How do you define success? The answer given by a 15 year-old and a 50 year-old tend to be very different. For the former, typical answers range between "being rich" to "being famous". The latter would probably listen in disdain, thinking, "those are so shallow; if only they knew." On the surface, we all understand that different segments of people have to cater to different needs. But let's take it step further than that: Why exactly? If you can answer this question easily, then this post is not for you. If not, let me enlighten you on the matter.
The Sheep in Wolf's Clothing
So why exactly does a boy want to be rich or famous? Because you'll basically end up bathing in a hot tub of attention that forever won't seem to get cold. Being rich & famous is the ultimate social proof; they give you the idealistic image of external respect that doesn't require any maintenance. You can effortlessly let the masses feed your ego. Notice how it's a reflex for kids to try and grab the spotlight at any given opportunity. Seems familiar, right? The need for validation they so unconsciously crave stems from their lack to recognize their own strength. A certain perceived SMV can high, but without the social image, what are they?
Take a real life example: it's a lot more common for a Health Science student to drop their program in a casual conversation than for a Social Science student:
"What's program are you in? Oh, Liberal Arts? Nice, I'm in Honours Health Science. Yeah, it's a hassle but it's bearable."
Their underlying drive to do so? To send the following message: "We are the better students." Sheep disguised as a wolf naturally have insecurities reeking in many of their conversations, but at the age of 15, it's fine to do so. Hopefully, they'll know better.
In your twenties and onward, though, it becomes increasingly not fine. In fact, a 50 years-old can still be a petty little boy.
The Alpha Wolf
True growth starts when the boy recognizes that his own abilities can outclass social pressures. The wolf does know better. The confidence in his abilities are driven not from the outside, but from within. He doesn't need validation from others because he is past the stage of seeking attention. He doesn't need to question his actions because they are a by-product of who he is. And he doesn't need to re-affirm his qualities to himself, they just are there. A happy man doesn't need to repeat it for himself; he just is. Men of power, men who have been the biggest subjects of conversation in history all live by this mindset. He who is a man, he who is a wolf on the inside, will succeed.
A perfect cultural reference is the following: "Take off your suit, what are you?" "Genius, billionaire, playboy, philanthropist." Underlying message? He can build himself from scratch. Being who he is, and not relying upon his assets, is his ultimate reliable tool of success.
Takeaway
Don't fall into the trap believing that TRP is your suit of armor. It's not because you're red-pill aware that you should boast about being better than blue-pilled people. It's not because you're acting alpha that you are an alpha. The source of your power doesn't come from your n count or how agreeable you are to others. It comes from YOU. Everything that happens in life should be a by-product of who you are. You can be 15 and serve your purpose with confidence or 50 and still crave the recognition of others to make yourself feel meaningful; on making yourself, despite my beginning example, age is truly just a number. The focus is on YOU; everything else is background noise.
By being the the wolf, you will have a frame of steel. The sheep in disguise only have a frame of appeal.
Zech4riah 5y ago
I've always wanted to be rich. When I was 15yo I wanted to be rich because I wanted to buy cool shit.
Now I want to be rich because I want to buy cool shit but also because wealth brings power and freedom.
WoodleyWarrior85 5y ago
Yup...this was my college experience at a top 20 US university. Most conversations revolved around internships, exclusive clubs, and high-pressure majors. People name dropped to try and figure out if you were a "winner" or "loser."
Unsurprisingly, the school has a big mental health and depression problem.
What's funny is sizing up people based on external measures of success isn't even a good strategy (especially when you're young). Like, being that preoccupied with what your peers think is actually the definition of a beta male. This type of thinking causes you to miss the true innovators and creators - the Steve Jobs's of the world - since they don't give a fuck about impressing you or fitting into social norms.
Generating wealth/status/success is actually individualistic in nature. Why? Because if you pursue something outside of yourself, that means other people know about it and can pursue it as well. You are choosing a well-trodden path and will face stiff competition at every turn. Your mission isn't compelling or original (even if it leads to some amount of material "success"), and thus won't fuel you to reach great heights.
As an aside, I think we are going to see a rise in non-conformist/anti-materialistic values in the next decade. There is going to be a reaction against social media and the anxiety it causes a lot of people. I can foresee a new Red Pill/rebel archetype emerging as an alternative to the Blue Pill version of success.
