether. I didn't know what to do with my life. Everyday seemed mundane as I did the same thing over and over again. All I knew was I hated my situation and was in despair. I was a loser.. In 4 short years, I've done a total 180 and managed to turn my life around. Today, I'm banging hotties, have a rock solid career, people look up and respect me. I'm on path to achieving great success and living a great, balanced life. So how did I do it in 4 short years? From zero to hero.
Here's the blueprint for all you 'losers' in TRP looking for some guidance:
This is a top down approach. You start at the top by making end goals. Think large, big and far.
- I want to be ripped with a bodybuilders body.
- I want to be a multi-millionaire who drives luxury cars, have a harem full of women, & be able travel to exotic locations
- I want to master a musical instrument and be able to perform on stage live infront of thousands of audiences.
It's important to write down your end goals. The idea is to motivate and remind yourself everyday because life isn't easy if you want to make it BIG.
Ok, now, you aren't going to reach those end goals anytime soon. It will take many years to reach the destination. So you have to set mini goals along the way. You've play CoD? Think of mini goals like you have to unlock items and level up first.
Here are examples of mini goals:
Body Building: I will gain core strength by doing Planks, sit-ups, & crunches.
Education: I will finish my homework and thoroughly understand the chapter/subject so I can ace those tedious exams.
Career: I will acquire more skills so I can become a more valuable worker.
Money: I will become a hustler in life. No job is 'below' me. I will take it on and learn something valuable out of it, maybe even form a business. Multiple businesses.
Health, LTRs,etc.: I will put in more effort to move forward and keep improve myself.
The general idea of mini goals is to constantly be better than you were the day before. It is important to keep moving forward and progressing up the level. Difficulty will soon begin to rise exponentially as you delve deeper. The key is to keep at it and once you've made your goal known, commit to it.
Breaking down further, mini goals have specific tasks.
Create daily schedules. I use google calendar and fill it with time-tables. Time for gym, time for work, time for study, time for practicing guitar. You may break it down further. For gym schedule, I want to do deadlifts, squats, benchpress and pull-ups in 45 minutes. Work - Finish off project budgeting by 12 noon. Study - Complete reading the chapter by 10am.
Daily schedule or time table helps you to keep track of your tasks. Accomplishing those tasks will help you to reach and unlock your mini goals.
Day in, day out for 4 years straight. Don't stop. This is the blueprints on how you turn things around. This is how you accomplish and reach your end goals. From Loser to Winner. One step at a time.
Lessons Learnt: Here are some other things I've figured out along my journey.
It is better to focus on doing ONE thing right than focus on many things and do all of them wrong. Really take your time to understand and become competent before moving onto your next task or goal. Don't overwhelm yourself too much. Really take your time here. You want to gain understanding and competence.
Stay focused on the task at hand. Procrastination is the enemy of productivity. Don't put things off. If you can accomplish it today, do it today. What is the most important thing that needs to be done? You know what it is because it is stuck on your mind 24/7 and you are procrastinating to start it. That is the most important thing to do today. So start doing it. Write down 5 things you need to accomplish today and try your best to meet them. Trust me, when you tick it off your list, you will feel a natural 'high'.
Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. People say alot of things happen by chance.. The truth is, successful people are constantly prepared and can recognize opportunity when it presents itself. Everyday, an opportunity is waiting for you. You just have to be competent and have learnt or studied before. For instance, that hot girl on the train. She's waiting for you to chat her up and flirt with her. Have you practiced any flirting before? So how then do you want to 'get lucky' with her. Practice to become competent and then seize opportunities when it presents itself. 'He got lucky?' - most quoted sentence from lazy, mediocre people. Truth is, luck is second nature for a prepared person.
Time wasting occurs when you have too much spare time. When you begin filling that time with work, self-improvement, exercise, social activities, you will have less and less time in the day.
Effort, determination, perseverance and discipline are all required. You think success is easy? being a loser is easy.. and that's where the majority of people remain. mediocrity breeds contempt. Contempt breeds hatred. Why do people hate on successful go getters? Because it reflects back on them that this was a normal person that set out to accomplish great things and they did it by putting in the hard work and effort. Whilst those mediocre people sat on their couch all day wasting their time.
Time. Time is a luxury all of us cannot afford to squander. I just wasted 20 minutes typing this out for you. I've invested in this piece, I sincerely hope you gained something out of it.
You are not a boy anymore. Soon you will be 26, 27, 28.. 30.. 35.. 40. Life will pass you by. I don't know about you, but that scares the shit out of me enough to make me take action.. I constantly worry whether I have enough time to reach my end goals.
