Prepare for a super long post in two parts:
SUMMARY
I was dating a girl this summer and she ended up cheating on me and contracted an std. How I handled it was in all honesty blue pill behavior. I should’ve just walked away.
I started seeing this girl in middle of March. We met on tinder but went to the same middle school, so we connected on that. Things started out smoothly, lots of sexual talk, playful banter, all that. I do some musician work on the side, and before we even met in person, she got me an important gig. After that we started bonding and helping each other out with various projects. Her getting me gigs and meeting the right people and me doing some work for her Instagram. She’s a “body positive plus sized model” she actually had a decent sized following and was generating some profit, but still try not to roll your eyes too hard.
Anyways, we progressed in the relationship to the point where she eventually asked to be exclusive, I felt like we had a beneficial role with each other and could help me grow so I agreed and cut the other plate I was seeing at the same time. Things were pretty good but I realized before if I had sex with the same girl only for a while I would burn out and be uninterested. I wanted to slowly develop my sex drive, sounds weird but it’s true. So we would have sex maybe one day on one day off. She got pissed about this a few times and made it very clear that she did not like this, but I just asked her to put her trust in me.
I felt kind of off about something and checked her social media accounts. She had given me her password a long time ago and was unaware I still had access. Everything seemed pretty in place so I wasn’t worried too much.
Now recently she went to her gynecologist and got an std test. And she tested positive. I thought maybe I contracted it as I haven’t been tested in a long time and have done some pretty sketchy sexual things, the possibility of her cheated never even crossed my mind. My dad was kind of hinting to me that maybe she said it to get the blame off her. I shrugged it off. Sorry dad.
I actually thanked her for not thinking I was cheating. Fucking moron. So i got tested and then we hung out. Something didn’t make sense in the back of my head. So I started dropping hints that hey every girl I’ve been with, except one who immediately got tested before me and showed me the results, gets routine checkups. Not one of them has contacted me about it.
SHIT GOT REAL HERE:
She kept calm but I could see she was freaking out internally. She tried every trick in the book to manipulate me. Crying and Telling me that the last girl was unstable. That I should text her to get checked and not ask her for the results and just let it be. All sorts of shit to kind of steer me away. She told me this was a test of our trust. She even ACTUALLY said something along the lines of “if men don’t catcall their girlfriends and tell them they’re beautiful they’ll listen to other catcalls.” Holy shit. She basically just spelled it out. Incredible. I kept my cool and told her everything would be fine. That there’s NO WAY she cheated on me. And when this last girls results came back positive it would be clear. That it would make ABSOLUTELY no sense for it to be anything but positive.
So the day before I get my results. Somehow somebody hacked her Instagram and deleted it. Don’t know how and don’t care.
END OF PART ONE
[deleted] 5y ago
OP U DA MAN. STAY CLEAN HOMIE.
BattlefieldWarrior 5y ago
Dude, deleting her Instagram was petty and pointless. It'll only cause more drama and problems for you, plus now she has a legitimate reason to talk shit about you and make others hate you.
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Not even gonna read this. I saw that u committed to Tinder sloot, and a fat Tinder sloot at that too. What is there to learn here for the new guys?
- Never commit to or take any Tinder girl seriously. Theyre NOT relationship material.
- Never commit to fat chicks
Sir_Distic 5y ago
Once she contacted you about being positive for an STD you should have done 2 things.
Get yourself tested, obviously no more fucking her until you're results come back.
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WingManThunder 5y ago
In my experience Getting into business related ventures with your girl is no bueno. BBW Instagram model types are very insecure and seek validation from anywhere they can get it. But if these fat bitches are going to keep calling themselves "body positive" then why aren't they doing anything positive for their body?
harishblessyou 5y ago
Yea fuck them.... I mean no offense everyone one is beautiful... but stuffing 20 wings and cake and a Diet Coke is not you do to you’re body whatsoever
EscortSportage 5y ago
Going into business with women alone is a bad idea.
hiddenpleasures123 5y ago
BBWs are a no-go. Their sick bodies are a reflection of the inside of themselves. Believe me(blue-pilled me dated one right out of high school. I met her at my first job right of school). It was fun pounding that huge ass and they were down for a lot of shit sexually. But... They're extremely insecure and have obscure interests. Also since Hypergamy is a real thing and they're considered beneath most men in dating terms. They'll fuck almost any guy; including some creep twice-three times their age off of Craigslist who had a pussy eating ad up.
mohchapa 5y ago
Why are they a no-go then?
