This is part three of a discussion on how young men should go about traveling. If you missed the earlier parts, you can see part one here, and part two here.
I’m considering turning these essays into a small book/guide for young men. So if there is anything you’d like to see included, please let me know.
Where the prior sections focused on preparation and bigger picture stuff, this section will focus on everything that happens from the moment you step on the plane, bound to distant lands.
Flying
Last week a couple of bros voiced their feelings of unease, and even downright fear when it came to flying on an airplane.
Frankly I was shocked. I genuinely thought I was one of the only people who feels like a rubber-kneed pussy every time I get on an aluminum death-tube, quietly preparing to rocket into the air at a thousand miles an hour.
I am living proof that you can overcome this fear. Despite having a massive, crippling terror of flying, I’ve made dozens of trips all across the world—even in some third world countries where they have a pretty fatalistic attitude about airline safety.
As I see it, there are three different ways a man can approach his fear of flying. And really, all fears.
1) The Coward’s approach
Want to take the easy way out? Just take a Xanax. They are pretty easy to get. Just go to your GP and explain the situation honestly. Ask him for a small script of like 5 pills. These aren’t like opiates or anything, where the doctor will freak out and treat you like a junkie the second you mention them. Xanax is an anti-anxiety drug that will make it so that you don’t really care one way or the other whether the plane goes down or not. Take one right when you get to the gate, and by the time you board you will be ready to fall asleep, waking up refreshed at your destination. In my opinion Xanax really isn’t addictive, but some people would disagree, so be careful. It is definitely a friend when crossing the Pacific, but I’ve never had an urge to continue dosing them afterwards.
In a pinch, alcohol can be a substitute for Xanax, but you end up hungover and jetlagged and feeling nauseous by the time you land, so it is in second place for a reason.
2) The Rationalist’s approach
It is possible to rationalize your way out of a fear. The way I do this with flying is by browsing https://flightaware.com/live/ and looking at the swarm of airplanes, in their thousands, in the air at any given minute.
Think about all the flights that happen every day, every second, and how much of a big deal it is when one of them has any sort of problem or malfunction at all.
Seriously, the amount of bad luck it would take you to die on a commercial aircraft is astronomical. Like getting hit by a meteor in your back-yard kind of rare.
3) The Viking’s approach
Vikings used to congratulate each other on their fears. Why? Because having a fear meant that you had the chance to grow as a man as you wrestled said fear to the ground, hog tied it, and fucked it to death.
Sometimes, it is helpful to just embrace your fear. Feel it as deeply and as completely as you can, and then do the damn thing anyway. This is an opportunity for growth.
Listen to some pump-up music, white knuckle those fucking armrests, and remind yourself what a badass you are for overcoming your fear, for doing what you were afraid of.
This is true for any of your fears, not just flying.
Moving on….
Grab cash at the airport
You’ve made it. What’s the first step? This might not be the absolute best way of doing things, but I tend to just bring American cash wherever I go and then convert 3-4 days of expenses when I land at the airport. These days I’ve started to lean more towards credit cards for big things (Hostels, tours, nice restaurants), because my card has as security chip that is supposed to work in most countries. However, you need to realize that the world outside of the States there are a lot of places that don’t have credit card machines. Street vendors, some small bars, open markets, buses, that “restaurant” up in the mountains near the Buddhist temple etc. None of these are going to take credit cards. But if you have a debit card with a chip, you can usually find an ATM that will dispense local currency (for a huge fee, sometimes). There is also the issue of not wanting to walk around with a bunch of cash stuffed into your pocket for safety reasons (but this is where bringing your own padlock to the hostel comes in handy). Anyway, just give some thought to how you are going to pay for things before you leave the controlled space of the airport.
Also, some people would suggest that you look at the local SIM cards that they have at the airport, so you can send and receive local calls, and in some places, have access to the internet on your smart phone.
