Introduction
Loving someone is akin to giving. You choose to give of yourself, and if not done out of true abundance (without expectation), you will inevitably be disappointed. This is because you are externally dependent and acting without integrity. You love because you choose it, not because it is expected. The same goes for giving. Giving and loving are fairly synonymous, though giving is generally viewed as an expression of love. Since they are intimately related, giving must also be done without expectation of return. It is not true abundance if what is given is not given freely.
There are many posts in TRP that say that men should never share their finances with women, and generally it is good advice. However, that advice is lacking and incomplete.
Women, Men, and Evolved Co-dependency
Women have long been skilled architects in the masterminding of extracting resources from Men. Men evolved to be capable and powerful, and obtaining and retaining resources is our stock in trade. Though, we also evolved a weakness, and that weakness, is Women. Women, smilarly, co-evolved alongside Men to co-opt their productivity in a beautiful display of evolutionary co-dependency. This exhange has formed the cornerstone of our mating habits since time immemorial, and is not to be underestimated.
Women's biology demands the resources of Men. They are uniquely endowed with the ability to dangle their sexuality in front of Men in exchange for resources. This is why they are the gatekeepers of sex. Conversely, Men are uniquely endowed with the ability to generate resources far in excess, and dangle that productivity in front of Women in exchange for sex. This makes Men the gatekeepers of commitment.
Just as Women must be good stewards of their sexuality, we Men must be good stewards of our productivity.
On Time, Money, and Commitment
The one resource we have that will always be in limited supply is our time. Once spent, it is gone forever. This has been stated untold numbers of times, and it will never cease to be true. So a gift of our time, is the most precious thing anyone could ever give anybody. That's why we all should guard our time jealously, and be sparing in how we choose to share it. Because of it's raw value, the temptation to give in silent expectation is even more pronounced, and yet still, the judicious and frugal giving of our time must also be done without expectation.
Our financial status is essentially our time spent and turned into abstract and arbitrary values. This abstraction makes it more difficult for most to see it for what it truly is. A medium of storage and exchange that can be used to purchase the time of others for our own benefit. When given, it is functionally a gift of time, and thusly should be jealously guarded and protected. If our time is so jealously guarded, why would you not treat your finances the same way? Giving of your finances, is as special as giving of your time, and you must be a good steward of your finances in order to be a good steward of your time.
If you are not both, you can never be a true gatekeeper of commitment, and you will always be at the mercy of Women.
Why Women Cheat and Leave
Due to our evolved co-dependency with Women, we must be extra cautious when dealing with Women and our productivity. Since Women are hard-wired for the extraction of productivity from Men, it is folly to grant any Woman unfettered access to your finances. This is functionally equivalent to giving them all of your time. Likewise, functionally unfettered access is equivalent. That is, paying for everything, helping them pay their bills, or financing their lifestyle.
If Women do not need to exchange their sexuality for what amounts to all of your resources, they won't. Worse, you've proven deeply to them that you are a poor steward off your productivity, and thusly, a beta. They'll use your resources (you have given them easily after all), provide you with nothing, and spend their time looking for the next potential alpha. A Man who won't part with his productivity simply because she is a Woman. She'll find him, and then fuck him enthusiastically while you're left wondering what you did wrong.
When It Is Appropriate to Give
As good stewards of our time, it is critical to understand when it is appropriate to give or part with our productivity. We do not "give" our productivity to anyone, unless we are truly giving it, and not expecting it to be returned. It rarely, if ever, will. However, this should be differentiated from parting with our productivity in exchange for something we need or want. Gaming women is like negotiating with a car dealership. We part with our time in exchange for what we want, sex. It is essential that we be good stewards and negotiate as powerfully as possible, otherwise we are taken advantage of, by the car salesman, or the cute HB9 hard-wired to take everything you give without remorse.
So when is it appropriate?
The answer is almost never.
As a good stewards of your productivity, a gift of your productivity is in direct contravention of your duties as a Man. However, if you have a desire to do so, you must thoroughly and carefully evaluate the totality of the circumstances surrounding your choice. Only say yes if you truly mean yes, otherwise, do not do it. In time, you will become a better steward and these decisions will become easier and easier to make.
Conclusion
You have been tasked by nature itself to be the best Man you can be. In order for that to be true, you must live in accordance with your nature, as a gatekeeper of commitment. Be a good steward of your productivity. Take due care in ensuring it is not compromised easily, and exercise due diligence when parting with your productivity for any reason.
WoodleyWarrior85 5y ago
It's all about making good trades.
I am fine picking up a girl in my car and treating her to dinner, provided she's in my frame. If the girl is pleasant/low-maintenance, not demanding commitment, and compatible with me sexually, then I'm happy.
I experience a sense of abundance and want to give to her, within reason.
Just don't take bad deals like a Beta Bucks does when he gives resources to women who don't treat him well.
Especially with plates, it's tempting to over analyze the situation and try to figure out who has the upper hand. To override these thoughts, start with the basics:
If yes, you're doing well. You can treat her with your time or money or resources or whatever else and not worry too much.
red_philosopher 5y ago
This is a benevolent description of an ideal quid pro quo exchange. As always, never let yourself be taken advantage of.
Hyper_Sonik 5y ago
It's this toxic feeling of "I love her" that men fall victim to. Make no mistake brothers, next time you feel yourself contradicting your Independence, know you are surrendering. When you choose to spend that 1 hour with her instead of your routine 1 hour at the gym, you are surrendering your sovereignty.
red_philosopher 5y ago
Loving someone isn't toxic, but making irrational decisions based off of it is.
SKRedPill 5y ago
I think the word love should be replaced with better vocabulary at times - one word for so many different phenomena with different purposes and points of origin is not good. English is the worst case here. Other languages have many words to describe various types of love.
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