Always be moving forward. Your body, mind and energy can only last for so long. 80 years tops. I don't want you to look back and regret not accomplishing all those things you wanted because you failed to put in the effort to reach them. No excuses.
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AtticusWarhol 8y ago
Don't half ass two things. Whole ass one thing. - Ron Swanson
TheInkerman 8y ago
I've just started using Google Calendar to timetable my day. 1st day of it I got more done in one day than the entire week before. One issue I had was that it doesn't seem to have a built in task manager. You can write down when you need to do something by, but that doesn't really help in the interim.
Anyone have any recommendations? Particularly something that integrates with Google Calender.
NecroticFury 8y ago
Real life will never be like COD. In real life everything you have previously earned can be lost in a short amount of time. You can do your best, better than others, IRL, but receive nothing in return.
There are no guarantees; you can't blame some for giving up altogether in hopes of a life filled with short term gratification.
Free_skier 8y ago
My main problem is thatI work from 8 to 20
fuckin_retard 8y ago
Congratulations on turning things around man, and thanks for summarizing the system you used in that journey. These are some solid principles, while not new or groundbreaking, they're good to be reminded of.
I have an addendum: if there are people getting in the way of your success, get them out of your life. End and/or minimize the time you spend with people "doing nothing". "Hanging out" with your bros on the daily was good and acceptable in high school, maybe even some in college. When you actually want to get out and accomplish something and make your mark, you simply won't have time. It takes 10,000 hours to master something, and every hour that you spend being a fucking loser and chilling on your bros couch, you are throwing time away that could have brought you closer to your goal. I'm not telling you to work all day every day and ignore friends. Just create boundaries and make time for yourself to pursue mastery and self-actualization.
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fuckin_retard 8y ago
First of all, to address your "thesis" clause, NO, I am not advocating raw self servitude.
Secondly, your comment as a whole is completely incoherent.
Ok, and somehow chillin on the couch smoking ganj with your bros and playing XBOX means you're somehow going to leave something behind?
No, to leave something behind you have to sacrifice "fun things" and opt instead to do the "difficult thing".
anyway your comment karma is -50 so you need to work on bringing more quality to your comments.
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Can you completely rephrase what you are trying to say in a way that isnt so poetical and nonsensical? It sounds interesting at first glance but ultimately you beat around the bush and never really say anything at all.
tuxedoburrito 8y ago
I understood what he said. Basically that you need friends and to invest in others otherwise you're acting like a woman succubbus.
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Just because it seems like sense to you, doesnt make it so. If you cannot explain what you mean than you dont mean anything. You say a bunch of nice sounding stuff, but it is just wrong.
I see lots of problems with your thinking.
Removing obstacles is a fine way of dealing with, and overcoming things. Perhaps you meant running from obstacles?
Your worth as a person is how you define your own worth. If you want to live your life constantly attempting to find your worth in the opinions of others you will not end up very fulfilled. Your worth as a person is not in the opinions of other but in your accomplishments and masteries in life.
I guess you dont understand self fulfilling ideologies. You dont say anything about what proper application is, I'm assuming its everything else other than what we might do. After all, you have to maintain some form of personal superiority over everyone else.
At some point in life you are going to have to stop obsessing with the opinions of everyone else. It shows that you are so damn insecure that you cannot even see value in a person unless they are constantly getting some form of attention from everyone else. That the only value in someones life is the attention that everyone else gives them. You sure you dont have a cunt in between your legs?
Just because you think what you said makes sense, does not mean it makes any sense. Your inability to explain what you mean indicates that you mean to take the piss.
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Lt_Muffintoes 8y ago
Move to Venezuela if you love communal cock so much. Or don't, the USSA and Europe are barrelling towards your MUH COLLECTIVE
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Lt_Muffintoes 8y ago
So "sacrifice your interests for those of the collective". Communism.
This is my favourite bit:
PUT UP WITH BULLSHIT OR UR A FLEA
Osoto_Gari 8y ago
Small thing but that 10,000 hours is oft times repeated but it has no merit. Business Insider Article
Personally though, when I was training hard in Kung-Fu I did develop some seriously fast reflexes that gave an angry young man a brown trouser moment when he threw an unprovoked (I was walking past him in the street) punch.
Elesh 8y ago
Even if you disagree with the 10,000 hours theory, practice makes perfect. I've learned this is many areas of my life. Games, academics, fitness, cooking, chores.
