Just like most of you, I count myself very fortunate to have found TRP. I wasn't even in a low when I did, I was simply searching the internet for unconventional ideas that would enhance any form of self-help. Found this shortly before it got quarantined, and after being entranced by the few posts I read, I became a lurker.
From a personal standpoint, TRP has enlightened me because it was concisely able to explain interpersonal and intersexual dynamics in a very relatable manner. My growth had many unsolved puzzles, but the more I read the theory, the more I was able to comprehend the underlying reasons behind how certain events unfolded in my life. Like why my high school crush didn’t reciprocate. Or why lifting, reading, and interacting IRL are objectively better than videogaming, masturbating, and taking certain drugs (in my repertoire, that includes alcohol). But that's beside the point. Applying certain aspects of TRP may have contributed a lot for me, but it doesn't mean that the same pieces can be used for someone else’s case.
Especially not when being aware of TRP bears no fruit in a person’s practical life.
Because of my relatively short duration on TRP, I am unable to know whether the difference between “today’s mediocre posts” and “yesterday’s quality posts” are significant. However, I do notice the epidemic of butterflies or, what I like to call “short-cut enthusiasts”, who post regularly on AskTRP for underwhelmingly low-quality questions that, just too often, don’t deserve to be answered. But the closer they look, the less they see. They don’t realize that most of the time, a single action or recommendation cannot save their situation if they don’t internalize the concept itself. Their inability to have a basic understanding will force them to come back with yet shittier questions. Prime examples are:
“How can I be more confident?” or “How can I appear more alpha?”
Rarely is a response more accurate than Andrew Eggelton’s: Confidence is a by-product of knowing your shit. And he’s not talking about rehearsing your words before speaking to women, he’s talking about understanding the nature that builds a good interaction. And the only way to know your shit is by reading the sidebar. By reading TRP recommended books. By acquiring knowledge of it. By understanding it. And occasionally, by lurking.
Admittedly, internalizing is easier when quality posts are writte . Though, if you understand the concepts of TRP, lurking becomes increasingly detrimental with time. Questions are frequently posted, but a large proportion of them become useless. Or as many would coin it, hopelessly beta. And even in cases where quality content gets posted, the tendency of many to mentally masturbate to the belief of their own superior understanding will inhibit any practical progress. They will stay in front of their screen in hope that the ego stroke provided from their knowledge will compensate for the aspects they lack.
I’d like to compare this with many of Ben Shapiro’s followers. Mesmerized by his words and evident charisma, they proudly shun the leftists as if they had made any contribution to his speeches. But they do so specifically because they can hide behind Shapiro’s shadow; they mentally masturbate to his roast fests, thinking that there is a sense of achievement in having another figure standing for their beliefs. Don’t fall into this trap: The Red Pill should not be speaking for you, you should be speaking for yourself.
That is why, for the gentlemen who have hit stagnation in TRP content, it is time to get off AskTRP. To get off TRP. Instead, spend that time implementing what you know into your daily life. Spend that time enhancing your own experiences. Build your life for what you stand for, and you know how to do it better, thanks to TRP.
And when things start to grow out of proportion, come back and re-internalize it. Re-read the content. And when you do, get back to muscle & mental memory. I have yet to embody the Red Pill fully, but part of what I see necessary is to avoid appealing distractions… this subreddit being one of them. Because, ultimately:
The Red Pill serves as a state of mind that should complement your life, not dictate it.
TL;DR Internalize TRP content through reading rather than asking questions. Know your shit, and know what you stand for. If over 90% of the content seems useless, you’ve hit a period of stagnation. To avoid mental jackoffs, get off this subreddit and apply the concepts. Come back only when you find it necessary.
someonesopinion6969 5y ago
Hey Thanks for this reccomending me to check out this post based on my ASKTRP question. lurking becomes increasingly detrimental with time, THIS is what has happened to me. Now at this point, im pretty certain whatever i do. thanks!
INNASKILLZ2K18 5y ago
I agree. Some of the questions are just....I can't even think of the word.
It smacks of people coming to ASKTRP, simply to 'get a girl', or lose their virginity, or satisfy some incel urge. They want a few quick shortcuts, and to attain that 'holy grail' called pussy. I sometimes wish the mods would direct them to rseduction or a pua subreddit. Then, though, they may miss the Red Pill when they eventually are ready for it.