I never do this, because I don’t really want to be staring at my phone as I’m travelling, but it is something to consider when you land. The ladies at the airport phone kiosk will all speak English, and can advise you if you’re unable to live without a smart phone for a week.
Careful for scammers at the airport
So you’ve landed in the Bangkok airport and everyone seems so friendly! All of these women are crawling over themselves to talk to you, and all of these dudes are smiling and chirping at you in little memorized snippets of English. Only five minutes on the ground and you are already Mr. Popular.
Slow down, and realize what is happening.
I need to preface this a bit, before I get really specific. Because this is something you should think about, particularly if you are a white dude visiting a poorer country.
And that is, you have a big, flashing target on your forehead.
No, this isn’t to say that the locals are necessarily going to target you for kidnapping or assault or anything like that. But when they see you, with your white face and your blue jeans, they have a way of assuming that you are walking around with the cash equivalent of one month of their salary in your pocket (you may well be) and tend to treat you accordingly.
People are going to try and get you to buy shit, ALL THE TIME. You will pay a higher price for things if you don’t know better. And sometimes, you will be flat out ripped off.
Know it, realize it, and understand it. Put yourself in their shoes.
If you could make a month’s salary from talking someone into a three hour taxi tour, wouldn’t you?
Walk out of the airport, stand in the same taxi line as everyone else, and do your best to get the cabby or driver to TURN ON THE METER. When in doubt, follow the locals. Do what they do.
Even better, some hostels and hotels will pick you up in a van. Sometimes there are busses if you do a little research in advance.
You’ve arrived, now what?
So you made it to the hostel, and are now officially a stranger in a strange land. Congratulations, you have made a step that not a lot of men are lucky and brave enough to see through. Congratulate yourself, you are well on your way to becoming a man of the world.
But here is where things can get a little confusing. What do you do now? The thing about travelling alone is you are always at risk of feeling a bit purposeless, a bit restless, a bit like you are wasting your time. At least right at first, before you fall into things, you are going to have that “what the fuck am I doing here?” kind of feeling. So, I have a practice which has stood me in good stead on every trip I’ve ever taken, and always allays any feeling of restless lack of purpose. Obviously, this depends on your unique situation, but let me tell you what I ALWAYS, without fail, do the first day. It may sound a little silly, but…
Remember in part two where I said you’d want to prepare some good walking shoes? Here is where they come in handy.
First, I make very sure I’ve got the address and contact info for the hostel written down, memorized a few land marks in my general area, and marked it on a map (the hostel will usually provide one). If I’ve prepared correctly I’ve got a few phrases memorized in the local language as well. Sometimes, if the hostel is warm enough, I’ll manage to snag a friend before I set out.
Then I go on about an eight hour walk. I wander around and scope out everything. I marvel at the headless chickens hanging from the rafters, meander up to the church on the hill, watch the men unload fruit from the river barge, stop by landmarks and cruise through the park, I appreciate the local women, and I fling myself into the place as hard as I can. During this time, I also drink. I’ll walk for an hour, stop and have a beer, walk another hour, stop somewhere and have a shot of the local hooch. Rinse and repeat until I’ve walked a good ten miles and had 4-5 beers. Not enough to be drunk, but enough to get over the typical jitters I get on the first day of a trip in a strange place alone, to get some exercise, come back to the hostel tired enough to sleep soundly, overcome jet lag, and feel like I am really in this new place.
You can leave the drinking out if you like, but it has always worked for me. Or substitute tea or whatever. But I love beer, I love I making friends at the local pubs I go to, I love being a little tipsy and bartering for some weird pineapple looking thing at the open air market, I love laughing at the buskers and teasing the women who inevitably come up . It gives my walking a goal and a purpose. It burns off the beer calories, and it just in general helps me loosen up.
This is just a kind of personal aside. I swear by it, but some might find it kind of aimless.