The chinese proverb by Confucius that I was told the first day at university by my genius Russian calculus professor:
My intelligence is much higher than my working memory, I've had it tested by a psychologist. The psychologist said that that's better than it being the other way around, and goes against the study your article is referencing. Fuck I even struggle with basic mental math, and don't have my arithmetic tables memorized.
I got an A+ in calc 1 by doing the book and going to the study sessions. Same with my A in calc 2. Nothing overly inate about it.
Great post.
Osoto_Gari 8y ago
I’m sorry I posted that. Sorry in that it contributed zero to RedPill.
I wasn’t trying to say don’t practice, more pointing out that 10k hours originated from a single study about a small (from memory less than 10) group of classical musicians in Western Europe.
Elesh 8y ago
Fair enough. I was a bit bent on making my point before heading to the gym yesterday morning.
I've seen people take the theory too literally also. I love listening to Stefan Molyneux, a YouTube philosopher. He has used it as a backing for his expertise. I still think he's insightful and brilliant, he uses evolutionary psychology in his approch to philosophy, but makes you think what's the truth. Knowledge is social phenomenon. Even scientists can't escape that reality.
BrotherBloodAngel 8y ago
Losers always whine about their best. winners go home and fuck the prom queen. - Sean Connery. (For real...kind of)
tuxedoburrito 8y ago
Quit bragging about how smart you are. It's unbecoming.
Elesh 8y ago
Trust me, I agree but I wanted to give a personal anecdote about practice.
My usual approach is to be humble. Yet I suffer from the same issues others do. Intelligent people are more neurotic because they assume they can out think their mental health problems. There are costs and benefits to IQ.
I'm anxious, have an inferiority complex, lots of people studying engineering are insecure. I've also had concussions and a period of drug use that put me in an odd mental state It's the reason I underwent a psychological assessment.
I have low working memory and throughout me life I've been teased over it. The study in the article attributed aptitude to working memory. If RP is about optimizing the generic hand you were dealt, it could be a useful perspective.
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DRHipsterFaggot 8y ago
Great post, one thing I'll say though is don't worry whether you have enough time to reach your goals. For one, you should always be adjusting your goals slightly as you pursue them and mature and watch your life unfold, etc. So you will never have the satisfaction of feeling done if you are really trying to maximize. Do worry that you are using your time wisely in the present, for that is all that you control.
Braaaaaapp 8y ago
I've been using sunrise calendar to plan out my day and I usually do that the night before hour by hour what am I doing type stuff so then it's just like following an itinerary. I use todoist to write out all the things I need to get done, doesn't mean they need to get done that next day but I need to get it done eventually and I'll plan tasks in todoist on my calendar and just do maybe 1 to 2 things every day so I'm always checking things off my checklist. Last but not least I use an app called productive to build habits, everyday it resets what you need to do; For example, every morning I have it telling me I need to make my bed and clean my room and meditate just because I'm not used to doing these things every morning. That's pretty much it and it definitely keeps me from doing pointless shit like wasting a day playing video games. Also you need breaks in your day too to keep from getting burned out, I use a pomodoro timer that sets work intervals with regular break intervals so if I'm studying for an exam or working on a project I like to use that.
throwaway320_ 8y ago
You're pretty much doing what I am, but with different apps.
I use Google Calendar to block out my time each Sunday for the coming week. And I use HabitRPG for my to-do list and habits that reset every day.
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whitepois0n 8y ago
Amazing apps, thank you for that. You say you also have an app called "Productive". Is their a more specific name to it, I cant find it.
Braaaaaapp 8y ago
Yea man! It's called Productive-Habit & Goal tracker
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Osoto_Gari 8y ago
Thank you - I have just downloaded it
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william_law 8y ago
Quick tip on entering law school: I've heard they deliberately give you more work than you can even finish for several reasons. Essentially they are acclimating you to life in the legal field. There is never enough time for it all. They want to weed out people who can't adapt. In other words, throw perfectionism out the window, get over procrastination pronto, take an "act now" urgency towards your work, and you will still have more than you can handle. But that's ok, that's what they want.
ExiledNihilist 8y ago
Get in there, and make that school your bitch. You got this. Take a day at a time.
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TL;DR, "I'd rather whole-ass one thing than half-ass three."
Congrats on your lifestyle change. I've done something similar but am only at the beginning of my journey. Your post inspired me to keep striving for my goals. I can't see myself quitting this honestly because I never want to go back to being the piece of shit I was before.
Keep moving forward brother.
