Introduction
So I have seen a few post here referencing that the APA has now labeled masculinity as “harmful” from a psychological standpoint [link]. With masculine traits defined as stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression. It’s pretty naive to place stoicism in the same box as dominance and aggression as it’s an entire philosophical school of thought rather than an individual behavioural trait. When using the dictionary.com definition of stoic as a descriptive trait you get: ” someone who endures pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint”. In theory if we are attempting to remove stoic traits from our society we are consequently creating a society that is moving toward whining and complaining about every little thing that takes effort and isn’t instantly gratifying. Entitled dopamine junkies.
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Summary
Two of the more recent pieces of literature I’ve read is Rollo Tomassi's third book The Rational Male, Positive Masculinity and Meditations by Marcus Aurelius, so I decided to detail the overlap I’ve observed between the teachings of the ancient stoics and the concept of frame from a redpill perspective. Followed up with some practical stoic meditations that can be applied to building a rock solid frame and assist in internalizing red pill concepts.
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Body
I’m going to start things off with some definitions so we are all on the same page. From the community details “The Red Pill” is described as sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. For the purpose of this article I’m going to stay clear from the PUA and sexual strategy aspect and define it as: Understanding the true nature on the feminine imperative and how it’s been hiding/reinventing what it means to be a man. The notes and stories we share here are tools of enlightenment, towards what it means to be a man defined by the masculine core of a pulary male collective.
Obtaining a more fulling sexlife is merely a side effect of becoming a “real” man. Paradoxically the higher you prioritize obtaining women the less real power you have in the dynamics of your relationships with woman. The simple answer to why, is that in any relationship, whether it’s business or personal, the person with the most power is the one that needs the other the least. Furthermore from the perspective of the ancient stoics there was no feminine imperative or PUA seminars: they were brought up in the masculine, striving to become great men in pursuit of their greater life purpose and the furthering of mankind.
So let's just leave woman on the sidelines (where they belong) and talk about the first Iron rule from Rollos the rational male, “Frame is everything”. Although before I move on I think I owe Marcus Aurelius a brief introduction for those who are unfamiliar. Marcus Aurelius lived through a period where he undoubtedly was the most powerful man on the planet. A roman emperor and the last of the rulers traditionally known as the Five Good Emperors. Upon his death in the year 180 a personal journal of his was discovered containing his personal philosophical writings which were then composed into the book Meditations (PDF LINK).
Although you won’t come across the term “frame” in any of the ancient stoic literature often when describing the manner of how a man should live, there is quite an overlap with the red pill concept of living within your own frame. My interpretation of stoicism is all about building a strong internal frame. It is about being proactive rather than reactive to external factors outside oneself. It’s about doing the work of a man (your purpose) not for the praise or validation of others but to reach a state of self-fulfillment. Accepting the universal factors that lay outside of your control and remaining indifferent, remaining indifferent to pain or pleasure and staying focused on your purpose.
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“The more we value things outside our control, the less control we have.”- Marcus Aurelius
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There is no reason to remain resentful towards women's true nature, if his SMV> yours it makes perfect sense in her mind to leave you for him. Hypergamy is just part of nature and lies outside your control. Being angry at the existence of hypergamy is just like being angry at the existence of mosquitoes. You are being emotionally reactive to the nature of things outside your control and further more wasting your mental energy that could be put to better use working on oneself and towards your purpose.
Frame is quite an abstract concept and it’s obvious that there are people within the community that have a hard time grasping it as a whole. But I can’t stress enough that frame is everything and arguably the most important concepts for truly internalizing the red pill ideals discussed here. You are your frame, to build a frame is to build one's self; this is the key difference between real change from within and “acting alpha”. If you set aside the moral aspects from Meditations it reads as a general guide on how to be a strong, well-rounded man. Being unfazed by the factors outside oneself and ensuring that validation comes from within rather than external factors. This is your frame. You are your frame. Frame is the extent of which you are controlling your own reality and the truth is, often you have little control/influence of external factors. To build frame one must focus on what he can change, what one has control over and let go of the things he doesn't. This is why there is a common theme here of people starting their own business and being self employed; it’s directly linked to building frame. Becoming self sufficient puts you in a position where you never “have” to do anything you don’t want to. Being the boss, being in control of the decisions being made and the actions that follow is operating within your frame. When you are working for someone else, you are operating in their frame. If the date location you chose was somewhere you think she would like (without considering of what you want) you are operating in her frame. Damn, if the only reason you are lifting weights is to impress the girl next door you are still serving her reality. You are your frame but only to the extent of the things you have done and created on your own, for the sole purpose of furthering oneself. If you build great things people will naturally want to be a part of that. This is where we can derive real power, by remaining in control of the direction of our own lives and even start to influence the directions of others. Why? Because that’s one tasty looking cake you’ve baked up and they’re keen for a slice. Now you have the power to decide if you want to give them some. What can they provide for you? What's the going rate? What's your next best option? Fuck it! Eat the whole cake if you want, you can do whatever you want in this situation. Now you have others operating on your terms, within your frame.