Suffice to say that whatever it is you do that first day, you can’t wait for purpose to fall from the sky. You have to chase it down with a club and beat it into submission. So whatever it is you are going to do, make a solid plan for that first day and stick to it. Accomplish something. There will be time to fall into stuff later. For now, pick something that will give you a purpose for day one and just in general helps acclimate yourself. For me a good beer wander is always on the day one agenda.
That wraps up arriving and day one. Next week we will talk about how to make the most out of your time, and start to touch on some mindset stuff that you should reflect on as you get deeper into your travel.
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I'm sorry, but when you say that you would white-knuckle your fear of flying I can only imagine you adrenaline screaming like some crackhead while the plane is lifting off, and scaring the crap out of everyone.
aokna2736 6y ago
Loving this series, it's inspiring me to think more seriously about long-term travel. Have you read Vagabonding by Ralph Potts? Very much in the same vein.
Razkolol 6y ago
I don't know if this has been said before but a really good service for the "grab cash at the airport" part is using Revolut, you get better exchange rates than airport exchanges or your local bank. I travel a lot for work and it's pretty helpful, no fees & shit when you're abroad. Pm me if you want to use my referral link or just google it. I'm not affiliated with them or anything, I just know from experience that you get a better exchange rate with them. You need atms tho so if you're traveling to some piss poor country in Africa you still need eur/$ in cash to exchange to the local currency of that country.
reddzeppelin 6y ago
I use the stoners approach, get high before you get high. it doesnt make you less afraid to die, but you can tell yourself its irrational because driving is statistically more dangerous, and you can tell youre irrational when high, you arent drunk. Plus socially it makes everything go smoother if youre smiling at everyone, usually I smoked out of an apple and maybe they couldnt smell weed, but if they could tell they didnt care.
oic123 6y ago
Not a bad guide, but as far as traveling while banging quality local women at the same time goes, I would recommend carrying a bigger bag, simply because you're going to need to be a bit of a "woman" and bring some nice clothes and shoes.
My "nice" shoes were Sperry's docksiders and a pair of Eastland boots, and then I had some vans shoes that are very flimsy and pack well, and are good for working out in, and some sandals. Few pairs of long and short sleeve polos, few pairs of different colored jeans or pants, few pairs of ABOVE THE KNEE shorts, and like 10 tshirts.
Sounds like a lot, but it's worth it when you are attempting to get with a girl and you are one of the few actually dressed decently, and not dressed like all the other backpackers, which not only just looks messy but can potentially turn off local girls if they think you will be leaving soon.
I actually bought most of my clothes at thrift stores before leaving, so they can be replaced rather inexpensively.
TermsOfColors 6y ago
A few thoughts here. Just for context, I'm in my 40's and have over a million frequent flyer miles currently (between the major US airlines).
Traveling Alone Someone recently asked me how I felt about traveling alone. I realized that I had never really thought about it that much. But as I contemplated this for a minute, I realized that I had often traveled alone for work purposes, more than enough that it didn't feel weird or anything when I traveled alone for some other reason. This was starting from the age of 22, right after college.
Traveling alone will give you a sense of self-reliance and independence that you'll never get traveling with friends. And you can do whatever you want whenever you want without the hassle. I was in the English midlands last year working on a project, and several of my colleagues wanted to go to London during the weekend. I've been there many times and didn't care to go. I wished them well Friday afternoon and drove up to the Peak District on Saturday morning.
Cash I have used the exchanges in airports on occasion but only in a pinch. The exchange rate tends to be a little worse in those places. There happens to be a Bank of America branch not far away from me that usually has enough foreign currency on hand to meet my needs. I'm on first name basis with the gal that runs their forex affairs and she has a stash of RMBs she holds for me. That being said, I usually use Visa or MC to better track my expenses if at all possible. If you plan on traveling a lot or staying out of country for awhile, look into a credit card that is more likely to be accepted overseas and also contact your bank to let them know what you're doing so they don't flag you. And call around town or do a google search for banks in your area that keeps some foreign currency on hand.