TommyTheThird 5y ago
Last paragraph is 100. It’s happening already. Now how to profit off of it?
BySNiP 5y ago
Beautifully put!
Though I feel external validation is not bad.Its only bad when that is your only source of confidence.Many celebrities do insane shit because they are falling off that popular game.Very few celebrities actually move on and get into other stuff.
If the opportunity arises any one of us would probably want to become "famous" but we must realise fame is like women.It might come and go,we must have other sources of confidence.
papunigga031 5y ago
If you’re having self-conscious thoughts, accept them at let them go. This is part of how you get rid of validation seeking behavior. MEDITATE.
The second part is FINDING A MISSION and making that your focus instead of focusing on social status/acceptance. This is why lifting is a recommended priority on this sub. It not only makes you look and feel great, but it also gives you something to focus on that solely has to do with you.
“The key to not giving a fuck isn’t trying to not give a fuck. The key is caring about something so much that nothing else matters.”
Psychocist 5y ago
You have to be careful to not fall for the obvious motivation of looking good to slay pussy, because that's what will start to happen as you build muscle and confidence... but then you'll settle down when you achieve that abundance and get complacent.
You have to keep yourself in check to ensure your motivations really are about you and developing your discipline. I still struggle with this because I don't need to go to the gym to feel great about myself or get pussy. I now see it as a way to train discipline. If I'm not doing it's because I'm avoiding the pain.
A worthy mission for sure! Though I'd combine it with other missions which involve all aspects of your development. For me that has been building a business. It will keep me busy for the next 10 years at least. I have all the direction and challenge and reward I need and no longer look to others for anything.
DreamExpedite 5y ago
I love this man. I love how you can articulate something that somewhere we all feel and just hit the bullseye. And especially that last line “The key to not giving a fuck isn’t trying to not give a fuck. The key is caring about something so much that nothing else matters.” I am in awe of how good you are at this. Please, teach me.
krsuma 5y ago
think that quote came from the book 'the art of not giving a fuck'. highly recommend to read it, its a good book.
NextBad 5y ago
> The confidence in his abilities are driven not from the outside, but from within.
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The danger in this is it makes it hard to accept fair and valid criticism , caring about what people think is important, how do you know where the line begins and ends?
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FiveStarTendieDinner 5y ago
I would rather be the hunter that shoots them both.
DerudOnlyone 5y ago
Nice but mate u didn't find solution just described the reality. So not wery helpful for me I guess
DropDeadTyrant 5y ago
I write 3 poems a month and am making huge progress on my poetry book I want to have by December. However, when people ask what I do, I only have poetry, working out, and my strive for mindfulness to talk about. I'm not ashamed of it. But, I know saying, "I have damn near a quarter of a book done" is less impressive than "I was smoking weed, I was at Football practice, I was visiting an Ivy League school". So, I usually refrain and just say I don't do anything. This post makes a good point on that and I should be talking about what I truly do and love doing.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
Always, dude. You're selling yourself short. Nothing sounds bad about 'I'm holistic. I'm a writer, and will have my first book done by december. I take my physical fitness damn serious and work out 4/5 times a week. I'm deep into spirituality and practice meditations.'
Those are things you can expand upon to. Not sure where you live, but are there any open mic nights, where you can read your poems. And there is usually awesome places for spirituality, like meditation centres, retreats etc. And with working out, you can always take up a boxing class or something'.
Don't sell yourself short, keep expanding those things. Good luck on the book.
dongpal 5y ago
But if you mention them you look like you are bragging and dont follow OPs advice to be a sheep in wolf's clothing.
KeffirLime 5y ago
Peoples perspectives naturally evolve through life and ultimately it comes down to priorities at certain points in an individuals life, however there has historically always been a link between older and younger generations that guide the process, this is being lost.
As a young man you are driven to compete. Testosterone levels are high and you need to cement a place for yourself in this world. You're constantly measuring yourself against those around you, pushing harder when the competition is more intense. The general idea is that you do well enough for yourself, and more importantly better than those around you.
