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BloodRedPillz 6y ago
Positives
Negatives
My focus for the coming week
P.s One major thing that has stuck with me is that you shouldn't try to do too much in the day, it only leads to you feeling like you haven't done enough. Trust in the process and do a little bit everyday, it should stack in the future.
oolk123 6y ago
I finnaly benched 135 for 2 reps :)
In33dmon3yz 6y ago
My bpd ex that Really destroyed me and made the last few months a living hell for me reached out a couple of Days ago. Had a new Phone and she was Not blocked in it . My response " who is this " then blocked didnt even wait for answers thanx all you guys for your Stories of going back and dodging bullets. Gave me the strength to Stay Away.
Ramp_Up_Then_Dump 6y ago
Squated my body weight. 60kg
ShesLikeOMG 6y ago
Overall Week 9.8/10. A really damn good week
With 'Social' and 'Other' being prioritized over 'Fitness' and 'School'. I pretty much did everything I wanted to and had a great time and made a lot of memories. This week was by far and away the best week I've had in a very long while.
Social 10/10
Fitness 9/10
School 9/10
Other 10/10
Kinbaku_enthusiast 6y ago
I'd just like to use this space to set some goals for myself in regards to frame.
First I'm highly compassionate. It would do me good to make people feel less comfortable and women specifically. I often say "I'm just messing with you" and I need to cut that out. Let girls wonder about whether I was serious or not. Where's the game if I spell it out?
It makes sense that because I'm clarifying and simplifying my life right now that I give straightforward answers, but enough is enough. Simplicity is for me. Magic and mystery is for others. I could always choose to be straight, but let's see if I can minimize that for a week and let's look at the results.
I am not fully integrated in regards to women. On the one hand I've started noticing attractive women again after a monk period, on the other hand it's like there is a floating cloud above their head that is telling me whatever effort I put in won't be worth it. Part of that is hamstering anxieties. Part of it is not having a clear model of what I want from women.
So, seeing what I just wrote, i will also meditate this week about what I want from women. Sex? Companionship? Intimacy? Fun? Wait, I know what I want, but it's too long term. What I really want from women right now is grease. I've let myself get rusty and although that was for the best, I really need grease the gears and make things smooth again. I just need a motch or two under the belt, doesn't have to be the best girls, just to prove to myself that everything is still working, from game, to sex. It will also give me back a basic model to compare against for future engagements.
Kinbaku_enthusiast 6y ago
!remindme 1 week "don't get pulled into other's frames, dare make people uncomfortable"
mental_models 6y ago
good:
literally got my shit together this week (psyllium husk).
hit the gym 3 days.
approached an HB4.
bad:
broke my NoCaf streak this morning with a coffee.
broke my NoFap streak last night.
dealing with a hernia, and will need a minor surgery.
[deleted] 6y ago
Positive
Consistent in Meditation, Exercise and Speaking training everyday. Already see the difference.Am able to project confidence, and competence way more easier
Still fucking awesome in person to person meeting
Negative
Completely allowed myself to disintergrate when it fucking comes to doing daily work.Fucked Monday's deadlines.
A big part of my brain doesn't want me to change and I'm allowing that part to dictate my behaviour. Need to get on top of this shit ASAP, or I'll burn all current good faith in business relationships and will be done.
BurnoutRS 6y ago
Major progress. This week has been the second, in the 2 years that have passed since the accident, where ive not only been able to hit the gym 3 times, but I hit two workouts on consecutive days. Im about 2/3rds of the way to recovering the physique I had before. My exercise intolerance is lessening and lifting no longer leaves me out of commision for days on end.
Still got a ways to go with upping my weight. Dealifts are up to 100lbs now and my back is holding up pretty well. With the ease that I can bang out 10 reps I suspect that I could get pretty close to my old 1 rep max of 225. Im just building to it very gradually on account of my spine injury.
