https://i.imgur.com/SonnsAN.jpg
This post was submitted today in another subreddit. The guy was asking for validation that he made the right choice. Well, he clearly made a lot of wrong choices, but that's beside the point. Let's forget about him, let's look at his woman.
This is a woman who has been dealt a bad hand in life. Both her parents are poor, and debt from an ongoing health problem rendered her unable to take student loans for her education (the OP mentioned both these things in the comments).
But even through all that hardship, life hands her a silver lining when she manages to snag the king of the betas. Because let me tell you, I've never been to Hong Kong (OP says this is where they are in the comments), but I know that the cost of living is very high. Stacy here didn't just snag your "fancy restaurant twice a month, maybe a bouquet of flowers once in a while" run-of-the-mill beta. No, she snagged the real deal. She seduced a guy who pays for their rent, their food, and her medical school tuition. That's the jackpot. That's a guy who's loaded. That's a guy who could easily sign up for one of those sugar daddy sites and have a new 20yo prostitute girlfriend within a week.
All she has to do is keep being a mediocre girlfriend. Notice how I didn't say a good girlfriend. I didn't say she has to cook him nice meals, give him blowjobs, or even laugh at his dumb jokes. Nope, she can be a nagging prudish bitch, and Billy here will still eat that up. Hell, she can even buy a vibrator and moan Chad's name while Billy is at work, that doesn't matter. All she has to do is stay away from Chad's actual cock, and she has it all. Food, shelter, education, money. Hell, she could even stay with Billy a couple more years until the marriage, then divorce rape him and do whatever she wants after that.
That would be the rational (albeit morally bankrupt) thing to do from her perspective. It would be logical. But women aren't those things. That's not who they care. They're slaves to their biology (just like men are, but that's a story for another day). And women's biology dictates that Billy's comfort is all fine and dandy, but what she really needs is the cock of the Chad who pump-and-dumped her in high school. She craves it, she yearns for it. And now she had another opportunity for it, and when that happens, it doesn't matter if she's in a 7-year relationship. Her medical school debt doesn't matter. The high COL of the city she lives in doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is the alpha cock. It's not rational. It's not smart. But women aren't those things. Don't expect them to be.
So forget about the beta game. Forget about buying her flowers, paying for dinner, or whatever the fuck. Hypergamy doesn't give a shit about your romance. These things may have worked 50 years ago, I bet they did, but they don't in the age of online dating and social media.
Become alpha instead. Learn to lift and diet, be thoroughly consistent at the gym, learn game, reread the sidebar. Women aren't rational, the only choice you have left is to learn how to revel in their irrationality. Or die.
VasiliyZaitzev 5y ago
The Hamster isn't logical. The Hamster does what it wants and finds excuses for it. I am basically 100% sure that this girl told her friends that her bf "made her" bang the other guy because he "didn't pay attention to her" or some bullshit, probably because he was at work, earning money to support them and pay her tuition.
No Hamster ever accepts responsibility.
Verythrowawayvery 5y ago
Lol at your delusion that being muscular and learning game is being alpha.
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not giving a shit is being alpha, even an ugly turd can be alpha and it always will be temporary.
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I am an athletic ex world champion in some sport. I am super alpha by any reasonable definition. Your definition isn‘t reasonable. What you guys don’t see is that each individual has a different definition of any concept, including alpha. Alpha for humans is red pill mgtow moronic lingo, it isn’t a fact of biology. Alpha and beta exist in animals, and no humans aren’t not just animals. You guys are just animals, and obsessing about alpha is monkey behavior.
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Lift if you like, ‘learn game’, but don’t expect me to think you’re alpha because of that...
Lambdal7 5y ago
That’s only true for half of women who are not completely helpless women with zero self-control. Half of women are like this though, but not all.
Seagram7 5y ago
As much RP posts and theory I have read, this is the one big thing I could never understand, I just accept it: her vag tingles are everything to her. It's like that movie Eyes Wide Shut when the main guy's wife confessed in a drug induced haze that she saw two men in uniform in the lobby of a hotel and the desire to fuck them was so bad, that she was willing to destroy her marriage, her kid, everything just to fuck those two guys.
But this also reminds me of a real life news story of that Female Astronaut that was also a very high rank in the Navy. She had a husband and three kids. She was fucking her Chad mission commander. Chad dumps her for hotter, and younger. So she drives nonstop from Houston to Orlando wearing an adult diaper so she wouldn't have to pull over to intercept the girl and her story was to try to scare her with a knife. Miss Astronaut got caught attempting to kidnap Miss Stacey and gets arrested.
