Note: I wrote up this Field Report back in early December of last year but didn't have enough karma to post it here until now. It's quite long at roughly 3600 words.
In this FR, I have identified things that I have learned since finding TRP that I would not have known to do before and am certain made the difference. Many of them are from posts from here on TRP. I have bolded these principles. Also, I have placed my thoughts at certain points in parentheses. Without further ado, my Field Report.
Edit: added the list of principles to the bottom of the post. Explanations of many of these can be found here on TRP, just search for the posts or Google the topics.
Edit 2: Removed ego defense to note before the post.
Matching and Messages
A week ago I matched with an HB8 19yo on Tinder. Let's call her Anna. She responds after a few days, and I responded a day or two later. We engage in some banter for only a few messages before I move on to logistics and set a date.
Don't become her pen pal She then tries to pull me into her frame by asking why I don't plan on doing things like texting her good morning between now and the date. I hold frame and tell her I'm not into messaging much, and that I'll let her know the day/time once I've decided. She tries again to pull me into her frame by saying that not many girls will just meet up with a guy from Tinder; I could be a rapist, blah blah, blah. I flip it on her and say she could be a 250 lb man rapist named "Bubba" for all I know. She tells me she'll give me her number, but says it's up to me whether or not I text her.
I send her a text letting her know it's me. She again, tries to pull me into her frame by asking about my day (seeing if I'll finally start being a good pen pal). I respond with "About 24 hours long", and tell her that I'm just making sure the number is good and that I'll give her a call with the date and time once I've decided. She tells me "Okay, have a goodnight" (she’s persistent with trying to see if I'll cave into doing things I said I don’t do and seeing if I will respond with a "goodnight"). I then jokingly tell her not to tell me what to do. (Kinda risky since jokes are easily misinterpreted over text, but my jokes had been landing so far, so I wasn't too worried) I give her a call a few days later. She answers and I give her the details, but she then backpedals, saying she doesn't want to come to my city for personal reasons and that she wants to wait until the date to tell me about them.
I go with my backup location and she tells me her car is down, so she'll need a ride. (Cool, now I don't have to worry as much about the odds of her flaking and wasting my time). She sends me her address and I end the conversation.
Date and Her Place
The day of the date comes, and I send her a message letting her know I’ll be a bit late. She asks what she needs to wear, and I tell her flat shoes, and that everything else is optional. (Still not sure whether she got the innuendo so maybe that one landed, maybe it didn't, not too worried either way) I pick her up and we head to the location. She's about 5’1 and 100 lbs with a real nice face, that is actually comparable to her pictures on Tinder (an increasingly rare occurrence thanks to women becoming masters of hiding their unattractive qualities in photos and seeming 1-3 points higher than they really are). She asks me what we’re doing, and I tell her she'll find out (letting her anticipate it, rather than lay everything out for her).
On the way there, I mention that her bio said she liked singing and told her to sing for me. She admitted she was nervous to at first, but worked up the courage to do it (and I gotta say, she was quite good). We get to the date spot a little later than I intended, and it is already dark and getting cold. We get out of my car and she immediately starts taking pictures of Christmas lights that are in the area. She turns around to see me with 2 long boards. She tells me she's not going to try it, but I ignore her and being walking to the path on which I plan to ride. She continues to protest, saying she doesn't know how to ride one. (Good, because I have something for this). I tell her to face away from me, and close her eyes. I start telling her to imagine something, but lightly shove her mid sentence (a chance for some barrier breaking kino) catching her off guard and causing her to take a step forward with her left foot(used later in instruction on how to ride). She turns around laughing and playfully hits me on the shoulder (reciprocated, well). I then begin teaching her the basics of riding, but she's still afraid to get on the board, so I pick her up and place her on the board. She then starts holding on to me while trying to balance (more kino). I eventually get her riding a bit before we agree that it's getting too cold. (also, I make it a point to try to gain her compliance whenever I can throughout the date, rather than always be asking).