I've never had any problems paying for anything but I was with a non-American girl when a shopkeeper in Shanghai refused her payment. She raised a ruckus and almost got us kicked out. Be cool, people just want to get paid. You'll figure it out.
Fear of Flight I'm not a psychologist. I can't really remember my first flight or if I was scared or not. My personal beef is how crowded and cramped planes can be. That probably bothers me more than anything. I have had a few incidents and episodes with malfunctioning aircraft, the worst thing that ever happened was we had to turn around and return to the airport. The second worse thing was flying from Miami to DC with Hurricane Wilma crawling up our ass. That was a shitty flight. My point is, I can't really advise on fear of flying but for many of you, there will be other hassles related to planes and airports that may make that fear seem less important. I'm not a fan of TSA or customs either, I don't like being treated like a criminal by common clerks and bureaucrats. Thanks a lot Bin Laden, so glad they popped you.
Schemers and Scammers and Prostitutes Just ignore them. They'll get the idea. Unless you actually want something from them. I usually get the staff at my hotel to help me sort out transportation and other things like that, in countries where many people don't speak English. There's probably better ways to handle it, like apps and whatnot but I have gotten a series of cards with Chinese phrases written on them to help me get around in China. I can get by in Mexico with my own version of spanglish and in Europe I usually find someone who knows at least enough broken English to communicate.
I've had a few hassles but no big problems when dealing with natives. Ironically, the worst situation was a fist fight with a couple of Frenchmen in Barcelona, Spain. I don't know what it is about the French, I don't really give a shit either way about them, just don't hassle me.
In Summary I'm coming from a different angle here, I was never a guy that stayed in hostels and backpacked across Europe. I had a lot of opportunities to travel and see the world on the company dime in relative comfort. Now I satisfy my wanderlust whenever and however I choose for the most part. Either way, thought I'd chip in my two cents.
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Awesome post. I go back and forth using Xans for my flight anxiety. Sometimes it's chill as fuck to just time travel and enjoy reading or watching TV, instead of grabbing armrests with sweaty palms trying to convince yourself you won't have a heart attack at 37k feet. But, as you said, the only way to truly conquer something, is to love it.
One trick I've picked up traveling is to have a fanny-pack style wallet around my waist and under my shirt with a decoy wallet in my pocket. If I have large amounts of money and my passport, I'll keep that in the waist wallet under my shirt and if I get robbed I'll throw them the wallet with a couple 20s in it. I'd also kick the shit out of any skinny and malnourished coward that tries to jack me, but sometimes they have weapons or you're with a girl and can't get down.
Has anybody quit their career to travel? I'm soon to be 30 and I'm very career focused, but traveling the world would make me a better man. The conflict I've created wanting both is hard to handle.
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yes_thisismyusername 6y ago
There was a South African guy I met in a Vietnam hostel who called himself Tuna. He was a real character, dressed like a surfer dude. We all loved him and had known him for a few days when he mentioned he was 33.
I suppose what I’m trying to say is that in the backpacking world nobody really cares what age you are once you don’t act old. Some hostels have an under 30s policy though but you can still drink there
thelandofdreams 6y ago
I've stayed in hostels with 60+ year olds. Though usually they book the private room, and usually it is a little awkward having them there. Still, you are never to old to do what the fuck you want to do man.
HS-Thompson 6y ago
I still do it sometimes and I'm well over 40 and rich. If I'm traveling with other people I usually go to high end places, but when by myself I enjoy the feeling of being connected to other travelers and traveling really light rather than holed up in some exclusive place. It can be less boring.
It's totally common to see people of all ages. I don't try to like "hang with the kids" and be social because there are guys that do that and it comes across as a little strange. But it's totally normal to stay in those places regardless of age.
redneb94 6y ago
This. I've solo travelled staying in Air Bnbs and it's boring. You don't meet anyone. Air Bnbs are great with groups... I'm heading to Colombia backpacking in 2 weeks with a buddy (hostels all the way).