I like the mugshot of her and you can see it in her eyes, the madness in her brain of vag tingles are gone and reality is setting in of how much she fucked up her life.
RealMcGonzo 5y ago
Guy's own fucking parents were calling him up, telling him to take the bitch back. Dayum. My parents would get an earful if they tried that.
KeffirLime 5y ago
Points strongly towards the feminization of society.
The instinctive action is to protect the women and remove consequences for her actions, even by the victims own parents.
Older societies would have had her parents wrecking her for dishonoring their family name, while his parents would encourage a swift separation.
loloLogic 5y ago
I know I wouldn't be above telling mine to get fucked in that situation.
DramaticGolf 5y ago
idk if op's parents are asian, apparently they're in HK but i wouldnt be surprised. It's a whole different breed of insane mothers and beat down emotionally drained fathers who give terrible advice out there
TheTrenTrannyTrain 5y ago
Living in Asian and I agree. OP's parents are probably holding their breaths waiting for a grand kid to pop out of OP's ex. They only care about what they want and not what OP wants.
majaka1234 5y ago
This. Fucking horrendous toxic society when it comes to parental relationships.
Heard this uttered by a mother who sends her 7 year old to piano class, ballet class, Chinese class, drawing class and an expensive international school and who has a second house closer to school specifically to reduce commute time... After her daughter brought home a B+ because she's a fucking 7 year old dying from stress:
"now how am I going to compete with the other moms?!"
They don't give a shiiiiiiiiit.
Atheist_Utopia 5y ago
I was born in China myself with chinese parents and this is so true. Parental narcissism is both nurture and nature, but in asia this is just culture. It brings out the worst in parents.
420KUSHBUSH 5y ago
oh yeah absolutely, perhaps stems from their culture being more dependent and intertwined with others
omega_dawg93 5y ago
this is true... had an Asian gf years ago.
if her mom likes you, you're a god... and mom will TELL her to stay with you no matter how shitty you act or treat her.
asian women (usually) take being faithful to a whole new level.
as for the Asian guys, her brothers were absolute haters that couldn't get pussy if it was knocking on their door.
DramaticGolf 5y ago
i'm the guy you replied to and i'm an asian guy. i've dated white girls and had my fair share of white guys who were haters. it goes both ways bud
omega_dawg93 5y ago
i didn't say it didn't go both ways. haters come in every shade.
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SilenceOnTheWire 5y ago
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How can you say she isn't rational or smart? Seriously?
I haven't read the original linked post but assuming she gets together with Chad, Billy is still going to be there for her. She doesn't lose anything. Quite the contrary, she gets exactly what she wants.
PlsbptntIhavAutism 5y ago
But she won't have time to be a good girlfriend and cook and clean and have sex with him, she's too busy studying for med school.
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Tee hee.
Mr7FootCock 5y ago
Sounds like he dated a whore but only realised after 7+ years.
As other high IQ individuals have pointed out here, you never invest so heavily into a woman. If the investment isn't an equal 50/50(it never is), don't go over it, always balance it out e.g. if you are paying the rent, is she paying the electricity, water and other bills amounting to a similar amount? No? Then she better be waking you up with michelin star blowjobs every morning and cooking you wonderful meals everyday. Input === Output
Vraboxin 5y ago
Learn to revel in their irrationality, or die?
Why not simply leave if one is not willing to revel in women's irrationality?
clausternn 5y ago
Figure of speech mate. By all means give up on women if you want. But if you don't want to, well you only have one other choice.
poopdeck 5y ago
If you don't revel you'll die bro you heard it first. do you even lift frames bro?
Vraboxin 5y ago
I don't care about women at all. Wasting my time in dealing with their irrationality is like submitting to a game rigged against me.
I'd rather just leave and let them bitch at some other guy who is willing to listen to their nonsense.
Sirkisskindofman 5y ago
Good for you! Door's on the left, sir. Please make sure you have all of your belongings and that you didn't leave anything behind. Have a wonderful day! ????
Vraboxin 5y ago
You're encouraging me to unsub because I don't desire female validation..?
Isn't the red pill community about becoming the best man you can be for yourself?
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Vraboxin 5y ago
Benefiting a woman by transforming your entire being for her in the hopes of being able to experience happy feels whenever she calls you a 'good boy' and making that your lifestyle.
Isn't that the essence of being blue-pilled?
CainPrice 5y ago
If women don't want to fuck you, you're not the best anything.
