It's a mouse and cat game. The one that cares less wins.

This should be on cringe, that was terrible to read lmaoooo.

As a homosexual male, I just strategy. It worked like a god damn charm. Pulled a guy, traded pics, he says my dick isn't big enough- which I'm average. I convince him I'm worth it by appeal to sexual senses and, however due to constraint I have to go to him for sex not the other way around. I flip the script and let him know this dick is scarce. End of conversation he's telling me how much he wants me. Fuck TRP is brilliant. Balls are now in my court and I'm gonna have that ass when I want it.

I asked a girl to come to a comedy show with me on a sunday night - she's a college student, and said she couldn't make it.

Should I just next her at this point? The thing is, we run into each other occasionally. Maybe once every other week or something, so I'll have to see her.

Women who are interested in you always just default to unsolicited nude pictures when you ignore them. It's kind of hilarious since guys get shit for unsolicited dick pics.

Nice strategy. Requires abundance mentality to work.

treat em like THEY lost the opportunity and they wonder why you didnt care about her rejection. They sense a man with options, likely he is high value in her mind and now she is likely to be more receptive the next time

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Plate is a plate is a plate.

You never reward Bad behavior in animals or women.

Talking to her/listening to her is a minor reward for saying "no" to the deal... Doesn't work that way...

Good Job with her and creating good metaphor.

OK here's my interpretation of what happened.

Said deal making plate is a cock carousel riding sloot.

Fielding offers from many dudes on Tinder/Social media on a constant basis.

Saw your attempt was intrigued.

Saw other dude's attempt was more intrigued.

Decided to keep your burner lit while she fished other dude.

Other dude flakes by Thursday. You are now her best option.

You seem agreeable, but not desperate. Maintaining frame. She's wants to meet on Thursday and potentially get the D (that's why she texted you on Thursday). Then instead of making the hook up happen that day, you blow her off until Saturday. She's not happy about that so she gives you a non-committal answer trying to do the same push-pull game you are doing.

You're getting severely uninterested in this situation. The original chase game response of "maybe" from the very beginning turned you off to the girl. Already you know games are being played one way or another and that doesn't excite you. That's why you didn't sink the bismark on Thursday. That's why in your mind, at this point, this girl is headed for NEXT-ville.

I'm thinking she stayed in on Friday night, otherwise wouldn't be calling you Sat AM. By then she figured out there really aren't any better options available, has thought about it for a few days now and is going to go for it. She texts and commits to meeting up.

You nope out and blow her off. This is a bombshell to her. "NEXT" weekend honey, which in dating years is an eternity - might as well be never. If she wants you the only way she's getting you is with a hail mary play. Nude pic and "come fuck me stud" is pretty much a guarantee to get your attention and your company.

You ended up knocking the bottom out of it - and I'm guessing she was an enthusiastic little minx which is always very nice.

I only have one critique with your game...

When a chick texts you unsolicited in the push-pull flirtation phase, that's her taking the initiative & her saying "yeah I like you" - the green light is given.

A bitch don't text a man unless she wants the D. As soon as you see the coy little "sup" on your phone light up you know its on. The fish has taken the hook and all you have to do is reel that shit it in. Now I'm not saying go right immediately to "Hey lets meet rn" - that's a bad play - too eager. What you do is you playfully and cryptically let her know that you know and then quickly move the convo to having her express why is she texted you in the first place - which is to get some of your time ("So you texted me right?"). You do so in whatever style of speech that works for you. As soon as that comes out then the banker negotiates whatever equates to ASAP.

Maybe it's just me, but why fuck around for 3 days with a fish on the line? As soon as you recognize the hook is set - pull that shit. Efficiency man.

I am honestly stunned by all the "you didn't do this right" responses.

OP played this game to perfection. Well done, sir.

I dont know dude. She still kept you as an option.

You got to cut through the BS by getting a nude from her, but the thrust of your post is weakened by the fact that she was playing you as much as you were playing her.

every time they say no, they lose an opportunity.

She didnt lose any opportunity. She didnt commit to Friday. She didnt commit to Saturday. When her other options fell through, she tried to cash in her option on you, and you came running. All that it took to manipulate you was a nude pic.

Yes, you got what you wanted in the end, and you didn't waste your time because you kept your options open. But so did she... so... win/win.

Fantastic way of looking of things. I picked up plate number 3 at the weekend so she'll be perfect to experiment on.

You thought you were playing her. But all she had to do was send you a pic and you dropped everything for her.

She'd be thinking to herself "Guys are so easy".

I don't know it just seems like girls who are at least average looking don't have a shortage of other dicks they can hit up if I play a game like this. Almost like they beat me to the abundance mentality play. Especially with the whole changing the times and being flaky thing. It blows up in my face it's actually funny as hell.

Very concise and interest post. Thanks for sharing.

Excellent distillation of how to play it.

Had a Tinder girl try to leave early from my place with no banging (we banged before). She said she was tired.

I told her it wasn't cool as I had other plans I canceled. She thought it was another date with another girl. She fucked me right away. Dread is real. Use it.

Good way of thinking. A lot of the time it seems like letting the conversation fizzle will end things, but in reality the conversation wasn't getting you anywhere anyways

"I dictate when you get the honor of my dick." lol

This is awesome. Taking notes and using this on the next chick.

I'm confused, you said she doesn't get to dictate when you get laid but when she says come over you drop your evening. Seems like she very much dictated when you get laid. I'd actually argue she was in control of this. When all of her better options fell through you were there for the sure thing.

I vibed with this. Thanks for sharing

Awesome FR and an awesome perspective regarding plate management. I'll definitely be using this in the future. I've always treated "maybe" as "no" in order to guard from flakes and over-investment in women, but this mentality turns it into a fun sort of game.

I logged in just to downvote the douchebags telling OP a bunch of negative bullshit.

OP: Well done, my friend.

How attractive are you that you get dates on Tinder? I can't get a reply back in Denver Colorado, one of the fastest growing cities in US with legal weed at every corner and every body partying with 70 degrees weather in November. I'm 5/10 successful career, confident, lift 900lbs+ total maxes (230squat+320deadlift+225bench+135press)

Good strategy though. Don't play their game. A man's game is logical, calculated, not negotiated.

Tinder just ain't my game. I never believe any average looking guy that gets multiple dates a week! Not even a month.

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