Make yourself unavailable.
If you have any meaningful life goals, it means you can't afford to toss your precious (limited) hours of your time like it's Black Friday.
Friends, LTR, plates all want to hang out - but unless you are getting something useful in return for spending your time with them, cut them lose. Your time is the only thing that's worth more than your bank account because you can regain any money you've lost, but same can't be said for your time.
Your LTR, buddies from college or work want's to hang out in the middle of the day or after work hours? Say no, you have work to do. You can't afford to chillax, to spend time in bars all day, mentally masturbating about things you'd LIKE to have or goals you'd LIKE to achieve. Elon Musk can't afford to relax, why the fuck would you allow yourself some time off then?
You don't have time for gossiping, women do that. They can constantly talk about shit that fucking drives me insane, I can't listen to my gf talking more than 45 minutes, I simply have to either fuck her or make her suck my dick to shut her up but I'm digressing.
You're a MAN now, and MEN live to solve problems and to out fuck other men in terms of quality of their lives: their careers, hobbies (lifting!!!) and other productive ways that make them 1% better than they were yesterday: Yes, consistency is the only secret to sucess.
Btw. If you do this, attracting women will be the least of your problems, I've seen too many guys here willing to sacrifice their time and attention to learn how to get that HB8, but TRP purpose isn't solely focused on that. TRP is a lifestyle based on YOU, and once you've fully internalized the core message of this great subreddit women will simply flock - they will want to enter the reality you've created for yourself.
Small edit: Just an observation, if you tend to travel a lot, make use of that time too. For me, it takes 15 minutes walk to the gym, an hour spent inside the gym, that's total of 1.5 hours of useful time that I can combine with listening to an audiobook (nonfiction).
fischbrot 5y ago
in general i sympathize with you, however
I d be VERY VERY happy to have a circle of friends and some GUY would like to chillax with me
fishing
bbq
table tennis
etc
a man needs to relax too.
still, improvement is better than getting drunk during day time.
cheers brother
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mashiss 5y ago
I'm starting monk mode this week mate...I know what you're feeling...My questions is how much are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want?
fischbrot 5y ago
hey mate....
care to specify your question? i dont get it ...
happy to have a little conversation...
mashiss 5y ago
Sure bro, correct me if I'm wrong. You stated on your initial comment that you want more friends or a mate to chill. I emphasized my question to that aspect.. " what are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want?" In my case I'm using the Monk mode.
fischbrot 5y ago
i dont think i would have to sacrifice anything.
I d be really really happy to develop a bigger circle OF MALE friends!
I do have spare time in my life which I spend alone mostly.
mashiss 5y ago
I understand your point! Well to get more friend we need to become more social! Get into a Coed team..lift go to a bar and talk!
itsdir0 5y ago
IMO best way to make male friends from scratch is to get some plates and let the girls introduce some of their friends...
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untonyto 5y ago
Absolutely. No red pill man should surround himself with other people's orbiters. It might rub off on him.
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untonyto 5y ago
It would be mate guarding if they were actual mates so its aspirational
megamanxtc 5y ago
Investing in friends is worth it. Lifelong friends, some probably since childhood, are worth more than money, IMO.
Swistak23 5y ago
This is definitely true, I’ve got a couple of friends from childhood that I still stay in touch with and those guys I can rely on absolutely anything. Going to Germany in August (They live in Europe, I live in US) for a music festival and my friend already got everything figured out, lodging, transport. Makes it nice and easy. Saves me a lot of time and money planning stuff out so yeah.
Definitely be picky about who you give your time to, loads of people are not worthy of it. But developing long lasting, dependable friendships definitely pays off in the end.
wendysNO1wcheese 5y ago
Very true. All my friends, and I have a lot, I've known for more than 10 years. Some for over 20. Out of those 10-15, a few of them are like brothers. All of them would have, and have had my back, anytime. I the same for them. We've all been through a lot together.
There's been a fallout between a few. Two of them got in a fight with each other and one broke the other's nose and fucked up his sinus passages. Had to get surgery and shit. So yea, it's odd trying to hang out with a couple friends and have to let the one know that so and so is here already so they don't come.
Anyway. It's understood that we don't force each other to hang out. We tell each other straight up "nah, don't really feel like going out tonight" or "I have some shit I need to do." You get your ball's busted a little but it doesn't affect anything. A lot of us have families now and it's not like it use to be, but we are there when it matters.
Weddings are always the best shitshows ever.
lopsidedlucky 5y ago
I hear you, I have a few lifelong friends that have gotten into shit with each other that ended with minor surgeries. Being able to laugh about scares decades letter is a bond most men will never have. It's worth more than many people will understand.
halfback910 5y ago
I agree that time is your most valuable asset. Time is incredibly valuable.
I find it helpful to have standardized policies on how to deal with people and schedules:
For instance, everyone gets the benefit of the doubt if I'm meeting them the first time. I'll schedule something in advance with them, confirm, and show up on time. You fuck that up somehow by showing up late, canceling less than eight hours in advance, or no-showing? Okay, I'm not going to schedule anything with you anymore. You want to meet me still? Fine, here is a list of places and times I will be over the next two weeks doing activities that you may join me in if you wish. I will not change any of the places, times, or activities.
And if they manage to be consistent and timely for some of those activities, then they get scheduling privileges back.
ZiraVer 5y ago
That sounds really pragmatic, I love it, and shall adopt it into my own life as I got recently flaked on by a girl, first time in my life actually, felt weird. I'm never going to talk to her again.
