Hey guys,
I've really never had a point in my life where I havn't felt like this. I've tried all the tricks in the book, nofap, quit drugs, quit social media, quit drinking, focusing on the gym, picking up hobbies, working on myself etc.
Nothing ever seems like a long term fix.
I have a good job which pays well, lots of investments and my own property. I'm 24, all I do is focus on work and that's the only time I'm happy. In the evenings, I have nothing to do after the gym. I have no friends who want to do anything unless I make all the effort, I don't get invited to much and if I do I end up not wanting to go anyway which makes the problem worse.
I only ever really feel like I'm happy when I'm surrounded by friends who don't care about me or women, which makes me feel like I need them to be happy and in turn, needy.
I have been focusing for the past year on trying to be happy on my own, not needing anyone else, and focusing on hobbies, but after I'm done for the day I'm sat there still depressed, super bored, wanting to get blind drunk or high again.
At what point of working on myself do I eventually find happiness in being alone? Any advice?
Musicgoon425 2y ago
I'm going to give it to you straight. This may sting. If you're bored by yourself it's a good indication that you're boring or clinically depressed.
You shouldn't be bored if you're really pushing yourself or doing what you really want to do. So it sounds like you need to push boundaries.
You want a motorcycle? Get one.. You want a 3some? Find some girls and make it happen.
Go make friends. Talk to people. Socialize my guy.
Spending too much time alone will chew at you.
NewGuard 2y ago
It could be that your natural psychological setpoint is more on the depressive side of things and you could benefit from visiting a psychiatrist. But also, dude, it sounds like you don't actually have any GOOD friends. They're hard to come by, but they make a big difference in life. We can try to be stoic islands, but humans are social creatures. Find some better friends.
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
ever tried a psychiatrist? every person is different and what works for some might not for others. getting help from a professional who was trained to recognize different patterns of thoughts and can diagnose if you have underlying issues should be considered. If they prescribe you some drugs then I'd probably get a second opinion before taking them though
Bullish_Business 2y ago
Counseling is an option but what worked for me was having a clearly defined purpose for my life and working towards that purpose every day. Some SJW fat chick told me I was hitler and that she hated me yesterday because I am not vaccinated. Didn't phase me, nothing really does. Get your purpose defined and be relentless in achieving that. Those labels you give yourself will quickly become irrelevant.