I then drive to a gas station and get a hot chocolate and use the drive time to think of something else to do. We start driving around downtown and talking. She mentions that she bets she could pin me in wrestling (yeah right), and that she wants to see if she can (she came up with her plausible deniability for me. That was easy and a good sing. Little did I know, not everything tonight would be this easy. I kinda messed up here, because I hadn't really made it a point to go for the kiss yet. I could tell she was going to be open to it, and sorta rushed it right before we headed out).
We then start heading back to her place. On the way there, the subject of music comes up, and I grant her permission to play what she wants, provided that if I don't like the song, she has to skip it. (Can't just let her have her way with my radio, now can I?) She then starts playing songs that are about getting drunk and smoking weed, and starts talking about how much she likes to do so as well. (I don't smoke or drink, but I don't have any problems with an ONS or plate doing it). I tell her about as much, but that if she smokes, it's got to be where I don’t have to smell it, since I hate the smell. When we get to her place she tries to pin me, but gives up after 30 seconds of not being able to even budge me (I'm only about 155 @5'10, but I have been lifting for a few years and it shows well enough that I didn't even have to dip into any BJJ). I was extremely tempted to use this as as an opportunity escalate this but decided to take my time, because when I had picked her up she mentioned that she recently moved back in with her Mom, and I wasn't sure if she was there and whether or not I would be cock blocked, and also the night was still young.
She puts something on Netflix and starts talking about wanting a drink, but only having Vodka and not having anything to mix it with. She then gets her stash out and starts rolling. (At this point I was pretty sure her Mom wasn’t home). I tell her to smoke it in the kitchen, where I wouldn’t have to smell it. She complied after some initial resistance and I just chilled in the living room while she smoked. (I could tell she was used to having her way with guys, but I held frame and made sure to not let her have her way on things I had already taken a stance on). She finishes smoking and comes back in the living room where we start watching a movie, and I begin work on escalation. (I honestly can't remember at what point in the night she said it, but she told me I was just trying to get my dick wet, and I honestly don't remember the response, but I think it had something to do with me forgetting to bring a condom. Sorry I don't remember the exact response fellas. It was enough to pass though, because the escalation continued).
A little bit into the movie, her Mom walks in, but was pretty chill. Her mom only really stuck around long enough to shower, let Anna know that there was cranberry juice with which to mix the vodka, and then headed out, saying that she would see Anna in the morning. (Later, Anna tells me she knows where her mom was headed, implying her mom was going to go get laid). I start work on escalation again, and a little bit later, she mentions that she wants some cigarettes (She started drinking right about the time her mom left, so of course that followed), and that one of her friends who lives in the same apartment complex owes her money. Anna texts her friend, telling her to bring the money over. We go back to chilling, and her friend shows up (HB5 at best). Anna asks her if she wants to get drunk with her, to which she agrees. I am just about to tell Anna that I'm going to head to the store real quick (condoms), when Anna suggests that I pick her up some cigarettes since I needed to head to the store and gives me some cash(Mind reader, at this point, it's all but certain I'm getting laid). I get back from the store about 20 min later, and Anna sends her friend home after a few minutes of me being back. She then goes into the bedroom and comes back out in some sexy lingerie top, and nothing else. She later went back for some sexy panties to show them off (as women love to do). Recommence escalation. (Alright, this seems to be going quite well). Then, at some point, Anna asks how old I was again, to which I told her to check. She pulls up her Tinder and says, “So many unread messages". (She had been saying things akin to this multiple times throughout the night to simultaneously qualify her by showing how desired she was, while also probing for weakness in my responses. Thus far, I had been either Agree and amplify, ignoring, or occasionally flipping the pressure on her. This girl tested me more than any other girl I've ever met, but I seemed to be on my game pretty well this night, at least so far...)