Vraboxin 5y ago
Why does a woman's validation determine your manhood and not your male self?
Frontestgecko 5y ago
Here’s a good breakdown of this:
https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwiVyYKy_bzhAhXEvJ4KHWwoDWMQzPwBegQIARAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Ftherationalmale.com%2F2018%2F12%2F21%2Flittle-big-head%2F&psig=AOvVaw27dj4FYWl2QZmQkyhk_NWq&ust=1554692062066755
Thynome 5y ago
These guys are the reason we are quarantined. They don't understand it at all...
The Red Pill is about improving yourself (physically and mentally) for the sake of yourself. Becoming more successfull with women may be byproduct of that, but it's not the main goal here.
Vraboxin 5y ago
I agree whole-heartedly!
Being red-pilled simply means you understand female nature and the gynocentric society. It's knowledge you can use to your advantage.
Possessing red-pilled knowledge doesn't automatically excuse one from being a simp, the right actions do.
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From the literal introduction in the "new here" section of the sidebar:
One of these things is not like the other.
CainPrice 5y ago
Because if nobody is fucking you, paying you, or rushing to be your friend, all you're doing is spinning your wheels, reveling in self satisfaction about how true to yourself you're being while you waste away not mattering at all.
You can do better than that. You owe yourself better than mental masturbation and wasting your life being worthless while pretending you don't care.
Vraboxin 5y ago
So what I'm getting out of your argument is that internal validation isn't worth pursuing because external validation is worth more?
What if an individual is genuinely happy with not getting laid because of how little value it has to him?
And I'm unsure why you brought up getting paid or having friends. I don't see what that has to do with female validation.
TheRoosterDentist 5y ago
Don’t argue with a beta dude not worth the time
CainPrice 5y ago
By that logic, you might as well be a cheeto-crusted video gamer living with your mom as long as you're happy.
If women aren't fucking you, you're not as valuable as someone women want to fuck. Sorry, dude. You live and die by the judgments of others. Other people determine whether you get laid, whether you have friends or relationships, whether you get hired or promoted, whether you get clients or customers.
If women literally don't want to fuck you, pretending that's your choice doesn't hide the fact that you suck.
[deleted] 5y ago
Why the fuck are you guys downvoting this? Fucking seriously? If you don't believe this to be true, why the fuck even come to this sub? I mean, this is TRP 101. Hell, this is remedial TRP.
Vraboxin 5y ago
I'm of the opinion that believing that a woman's good opinion of you, validates your masculinity, is blue-pill 101.
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One more try.....women spreading their legs for you when provisioning is off the table is the ultimate validation of your masculinity.
Vraboxin 5y ago
That's one of the most blue-pilled things I've ever heard in my life. Men determine what's masculine, not women.
Women's definition of masculinity is simply shaming you into their submission with "Man up, do the right thing, stop complaining, be a real man" etc..
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Alirei 5y ago
What I find the most fascinating, if it's true, is that after making what seems to be the first manly choice of his life in packing her stuff and kicking her out, his family immediately turns on him. His flesh and blood literally tells him to take back a woman who knowingly cheated on him. It wasn't an accident, it wasn't a mistake, it was a deliberate decision, she knew what she was doing and her only actual screw up in this story was leaving WhatsApp open.
Here we observe the "Catch 22, Family Resentment Edition." As described, the choices are to take that cheating hoe back and cuck yourself; or begin uncucking yourself and stick to your guns, but in the process be hounded by your relatives. Poor sod is looking for validation from one of the most cucked platforms on the internet, might not know anyone unbiased enough to ask for the right thing to do. What a position to be in.
gabeangelo 5y ago
You think he's a beta because he paid for her and got cheated on? Did you read how he expulsed her out of her life, no questions asked with a single swoop? Not so beta, bro.
hearse223 5y ago
I think hes beta because he paid for her in the first place, even if he wasnt getting cheated on shes not a child why is she so dependant on him? He should have dropped her ass and found an equal partner.
gabeangelo 5y ago
An equal partner can be a woman who is poor but is willing to reach your level of education and financial level, even when you pay for it. Too bad she was too stupid to not appreciate the ticket.
Besides, you just can't say someone is "beta" for paying. His attitude on the issue and how he handled it was alpha as fuck.
CainPrice 5y ago
This is a huge mental shift for most men. Because most men think about a relationship as an "investment".
If you're with a woman for 7 years, then you think you're "investing" time, money, attention, and so on into this woman and your relationship with her. And when you "invest", you tend to think about it like money in the bank. Like you're building up equity in your relationship and like everything you've invested over the years has value.
