DISCLAIMER : In this post, I use the second person pronoun (“you”). This post should be read as a letter to myself, not as a pedantic injunction to my readers. I share with you this letter because I believe it addresses a fundamental question that has not been much touched upon. I hope, not to speak the absolute truth, but to spark a fruitful discussion. Also, this is my first post so the mods can read this as a homework assignment. I will be glad to take corrections.
Summary
Hatred is a manifestation of underlying fears. By earning your own respect, you rid yourself of these two weaknesses, and attain true self-love.
Body
« Love yourself ». We hear that everywhere, don’t we ? Placated on the cover of women’s magazines between mascara reviews and sex tips, spouted by every bluepill cunt and his feminist responsibility-ducking friends, repeated by the dumb self-help moguls who don’t know shit about shit but still revel in their own stupidity and obliviousness.
We at TRP know that unconditional love is bullshit. First, because it doesn’t exist. Second because, even if it did, it would be dangerously useless. It encourages wrongdoing. And by wrongdoing I mean of course fucking around wasting away what precious time you have been granted on this earth : tugging at your shrivelled dick instead of getting laid, binge-watching YouTube instead of lifting, browsing reddit instead of practising your piano. Remember that joke about christianism ? « No use asking Jesus to get you a bike, better to steal one and ask for forgiveness later ». Fuck that. you’ll earn the shit you get.
The Hate that you are feeling is fuelled by Fear. Fear and Hate are but two sides of the same coin. Hate is the monstrous, deranged and deformed child of Fear. Your hate towards women, towards feminists and towards your old bluepill ways, is your biological self’s way of coping with a perceived threat. To your ego. To your power. To the person you are trying so hard to become. Simply put, your biological self has understood on a physical level that it could transmute Fear into Hate and acquire power. A LOT of power. That is why it is healthy to go through the anger phase. It is a moment when, with the help of your newborn Hate, you can forego your old, people-pleasing, woman-pedestaling self. Hate gives you that much power.
But you should not forget where Hate comes from. As a Man, your aim is to become fearless. Your fears – of approaching, of not being good in bed, of others’ judgement – must all be overcome. You must learn, not to never feel Fear (that is impossible), but rather to treat your Fear as merely an information coming from your biological self, an information which is accounted for in the decision process, of course, but an information, no more, no less. Not an action-stopping, gut-wrenching, overwhelming emotion.
Hate is coalesced, solidified fear. It is the result of a continued fear that has been too difficult to overcome. You should strive to eradicate your Hate, since it is but another manifestation of Fear.
Hate is not an emotion that a true TRP man should feel. Self-love is bollocks. But the answer cannot be conditional self-love. Because what do you feel when the conditions aren’t met ? Will you continuously oscillate between love and hate like a menstruating woman ?
This is why TRP is useful for self-loathing imbeciles like you. TRP teaches you, not to love yourself, but to respect yourself. It is a long path, but for emotionally-impaired spergs, admiration is a much more intuitive feeling than « love ». Become somebody that you admire.
This means discipline.
This means lifting.
This means silencing the hamster.
The road is long and twisty, steep and cold, but you keep on, because you have decided that you would earn your own respect. Every effort you put into yourself is a little ounce of power that is stored. Every step that you take on that path is a brick of respect added to your own monument.
Once you have power, these things that scared you, no longer do. Instead, they make you smile. Now, you can’t get enough of women and their own special way of being, you forgive the blue-haired cunts who now dream of being covered in your alpha cum (but they can only dream, can they), you remember fondly that time when you made out with - but didn’t fuck! - as many girls as possible at prom, because you were a self-conscious insecure virgin.
This shit no longer angers you. Your Fear has dissipated, and so has the Hate. Your Pill has been washed of its dark tones, it now shines all around you, a bright, glorious red – the same one women put on their beautiful lips. That red which symbolises passion and life. No time to dwell on futile debates, you are out there, playing like a child, laughing at the world that you hold in the palm of your hand. And maybe, just maybe, have you now achieved self-love.
Lessons learned
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The hatred that I feel is a sign that I still have a long road ahead.
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Respect for myself is earned, not given unconditionally.
- Only by earning my own respect can I ever hope to attain true self-love, which is the key to the true IDGAF and uncrackable frame.
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[deleted] 5y ago
You can love yourself now and still be aware of your flaws and your path to maximizing your own worth. The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Govedo13 5y ago
8I had a situation about a month ago.. pregnant plate. I lost my shit for the first day. I made shitty post in ask TRP, got some shitty answers.. I got drunk with my best friend and we both discussed the pros and cons.. Then it was decided that cons are more then pros. Note that I want kids at some point when I manage to find a half-decent woman. I have sturdy job and solid passive income backed up with property portfolio.
