First off, I want to apologize if this post isn't well formatted (Bold texts, bullet points, etc.) Its hard to do that on the device I'm on so I'm making do with what I have to the best of my ability~
There's a long version and a short version, here's the short.
I was a lurker on TRP, I read theory, talked with members, made a few top posts, but never actually talked to a girl or applied the information.
I was satisfied with talking game and too afraid to run it in real life. I had social anxiety and couldn't do a cold approach.
After I was banned for 90 days, I decided to leave reddit completely. Once I left, life felt dry, but also freeing. After boredom set in, I began to ease my way into actually talking to women, teasing them, etc... After the first time I made a woman laugh, I realized that this isn't all that bad, she's nothing to be afraid of, she's just like a little girl waiting for a man to take charge, she's human and not an evil goddess.
All of the theory I had rattling in my head just looked useless, it was dead weight. I was enjoying myself and I didn't need a trick or gimmick.
Everything became clear and only the basics of game stood out. You need to enjoy yourself, you need be mentally capable of leading as well as physically, you need to take care of yourself(hygiene,dress), and you have to be interesting (have a few talents/ hobbies). This is pretty much it.
Also I want to throw this in, I used to curse like a sailor but have recently worked my hardest to stop using profanity. I feel so much better now, less up tight, angry, arrogant, since I've cut back. Maybe some of you would like to give it a try for a week?
Anyways the main thing I want you to take away is this. Find the courage to talk to a few girls and your life will change, you'll see that game is personal and individual. You shouldn't waste time reading about others, you should find out your weaknesses by going out into the real world and testing yourself. Don't be a lurker.
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RivenHalf 5y ago
Life plays out quite differently than theory but it's good to have a balance of both, good luck to you. What was your initial ban even for?
SlyGradient 5y ago
Half the time we ban people similar to your situation so they will get off the internet and go outside and apply TRP in real life.
Too many kids come in here, read a few posts for a month, then start keyboard jockeying and posting their half-baked theories. Instead of hitting the gym and actually talking to women. It's not TRP till you go out and live it. This subreddit is simply a place to learn and trade notes with other guys going thru the same experiences.
Good to see you took our little nudge to heart, OP. But be careful with jumping to conclusions and the "Do this, don't do that" stuff, you are still early in the process. Give it more time.
JaspersChest 5y ago
Thank you
Martysteiner 5y ago
I like the fact that this sub is more about "academic style articles" than chit-chat and I'd like to see it by this way.
Personal questions and advice requests belong to asktrp sub.
Auvergnat 5y ago
The only important question is: have you started lifting yet?
JaspersChest 5y ago
Yep
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alucard1uk 5y ago
The whole no profanity thing.... Nah man, bs. I swear less around certain groups yes, I monitor my language in general but when I'm with friends? Fuck off.
My point? Depends where you are from. You fit your tone, verbal and body language depending where you are and who you are with. I've know my fair share of women that would just think you are a stuck up pompous prick for not swearing and women who think the opposite. You get all sorts of cunts in this world, just don't be a worst cunt, be the right kind of cunt.
no_beer_no_dad 5y ago
You missed his point. He said swearing less makes you into less of a belligerent prick, and it looks like you could do with listening to him.
alucard1uk 5y ago
No, you missed my point completly. The world doesn't exist solely in the country you live in. I'm quite happy being a belligerent prick when I want ????
I don't think I'm wrong but it seems you have an axe to grind. I had a nice discussion with the OP, where as you seem to want to grind away. Where I'm from calling someone a cunt can either be very offensive or general chit chat.
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JaspersChest 5y ago
What you just said seems to conflict with the "Do whatever you want, when you want" philosophy. I'm not cutting back on profanity for the sake of others or to appeal to a certain group. I'm cutting back for myself. Profanity reminds me of growing up in the backwoods where everyone used profanity, slept with family members, raped friends, and got drunk and brawled every week. I don't want to be like them or act in a way that resembles them.
saltybull 5y ago
Excessive profanity is feminine energy.