Real self-change, and a massive shift in paradigm is not for the faint of heart. Many on ASKTRP are still in high school, and have no real world experience, yet alone understanding of what internalizing an entirely new paradigm takes.
Sometimes I feel, though, that those who offer shortcuts to these incredibly misguided questions, aren't in fact enabling these poor guys. They are still utterly bluepill. Still chasing validation through women, still using the pedestal, still making sex their ultimate goal. They simply think some redpill tactics will serve their bluepill priorities. They don't seek self-reflection, self exploration, or internal change.
I sometimes think that sub could be heavily modded into something much more effective and serving of the pill.
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wildtimes3 5y ago
Good advice.
It’s like a bulking and cutting cycle. Overload with info - retain 70% - use 50% - figure out where you are deficient - study - apply new concepts - repeat.
Knowledge without practice is useless. Practice without knowledge is dangerous.” — Confucius
buttgoogler 5y ago
I can't stress this enough. Mental masturbation is dangerous for person's growth. As soon as you've hit plateau -- go out and apply shit, because otherwise you'll get lost in theory and eventually burn out.
Great post.
NextBad 5y ago
Your life doesn't begin or end at TRP but there is no time to get off TRP other than when your ready, it make take a day, it may take 10 years. Articles like these are really a disservice to people and only a phenomenal in male communities.
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It's not easy for men, I can't go around saying I'm A man's right activist without getting fired, many men want to be open, but it's a closet just like homosexuals had to live in. Some people are brave enough, but most people who come out are fired, lost of jobs, friends, called a women hater, this is a war, and if your life gets ruined as for as people are concerned it's your fault.
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> The Red Pill serves as a state of mind that should complement your life, not dictate it.
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The Red Pill is the true, it's not a scene, the red pill is saying 2+2=4 , I would say not everyone is cut out to be a public speaker, but you can support Ben, you can vote , you can get involved in the shadows.
Hyper_Sonik 5y ago
Some of the questions on asktrp are so cringe they offend and disgust me.
CharCanDo 5y ago
Men are already trapped in today’s world with its lack of physical demands or true requirements for masculine action - so they lean on their one strongly innate trait to express their masculine drive, their system generation and theorizing. Alone, it is paralyzing.
wildtimes3 5y ago
Paralysis through analysis.
CharCanDo 5y ago
We should be patient with ourselves in getting out of that, and not aggravate it with autistic rage at ourselves. We aren’t only fighting the force of habit in our over analyzing, we’re simultaneously fighting the conditioning that guided us to that habit in the first place.
wildtimes3 5y ago
Agreed but, paralysis through analysis is still a thing.
Get out there.
Hit the wall.
Tear it down!!
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teabagabeartrap 5y ago
I have to say, that I got the feeling, that asking shitty questions is helping in the anger phase.
It doesn't solve anything for you, you still know inside you, that you have to grow and that you are not there yet... maybe not even close... but it helps letting of some steam and then continue forward...
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imho even the shittiest questions are OK to get asked. Answering them without too much mocking and seriously pointing out, what concept is not internalized will help others on the pathway.
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THANKS to all people answering in askTRP, even to my dumbest questions, comments and whatever I did there and here in the past...
AnakinRebornRage 5y ago
You are dead on here. Nobody ask questions in AskTRP they don't already have the answer for or at least a hint at the answer (maybe rarely.) They ask it to vent and maybe have somebody else reaffirm what they already know. While there is nothing inherently wrong with this it can become a crutch which is dangerous. I've been they before and still am to extent so I feel where you're coming from completely but you pretty much hit the nail on the head here,
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Captain_Save_A_Hoe_ 5y ago
Listening to Ben Shapiro is like having a diet on cheap McDonalds burgers. What you really want is self-made burgers with all the high quality ingredients. Cheap burgers give you stomach cancer while homemade burgers are nutritious and tasty. The difference between them is one takes lots of effort while the other does not. This goes for reading books too. When you read Ben Shapiros Logic and Facts you get brain cancer and when you read Julius Evolas Bow and The Club you get educated.