We're 28, but I generally people in hostels are under 35ish.
drakevibes 6y ago
I’m black, does that mean I’m safe?
TermsOfColors 6y ago
I have had people in China tell me they liked white people and didn't like black people.
Direct quote: "We like white people. So handsome! We don't like black people." That was from some ladies in a supermarket near Suzhou. They took a picture of me. Just for some context, they came up to me right after my black colleague walked down another aisle. At least they had the sense to wait until he walked away. Because I have seen Chinese people openly mock people who are black or fat or stand out in some way. This is more common further away from the more touristy areas.
TheRealJesusChristus 6y ago
Do you look like an american? Then no you are not save.
I am in costa rica and when I see a black guy (rare enough) I see they are devided in two groups. The local black people, they look just as poor (or sometimes even poorer) than the other locals. Dirty clothes, etc.
Then there are the clearly tourist black people. Always in groups of at least 6-10 people (all seem to belong to the same family), talking with an american black accent, have clean and expensive looking clothes. They look rich. And they are just as save as white rich looking people (not save, at least from too high prices).
The secret is to look like locals (you dont have to have dirty clothes, but try to not have expensive ones). And to not talk english. In non-english areas when you talk english the locals know you are a tourist and tourist=rich=money for them.
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About talking english in foreign places - agreed.
When travelling in Ukraine, after being appproached by 3 scammers in one day, I quickly learned to STFU.
If it's daytime or in centre, then it could be fine, but if it's nighttime and not a lot of people around, then you're just asking to be robbed (As I almost was one time anyway)
thelandofdreams 6y ago
I've never walked around with a black face, so I won't pretend to really know what I'm talking about. But from black friends I have heard that Asians tend to look down their noses at you a little more, particularly in far east Asia (Korea, Japan, etc).
South East Asians are a bit more humble and tolerant I feel like. But the fact is that the stereotype on the ground is that whitey is rich and blacks are not.
However, like the poster said below, coming off as American will probably override anything else and cause people to still ask you for money.
Interesting question, sorry I can't be more helpful. Maybe some black bros could chime in here?
What is it like as a black dude in Asia?
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SE Asia is on my list & id love to get a straight up honest answer to this question as I can’t find one.
halfback910 6y ago
Having traveled to East Asia with coworkers I would go so far as to say that Asians don't just look down their noses at black people, but that in many cases they are downright racist. And I don't mean "Microaggressions and supporting Trump" racist. I mean "Out of the deep South in the '50's, got my Klan outfit in my car and it doesn't cover my face because it doesn't have to." racist.
2wheelwindu 6y ago
That sounds crazy. Could you share an experience you have had to help with context.
halfback910 6y ago
There were things that were ignorant but relatively harmless like asking us if we'd like to sit at separate tables. But there were a lot of establishments who clearly felt that Africans needed a minder to stick around them for whatever reason.
They were given service only very reluctantly on multiple occasions and flat out refused service on a small number of occasions. I suspect that if they had not been with white colleagues it would have been worse.
I do not offend easily and I was genuinely offended at least a few times.
EDIT: Being with our Asian counterparts also helped. They steered us towards places they knew were cool and relatively modern. Locals are also way better at holding people accountable for a lot of reasons.
2wheelwindu 6y ago
First off thanks for painting a better picture. That is dissappointing to hear. From those ancedotes it seems that the majority of the people from that culture is like that, am I wrong in assuming so?
halfback910 6y ago
I don't know, honestly. I'm sure it varies quite a lot. But until I went there I thought racism was getting drunk in Virginia with your Southern relatives and maybe they say some shit they need to explain in the morning.
It was the first time I had seen racist ACTS as opposed to just racist WORDS.
halfback910 6y ago
I am not afraid of flying. However, it is comforting to me that the aviation industry is one of very few that meets the Six Sigma standard of 6 standard deviations of error free product. That is to say, for every million flights fewer than 3.4 will crash. Way fewer, in fact.
Very few industries can boast that.