My working weights are Bench 100lbs Bent over rows 90 Deadlifts 100 OHP 50 I gotta get a squat rack. Been doing goblet squats with a 50lb db. Its kinda sad when you feel like youre getting more out of holding 100lbs doing calf raises than you are from squatting
Im walking almost everyday and I started implementing some light aerobics, yoga and postural correction on my rest days so I can keep active and keep my back straight.
Had a date last sunday that went pretty well. Looking to set something up for thiw weekend or next week. Been talking to other girls as I should be. This summer I think may be my first summer of spinning plates. Ive cut down to 20% bf from 24 and if I can keep it up I should be able to cut to 16 pretty easily before summer starts. I feel like I can do more but im gonna set 16 as my goal for right now
Shaney96 6y ago
Good to hear such an event hasn't put you out the gym. That clearly demonstrates your will and determination. Keep up the lifting man, solid progress.
YourWifesFriend 6y ago
Positives:
Started a new job with way less responsibilities and more pay...! Which let’s me be open minded about if I really want to move up in this company or do what I really want which is to make money make me money.
Been reading 5 days a week about stocks, accounting, and studying to pass my permit test to get my license..!
Working out 3 days a week doing heavy full body workouts with reverse pyramid sets. My diet has been super consistent and on the scale while theh asn’t changed (I’m 165 5’8.5) my lifts have gone up and my visible body fat has gone down. I can see my abs.. etc. I’m fasting everyday from 10-2:30 and I eat in the window 2:30-10 prs across the board
Went to the club last week and had a blast just keeping my frame of self amusement. I was out sober and I didn’t approach any girls I was mad nervous I’m brand new to this..! but I opened sets with dudes and that was hard enough had some chics start dancing and grinding with me but I didn’t get no numbers
No crazies in my life
No drama
Meditating everyday morning and night (sometimes only once)
No fap no drugs no alcohol.
Negatives
I’ve been spending more money than I’d like ubering to work and shit and eating out more than I’d like too. The NE snow storm won’t let me bike to work fuck a duck.
I’m still unsure of how I want to make money online or start my own business but I know that is one of my goals. I don’t want to be 45 working for nobody other than me.
I haven’t gone on any tinder dates but there’s a few girls who are down I just don’t want to spend money on dates and shit.
I fucked this girl but I didn’t come I just moved with new roommates and didn’t fuck her as hard as I wanted haha and she left kind of awkwardly I want to fuck her again I and I’m thinking I should just be honest
lovs2spuge 6y ago
3rd week in the books.
Positive:
successfully gamed up a couple girls at a party last Saturday. Escalated with one enough to get back to her place only for her to have lost her key to get in (whether this was LMR or not who knows, but she was only about a HB6-7 so she blew her chance, not me)
Gym 5/5 days. Staying very consistent with this even when I have a busy schedule as opposed to making an excuse when I have a busy day like I used to.
Going out for St. Patty's day tomorrow, so going to work on cold approaches and game.
Haven't played Xbox in over 3 weeks. Very big step as I used to play non stop from time I got home from work until I went to bed.
Negatives:
Not sure where to head with diet. Im 6'4, 190lbs and about 15% body fat. I don't really have much muscle, maybe only a decent foundation, but im not at all sure whether to bulk or cut. Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
Shaney96 6y ago
I'd go for a lean bulk. If you feel you've got a few pounds to shed, then cut for a few weeks, then head into the bulk, but you need a solid foundation before you're able to reap the rewards from a cut.
lovs2spuge 6y ago
Thanks for the reply man. I may just need to lift weights in general to get a nice base and then evaluate after a few months. Problem is i always quit lifting after a few months, but its going to have to be different this time around.
subaruguy14 6y ago
Positive:
Approached a 9 at work, conversed for a solid 30 minutes and she barely let go of my hand when we shook at the end of conversation.
Lined up some tinderellas for an upcoming business trip.
Stuck to eating goals all week, no alcohol, no sweets.
Podcast per day goal met.
Fails:
Only made it to the gym 1 time this week.
Did not read this week.
Only approached 1 woman cold and in person.