This is not how women see relationships. It's really not how relationships work at all. It's how men wish relationships worked, and how things ought to work in a just and rational and logical world.
But that's not how life works. Not with women, not with your boss, not even with most of your friends. Investing in your relationship with someone doesn't mean that he or she owes you for your investment.
"Investing" in your relationship doesn't buy you tomorrow. It's the cost you're paying for today, right now. And once you've paid the cost and you've received today, this moment, she doesn't owe you anything. If you think that a place to live, food, and medical school tuition is too high of a cost for this one moment, today with a woman, but you pay it anyway, that's your own fault. Because you're only buying today, this minute. You're not buying tomorrow.
Relationships aren't really an "investment". They're more of a purchase. You want to pay as little as possible to buy her today. To buy her moment right now. Because if you pay her extra, that's not buying tomorrow for you. That's just giving her a good tip.
Tomorrow, if she feels it for someone else, like a light switch, everything you've done with her for the past however many years becomes meaningless. She'll throw it away in a single moment if that other guy is more attractive to her and is paying her price to buy today from her. And when you cock an eyebrow over how little he had to pay, maybe you learn that all you really had to do was buy today and not try to make her feel like she owed you tomorrow as well. Women hate feeling like they owe you. That makes them act out.
clausternn 5y ago
You invest in yourself, and you reap the rewards in those relationships. Be them with plates, your LTR, your boss, your clients.
25russianbear25 5y ago
This is why ive always been investing im myself first. No use throwing money at random people hoping one will stick (not that i had money to begin with).
Anyone who cares about me will meet me half way and make equal sacrifices.
_Tactleneck_ 5y ago
The tip analogy was a refreshing perspective. You feel like you’re building equity, but you’re not. This needs to be preached louder.
FineCopy2 5y ago
Oh boy. Only if I had read this 5 years ago I would have made my life so much better. After 5 years of relationship and break up all I could think of was the "investment" I put in the girl. Even more than the regret of loosing her, I felt worse about the investment I put. This was before I found out about red pill. Thanks for the solid perspective man. Never gonna happen again
Compeliminator 5y ago
you can do everything for them you can imagine or concentrate completely on yourself and use her when its convinient. odds are she will stay with you longer in the second scenario but most of all you will save boatloads of cash and aggrivation. fuck women then FUCK women
DreamExpedite 5y ago
Fuck yes man. Because I was getting kinda obsessed with my girlfriend AFTER I'd cheated (wtf right) and then she, rationally, had started to cut me off. And then after like a week I realized nobody owes you any fucking thing. They might BELIEVE that they owe you but that's all. That also extrapolated over to my best friend, with whom I'd cheated on my girlfriend and then I'd also started to become obsessed with her (see a pattern here ?). And this applied over to SO MANY things. Once I realized and really internalized that nobody fucking owes my anything, not even my own mother, anything that anyone ever did for me became a source of gratitude and anything that anyone DIDN'T do, became meh. This one principle has transformed my year. And I hope I can internalize much of the other stuff I'm learning here and elsewhere rather than just remember/learn it. Thanks man! And have a great Sunday.
Yashugan00 5y ago
Briffault's Law is universal
aherrns 5y ago
Anyhow, the only person you can invest on is yourself.
TheDevilsAdvokaat 5y ago
This is a great post. As you say, men think they're "investing" in the relationship.
But women just think you're maintaining it. When the time comes to leave, they will do so in an instant. And your investment? Why, you owed them that money and food and time just for the privilege of her company, she thinks. So you "invested" nothing as far as she is concerned; all you did was pay the upkeep for her presence in your life. Because she is valuable, whereas you are just a man. Therefore in her mind she owes you nothing - instead of being upset she is leaving, she may expect you to be grateful for whatever time she gave you!
RealMcGonzo 5y ago
From her perspective, she's right. If she's leaving, then she is swinging to a higher branch - or thinks she is, anyway. So you actually did owe her more since she can do better than you. Of course, women swing to a higher branch then discover it doesn't hold - Chad's just down for some fuckin'. Then she falls and this metaphor gets tortured to death.
Cazken 5y ago
Pretty sure I read this somewhere just rephrased
zyqkvx 5y ago
He did make a point that Briffault's Law works because men see women as an investment. My correlation.. your investment in a woman should not exceed the value she can offer in return EXCLUSIVELY IN THE PRESENT. Sounds like something a Bad Boy would believe.
