Well, when I had a girlfriend she did love bomb me, but she also had other red flags and i was BP at the time. The red flags were obvious like high body count and no father.
But what if you meet a girl who doesn't have red flags but starts love bombing you?
I'm in this situation now. Another poster posted this
"If they can love you quickly, they can hate you quickly. Means they are prone to sudden and intense swings in emotion and perception, and thus not reliable. Healthy love builds slowly through shared experience. Fast, intense love is whimsical and should be treated suspiciously."
I think it's really good and sums it up well. So the question is
1- If a girl is love bombing you is it a big red flag that the women is very unstable? 2 - should you run from girls like this?
The girl i'm seeing jokingly calls me her husband and tells me how much she loves me even though I feel she doesn't even know me
Intrepid_Place53900 4 months ago
Love bombing is often used as an objective for women. The objective is that she's interested in you, she wants you to get interested in keeping her, invested in her.
Once the man is invested, the love bombing typically is reduced, you are in her frame now, she controls the relationship.
Many women do this, but in reality, they don't want to control the relationship, they don't understand this themselves. They want a (strong) man, they want him to be the (leader). Which is why most girls will lose interest in a guy who gets sucked in and treats his girl better than she treats him.
General rule is to give her, 2/3rds of what she gives you. That is if you are interested in her and she's worthy of it.
Love bombing is at the start of a relationship, you don't know much about her. It takes time to learn about a girls worth, her red flags,etc. She's trying to get you invested before you find out about them.
whytehorse2021 4 months ago
It's a red flag because that's what narcissists and borderline personality disorder people do.
MrSupreme 4 months ago
I would take the love bombing for a while and leave before it stops. It is a red flag for longer relationships and for getting emotionally invested,but short term it kinda feels like you're taking advantage of her being so invested in you,Wich is nice
kv2_0833 4 months ago
I wouldn't run from it because personally I enjoy the free attention and stuff they do for you. "Jokingly calls me her husband", haha that's not a joke brother, she's making her intentions clear. Love bombing is a red flag because there's no way they can naturally feel that strongly for you just from knowing you within a short period of time, unless they're messed up in the head. And yeah, they will forget about you just as quickly, it could leave you a bit broken if you fall too deeply.
Vermillion-Rx Moderator 4 months ago
Problem is 90% can't handle it
If you can stay detached enough from love bombers good for you
90% of men can so I'm going to have to disagree that this advice is good for 90% of men
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Vermillion-Rx Moderator 4 months ago
90% of men cannot handle lovebombing without being attached
Diabs 4 months ago
If you can in all honesty take her or leave her then keep going but I think you might already be catching oneitis.
Unless you really think you're so special that you're the first and only guy she has ever been like this with. I know TRP says act like the prize but sometimes you gotta be realistic.
Don't have to run from her just don't get your hopes up is all I'm saying because it might be another guy next month. Biches words don't mean much.
Unholy-grail 4 months ago
Tbh I think I'm being loved bombed after only ~2 months of seeing this girl. She takes me to expensive places, celebrated my birthday and insisted on paying an expensive date. Already has valentine's day lined up. Already says she loves me.
Wait until you catch her texting other men, it'll changed the perspective and you'll actively want to be more detached. Even if it's an orbiter, you can never know without sounding like a jealous control freak.
Im not against investigative work, though, to check your corners and ground yourself. If you can keep it on the DL - verify she's legit about you
Typo-MAGAshiv 4 months ago