The Fall
When she said this, I just replied with, "Oh no, the problems of being a girl on Tinder". She then responded with something to the effect of, “I bet you have plenty of experience with the girls on Tinder. Probably one of those guys who likes to only do one night stands with girls. (I state in my bio that I am not looking for a committed relationship. This is where I first tripped up boys. I don't know exactly where, and I don't remember my exact words, but I'll do my best to recount this portion so that some of you may find the faults). I told her that as long as it (sex) is good for both people, I don’t see why one can't allow it to continue to be good. She got up and went back into the room, coming back out with pajama pants over her underwear. (Message received)
She then said she was going to go into the bathroom to smoke, and something to the effect of "seeing if I would even bother still being there when she came back out." I wanted to leave at this point, thinking for sure I had shot myself in the foot. It was only about 8:30, so I decided to at least see if I could turn this around. (I was mostly concerned with seeing if I could, and not necessarily trying for the sake of getting laid. To be honest, I kinda just enjoy a successful pull probably more than the actual lay). I just chilled there on the couch and watched the movie. (I reminded myself to not be attached to an outcome) She came back out a little bit later, and sat on the other couch. I told her to stop pouting and to come sit with me. She resisted at first, but I could tell that this was the real test to determine if I would get up, give up, and leave, or if I could weather the storm that is a woman's emotions.
The Save
I made some call back to a joke I made earlier that night that fit the situation ( again, sorry fellas. i can't remember what it was exactly) and she came and sat next to me. After a bit, I went back to work on escalation, and once I got to the underwear, she mentioned something about it being shark week. I asked her if all of the other guys she had met were pussies and that I don't care (especially because of condoms). She said something pretty great about most guys being afraid to get blood on their swords. I worked the escalation a bit, but this night was a lot of 2 steps forward and 1 step backand was an uphill battle from this point on. This girl reeeeeeaaaallyy liked to cuddle though, so I made sure to make her feel smallduring this, which really wasn't that hard, with her only being 100 lbs. I was still having a bit more trouble escalating since I failed that big test earlier. I could tell she was still open to sex, since she never told me to leave and she was still complying with my commands but it would take some work. (That or she just wanted some company for validation. I decided that since I was already too tired, I wouldn't be making the drive back to my apartment, and would stay the night and just see where I could take this, as the lay wasn't my primary goal, though certainly nice as a possibility). Throughout the night, I refused to admit defeat. I never gave her any impression that I believed the possibility existed that we wouldn't be having sex. I held frame and got her talking about some of the craziest things that ever happened to her to get her to try to qualify herself more by making her seem more interesting, and using the Ben Franklin effect to get her in a mindset of pleasing me, rather than the other way around by telling her to make me som food). This also put her in a better mood, since she was getting to talk about herself (All women love that). While her mood was improving, as was I.
During one of these stories, she brought up her ex cheating on her a few weeks previous and how he still had her dogs, and that she had 2 missed calls from him that night. (She mentioned how it ruined her mood for the night, which made me wonder if what I had said earlier had really been what she was mad about or if she was just looking to see if I could stick it out). I’m kind of just putting this next part here, because it's kinda all through the night, but this was the end of it. Several times this night, she tried to get me to go buy her flowers, telling me about how she "loves the simple things". She was basically implying that flowers would get her panties off. I called her on her bluff each time and stood my ground. The first time she mentioned it, I told her about how I don’t really give gifts in an obligatory manner, but whenever I feel someone could genuinely benefit from the gift due to utility or good timing of a nice gesture. I didn't waiver on this point, and she finally got the message that I stick to my convictions and beliefs, regardless of what others think. She said something again about how she gets attention from a lot of guys and how she has great boobs (which I mentioned earlier when she donned the lingerie, and how she has a small butt) and something to the effect of, "What would I know about getting attention like that?" (I don't really remember, I was extremely sleepy at this point since I'm usually asleep by this time). Due to my sleepy carelessness, I fell for her trap and said something about me getting compliments about my jeans (butt) from women thanks to squats and deadlifts. Do not be overt about women desiring you. It should always be implied by your actions. Then she outright asked me about women that I'd had sex with. I told her that I would not kiss and tell (looking bcak, that's where my response should have stopped and it would have been fine) and that she would never know, which set her off again, and she stormed back into the bedroom from the living room where we were. (At the time, I didn't know what I did wrong here) I was going to leave at this point fellas. I thought I was screwed here, the culmination of all that I had messed up and the calls from her ex, I was sure there was no way my sleepy brain was going to be able to process things it need to pull this one.
