A massive majority of men frequent porn sites and an even larger majority of men have at least at some point engaged with some sort of pornography. This is because men react to visual stimulation. They see something they like and they wanna stick it. Their arousal is ignited by visual cues like tits, body, ass, lips etc.

Women operate differently. They do not frequent porn sites nearly at the same rate as man, something in the region of 4 times less. What women will do however, is flock to book stores in droves to grab a copy of the new 50 shades of Literotica. This is because a women's arousal is far more narrative than it is visual. She's interested in the story, the fantasy. Who the characters are, what they represent and visualizing how she would feel engaging with all that.

When she's engaging with you she's placing herself in the story you're conveying to her. She's constantly trying to gauge if it's a story that she'd like to be a part of or not. If it's fun, exciting, filled with wonder and thrills, she'll be drawn to it. She'll want to explore it further and see where it goes. If it's mundane, stale and stuffed with the same old boring story line she hears 5 times a week she'll opt out fairly quickly.

Building an arousing story is less about sharp talking and slick lines, and more about not killing her fantasy. A women's default setting is already fantasy, she does most of the building all on her own. They're all going out with notions of Chad, hoping that tonight will finally be the night where he'll come in and sweep her out of her mundane existence and sail off into the sunset. The problem is most men are so good at promptly murdering that fantasy.

They're so stale when they talk to women, it plays out like a job interview. They ask 20 questions, or they start rambling about their accounting job. They'll tire her with stiff conversations about their stereotypical western lives. They don't have any meaningful goals or direction and aren't particularly skilled at anything. She can smell how much they pedestalize her and slobber for her approval. Inevitably, she loses interest. If they're not excited about their own stories then she certainly wont be.

Interesting stories however ignite her arousal. Stories about interesting men who've done fun shit and have grand plans for the future. Stories that show you're ambitious, fun, mysterious and little naughty. Stories that are thrilling and adventurous. It needs to convey your passion, your masculinity. Be playful, flirty and keep her wondering what comes next. Through your confidence and energy she'll see a story she craves to be apart of. When given the right fuel her fantasies can run wild.

It doesn't end at just approaching women though, it continues throughout your relationship. What story does your time together look like for her. Does your future look exciting, filled with adventure, prosperity and success or does it look dull, uninteresting, filled with beer bellies and Friday nights at Applebees. This is why so many couples fall apart right after marrying, because the magical story of a future white wedding and happily ever after gets's replaced with "marriage is work" and divided house chores. When the best part of the story is in the rear view mirror rest assured she'll gladly branch swing to a story that seems a whole lot more exciting. A women always needs something to look forward to.

Ultimately your story is yours, so don't be editing or curating it for any women. She either needs to gel with your story or she's not worth it. Do however, become someone with a story to tell, it isn't gonna write itself. Learn how to express your story in a way that makes it fun, no one is gonna tell it for you. How people tell their stories is often a reflection of how they feel about themselves and where they're at. When you're living an exceptional story that flows out of you, people will naturally crave to be apart of it.