First date with new tinderella was a disqual for being a closet 4.
pekovits 6y ago
Not the best week so far. Positive:
Negative:
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archetypicalman 6y ago
Positives:
Negatives:
Work_In_Progress92 6y ago
Positive
Negatives
leroymcfiggans 6y ago
I went to Red River Gorge with a girl. drove up a snow covered mountain in a manual trans car for the first time, we were halted by a fallen tree. i then spent two hours chopping enough limbs off the tree to slide the car under it, to the cheer of several spectators in 4X4s. We then walked several miles of slushy trails to find a suitable spot to camp. made a pathetic fire to cook on, and spent the night in 10°F weather. it was a cold, miserable trip. the girl remarked at my tenacity, said i wouldn't stop at anything to get what i want. i think shes right.
progressionoverload 6y ago
Not a bad date really, demonstrated your competence.
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ForgedFromGraphene 6y ago
Positive:
Negative:
Fitness Goals: 132lb (I'm 5'3", currently 140lb), 20 strict pull-ups in a single set (currently at 12), learn to pistol squat, and be the human flag.
Edit: Learned how to edit.
[deleted] 6y ago
Wow, thanks you for all the feedback, guys. Appreciate it.
15 yr, 189 cm (6'2-6'3), 73 kg (160 pounds), 3 months into TRP
Sorry if I'm being a little bit optimistic - just came from football, played well, feeling the pump. Solid week, though. 7/10, I'll rate it.
Football (soccer) season, 2nd-3rd week. In team sports, there's no validation as doing genuinely well during a match, especially if trainings and practice games are equally positive. Even though last saturday was a friendly. Solid game - 5-4, we won. Out of 25 players on the school soccer team, I would realistically rank 3rd, maybe fourth.
I did indeed think, some time before the season started, to practice at a club or maybe even with a private trainer. Honestly though, upon further consideration, I don't think I'm interested in that. Soccer season goes on for 3-4 months, and it's quite a weight on my schedule. It ain't gonna help me build any muscle, and I'd sure as hell rather lift weights. It's fun, though, and hard, male bonds formed in sports, among the sweat and toil of a game, are stronger than most others. By the way, two tournament games tomorrow, and I'm vice captain. Yeah, soccer's going well.
Trained (very well, intense) sunday, tuesday, thursday, will go again on Sunday. Two dilemmas here - first of all, is three times a week enough, or should I go more; I do have some time constraints. I've been working out since like October. Being honest, gains are mediocre. I don't do compound lifts enough - for example, I benchpressed yesterday 4s/12r 25 kg. Second - a month ago, I started drinking sports (energy) drinks before training - Amino Pro 330 ml (2500 g BCAA, 400 mg L-Carnitine, 180 mg caffeine, etc.) I drink two a week, between gym and soccer and P.E, sometimes. I feel more energized with it, and it hasnt been disturbing sleep or causing any anxiety/over energy problems of note. Advice appreciated.
Nofap day 14. Weekend is gonna be a piece of cake, so, correspondingly, the week will too. Goal is not to wank until exams, in May. I wanna cut it out entirely though.
Meal prepped last sunday. Nice, I liked it. For now, I only meal prepped my protein (chicken, beef, turkey, meatballs (eggs), shrimp). Chucked it all in a snack box, bam. Correspondingly, I continued to eat quite healthy. Another dilemma. Yogurt and acne. I have moderate acne. I eat yogurt from time to time, though I try not to. Can't resist. Plain greek yogurt with a dash of stevia can appeal to me sometimes. Should I apply more effort, or drop it?
Acne's going alright. Not much change. Going to the pool tomorrow, after the tournament. Gonna be extra hard on those buggers today, can't stand em. I shower at night now, in addition to morning.
Next up, my sleep's been decreasing. While last week I went to bed at 8-30, woke up 5-40, this week I went (on average) to bed at 9-30 and woke up at 5-35. Not good. I doubt it's caffeine related, more like computer related. Speaking of computer, I went through that mini-challenge last week (no non-work PC, 4 days.) Gonna keep cutting down on it. Brain fog, messes with my psyche.