I ultimately decided to open the bedroom door, where I saw her lying on the bed with the covers over her head. (She was really acting like a little girl, and I suddenly remembered to treat her as such). I walked in there and pulled the covers off her and just smiled at her. She was pouting again, and I just lied down next to her and held her for a minute. Again, make her feel small, but protected Then I asked her if she was any good at massages and I took my shirt off. She said she wanted some reciprocation to which I replied "I thought reciprocation was implied.”)Ben Franklin effect again get her investing in you by doing things for you) She gets my neck like I asked, and then I took care of her, using it as an opportunity to pull her shirt down and escalate a bit. (I'll be honest, at this point, I was so sleepy, I didn't really care whether it happened or not, and realized I could probably try again in the morning, or the next time since the lay should not be the goal, it is the improving success at gaming women, which will lead to more lays as a side effect. By the time I finished the massage, I could tell we were both too sleepy for proper sex, and turned off the light, and we went to sleep, with a bit of making out first.
The Lay
So I won't go into too much detail here, but had to include it. So after a few hours of sleep, I wake up for no good reason. I wanted to get up and check the time, but just rolled over and held her, trying to go back to sleep. I could tell that she had been woken up by me, but she was playing asleep. I softly gave her a peck on the neck, and she rolled over to face me. I then began kissing her neck more, and she gave up on playing asleep. Let's just say that I proceeded make her panties so wet that when I pulled them off, they were literally soaked and gave her one of the best dickings I have ever given (Thanks Sex God Method). Afterwards, she cleaned up the bed, we cleaned ourselves (shark week), and we went back to sleep. I left the next morning after we were awakened by a call from her aunt asking her to come help with something. If you have made it this far, I commend you. Also, I likely missed a few of the principles I wanted to highlight, so go easy on that part. I've still got a lot to learn, but I am hoping that at least one of you learns something from this and is able to improve from it. Thank you to all the RP brothers whose posts have taken me from where I was, and helped me to where I am. Also, thanks to those of you who actually read all of this and can provide some valuable feedback.
Conclusion
• Don't become her pen pal.
• Let her anticipate the date rather than lay everything out for her.
• I make it a point to try to gain her compliance whenever I can throughout the date, rather than always be asking.
• I held frame and made sure to not let her have her way on things I had already taken a stance on.
• Agree and amplify, ignoring, or occasionally flipping the pressure on her.
• I reminded myself to not be attached to an outcome.
• 2 steps forward and 1 step back
• She never told me to leave and she was still complying with my commands, so she had not completely ruled out sex.
• I never gave her any impression that I believed the possibility existed that we wouldn't be having sex.
• Get her to try to qualify herself more by making her seem more interesting.
• Use the Ben Franklin effect to get her in a mindset of pleasing me, rather than the other way around.
• She was getting to talk about herself (All women love that)
• I stick to my convictions and beliefs, regardless of what others think.
• Do not be overt about women desiring you. It should always be implied by your actions.
• Treat her like a child, or the most responsible teenager in the house.
• Make her feel small.
• The lay should not be the goal, it is the improving success at gaming women, which will lead to more lays as a side effect.
• Read Sex God Method
DamnDirtyApe87 5y ago
Nice read, sticking it out takes alot of patience sometimes.
MagnumBurrito 5y ago
I stopped reading the second she suggested wrestling and you didn't make a move right there.