You could construct a male-version mirror image of Briffault's law..
example:
The amount of resources given to a woman should not exceed the present utility of said woman.
If there is an amount of time between giving a woman resources and when woman bares her utility, that amount of time should be in relation to how much you trust her to bare her utility (pretty much 0. Extremely little or no time / extremely little or no trust)
Conclusion:
Briffaults Law works both ways; men can do the same. Men suck at it, are way behind. Women are far ahead of us, mastered it eons ago.
Added hypothesis: A Bad Boy is merely the male equivalent of a hypergamous woman with game, except the pay off is sex (and other perks) instead of resources (and other perks)
BlindingTwilight 5y ago
In other words they are all whores
omega_dawg93 5y ago
as i've read on reddit:
"all women are sluts... with the exception of your sister (out of ignorance) and your mother (out of respect)."
no matter what YOU think of them, there's a guy somewhere that's tired of fucking her... and that same guy can get ALL of her body with zero investment besides his hard cock and 45 min.
don't 'kill' yourself trying to impress any woman.
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Hjalmbere 5y ago
Read the post. The dude spent 7 years in a relationship and invested his most valuable commodity, his own time, but you can’t treat relationships like property investments. That fixer upper where you spent time and money to rebuild the kitchen will not run off with Chad. Always be prepared to walk out on a woman on a short notice.
therapistGetsSocial 5y ago
"reread the sidebar..."
Let me save you the time: ...
a) if you want women to want your genes, lifting and muscles.
b) if you want women to want your money, don't go to the gym, make money.
In these modern days lifting and making money are not that compatible, so in general you'll have to choose.
I'd go for a), since betas will provide for my children.
clausternn 5y ago
You only need 6, at most 10 hours per week of investment to lift and build muscle. Then you need to do that for over a year. But the point is, you have another 102 waking hours every week to spend making money and managing your girls.
Making money is important too, you just shouldn't spend it on fancy dinners and flower bouquets for your girlfriend, of course.
Black_Jesup 5y ago
I would love to read the comments on the OP. Is the guy being supported or ripped for his actions?
DramaticGolf 5y ago
surprisingly supported especially consider that subreddit's riddled with doing anything to say women are the best
gabeangelo 5y ago
Not at all surprising when it comes to cheating. The AITA subreddit is full of very rational and objective people with great down to earth advice.
Gearski 5y ago
I've seen otherwise, although I don't frequent the sub just see some of the stuff that gets posted here.
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I dodged it, but am curious. I also wonder if it's a plant. I mean, the story is.....just so.
Edit: Brand new throwaway account....he seems sincere, but it's hard to tell.
SterlingMace 5y ago
Well even if it's a fictional story, it has probably happened just like this many times before.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
Someone out there could use the whole discussion as a reference.
SemperPrimus 5y ago
I do hope she has to drop out of medical school because of that. That would be fucking sweet.
KeffirLime 5y ago
You'd assume a woman studying medicine was fairly intelligent and therefore would make intelligent decisions, but this doesn't ring true, it's a common societal fallacy.
It doesn't make a difference weathers she's a nuclear physicist or a waitress, her emotions will always rule.
aherrns 5y ago
I hate the fact that she complained to both, her parents AND HIS. And that they minimize the fact he was going to marry a whore.
Don_Himself 5y ago
women will run to an ex for sex because A) he may be more alpha in her eyes now that he broke up with her (they always do) and B) she doesnt run up her body count - comfort + low risk.
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every single woman you meet is an Alpha Widow yearning to have sex with an asshole ex. she is never yours, ever, even if youre a famous celebrity (see katy perry STILL thinking about some HS ex who married someone hotter than her - google story)
SeasonedRP 5y ago
Billy just may be learning. I like how he changed the lock, boxed her things, and put them outside.
O--- 5y ago
Yes, hardcore. My appreciation for him jumped up at that paragraph.
ZeppKfw 5y ago
I think if not for the bluepill conditioning that asian families put into their children, he would've been better off.
ideserveall 5y ago
She was cheating on him the entire time. Billy was just a means to an end to finance her studies. I hope he learned from it, but i doubt it.
IV78 5y ago
I saw a cartoon once. A sexy girl was in bed with a regular looking guy, both smoking cigs, dreamy smiles on their faces, clearly right after sex, a nurses uniform and doc's scope were on the floor. His thought bubble said something like "She'll be an MD soon and not only will that save us a bunch of money in tuition, we'll be living like kings between the two of us."