For this reason, in our youth, fame or money ranks highly on our list, because it signals an ascension of the hierarchy and with this comes better options and opportunities available to you in all aspects of your life, be it resources, travel, women.
As you age, your testosterone declines and your drive to compete at such a viscious level starts to dwindle. You've had your intense battles, you've made your mark and at some point you start thinking a bit deeper about things. You take on the role of the elder in the tribe. Not fighting or jockeying for position but rather to provide insight and wisdom.
Your focus becomes more internal, seeking answers to questions about meaning and purpose. It's no longer about being the most powerful individual, but rather being content and living a life that brings you joy, and also leaving somewhat of a legacy for those you care about. You start valuing people and family more as you realize your days are numbered.
This is why the contrast of elder wisdom and youthful power has been such a feature in our evolution. It's channeling and guiding that youthful energy into a direction that yields happiness and peace of mind.
This link has slowly but surely been eroded, which leaves society with many directionless youngsters, with no guiding hand. They don't have adequate exposure to that wisdom and insight that comes with reflection in our older years. Instead we're left with "living my best life" kids and a "yolo" lifestyle that has no sense building or patience for delayed reward.
Psychocist 5y ago
In other words, youth is wasted on the young.
I always wondered what that meant until I started to experience real wisdom as I got older and my energy levels started to deplete. If only I had this perspective with my youthful energy.
Great comment!
omega_dawg93 5y ago
this is true.
most youngsters live in an, "add water, and it should happen for me right... RIGHT NOW," world.
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destraht 5y ago
It seems obvious (here) that interfering in the normal hormone composition of a teenager through the use of blockers for "transgenders" or through ambient plastics or soy is bad but what the consequences of interfering with the normal testosterone reduction as a result of ageing? Your comment was heavily upvoted, which implies that many people heavily agree with your assessment of the cycle of life. What natural developments are people giving up by choosing to remain cock heavy and cock strong for a longer part of their life? I think that its obvious now that we have at least somewhat lower natural male related hormones through our diet, toxins and lifestyle but what is the point in which we have enough and can gracefully decline to experience the full expression of our life cycle?
Thisismybot8 5y ago
Something to note, the most powerful men never lose that youthful drive. You shouldn't either.
chrisname 5y ago
This is true. The owner of the company I work for has to be in his 50s at least, but he’s incredibly energetic.
Blackwhitesimple 5y ago
If you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it on one turn of pitch and toss And lose and start again at your beginnings and never breathe a word about your loss... Thats what it is about.
rambler429 5y ago
If by Kipling is one of my all time favorites.
andreas-mgtow 5y ago
The irony is strong with this post. Nicely done.
The "Alpha" that gets glorified by women and simps is no true alpha. It is a sheep acting a part to get female validation. The "Alpha" defined by pussy is no alpha at all, just a clown.
The true Alpha, is a wolf among wolves. Recognized by his peers, a leader of men. He owns himself and needs no one, but is loyal and will go to war with/for his tribesmen.
BobbyPeru 5y ago
Also, you are also describing the difference between a pick up artist and a man with true strong frame and drive in a way.
Have an upvote
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DreamExpedite 5y ago
I feel like trp is modern stoicism, and more. It's more than just trying to get laid I realize after 3 weeks in here and it's about living on your own terms, living like a true man. I'm really, really grateful for this community
Hviterev 5y ago
Pretty good and concise. Enjoyed and agreed.
Hitlers_Gas_Bill 5y ago
In 'Confessions of a Reformed Incel', it's made very clear that self-confidence doesn't come from within. You NEED validation to become more confident. Here's what happens: you get good at something --> you get praised for your skill --> your confidence increases --> you become better at your craft. I get what you mean in that one shouldn't crave validation (like women do) but it's disingenuous to suggest that confidence comes from within.
'Confidence comes from within' is a meme, just like 'Communication is the key to a healthy relationship'.
krsuma 5y ago
agreed, having that initial validation is a nice jumpstart.
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weezylane 5y ago
A man must seek power from within to project it without.
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javiercer20 5y ago
It’s more like men don’t wanna go full wolf, so they look for the softest way to at least appear it from the outside, but deep down there’s a sheep living inside that will come out eventually. To be the wolf takes only balls.