saltybull 5y ago
Excessive profanity when used excessively tends to describe common situations in a negative kind of way. It may also show others a lack of you "getting it" about your demeanor. I talk like a sailor occasionally around a few select friends when we are alone when it's appropriate. Talking like that excessively especially with your wife is probably going to give her the impression that you can't control your emotions or that she might not feel comfortable approaching you if something is bothering her. She must be able to start to see you as a mighty solid oak that never gets weak or bends no matter how strong the storm. She needs her strong oak to shelter and guide her threw her emotional storms that she has felt she lost. When women lose their rock solid masculine stoic partner, they feel betrayed, lost and unsafe. It's going to take time, remember that but once you learn to become her "I got this and anything that may come our way" rock again and to listen to her concerns in a kind of stoic fatherly way along with being able to validate her feels. She will start to ask for your advice and slowly begin to trust you then will ask for your lead. The best part after this stage is due to your masculinity her femanity will return. It's very true that the masculine is the Yang and Femanity is the Ying and they fall right into place once you fix yourself. I got a little winded sorry, I hope you understand what I meant about the excessive profanity behavior.
alucard1uk 5y ago
There will be conflicts, people are weird we like things that are different yet similar. That's fair enough and a good enough reason for your self. To me, it came across differently(as I seen it as hey women will like you better if) but hey ho we are allowed to disagree with each other here. As long as your choice is for your benefit and not purely just to spite them or the such then good for you.
I appreciate the clarification though.
JaspersChest 5y ago
No problem man, have a good week
ReddJive 5y ago
There is a lot to be gained by taking a break. I am guilty of it myself.
Summer is almost here and I disappear for a couple months. Come back in the fall.
Life is out there. Not in here.
amedeo_modigliani 5y ago
He is lying, ban him again.
anabolic92 5y ago
Not saying that women are some kind of subhuman specie, but always keep in mind their "brutal" nature you discovered shortly after swallowing the pill.
dr_warlock 5y ago
We still dont care. Stop attention whoring.
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lifeisweirdasfuck 5y ago
Honestly, I'm in a similar situation of yours. Been lurking on trp for some months and read a shit ton of stuff. The problem? I barely applied all that stuff and as a result my brain hasn't internalised anything. I just wasted time. I would like to get banned on purpose just to fucking start acting.
jesper_lundqvist 5y ago
If you want motivation, why don't you think of how shitty your life will be in ten years if you don't get up off your arse? Just look around at random older people then you and ask yourself if you'd be content to be like them when you're their age. The guy who posts Instagram photos and Facebook stati that almost nobody cares about? The dad with the beer belly who barely has sex with a wife who let herself go? The corporate drone who lives and breathes project management jargon and has forgotten what a real social life looks like?
You could turn into any of those if you're not careful. It's not enough to be static and do what was enough in the past. The world is moving and you have to run at a steady pace just to keep up. Just by doing nothing, things could get so much worse: so start now and maybe you won't have to have that conversation in five year's time.
Metalgear222 5y ago
Have you read No More Mr. Nice Guy yet?
JaspersChest 5y ago
Yeah I read it, but there's a time and place for everything. If I come in here and break the posting rules with a "deal with it attitude", my post will get taken down.
jesper_lundqvist 5y ago
You're not apologising for something you got genuinely wrong before, you're apologising in advance for something insignificant that probably no one noticed in the first place. You see the way nice guys become doormats by being afraid of what people might think of them? They end up adapting their behaviour to appease other people and end up not being respected as a result.
If someone complains about the format, you can cross that bridge when you get to it; but pre-emptively apologising makes people feel justified in going after you for it because they know they're not going to hear an argument from you on it. Not necessarily in here, but definitely in other circles.
JaspersChest 5y ago
I've already had complaints and posts taken down on account of faulty format. This was necessary~
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midgetpooooo 5y ago
Yet here you are. Lurk more actually, and follow your own advice.
Lord_Teapot 5y ago
and then OP got married, and then OP got divorced, now half of OP's property isn't OP's property, and half of OP's income isn't OP's income.
untonyto 5y ago
that's quite an agile leap of logic there
chunkycolors 5y ago
Lesson learned, don’t talk to girls!
JaspersChest 5y ago
Some people can only look at the bad in life. Your next destination is more than likely MGTOW. Since I make a simple post about talking to women and you go on a divorce rape rant. There's a place for that stuff in TRP, but that's not what this post is focused on.
MarkGuil 5y ago
Guess you can see the future. No need to bash MGTOW