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AFPJ 8y ago
Relevant throwback encompassing OP's suggestions, yours & more in an easy to follow format
RPL23 8y ago
cannot recommend this book enough. it's a fantastic read and hits on one of the main veins of TRP self improvement: process-dependent, outcome-independent.
laughkisskill 8y ago
This is much better, I think anyway, than the original post.
Progress is less about the goal, and more about making change easy. One tiny step at a time.
For example, never lifted before? Don't simply say tomorrow I lift. Say, "by Friday I'll have done 3 days in the gym" don't stop there, build a system, have the shake ready, grab the muscle milk before hand, the night before "so you've already invested" get a friend you can't let down to go with you. Set up a system to take advantage of your triggers, instead of making an "I should" statement that usually, realistically means, "i know, but I won't"
Listen to Kevin Moser on Ace productivity podcast. I also recommend his learning Spanish in 30 days and his master of memory podcast. Even the episodes are done to fit with his productivity systems, no more than 10 minutes, one exercise for the day.
Go listen to it! Maybe this is helpful, maybe not, but if at least one of you see this and try it, I've done more than I'd hoped.
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Steve_Wiener 8y ago
YESTERDAY YOU SAID TOMORROW.
DON'T LET YOUR DREAMS BE DREAMS!
ALPHAapprentice 8y ago
"How does one devour an elephant? One bite at a time." - Frank Underwood
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rupturedprostate 8y ago
Sure. But in all seriousness he said whale not elephant.
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mr_kat 8y ago
but sometimes, the elephant tastes like shit, and you can't take it down. When you finally manage to choke it down, you puke, and you have to eat that piece of that piece of elephant again.
Also, I was saying this way before Frank Underwood was around.
drummmergeorge 8y ago
No one cares about you. Who are you?
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REDitor100 8y ago
Awesome post. In my opinion, there should be a lot more written on creating a schedule. Hell, that could be a separate post on its own. It's THAT important. My life changed dramatically and everyone around me noticed when I created a schedule and stuck to it. Manage your time and the world is yours.
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jimjackjoe 8y ago
I don't know if this guy is an entrepreneur, a banker, a school teacher, a Walmart employee, a woman posing as a man, a drywall installer, Lance Armstrong, or anything else. But I personally imagine him as a used car salesman in ft. Lauderdale, florida.
CrackityDiggity 8y ago
This is one of the best posts I've seen and embraces what TRP is truly about in my opinion.
SirCockburn 8y ago
As someone new to this subreddit, I can really attest to this guy's advice. Making a daily checklist of things to do that reflect your overall plan to success and crossing things off of said daily check list is very gratifying. I'm a firm believer that once you accomplish small goals, you'll really get the confidence to complete bigger goals.
And keep a physical list of these goals. Don't just keep it in your head. You're bound to forget about it.
StasisNation 8y ago
"Happiness is the by-product of achievement."
People are happy, and unhappy, for that reason alone.
DogInTheBath 8y ago
What a great post. Thank you.
bobsmitharmour 8y ago
this philosophy is so old old. its the same philosophy that motivational speaker, Tony Robins would say on late night television.
eg " have crazy big goals, and then work towards them with tiny daily goals... and then you will became a millionaire, fluent in 5 languages, and a 6 pack...."
I applaud ur enthusiasm to inspire ppl, but from real life experience, humans aren't that simple or easy to motivate with a basic philosophy like that.
I know this will get downvoted, but im just stating what others don't want to say coz fear of scrutiny.
Myrpl 8y ago
Stating "I know I'm gonna get downvoted for this, but..." is a safe way to ensure upvotes.
Regardless, I believe that OP is disclosing what worked for him out of excitement so I'll forgive him for that.
I used to be like that. I used to try and change my negative nansy friends who sulked in sadness, called the world harsh and unfair in order to keep themselves away from doing anything about improving their situation and instead fed themselves with junk food, anime porn and video games. Day after day after day. One of them had a job out of mere luck - his best friend's mom happened to have an office downtown and she made up a position that he can fill, which is essentially data entry.
You know what works in place of writing shit ton of motivational advice? Leading by example. Focus real hard to improve yourself and if... if they happen to turn their heads around one day and look at you, they'll know instantly that you worked hard to build your body, get your women and have an amazing career. If they're still one of those people who need motivational advice to momentarily feel good about themselves before they start diving into excuses, that's not your problem.