I could keep rambling but if you still don’t have a sound idea of what frame is I found this post by dulkemaru51 to be pretty good. Although to be all theory and no action is a greater curse than to simply act with no theory. So lets segue into the first practical meditation that builds mental resilience and empowers you to act with intent in spite of discomfort caused by external factors.
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Cold showers
I’ve used cold showers as part of my meditation every morning. It reinforces two concepts. It helps build resistance to seeking pleasure and to become indifferent in the face of pain/discomfort. We all know that pleasure seeking weather it be porn, drugs or Netflix is counter productive towards self development. Furthermore being outside your comfort zone can be uncomfortable at best and agonizingly painful at worst; but it's where we have to be if we want to grow. During the first week of taking cold showers I’d be hesitant before I entered, I would almost squeal as my body flinched and my breathing accelerated when the freezing cold water fell upon my body. It didn’t take long before I learnt to control my breathing and with no hesitation jump straight into the shower with indifference, as if it were a steaming hot shower on a cold winter's morning.
I’m staying calm and collected as I chose to be, not reacting to the freezing water. I am not allowing cold water to control my actions. I’m behaving in accordance with how I have chosen to behave, I am standing my ground, I am holding frame.
I’ve noticed most people can’t comprehend why anyone would willingly choose to shower cold. Their basic deductive reasoning goes something like: “but hot showers feel good and cold showers feel bad”. They can’t see the reward as it is not instantly gratifying, unlike the comforting sensation of stepping into a steamy hot shower.
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Achieving a state of being unfazed by discomfort is the reward.
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It pays to be mindful of the reasons why you are doing the exercise during every repetition. As the goal is to apply these principles to every aspect of your life, it will help you become aware when a situation arises when you may be tempted to seek comfort over personal growth or help you come to a realization that on a subconscious level you may be avoiding an action due to the fact that taking action under the current circumstances lies outside your comfort zone.
Meditation can be a powerful tool to internalize new belief systems. As we are all aware having a good understanding of RB principles is not even close to half the battle. It’s the internalization and the constant work involved of changing ones behaviour accordingly. To break old habits and face the fears that have kept you locked in your own mental prison (your comfort zone).
I can’t provide a straightforward roadmap to building frame as it’s tied to the strength and influence of ones identity, that's made up by our unique experiences and how we interpret them as individuals. We all have different strengths and weakness and are at different places/stages in our life journeys. The benefits of building mental strength and resilience from cold showers is broad, can easily be incorporated into anyones morning routine and is objectively beneficial to this entire community. The same can be said for weightlifting. So if you intend on using meditation to facilitate internalizing new beliefs, it would be wise to first understand which of your strengths can be utilized and weakness minimized/eradicated.Then decide what concepts you specifically need to internalize and incorporate into a routine that insures you remain mindful of these qualities in everyday life. Deciding what you need to work on should come after a period of introspection. I’d even recommend taking some time off and getting away for a while, go hiking or fishing or some shit before making up your mind: as deciding on the most beneficial concepts for you is critical to optimizing your progress.