Next week, wednesday, taking a train for another city, where I have an MUN conference, a university visit, a friend, and some good socialization. Pumped.
Oh, almost forgot, I still don't meditate, nor do I stretch properly every morning. Damn it.
Side note: I don't wanna be typing this every week. Every third week, OK?
suavogame 6y ago
I think you should still post every week. Writing is time consuming and mentally demanding. You've going into a solid amount of detail here, to make it easier maybe just do dot points and then do a detailed write up once a month
thisiszatch 6y ago
Lifts are progressing (SL 5x5) but my overhead press is struggling a bit. Going to start doing hip stretches to improve my overhead squat.
I’ve been reading the sidebar for a week now but it’s taken attention away from another book I would like to read as well so I’m hoping to finish it quickly.
Chosen as well as a couple dozen others to take part in a summer college experience (currently in 10th grade) where I will spend six weeks in a college dorm. I’m still debating on going as I want to make sure I will be able to continue lifting and I was looking into getting a job this summer.
Lowering my masturbation frequency has gotten a little off track but plan on every other day again and not using porn.
I’ve been maintaining my daily habits like drinking 2 liters of water a day as well as reading daily and washing my face to combat my acne.
I feel less angry towards women as I used to and feel more comfortable when talking to them.
Social anxiety is still a bit of a crutch but I am making progress slowly.
Still trying to find a hobby that I can get into at my age but can’t think of one yet.
Stressed out that I don’t know what I want to do when I get older and it feels like it’s just creeping up on me. I’m also terrified of acquiring debt from college as well.
D- in one of my classes is troubling me but my other classes have been Bs and As so I can give more of my attention to that.
Big presentation in health in a week which is scary to me to be speaking in public.
Developing more of a passion for learning Japanese (I take the class at high school and have been in it since elementary).
Anything else I should work on?
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chemicallyspeaking 6y ago
Hi rousii. I'm also new to TRP. I've lurked for a few weeks, but now I'm getting more into the content. Positives: Read some of TRP sidebar. I've read a few books on game, including the Game, 3% Man, Toolbox of Game, Book of Pook. Went to the gym twice this week. My abs are starting to look better, and my shoulders and arms are making good progress. I can squat lower than I could a few weeks ago. Approached two groups of girls at a pub two nights ago. I was nervous as shit but I kept conversations going for a few minutes. I need to get more relaxed about saying the first thing that comes to mind. I escalated with a girl who works in the lab across from mine who I've had a few positive interactions with. I invested 3 or 4 hours of talking and stupid shit and got her back to my place for a make out sesh. She might turn into a plate, but I don't really know if I want that, considering she's friends with my acquaintances. Met up with a Tinder date who is hot but socially awkward and I believe is a virgin. I'm not sure if I should keep dating her to try to sleep with her or if I should drop her. I think I'm going to slowly game her. I've made progress on inorganic studying for an exam and I've made some progress on my laboratory research.
Negatives: Overall, I need a better morning and evening routine. This weekend, I will be writing that down on paper. Behind on a lab report and some studying for an exam coming up in a week. Complete report by tonight, email prof questions, and 2 hours of studying for exam tonight. Haven't studied for the GRE in a month, and I really need to get back into it. I plan to study at least a few hours this weekend. My diet could be better. I plan on making a ton of meatloaf tomorrow that will keep me going for a few days. I need to become more regular about eating rice. Sleeping only 5 hours because I suck at planning my day and I need to get better at it.
Shaney96 6y ago
Neutral/Observations:
After I approached this HB8 in the gym, I felt fucking great for like 2 hours. I feel I have (to an extent) re-identified with the self that had the belief that I was unable to get laid, hence why I've been getting sexually frustrated and still have my ex on my mind. This cold approach was basically a "fuck you, negative self-talk, I do have the capability to talk to girls I deem sexually attractive." So the feeling of joy was more proving my ego wrong (disidentification, to an extent) rather than feeling good from external validation.