And those subreddits and forums that focus around self-improvement and motivation are mostly packed with people who just argue semantics, picking up flaws of reasoning in quotes or methods, personally attacking the speakers or even complain about the font size used. That's not real progress. They waste time criticizing others, movies, video games, like a connoisseur, to feel that sense of intelligence and achievement which is way different than the sense of achievement that you get when you finally play your first song in the guitar, cook your first meal and taste great or sell your first mobile app.
tl;dr is: OP got wordy out of personal excitement to share his feelings and what worked. Don't fucking bother saving anyone who you feel he needs to be saved. Keep doing what you want to do and lead others by example, if that ever happens. But don't pursue it. Let them figure out how to take personal responsibility for their own outcomes and focus on improving your own life.
TheGillos 8y ago
I'm confused why you used some multisyllabic words, then used "ppl", "ur " and "coz". Why?
RemyPrice 8y ago
I'll back you up.
This post was lame. "Have goals and do small things every day towards that goal" could have been the one-line TL;dr. Nothing groundbreaking here, or even particularly red pill. Just basic human time management.
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The harem goal was his shout out to TRP. Pretty lame.
MiguelForte 8y ago
It actually motivated me. I'm surprised. But here's the thing, I'm going to read this everyday, so it becomes part of me. As Zig Ziglar said, motivation is temporary, but so are a showers, and that's why we should shower everyday.
Sepean 8y ago
You'll know if that is true in 4 years.
Chances are you've read something like this before, been equally motivated by it, and still didn't manage to get going.
MiguelForte 8y ago
Well, at least now I've swallowed the red pill. I'm a lot better than I was in the past, but I agree with you, being only temporary motivated happens all the time. Let's see if this time it's any different.
Yedya 8y ago
Feels good to read this knowing I'm already applying such values to my life.
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purplecabbage 8y ago
God I love this post and it's comments. Bring it! Put this on the sidebar, mods.
lonernot 8y ago
I feel you on this brother. I am 25, have a decent paying job, but I live in an area that I am not happy in at all (New Jersey). For months I have been planning on moving out west but there are so many obstacles in my way right now.
PlusGoody 8y ago
West? Like California? Give it a pass unless you have the credentials to get hired by a top-tier tech company or to become a television writer. Insanely expensive, over-taxed, over-regulated. For an ambitious guy it's a sub-par product at a luxury price.
Like Texas or Utah -- that makes more sense.
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If you gave me six hours to chop down an oak then id spend the first four hours sharpening my axe
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You're applying chick logic. Firstly, it would be a Thursday evening when he posted this according to your narrow worldview. Secondly, you are putting weight on useless references like "oh my god he's busy on a friday night hamster other girls??" The mans clearly chasing his dreams, not trying to pick up a college skank on a Thursday night pub night.
RemyPrice 8y ago
... who uses the phrase "I'm bangin' hotties".
workunit13 8y ago
Hah then dont read it you bellend.
Myrpl 8y ago
TIL Reddit has one timezone. It's 3:30 pm where I am. I suppose I don't count as redditor, eh?
ChiefReap 8y ago
Even worse, taking advice from a non patriot
Tastetosis 8y ago
yeap, 9am on friday here just getting into work and redditing while i eat my breakfast
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Tastetosis 8y ago
eh RES said 41minutes ago, am i high?
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So that would be 11pm Thursday PST. What's your point?
Almostunbelievable 8y ago
You're argument is basically, "how many angels dance on the head of a pin." You're disputing the facts of this outline when we can all obviously & clearly see that this is complete & utter bullshit. "Don't be a passive whiner. Put yourself out there! & then you can fuck girls on a boat." It's like this old infomercials that used to air around 3am after the programming that no-one watched went off & there would be some asshole explaining why you suck & if you send him, "easy payments of 19.95" you could be renting expensive cars & wearing expensive sunglasses like he was in the 15 seconds you were watching him advertised.
onetowatch 8y ago
This is a great post, thank you.
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lambeo 8y ago
There's a AMA here around reddit where an anonymous guy claims to be a self made millionaire. He says that he had depression before but eventually he turned his life around and worked his ass off. He also has some "Red Pill" philosophy. I don't know if it's real or not but still its very motivational.
Jax-T 8y ago
I'm on mobile bro, could you send me the link when you're available?
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gdiocarez 8y ago
Wow this is really amazing. I hope it gets to more people. Seems like time is always been dis-regarded when we age. We regret things when we wake up not accomplishing anything. Today's age, most youth would just live wild and free not knowing that Time is a vital part in living.
tuxedoburrito 8y ago
It's the most expensive thing we can give.
We can always make more money, friends, girls, etc. we can never give more time because once the time you have is up. It's up. You'll never get back those hours wagging it, watching Netflix, sleeping in.
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