Having an understanding of the basic fundamentals of mindful meditation is key to optimizing the internalization of new beliefs. For those of you unfamiliar with the practices of mindfulness, the main concept is not necessarily to clear your mind but to be consciously aware of where your focus is. For example a common meditation is simply focusing on your breath. After time has passed it’s likely your mind will drift off to other things. What you are practicing is becoming consciously aware when your mind has wandered off and bringing your attention back to the breath. Controlling your thoughts by consciously governing where your focus lies, rather than allowing the mind to do what it wants. Let's apply this to everyday life. If you give in to what the mind wants, it will just follow it’s natural conditioning of a providing beta mindset. Now we are replacing this conditioning with beliefs we have consciously selected in light of “our red pill awakening”. So we can move our focus from the breath and onto a concept that you wish to internalize. For example let's say you're a “sorry” guy. You know, the type of guy who apologies nine times a day for walking within inches of what he perceives could be another person's personal space. Now this behaviour typically stems from a low perception of self worth. It makes sense to apologize for getting in someone's way if you have an internal belief that you have little worth comparatively to them. You can replace the last few minutes of your meditation reminding yourself that you are a man of high value and don’t need to apologize for acting in your own best interests. You can even think of regular examples that are likely to occur in your day when you use “sorry” and replace it with your desired behaviour. Repetition is key, if you are able to do this even for a few minutes each day it will be in the back of your mind. The probability of you noticing when you are about to say sorry (as you usually would) will increase dramatically. From there it’s a matter of noticing, changing your behaviour accordingly and eventually you’ll form a new habit. The “new you”,that you’ve consciously created, so to speak. To anyone new to mindful meditation I highly recommend the headspace app. It provides guided meditations that start and end with some explanations of what a state of mindfulness is and what you can hope to achieve by practicing it; with each session building on top of the last. After completing the introductory courses you’ll have a solid foundation and it should be obvious how RP concepts can be applied.
If you’ve read this far you’re probably part of the top 20% in regards to maintaining focus, as valueless facebook notifications have withered away the attention span of the modern man. Focus is yet another skill that must be nurtured to pursue our purpose and live a life of meaning. I wish you all the best in your journey of striving for excellence. But the reality is, it’s all on you.
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Summary:
Due to the social conditioning imposed by the ever more feminized West, the default state of man in modern society is to avoid pain and to seek pleasure. To build frame you must pursue your purpose at all costs, with a mindset of indifference to pain or pleasure. Mindful meditation can be a powerful tool for internalizing new beliefs and changing one's behaviour in accordance to what's beneficial to himself as an individual man: rather than what's best for the furthering of an increasingly feminized culture that rejects personal responsibility, craves instant gratification and then blames it's dissatisfaction with life on the fact that everything one wants should be free and easy to obtain.
Son0fMan 5y ago
Adding a note on meditation here from a zen buddhist perspective...
Mindfulness based meditation is all about awareness, I agree. However, the ironic, and some would even suggest mystical, thing about it is change occurs only when you are bringing a nonjudgemental awareness to your thought patterns and feelings. You will find that judging yourself for 'beta thoughts' or even attempting to 'think alpha' is counterproductive. Once you get particularly adept at achieving a truly meditative state you'll find that your mind wanders to all sorts of things and you're kind of just along for the ride, however these thoughts will have a marginally reduced effect on you.
On an almost completely separate note, through meditation and mindfulness I am developing a philosophy about the self and free will. A quick rundown would be that your subconscious aka your instinct is actually in control, making decisions on the fly. Your limbic system aka your emotions are actually the commentator. They work in conjuction with the observer aka your conscious mind.
Example: I need energy so my subconscious is directed towards getting food and makes my stomach growl. My limbic system makes me start feeling very faint anxious/excitement about the concept of getting food while amost simultaneously I am consciously thinking," Man I'd like some tacos right now."
newacc4newlife 5y ago
Thanks for this one, good read
I believe your description should be enough for a person new to the concept or looking for a more detailed explanation of frame to start contemplating the ways to build it on their own. For if this one doesn't spark the desire to live in their own way, doing what they want then no guide will help
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ChadowyFigure 5y ago
I don't get the whole cold shower thing, seriously. Do you wake up and give yourself a sack tap everyday to become indifferent in the face of pain? What is the point of torturing yourself for zero gain? I know I can handle a cold shower already, I don't have to prove this to myself by making every morning for the rest of my life worse than it could be. It's like telling people to learn how to live on a budget by throwing some money away every morning when they wake up.
randomTATRP 5y ago
It's because it wakes me the fuck up and it cools my head literally. I'm way more calm when I take a cold shower. The saying about doing stuff coldheaded isn't a nonsense.
You see, rich people didn't become rich by getting a lot of money. They got rich by not spending their money lavishly or on stupid things. If I were to spend all of my weekly money, I'd have never have some money to go out. So I must save a bit of money every week and then I can go out like a normal human being once in a few weeks.
MrGreySD 5y ago
For me personally, not only does it get the blood flowing, wake me up and make me feel more alert, but it makes me hurry the fuck up and not procrastinate in there. 2 minutes and out. Done.
So that's productivity immediately upon waking. Plus there are definitely general mental benefits for me. You feel buzzed and you feel like you've already accomplished something.