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Read 2 more sentences and you'll see why.
silent_dominant 5y ago
I think you didn't do enough push-pull and as a result you were pulled into her 2 steps forward, one step back scenario. Other than that, pretty good read. Your date was really good I think
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
I can't disagree with you at all. Push/pull is still a little harder for me to grasp than most aspects. Thanks for the feedback.
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linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Sex God Method is a book. I recommend reading it. It is quite useful.
SensitiveDifficulty7 5y ago
It is very useful. I had only one partner in life before I met my current plate. She always blamed me for being bad in bed and made me feel really bad about myself. I was BP as fuck during the relationship. Writing poems, helping with house, paying for her etc. Eventually found RP... After we break up, I decided to apply RP teachings from the very beginning of any date.
Anyway, I brought my date to my home after first date and I didn't pay for anything. I straight out told her that she is going to be sleeping with the devil tonight.
I teased her for a long time and we headed to bed. I tried to learn her sensitive spots, listened to her breathing etc. while touching her. She was begging for it after a while but I told her that she didn't deserve it yet. The entire time I was degrading her, how she pissed me off during the date and she should never piss off her master again, how I'm going to punish her tonight, how she is going to be my sex slave and come back every day for more. I asked her if she trusts the devil. She said "Yes", then I closed her eyes and tied her hands to bed with a rope. I kept touching her but told her that "I'm bored with you. I think I'll go back to kitchen.", she was begging me to not stop, that she is having the dream night of her life. She started saying "Take me, I want to be your slave. Please.", I told her to be louder. She became louder. I told her to be very loud and scream my name. "MASTER PLEASE FUCK ME. I WANT TO BE YOURS, PLEASE!" Eventually I entered inside her and told her that I'm going to but babies inside her. I asked if she wants boy or a girl. Did some soft choking on her and kept the dirty talk the entire time. "You are going to be my little sex toy and you have nowhere to go. I'm going to come inside you and get you pregnant." Then suddenly, I opened her eyes and switched to romantic sex. I told her to keep eye contact with me while I was doing it slowly. I asked her if she wants to live in my hell. She told me she can stay in this bed forever. She told me how she always dreamed a man like me and a night like this, she kept screaming "Oh my gooood..." etc. I told her that she is going to wake entire city tonight, and she was like "I don't careeeeee..."
I think she came like 4-5 times. Eventually I finished, rolled over and quickly hugged her after those intense emotions. She told me "I know you will just use me and dump me, but there is something strange about you. I feel very happy around you. You are not like other guys. They take me to dates, give me flowers. They even buy me expensive gifts on the first date but I don't feel anything around them." I told her that "I'm not the flower buying kind. I prefer giving my gift in the bed.". She told me "I feel like I'm addicted to you. I just cannot get enough. It was the best sex of my life. I don't even know if I will be able to walk after this." I told her "When you feel like you can walk, go to kitchen and cook me something. I'll take a shower." She cooked for me, did the dishes, cleaned entire apartment, gave me a back massage for an hour. My ex would nag all night long and turn down sex...
She texted me in the morning that she bought a wine and wants to visit me tonight. I told her that "If you behave like a good girl, I may accept you.". She told me she doesn't want to be a good girl, she wants to be my bad kitten tonight etc. It's just crazy...
whiffofass 5y ago
How do you keep it interesting though? Seems kind of impossible to do it any better after that. It's just gonna get boring?
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hazelstein 5y ago
Great POST! good read plus nice effective lesson to be learnt here
TheTastelessBatman 5y ago
Jesus. Too much work. I'm gonna stick to hiring prostitutes.
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Whatever floats your boat and raises your crane.
TheTastelessBatman 5y ago
Nah man, kudos for the FR and the definitely A for the effort.
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Thanks. As time goes on, it seems to get a bit easier, but this night was certainly a major turning point for me.
TheTastelessBatman 5y ago
Congrats man. Wishing you all the best and sending positive vibes your way.