Her thought bubble read "I'll be an MD soon, if I play my cards right, this is the last time I have to sleep with this pig."
TheDevilsAdvokaat 5y ago
Me too. Good for him.
The other thing is, he needs to tell her parents to fuck off, and he needs to have words with his own parents too. Where do they get off supporting her against him? What's wrong with them?
I'd be asking them to support me instead. And if they didn't, then next time they'd be getting cut off as well.
p3n1x 5y ago
Mom runs the show. Mom understands female desires. Mom knows the Billy Beta Provider she raised. Mom more than likely cheated on dad. Mom is empathetic to the shit that poor little girlfriend must have to deal with.
Mom = AWALT, and she is in charge.
KeffirLime 5y ago
In all honesty I've seen this play out a thousand times. In the moment he's angry so makes a strong reaction, but a man so deep in it, so beta will probably be swayed into giving her "another chance".
Her parents will push for it, his parents will push for it, their friends will push for it. Eventually he'll be coerced into thinking he's over reacting and that he's being the bad guy in the situation.
He has zero abundance mentality, and he's invested seven years into this, so getting no return out of it would be too soul destroying.
When he's done boasting about his bold displays on reddit he'll probably take her back and it will be worse. He'll have set a terrible precedent of zero consequence in his relationship.
Churningaway 5y ago
This. It takes a certain kind of man to become redpill. You have to be able to put aside your own Ego, be a knowledge seeker, and be able to admit you were wrong in the past to be able to accept the truth going forward.
To me the above is less than 1/1000 men
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organicfluxx 5y ago
Why are his parents trying to fuck him up?
Scorptice 5y ago
It's an ongoing loop of beta conditioning. His parents are betas raised by betas raised by betas raised by betas... they just don't know better.
morehumblethanyou 5y ago
In their eyes, he’s also throwing away an easy shot at a family of his own and grandkids for them.
RedPillFreedom 5y ago
I think it's the grandparents syndrome where they don't care about anything besides potential grandkids. I noticed my mom does this and will quickly overlook women's flaws but of course will not deny a man should have this this and that and be capable of such and such duties.
dr_warlock 5y ago
A moms job is to make sure her son survives, not thrive. To create grandchildren. Not be a self made man with power and get attractive women. Betas dont cause trouble and get by just fine. Theres only competition in the pursuit of higher ambitions. Thats her priority, the safe guranteed way.
RichKingOfBangmar 5y ago
That doesn't make sense here. He's their son. If he's cucked, they're grand-cucked. Those would not be their grandchildren.
organicfluxx 5y ago
Good point. I see this too.
p3n1x 5y ago
Grandchildren, settle down, do the right thing, blah blah blah. Do you assume mom and dad are "happily married"? Misery loves company.
And last, don't worry about why, blame in this situation is a waste of your energy and health. Accept that parents will be parents and in the parent's eye they are giving the appropriate advice.
organicfluxx 5y ago
I see this in my real life too, this isn't something I can just ignore, but you and others have a explained it well to me.
SilenceOnTheWire 5y ago
From my experience, Billy most likely has a narcissistic mother and a simping enabling father. Mommy knows Stacy doesn't threaten her and that she will keep hurting Billy, and every time Billy is hurt he will come crying back to her. The father enables all this because misery loves company and because he doesn't want to see his son succeeding where he failed.
Of course I'm making assumptions, but this is a very likely scenario.
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p3n1x 5y ago
Sure, there are some deadbeat dads out there, but I have never met a father that didn't want his son to be a better version. Most of the generalized 'alcoholic' type abusers aren't "beta" in their own home. They speak with their fists.
Just because dad may not wear the pants with his wife, doesn't mean he wants bitter salty things for his son. That is some fucking ignorant ass reasoning you just blurted out and not backed by any researched material.
SilenceOnTheWire 5y ago
The researched material is my personal experience.
Good for you. I've met more than I cared to.
I wasn't talking about alcoholics by the way, just simps in general.
p3n1x 5y ago
Can you provide more than the "eye test" though (avoid the association fallacy)? Where are you that you run across a majority of fathers that resent their son's success?
SilenceOnTheWire 5y ago
I never said it was a majority. Look up the dynamics of narcissistic families.
Synthetic_Citizen 5y ago
My father is an extreme form of this and his brothers and sisters are the same although not as bad. The worst I remember is how he would down play and ridicule anything I achieved, I was never allowed to have pride in my accomplishments and I still am not. He can't even hide his jealousy and resentment at anything I achieve, his face completely betrays his disgust.