I would add that Xanax for a 9 hour flight is good for a lot of reasons other than fear. Flying is torture. If I could get prescribed Xanax, I'd use it for sure.
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thelandofdreams 6y ago
You need some kind of degree to teach (in most countries), doesn't have to be English.
For other jobs it is more difficult. What skills can you bring to the table that the locals can't? Whatever it is, if you are good at it and have a special talent that is rare, you can do it abroad.
alnico36 6y ago
Wow...U made my day..I wonder, when I will be able travel and do the things mentioned...need to save for that...;-)
GMan509 6y ago
Exchange rates are terrible at airports, like 30% higher. Only get as much a bus ticket costs to get into town and find an ATM or currency exchange elsewhere
JF0909 6y ago
When I go to Europe, I try and get currency before I leave at my local bank. Many times, they don't charge any fees to exchange.
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Most airports now have ATM machines that draw money in Local currency. Make sure to withdraw amounts bigger than 200 dollars to make the fixed fee look smaller.
narciss3 6y ago
Great series. Really appreciate it.
However, I just wanted to ask how does one travel to other countries if he doesn't live in such a country whose visas other countries accept easily. For example Pakistan.. Does anybody have personal experience like that? I'm only 18 so it's probably a few years till I start earning enough and start to travel tho..
cafeitalia 6y ago
Download offline maps to Google maps so you will not need to memorize landmarks etc and can see a lot more efficiently. If you don't like Google maps use here maps. Offline maps don't need data.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
Yeah, I sometimes feel like having a smart phone can be distracting and stuff, but I'm sort of out of touch with newer tech at this point. Walking around trying to deal with a paper map is just as bad, haha.
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If there are any young European guys reading this comment, the best advice I can give you for getting out of your comfort zone is to apply for Erasmus+ and go there BY YOURSELF. Without friends, without classmates, without anyone from your country. Just you, your two suitcases and no one to rely on but yourself. Do stuff, make mistakes, learn from them, do them again. You're basically getting paid in order to become a man. In one month here I still haven't met anyone from my country and this is definitely the best time of my life. I have all the time available to dedicate to myself and apply everything I've been reading here for the past 2 years.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
totally agree. I write a lot about the power of solo travel for a man.
It thrusts you out into the world and forces competency from you like few other things.
Thanks for the comment.
throwawaydegar 6y ago
For anyone legit scared of flying read Flying The Easy Way. You can read it in an hour or two and you will be cured when you put the book down. You will t even know why or how. That was my experience.
ImHerWonderland 6y ago
Maybe it's just me, but I really want to go against the grain and say maybe don't drink before a flight. On my way to visit my daughter, I had a few shots of vodka. Five shots at the Applebees or whatever it was, I got on the plane feeling like absolute shit. Normally no problem flying, felt extremely anxious, hot, and thought I was going to throw up. Turned on the ac fan and immediately passed out until I landed so perhaps I'm just a bitch when it comes to liquor, but that takeoff had me woozy.
Walking eight hours sounds like a great idea. OP your posts actually encouraged me to book a flight to SE Asia where my family's from, which I was going to put off for 3 or 4 more years. If I don't do it now I never will, so cheers and thanks for the write up.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
Oh yeah man, unless you have a nervous problem I say you are definitely better off staying sober and arriving fresh.
One time I was so scared on a trans pacific flight I drank a whole bottle of wine and passed out, in the middle of the row where I couldn't easily get to the bathroom. That was a fun 12 hours.
Dude! Congratulations.
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This is powerful stuff, and it applies to every new environment I find myself in. Be bold. Be engaging. Own the room. Gain momentum.
Act like you belong.
Your post illuminated this fact that I've simply done naturally and paid little notice to before. This is one of the best ways to regain your frame in a new setting: walk the perimeter.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
Yeah I never realized how important the first day walk was until I skipped it, and it changed the whole nature and tone of the trip to way worse.