Steve_rebooting 5y ago
BTW, condoms wont help as much with a STI/STD from a dirty tinder hoe when her blood (great transmitter) is getting all over you. Hope you didn't shave down there recently.
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richardbransonbutnot 5y ago
Yea man, don't start your poorly paced and structured wall of text by saying "If you don't like my writing it's you, not my writing"
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
I never said my writing was good. I said it was a long post.
richardbransonbutnot 5y ago
I shouldn't have to break that down.
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
FRs are stories for us guys to swap notes. I see a lot of talk on Reddit about people want TLDRs for long posts and disagree so I prefaced my post with as much. While TLDRs can be nice at times, as I stated before, I don't believe they work well for field reports. Nowhere did I say I'm a good writer.
richardbransonbutnot 5y ago
I get you, but we got a loooot of untranslatable details here. Starting with what I quoted before is literally you saying "This post is readable, and if it's not readable for you it's because you have a short attention span"
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
It is readable for any English speaker. It is not going to win any awards for formatting, nor was that the purpose. I did my best to break this post into themed parts to better identify parts of the story due to its length and nothing more. I'm not writing a theory post here with any abstract concepts that need to be formatted in such a way as to make its content more digestible. I'm telling a long story that has some nuggets in it. I even added a conclusion at the end with a list of these principles to make them easier to find upon later visits to the post thanks to u/Foobyx. I have made my decision and stand by it.
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linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Thanks. It feels good to finally get to post the FR here and get some feedback from you guys. Field reports and constructive feedback on them are some of my favorite parts of TRP.
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linkofinsanity19 5y ago
I see what you mean. It makes sense when you out it like that.
ELMasTurbo 5y ago
Solid field report. Been missing those around here lately.
Kobano 5y ago
As a newcomer, this was a great post. Really appreciate the details and bolding of principles. Thank you for sharing.
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PlebDestroyer 5y ago
Only read about half. Not sure how you didn’t fuck sooner/when she came out in lingerie. I suspect you talk too much. Be more physical. She steps out of her bedroom in lingerie that IS game over.
logicalthinker1 5y ago
They're literally "come fuck me" clothes lol
Foobyx 5y ago
a TLDR is not for short attention span people, but for your potential audience to judge if your topic interest them.
On the form:
you introduction don't state trp principles you will expose
your title say nothing neither
Conclusion: it's impossible to have a quick but solid understanding of your essay. It is pretty long for a reddit post, so you should pay more attention to the form in order to catch your audience.
silent_dominant 5y ago
Those are some solid remarks. You should write a guide on how to write proper essays
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
I see what you're saying. I will add a conclusion paragraph listing the principles covered. However, your definition of a TLDR fits my definition of a title, so let's just agree to disagree there.
hibloodstevia 5y ago
If only these standards of intelligibility were applied to our endorsed contributors.
QuickFlex 5y ago
Why are you on his back? This was a great field report, and there are far worse posts submitted by ECs daily that don’t follow your Nazi guideline.
Foobyx 5y ago
And why are you on my back? You call my guideline "nazi", so you don't have any arguments against them.
These guidelines are an efficient -academic proof- structure for any essay. If you want to express a point, you have to present it properly: it's easier for people to read, they can read fast, they understand better.
QuickFlex 5y ago
His post read perfectly fine to me. Reading comprehension might be low on your side.
Raizzen 5y ago
Yeah me too. I like how thorough he gets with his report barring the exact lines he said, that’s pretty frustrating, but in terms of broad stroke I think he kinda nails it. But what do I know I’m a Reddit noob to begin with.
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linkofinsanity19 5y ago
That's all it was. My set of standards for ONS or plate are vastly different from my standards for LTRs. Also, as I mentioned in the post, I used condoms. I never don't use them.
linkofinsanity19 5y ago
Also, I live in a small town so pretty much all women hot enough to have sex with that stuck around are damaged. The rest went to become someone's unicorn.