Regarding your examples: throwing money away is idiotic and a disadvantage to yourself. I don't see what the negative to cold showers is other than mild discomfort for 2 minutes?
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
I think it's better read as a metaphor. Putting oneself into situations many would shy from, in an attempt to hold yourself and be unreactive.
Hyperf0cus 5y ago
It is just one way of many others to reach the state of having a strong frame. I don't cold shower, but I lift like a stoic robot with perfect execution through strong focus and moving mindfully/meditatively. This helps me in other areas of life.
Each human being has to find his own way of building a strong frame through incorporating various "tools" into his daily life.
ChadowyFigure 5y ago
Yes, I understand the rationale for it, I just don't think it makes sense.
Frame != teaching yourself to be uncomfortable for no reason. Frame is knowing what's what and not letting fools push you around.
Lifting is being uncomfortable for a reason (fitness), working is being uncomfortable for a reason (money), talking to women is being uncomfortable for a reason (pussy). Taking a cold shower everyday is being uncomfortable for no reason other than to get used to being uncomfortable. Why do I want to train myself to eat shit? If I willingly degrade the quality of my experience now and don't receive a tangible benefit for it later, then I am either a sucker or an idiot.
Hyperf0cus 5y ago
I understand the point you are making. Think of the cold showers as one of many ways to tighten and preserve the elasticity of your skin.
Cold showers also increase the amount of leukocytes in your bloodstream, so you are less prone to catch diseases.
So if you take the above mentioned (out of many other reasons) into account, you are complementing your overall fitness, on top of staying fit through physical exercise.
Edit: As a sidenote - currently "fighting against gravity" on the stairmaster at my local gym right now. I love this machine. Let's see if my ass is ready for a cold shower afterwards lol.
SongofMelkor 5y ago
You lack imagination. You're only seeing pain for its immediate effect; pain. We all know what pain is. Don't confuse pain for suffering, you define what suffering means to you.
The proactive, voluntary choice to expose yourself to pain and discomfort, is in and of itself a patience and character-building trait. In this case, cold showers are the least of pains a human being can experience, but just as effective as preparing your mind for hardship.
inf0rmme 5y ago
"Making every morning worse than it should be"
My morning are no worse that they once were when I showered warm. After time you adjust and it becomes the norm. Its no longer painful as you've become indefrent. Which is the point I am making.
It's relative to what you have adjusted to. If you were to shower cold for a year and were then to take a warm showing it would feel Amazing. But after a while you'll just adjust and your mornings will be no better off.
isthisalreadyused 5y ago
From what I've read, there are more benefits to a cold shower than just the hardening of your will, but he has a point too.
What about slapping yourself in the face a few times? If you have a roommate, what about getting him to waterboard you every morning? Where is the line, and why is it there?
ChadowyFigure 5y ago
"My morning[s] are no worse tha[n] they once were when I showered warm."
"If you were to shower cold for a year and were then to take a warm show[er] it would feel Amazing."
Pick one. How could it feel amazing if a cold shower is no worse? Does a cold shower feel amazing if you go a year taking all warm showers?
inf0rmme 5y ago
The difference is your aiming for short turn gains. The warm showing feels good in that moment.
But like anything instantly gratifying it won't add any true value to the quality of your life.(my subjective opoion). So hypetheticly if someone were compleatly indferent to pain or pleasure, in any scenario they'd choose the best long term outcome and the pain or pleasure wouldn't even factor into their decision making.
Just the daliy reminder to be more aware of how I am reacting to negitive external factors holds long turm value for my own self development.
However meditation doesn't seem to be for everyone. The science on it reports some participants having a positive experience and a neutral or even negative for other. But its all selfreported survey shit, that I consider a soft science at best. Whatever works for you man.
tb0n 5y ago
I have been practicing stoicism for about six months now and it has had a profound impact on frame. Before stoicism, trying to demonstrate a strong frame was an exercise of trying to remind myself to "be alpha" or that "I am enough" whenever I felt anxiety come up in conversations with women and other people.
Stoicism teaches you that your negative emotional reactions are un-constructive; that you should be indifferent to the opinions of others; and that you are supposed to have compassion for others, as they too are humans struggling.
The end result of that in a social conservation is that if someone challenges something you say, you shrug your shoulders; you don't need to defend yourself and you don't have an incentive to lash out at the other person. In fact, one major tenet of stoicism is to respond to insults with humor such as "you're right, and you don't know the half of it." If you think about it, that is just another way of saying "agree and amplify."