After that with some planning and proper actions I managed to convince her to make abortion. I never explained her my motives and why exactly I want her to abort, I informed her about my decision in bed after 2 hours sex.. Actually this helped a lot. It was so funny how she changed on the spot from beeing nice loving creature that is in its comfort zone to yelling and crying monster. It took her like 30 sec.
Then the mega shittest came- If I keep the child would you support me with it? I answered direct and without hesitation: no I wont support you, I wont take care of it, since I don't want any children now. Thank got that in my country the child support of the out of marrige children is almost nothing.
And voila she agreed to make abortion. I willingly paid for it( HUGE NOTE - never ever live on credit and always have spare cash for emergeny situations), several days after the abortion( it was painless medical one without intervention) we had some great sex again. Two hours after I was on a plane to visit another county with my other plate for couple of days.. One week after I was back she gave me the speech and it was over.
I was hard on my self for a week or two for allowing me to loose my shit and I doubted myself if this was the right decision. I had some performance issues in my day job and in my side projects. I gained 2 kilos from the alcohol and bad eating without exercise for 2-3 weeks. The what if question should be ignored in general.. because we live in our present.. preparing for our future. There is no point in looking back.. we cannot change it.
Currently I am really happy that this happened to me.. I was able to cope with it, to keep frame on huge issue for me and to solve my problem. After I was out of the self-loathing phase I can call this a good lesson.
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Mr_Badass 5y ago
Most TRP men need more self compassion. They need to understand that they dont have to be perfect. Perfectionism leads to performance anxiety and low self esteem. They also need to learn how to have self kindness so they stop being so hard on themselves for events they cannot control.
meme_poacher 5y ago
Which part of the sidebar refers to this?
CreatedItJust2Saythi 5y ago
If you are loving then you're already hating. I mean in a certain way if you love others then you are hating yourself (e.g. when you put her on top of the pedestal), and if you love yourself then you're hating others (it's you the one on top of the pedestal, not her). When you and TRP ask us to love ourselves instead of (or above) women, you are asking us to 'hate', depedestalize women. By asking us to love ourselves you are asking us to hate (depedestalize) women.
Let's refer to TRP conceptual frame here. Let me copy myself:
However you have this paradoxical effect that loving yourself somehow leads you to a selfishness-based kind of love and respect for others. Because among other things loving yourself means you only need your own power and self-sufficiency and so you need nothing from others. If you need nothing from others, then you aren't permanently interested in gaining anything from others, but, on the contrary, it's you the one powerful and self-sufficient enough to help others. Your power and superiority don't need others, others need your power and superiority; you don't need others to help you, others need you to help them. Loving yourself makes you an unneeding, helping, 'loving' person, but your love for others will be love in a 'giving, helping' sense, rather than 'love for what they can give you'.
For instance, if you love and pedestalize yourself for your alphaness and chadness by way of years of lifting, then it'll be women applying their hypergamy to you and begging you for the privilege of your genes and your sexual abuse and for the fucks. So if a woman ever wants to have some non-sexual interaction with you or if you ever have an interaction with a woman where a sexual goal would be problematic (e.g. business interaction) then you won't look like some sexual needy creep, but you'll treat her like a mere human being, thus respecting her non-sexual intentions regarding you.
So love and pedestalize yourself, hate and depedestalize women, because this misogyny will lead you to loving women the only way a real man should ever love women, in the 'giving, helping, protecting' sense. A Red Pill, muscular man is what a real male feminist looks like.
Red_Faust 5y ago
NO!!!
You should love yourself unconditionally, starting right now, till the end of your days.
Then you can start developing self-discipline and achieving things, first small victories, then onwards to greatness.
If you punish yourself and base your self-esteem on your results, you will only create or make deeper your narcissistic injury. You could use some reading on this concept.
Yes, develop your discipline, frame and habits. Yes, lift, yes, approach, yes, keep burning the fire within and don't rest on your laurels. But please do it from a place of self-love instead of self-hatred or self-rejection.
You know those overachiever kids from "tiger moms" who have a lot of successes but end up depressed for life? You don't want to do that to yourself.
Trust me, I've been there for many years and is not a nice view of yourself and the world.
lateteatoto 5y ago
I agree with you. Conditional love is not a good idea. The problem is, you can’t just decide to love yourself. The idea behind my post is that TRP offers a bridge for those who are stuck hating themselves. By starting out small, you progressively build self-esteem, which will eventually transform into a good kind of unconditional love. That’s my take on it anyway.
destraht 5y ago
I was expecting everyone to chime in with gay sounding reddish designer colors.
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[deleted] 5y ago
This post is ever so slightly better than some of the other shitposts that have been posted recently.
Upvoted.