Walking is so great, it deserves a post on its own. It always shatters my anxiety, lifts my mood, and often has me Forest Gumping my way into interesting situations and opportunities.
WesternStoic 6y ago
Any suggestions for traveling without becoming an English teacher? I have no college degree and don’t plan on it. I have a certfication in yachting (stcw10) and a personal training certification so I may try to leverage those somehow. Any advice?
Wiry_Wireman 6y ago
Using Workaway, I got free room and board for 5 weeks in Vietnam in exchange for just 1-2 hours per day of "English teaching" without "becoming" an English teacher. There are many other volunteer jobs you can do - you'll just need to bring your own beer money and coordinate each workaway experience with your prospective host ahead of time.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
To answer your question, my expertise is in ESL, but there are a lot of ways to skin a cat. I'm hoping people will jump in here with alternatives rather than me trying to talk too much about stuff I'm not as versed in.
If anyone has alternative methods I'd love to hear from you, and even offer you some possible collaborative writing opportunities for the book I'm working on.
PillDragon 6y ago
In Asian countries you could make bank as a personal trainer. Asians hold white skin in high regard.
You better look the part though. The taller, the bigger the better.
irritus 6y ago
Personal trainers can get jobs in many gyms around the world!
Coupled with a instructors certificate level 1 you can travel and find work at major snow resorts around the world.
Hospitality work is easy and in Australia a Responsible Service of Alcohol (needed to serve booze) “RSA” is easily obtainable and can be done in little over 2 hours.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
Hey man, do you have a lot of experience with this? Any interest in contributing a chapter in my book? I could pay you...something?
irritus 6y ago
I personally don’t have a great deal of experience with it all apart from working at a snow resort in Aus.
I’ve met a lot of people on my little journeys though and the main idea is that there’s work anywhere you go, you just have to seek it out regardless of qualifications. Applying RP tactics to your travels can open many many doorways!
I’m more than happy to provide some insight free of charge
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IDGAFMentality 6y ago
No one said fear was rational. Some people are afraid of planes, some afraid of heights, some afraid of transvestite Easter Bunnies whipping out their cocks and fucking you in the ass.
Its easy to say oh who would be afraid of this or that... but how easy would that be to say about your own fears. Everyone fears something, no matter how small, even if you try to deny it. Some people may handle their fears more effectively than others, but asking what kind of person fears flying is a childish remark that lacks common sense.
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But he is posting in a "red pill" alpha male reddit giving advice on to other so called brave dudes on how to travel and then talks about fear of flying airplanes... like I'm sure five year old kids dont fear that.
IDGAFMentality 6y ago
Shit man you're totally right. Why am I even trying to be alpha when I'm afraid of planes. Even though 25% of Americans are afraid of flying I'm such a pussy and I'll never be Chad.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
Ignore man. This is a chick who hates redpill and trolls every thread.
[deleted] 6y ago
You should be scared of bikes and motorcycles, people are dumb and don't stay away from the things that will actually get them hurt or killed and afraid of things that have astronomical chance of doing them in.
[deleted] 6y ago
TLDR: play videogames.
Found the gamer.
Look kid, I took a quick look at your posting history. I don't knock Go or Chess (chess fan here) but this is a sexual strategy sub and it's obvious the only action you're getting is waifu pillow next to your gaming setup and your samurai sword collection.
Get your shit in order, son.
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thelandofdreams 6y ago
Quantum entropy is a chick who frequently trolls my posts because she hates what she believes redpill to be
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One of his top posts.
Also, girls don't exist on the internet. Tits or GTFO. Surprised you didn't know this.
thelandofdreams 6y ago
I usually try not to cruise people's post history when in an argument, because SO many people do it to me when I'm in the wild.
Haha. But this particular case is pretty interesting. From what I can gather it looks like a chick whose husband might have divorced her and gone mgtow or something.
I've always been a tad confused by this. It basically is just a way to immediately shatter and erase female privilege when having an online discussion right?