ISaidThatOnPurpose 5y ago
I struggle with this, because I LOVE doing things.
I could be practicing my drums or my dance styles or eating or working out, and if I get a text and someone wants to hang out, I get super excited that any potentiality for chaos outside of my control might be about to happen.
cakefmateus 5y ago
Universe teaches you this if you allowed it to. If you don't give a shit about people and go do your shit, don't spare time for others and etc.. People will look for you, even more If you're getting better. The moment you start to give a shit about them and not focus on your time you'll get fucked
AlQWEffos239 5y ago
This is definitely story man, I remember reading this from a book ( 50th law)
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Good post. Pick your priorities (gym, your kids, personal growth) and fit in other stuff around those
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This is key. I leave Friday eves and Sundays as my recovery days, so if I’m asked to hang out I say I’m available those times.
throwlaca 5y ago
Funny, Elon Musk, IMHO one of the greatest if not the greatest entrepreneurs to ever live, is beta as fuck.
themorauder 5y ago
How is he beta? He might be a beta bitch in relationships with women. But due his entrepreneur skills, status and money he is ahead of 99% of the guys.
throwlaca 5y ago
Yes, he sucks with women. He probably is a great leader of men, but that doesn't translate always to women.
I've seen this several times. My friend is a charismatic CEO and owner of a 100+ employee business. But when he see a lady he completely shut off.
themorauder 5y ago
I still don't agree with labeling him completely beta. He is beta with women but he is not beta in doing business. His top status wealth can't be acquired by a beta.
CasaDeFranco 5y ago
Starting a business and applying the same thinking totally changed my approach with women. We only pull sub 100m revenue which is great but no way in his ballpark, it's staggering how one managing several multi-billion dollar companies can be so bad at managing recruitment & HR for the most important role, the mother of his children.
AlQWEffos239 5y ago
Bruh that’s crazy, he doesn’t make the tech is really good at managing people like Steve.
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Yeah, that's why all the analysts are laughing their ass off about his science fiction production goals. He's a poser that will get wrecked when the crash comes.
throwlaca 5y ago
I don't know man, Elon is currently the maker of the biggest rocket in production (falcon heavy), and the maker of the only spaceship capable of bringing stuff back from ISS (dragon).
Those things doesn't look like fiction to me.
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What I meant with "science fiction production goals", I meant production volume. The investment bank JPMorgan Chase predicted in December that Tesla won't reach their (volume) output goal.
Source
I don't doubt he's gonna get the hyperloop and whatever he has in mind. What I doubt is his production model, in my opinion it isn't sustainable or competitive when invaders will flood the market. His model can only thrive in a monopoly or oligopoly situation, which the electrical car market hardly will evolve to. It'll be cutthroat when the present global imperative is to get rid of fossil fuels.
the_mountains1985 5y ago
My uncle said it best....you're either spending your time or investing your time. He's one of the most red pulled guys I know. He's the one that pulled me out of blue pill by smacking me in the face.
Cross_De_Lena 5y ago
I think that guys born between 50s do 70s are the last real men around here. Feminism fucked everything up and TRP is a wake up call for us who got caught up in this mess.
the_mountains1985 5y ago
Bruh... he was born in the 40's
5ubstanc3 5y ago
While yes, i do agree you need time to focus on the things most important to yourself first, think about spending time with friends and going out and having fun. Possibilities are, you expand your networking skills just by chance. I mean come on, someone like yourself has definitely heard “anything is possible” many times in your life. And i speak from experience. Getting out there and just letting loose well you really never know the possibilities. You may meet someone who can change your life. For fucks sake you could be walking and talking with friends and for a moment you look up at the sky and all of a sudden a thought or idea could click in your head, whereas if you stayed put and kept the antisocial workaholic shield on you would have never encountered it. Just go with the flow of life... but don’t overdo it
Hussy68 5y ago
Sounds like this guy watched a football movie before posting this. HOORAH YEAHH YOU'RE A MAN.
Heard this shit over and over again spouted on this sub. Original. 10/10 post.
Cross_De_Lena 5y ago
Thanks man, appreciate the support, n1.
crespo_modesto 5y ago
Well... I'm not exactly running 3 companies, launching rockets into space. I'm crying about being poor. Also (married?) to an actress.
goodbye_kansas 5y ago
If you have a good friend or a group of friends then hang out with them to decompress (but not be completely depended on them for this). If you find yourself not feeling on the same page there is nothing wrong with you doing you. Like OP said your time is your most precious resource. You should use it to constantly enrich yourself. The alternative is complacency and that opens the door to man's self destruction.
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Antideck 5y ago
Is the non fiction audiobook a preference or a recommendation over a fiction audiobook?
Cross_De_Lena 5y ago
Fiction books like movies or tv shows rarely bring anything useful information that you can use in real life. I do enjoy fiction books, tv shows and films (can't wait for the Avengers) but you can't apply anything from fiction books to your life.
Antideck 5y ago
Im actually an aspiring author and i draw a lot of influences for my writing (which is fiction) from other fiction books but i understand what you mean. I read nonfiction as well simply to be more knowledgeable on things that interest me.
Cross_De_Lena 5y ago
Then I see from where you're coming from. In that case it can be tremendously helpful.
jonib0ni 5y ago
Time is my most valuable resource, therefore I should work all day instead of spending my time with the people I love. Got it.
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