Point is he is the way he is because his father did it to him and his siblings, and they do it to their kids. The cycle is clear and self evident. Go and do a little research on narcissistic parents and how they brow beat and bully their kids in order to maintain control over them. The information is free and open source, the amount of documented proof is gigantic, if you don't want to believe it that is your prerogative. I am simply informing, not attempting to convince.
Narcissists have extremely low self esteem due to being bullied and put down by their closest role models during childhood. They cannot stand for other people to be happy and emotionally stable, they can only increase their own emotional stability by putting down and destroying those who are already emotionally stable and happy.
The only relation ship they are comfortable in is a parasitic one, they are emotional vampires. Spouse, son, daughter, sibling, parent or friend it makes no difference, the relationship can not ever be anything more than that of host and parasite, and their main source of sustinence is those who care for them the most, those who they are closest to.
The red pill was easy for me to swallow, I was always aware of the world that existed covertly under all the feel good fluff and pretense, my father made damn sure of it. The elephant in the room is my friend and sometimes I laugh at people when the deny the obvious in favor of feel good pipe dreams. I suppose it's made me mentally strong yes, but it was hell. I'm so fucking afraid of having kids because I'm so scared ill do the same to them.
Anyway, it happens buddy, and more often than you think. Usually nobody knows the narcissist for the abusive sick bastards they are but those they torment, the put on a very convincing show. Be glad you do not know the wrath of narcissistic parents or close friends and family members.
p3n1x 5y ago
I was specifically asking about the father comment. Many of the guys here are dealing with the narcissistic/bully Mothers coupled with a father that doesn't run the household.
In my scenario, my dad did everything to the limitation of his capabilities to make sure I had every opportunity to "get the fuck out" and never walk in his shoes. My mom was the "never impressed" ball buster.
I can totally explain why my mom pushed for marriage after an ex cheated. I honestly thought you were making a bitter comment about weak dads, I never really gave it thought that the beta could be the bully also.
Synthetic_Citizen 5y ago
Your mum pushed you to get married to a girl who cheated on you? Now that's what I call a cunt.
VivekPC 5y ago
To play the role of a provider is to literally sign a contract to get cucked. Men really need to wake up.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
Exactly. Why provide when you can use all of those money for your self? Build your own gym if you are lazy as fuck, buy supplements, even go as far as performing cosmetic surgery just to make you more confident, buy a decent car and get more pussy than committing to one woman who can branch swing any time.
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Mr7FootCock 5y ago
You are naive. She would have dumped him as soon as her uni fees were payed off. She never would have married him and following your advice, OP would have just been become more poor
Whatdoin27 5y ago
Well, that depends on how dumb the chick is. Given this time, she did leave the WhatsApp on. I mean if you're going to cheat, erase your tracks man. It's not that difficult.
jamesistheman7 5y ago
Commitment in general is for betas
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chacalate-smoovie 5y ago
Many women aren't rational, and many men aren't either, if you look at the number of men who cheat on their partners.
Ultimately it comes down to your desires. Do you give into them? Yes or no?
Let's do a man test. You and your long-term partner haven't been having a lot of sex lately, maybe the last time you did it was a month ago, perhaps more. You've got a solid relationship. But at work there's this young hot new employee and she's really into you; she comes into work wearing a hot little black dress, and starts pulling you into a meeting room, closes the door, and wants you. What are you going to do?
Truth is temptation is temptation. And temptation vs logic is an eternal battle. Men turn into monks to avoid temptation figuring that is easier than fighting their own logic.
So yeah, you can be the "temptress" by lifting your game, becoming "alpha" or whatever, and get all the girls to cheat on their partners with you. Great. Is that what you want? Just sex?
RichKingOfBangmar 5y ago
Cheating is not irrational in the least for a man. He's able to potentially get a free baby out of it, particularly if she's coupled with someone else, if they don't get caught.
This is irrational behavior for a woman because she is (typically) dependent on a man to provide for her and risks losing that just to scam her provider.
Duelist_Roger 5y ago
I kind of see this OP mindset. We before swallowing a pill are so brain-washed, that we think that being a GOOD MAN is enough. Not being GOOD AT BEING A MAN, but just being a person what can be dependable, caring, nurturing, honest etc.
Thats a complete bullshit.
I laugh at myself thinking back when I was GOOD guy. At least I had a rule, that I will not spend on a woman more than she spends on me (Cus I knew, that It would mean being a provider and she would use me). So my GFs/female friends even when I was fcking pussy spend more money on me than I was on them.