Frame is just one tiny way that stoicism has helped me though. The whole philosophy is wonderful and has applications to every part of my day. It has made me much happier and more satisfied with my life, while also helping to increase my SMV.
Hyperf0cus 5y ago
This is absolutely on point. You've put the way I've been thinking and acting lately, into words. I am feeling relieved and confirmed for the frame I've build up during the last weeks.
It is so wonderful to see and feel how this works. As of today I am more happy than ever depite having a hard time through deep depression with suicide thoughts not long ago.
Having a strong focus while lifting and executing your exercises helps so dramatically - you do not owe other people your attention. You are the center of origin and should act accordingly.
I've internalized the center of origin aspect into my daily life this year and I am feeling more alive than ever.
Heremhd 5y ago
Well said I wasn’t sure what frame was but you have helped me I believe frame is just serving your own purposes the way you want to. To stay in frame is to be able to control how you react .
SongofMelkor 5y ago
I highly recommend Epictetus' Discourses. Marcus Aurelius was a student of Stoic philosophy and the Meditations are a helpful summary of his beliefs and past experiences. Epictetus delves into the processes that weaken our dominion over our faculty of choice, and those habits and actions that strengthen them.
surethingjanet 5y ago
I am now able to make sense of why this subreddit has been quarantined : its content simply is too good for your average internet user.
stigma17 5y ago
Great read, I’m relatively new and I’m trying to wrap my head around the theory of TRP and coupled with your links this is the most I’ve understood how to internalise the ideas.
In regards to frame, the other day I was on a coach and a girl was sat in front, from boarding I had noticed she was fairly cute. I attempted to get her number, on the basis that I could try and I wasn’t actually fussed if I did get the number or not, I was focused on the attempt. Is that maintaining frame?
jonpe87 5y ago
Frame is a narrative/perspective from wich you see/describe reality. To have a strong frame is to have deeply rooted view points/ beliefs of reality from wich you guide your behaviour and your emotional state. So a part of having a strong frame is to have a lot of life experiences, that will expand your mind and your understanding of reality.
triavatar 5y ago
Focus on yourself more than others.
It is hard.
But such is the path of man.
Fulp_Piction 5y ago
Frame is the context of the conversation. Someone being 'in your frame' means that they accept your interpretation of things, agree with you and stop thinking about it themselves. On here it's said that women want to surrender to a strong frame - ie they dont want to figure out all the stressful shit themselves, they trust you so they just go with what you do.
A test of frame, tell a stupid joke that makes no sense, whoever laughs is completely 'in your frame'. They were always going to laugh regardless of the punchline because you told it.
Check out the mystery method for more info.
Edit: Holding frame - maintaining your interpretation of events, though you have to have a reasonable opinion to hold otherwise your just a bit of a twat.
Auvergnat 5y ago
Not really. Originally, frame was borrowed from NLP and brought into Game by PUA. Probably by Ross Jeffries. Frame roughly meant the "context of an interaction" and you were meant to "(1) be aware of it and (2) control it but (3) resist giving the impression you are". So if you're talking with a girl and she makes a comment about how you're a great guy for always being there for your friends, you'd need to (1) be aware this innocuous comment could be interpreted as either you being a doormat in need of recognition, or being a benevolent alpha. You'd need to be aware of which is the perspective that is more beneficial to you and (2) ensure the conversation continues with that perspective. But you should not force it on the conversation of course so (3) you don't blurt suddenly "duh, I'm only friendly because I want to!" but subtly assure that perspective, ideally non-verbally so that it's really covert. Frame is the untold backstory in the interaction. Powerful machiavellian stuff.
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If you find this confusing, it's normal. It's not straightforward, and as a result the concept of Frame got slowly misunderstood and redefined on this sub. At some point it meant something like "composure" (in the context of staying stoic when shit-tested) so people started saying "keeping frame" as a way to say "keeping your composure". Now it's some mix between this and "self-esteem", which is the definition you can understand someone is using when people say "building frame". So now "Frame" is something to "develop" by "focusing on yourself" or taking cold showers for example.
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And that's how you get from a vital concept of power dynamics in human interactions with fellow masterful manipulators, to something you can proudly think you own without having to talk to anybody.
inf0rmme 5y ago
If you saw a cute girl you wanted to ask out and then took action on this not allowing your approach anxiety (something in your controll) to prevent you from taking action. Then you were operating in your frame.