Still awaking every night. Not as bad recently, but I guess that may be because I've kinda gotten used to it. Still, it's making me tired throughout the days. Combine this with consuming 1750 calories and you get an exhausted person. I feel I'm trim enough to go back to maintenance for a couple of weeks, when I'll then review my weight and begin my (long-awaited) lean bulk.
Positive:
Had quite a big confrontation with my housemate. Basically, I play music too loud, and one morning he comes in and flips shit. It was interesting to observe him fuel his own anger. Like, he'd get himself more and more angry throughout the conversation by exaggerating his points and insulting me. I found I enjoyed the interaction as I kept solid frame throughout, came to a resolution, and it ended with myself apologizing, pointing out my mistakes, and him walking off feeling relieved. There were points where I could sense that he just wanted to hit me, and it felt good to be able to keep my ego at bay, admit my faults, and talk using nothing but reason.
Hit the gym 4 times this week.
NoFap 4 weeks.
Cold approached a HB8 in the gym. First cold approach (well, first conversation with an attractive girl) in 2 months.
Still sticking to my caloric intake. Currently at ~162lbs. According to the PT at the gym, I'm 14% BF. He used callipers so I'm taking that with a large bag of salt, and I reckon I'm like 16%. I could go lower, but I'm at a point where I don't think it's too healthy to keep cutting since I don't have sufficient muscle on me for it to be worthwhile. AKA I'll probably start losing a greater % of muscle if I try to keep cutting.
Allowed myself to actually relax. A problem I've had over the last month or so is that I keep myself trying to do as many things as possible. This had added greatly to my anxiety since, because I cannot do all these things, I end up procrastinating. I now give myself a few things to do a night, then allow myself to relax. I've noticed reduced anxiety in the evenings.
Started reading LoTR each night for like 10 minutes. I find that I'm able to actually get to sleep a little quicker if reading something finction before bed, rather than being on my PC as the last thing I do.
Negative:
I doubt I'll be going out gaming this week. I said I was going to go last week solo, then I said I'd go this week solo. This however, is doubtful.
Not been practising guitar as much as I'd like to be doing.
Not been as focused at work as I'd like. I'm not going to put the entire blame on lack of sleep/energy. I must speak to my manager about trying new things, as sometimes I feel like headbutting a wall.
Missed a few days in a row of my ab workout. Got back into it yesterday but there was a 5-day stint of absence.
BloodRedPillz 6y ago
Man, I also have the problem where I try to do too much in the day and end up going to bed thinking I've not done enough. I need to relax more instead of trying to make up for lost time over the years.
Good job on your improvements.
lovs2spuge 6y ago
Like you, I'm very much at a standstill as to whether I should cut or bulk. Im 6'4 192lbs and not sure much muscle would be showing through if I cut, but Id hate to put on more fat in the process of bulking because im currently ~15% body fat. Id love to be 200-210 just with much less body fat.
[deleted] 6y ago
Let's say you bulk first, for 3 months, then cut for one. OR, you cut for a month then bulk for 3. Are the results going to be that much different? Just pick one and start, it'll be better than reading thousands of conflicting articles while sitting on your ass
lovs2spuge 6y ago
The important part is I’ve been in the gym for the past month. Some days I’ll eat surplus and others I’ll eat at a deficit. But you’re right that the results won’t vary too much
biglaughingcock 6y ago
bulk then cut then bulk then cut
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needz 6y ago
Positive:
Negative:
Shaney96 6y ago
Don't outright tell others what you're learning. It's fine to drop the odd pill here and there, but I find it more entertaining and rewarding to just observe the truths happening around me, and smile to myself. Yes, help ones you care about where you can, just don't flaunt your newfound knowledge.
needz 6y ago
I've changed though, and they can sense it. I don't know what that transformation looks like from the outside, but considering I have people reaching out for my time more than they used to...
Kinbaku_enthusiast 6y ago
I found the gervais principle of power communication highly illustrative. Come to think of it, I could work on that more.