Send OP link to RP. Maybe he would be saved (y).
RPSilverfox 5y ago
Another lesson fellas: never get married and never move in with any girl.
InformalCriticism 5y ago
I'd caution romanticizing the last century of socially enforced monogamy. Female nature hasn't changed, but the social culture around it has. Whereas an affair that produces offspring in the past might have gone unnoticed, because education about genetics, and the ease with which people can be caught cheating (case in point, he accidentally discovered her slutting around), it went unseen.
It certainly helps when society is on the side of upright moral behavior, but it did nothing to female nature. Now we are just keenly aware of it, and it makes the women of the past look like saints, when there's very little evidence, and plenty to the contrary to suggest it was ever so.
RichKingOfBangmar 5y ago
We actually can defeat female infidelity now. If we were to institute a patriarchy, paternity testing would just be one more cost of having a baby. If the baby's not yours, she's not your wife anymore.
GirlsHateMtgplayers 5y ago
I hope some of you guys reading this went there and commented to let him know he did the right thing.
I know as a man, you're supposed to transcend external validation. But this is Billy Beta, making the first baby steps toward manhood. Hes not getting support from his parents, so he might as well get it from us.
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ratpoison987 5y ago
I read this post too.
Was red flag city.
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I tend to avoid posts on female irrationality because it often implies male rationality, but this one is just so obvious. I mean, yeah....of all the moves available to her, fucking another guy was one of the few that would have been a deal breaker. Your analysis of the game between these two is spot on, in my opinion.
canadianentman 5y ago
Focus on your own financial goals first with woman out of the equation. You can be a bum, loser, and criminal and still be deemed to have 'alpha traits' that attract woman yet the rest of your life is a reck. Monetary gain is the only recorded value that contemporary society runs off, the rest is wishy-washy spiritual bullshit.
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Think beyond your donger, or stay a closed minded monkey. Your only rival is your own mentality, not women which are a waste of time.
Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
So why get money and finances in order and support the fucked up society if its irrelevant to getting women? I've known guys who didn't have a dime to their name but women would let them live in their expensive downtown condos, drive their car and would pay for their shit and all the guy did was give them dick and cheat.
Sounds like a much better lifestyle then slaving away making money.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
You don't have to slave away in order to make money.
Rimefang 5y ago
If anything, get money to do whatever the fuck you wanna do. Go eat some tasty food. Go to a concert. Travel. Buy some legos.
I know I would.
volvostupidshit 5y ago
Heck you can even perform cosmetic surgery to enhance your features and get more girls. That would be more satisfying than investing on a single girl and finding out later that she is AWALT. Always invest on yourself folks, let them go if they try to manipulate you into investing on them.
Mr7FootCock 5y ago
Very good advice friend. Money improves your quality of life more than any other factor
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byronshadow 5y ago
He's lucky he's not in the USA. She'd have a case for illegal eviction. People have had to go to court to get rid of house guests who just needed "a few weeks" to "get back on their feet" and then refused to leave.
First, social media really is poison. Second, if sex really is just a fun hobby and not an intense bonding experience, why do people keep falling into bed with exes? A woman from my work started banging her high school boyfriend after reconnecting on Facebook. And this was a 50ish year old woman, Baptist, and Republican, not exactly the stereotypical adulteress profile...
I get her parents not wanting their daughter to lose her meal ticket, but you'd think his parents would want the slut gone. From a primal point of view, could you be sure that your grandkids were really yours?
areq13 5y ago
AWALT. That's the demographic which has the highest divorce rate.
360_no_scope_upvote 5y ago
Some parents are fucked in the head and just want Grand children they don't care beyond that
It_just_got_Worse 5y ago
Those parents are old school, plain and simple. This is the new age tho.
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Here we go again .. "learn to lift". It would be the day that the same old tune isn't slipped into every single post on this subreddit.
The times in my life where I was banging 10 or 12 new women per month and had 4-6 plates at any given time, I didn't lift at all. Didn't have the time because I was either at work, banging a chick, or going on that first date before moving her to the beach or my place. There was no time at all to lift when you constantly had women around you. This is why I call BS on the lifting thing.
The times where I was aesthetic, V taper, low body fat, it was literally a part time job. Dieting, planning meals, lifting, cardio, etc. the time you have to spend plates exponentially goes down. I don't buy the BS advice because in the real world this isn't how it works.
The kid in high school and college who has all the free time in the world can probably lift and spin plates, but most of us are past the age of 22.