If you were to overhear a girl saying that she really loves Rose's. Then go off and buy a rose because you think she wants a rose. You'd be serving her reality not yours and hence operating in her frame.
TruthSeekingPerson 5y ago
It seems a lot of this depends on your motivations. If you are buying someone a rose because you desire and want to manipulate them then you're outside your frame. You're being weak.
If you don't know a person it's probably weird and unacceptable to buy them a rose. That said, in The Last Crusade Indiana Jones stole a flower to give Elsa right after he met her. In that situation he is in frame. But he couldn't do that if she had made a comment about how pretty the flowers are because then he's just serving her. Really it sounds like staying in frame is doing things you want to do instead of serving someone else.
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yottaminx 5y ago
I am glad you retards got banned. Get a life! get out of your parent's basement
Blenor 5y ago
Serious question, how aren't you sick all the time when you're taking cold showers everyday?
adeptintact 5y ago
I had recently started meditating, but an unintended consequence is your third eye will open. When it does, you may start hearing and seeing things in the 4th dimension that can be interpreted as ghosts. From a Christian perspective, this can make you more susceptible to demons attacking you. This is why Christianity forbids this type of meditation where you clear and focus your mind. I believe meditation does help, but this consequence is something to consider. I've stopped meditating as a result.
Ryu-Hayabusa 5y ago
Well said sir this help dearly!
bulletproof0616 5y ago
David Goggins. His speeches and his book all about standing boldly in the face of adversity and always choosing the hardest path possible to callous your mind (build an unbreakable frame)
centaursg 5y ago
Great post. I have chosen ,many a times , to look at things from stoic perspective but often I get emotional , lose frame , become a victim to the instant gratification..this post definitely helps to be mindful about my emotions and my actions
chrisname 5y ago
I think you misunderstood the article. For example, they aren’t using stoicism in the classical sense to refer to the school of philosophy, but in the common sense of not displaying any emotion at all. They even say stoicism is good when it is used to face down a difficult situation, but bad when it causes the person to deny having any feelings at all. I don’t really see how you can disagree that that is harmful. Men on this sub will say “talk about your feelings with other men, not women” and advise you not to suppress your feelings. The APA is obviously not going to advise men to keep their feelings from women (which we should) but that doesn’t mean they’re saying stoicism and masculinity are wrong.
I honestly didn’t find anything particularly bad in this article (which was surprising). They don’t say aggression (in the sense of pursuing one’s objectives even when competing with the objectives of others) is bad, they say violence is bad. Idk how you can disagree with that, either, except to say that violence is good when it prevents more violence (or when it’s consensual between all affected parties).
Managicall 5y ago
The only problem with those books is the soft retranslated global language lacking the full power of a native English tongue.
stoicism: deadened sensation
competitiveness: rage quitting
dominance: friendly fire
aggressiveness: all or nothing
peeng_newt 5y ago
APA-Accredited universities are churning out toxic feminists from undergrad and grad psychology programs. These shills then go out and create this "toxic masculinity" diorama by pretty much being unbearable and intolerant.
NormalAndy 5y ago
Great post. Thanks.
Funny- looking back, I don't think that I was ever angry about hypergamy. I was angry that I had allowed myself to be duped by the lie that it didn't exist.
It would be nice if there was an easy way but these days I welcome the fact that there isn't. All meningful growth is painful Sisyphus is happy.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
My fucking god! This is the best post I've ever read on here.
This is like, Red Pill on crack. Just cut down to the essentials, awesomely explained, and put in a process you can shoot right into the vein.
Your included links round this out to required reading, in my opinion.
The idea of not trying to control or react to anything outside of us is huge. I think too many guys are still stuck at trying to control shit outside of them. 'How do I get her to go out with me?' 'How do I avoid rejection?', etc. 'How do I pull her into my frame', type stuff.
This (with the links) shows that one's power should only ever be focused within oneself. The ability to hold YOU, regardless of outside things.
You've given a great explanation of why mindfulness meditation helps the process. The internalization.
Don't give your power away.
This is sidebar worthy.
ThePounder 5y ago
You are right. /u/Inf0rmme you’ve written one of the best RP posts I’ve ever seen here in the many years I’ve been here. Fantastic work!
jizzledfreq 5y ago
Being a kiss ass is beta behavior btw.
vespersic 5y ago
In what way is his reply "kiss ass"? He's giving praise where it's due. This is definitely a read deserving praise.
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
Hahahaha. Come on, kid. You're writing posts about buying your ex girlfriend gifts.
Destroy your own credibility much?
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