Btw just to be clear we are speaking about curvy hot BBW not obese disgusting BBW
hiddenpleasures123 5y ago
They're a no-go because they're sick losers. Their bodies reflect the inside on the outside bruh. All it takes is a little diet and a little exercise to achieve an average body. Fat cunts are lazy, dirty slobs with zero accountability.
PM if you'd like to know the full extent of my dating history with one.
oneorigin 5y ago
She is right. And too stupid to keep the truth hidden.
meemow 5y ago
PLOT TWIST:
I got my results and by some shining holy miracle, I came back CLEAN. Whoever the fuck was looking out for me I love you. So she called me crying about her page and I just played along that I still loved her and everything was going to be okay. I met up with her that night and showed her the results. Flipping her off and driving away. She called me as I was leaving, I cursed her out and laughed about it when she said it came from nowhere. She THEN put me on three way with her mom who said the level of insecurity I was displaying was ridiculous. I laughed extremely hard and we parted ways.
To top off this shit sundae with a shit cherry, I posted on Instagram about it omitting her name but leaving up my test results. Which was pathetic.
LESSONS LEARNED:
-Women can manipulate you in ways you don’t even think is possible. Always trust your gut.
-Don’t stalk someone’s social media. It’s sad and you probably won’t even get the answers you want.
-Just walk away when shit hits the fan. Don’t post about it, don’t give it another thought. Just reflect on what you can do to better yourself afterwards.
-ALWAYS. GET. TESTED. You never know who’s seeing whoever YOURE seeing.
TL;DR: girlfriend gets std results and tests positive. Boyfriend tests negative. Bullshit ensues.
Snowcatttt 5y ago
Bro you should always get a second check up though. Some STDs/STIs have a different inoculation time frame and won't show up on a blood or urine tests for weeks or even months. You wouldn't even have symptoms for months. In this case her positive results were instant according to your story and it might not apply to you but personally I never knew about STD's going undetected because of that until recently.
Andgelyo 5y ago
Reminds me of the time I thought I contracted herpes, God or some higher power was watching over me and im not even religious lol
adeptintact 5y ago
You didn't say the STD that she was positive for. If it's HIV, it usually takes 3 months from contracting it for it to be positive on a test. False positives happen all the time if you take the test too early. This also applies to Herpes. The reason is your body takes time to make antibiodies and most of these tests are checking for that. You could still be positive, but tested too early.
simplisticallysimple 5y ago
Why is that such a miracle? It's simply harder for guys to catch shit from a girl than vice-versa.
saucetinonuuu 5y ago
Hey man, you learned your lesson that’s for sure. Glad you’re clean and can move forward with a new perspective. You’re clearly being introspective, which I commend you for.
meemow 5y ago
While posting this I thought I’d get shit on for the way I acted, so I’m glad to see this comment. Thanks man.
lonelystar82 5y ago
Words of wisdom. Happy for you! The fact she involved her mom is ridiculous. Glad you made out of the situation.
oneorigin 5y ago
Always wash your dick after sex with a good soap, plus chlorhexidine. Pee and sprinkle chlorhexidine inside urethra.
Geckobird 5y ago
See, this shit is why sex isn’t even worth it to me anymore.
oneorigin 5y ago
You can't get a disease, if you wash all germs out. Condoms are also available in 2018, including very thin Japanese.
colcrnch 5y ago
Jesus fuck — viruses can pass through the mucus membrane on contact and instantaneously depending upon the virus. HPV for example is extremely contagious. Bacteria can also colonize whether you scrub or not.
oneorigin 5y ago
Able to show some studies?
After being washed out? After chlorhexidine?
Nov51605 5y ago
Ive heard that taking neem oil in capsules can kill just about anything if taken right away and for a couple weeks. powerful shit
oneorigin 5y ago
> neem oil
It's used in organic agriculture to spray on leaves (gotta do it frequently). Some care should be taken not to inhale it. I wouldn't take it by mouth - it's toxic and can't possibly protect against STDs.
Nov51605 5y ago
Ive made my own capsules from it amd ingested without incident. Def nothing to play with. It can def kill viruses, parasites, bacterias, etc.. not sure if it antifungal, but if it is taken immediately after intercourse, it could easily handle any virus if taken for a week before it cam gestate properly
oneorigin 5y ago
It can't POSSIBLY help with STDs, because it only kills germs on contact - in your stomach.
And not just germs, but all bacteria. If you didn't feel anything (e.g. diarrhea), then the amount was placebo-like.
I suggest you don't try taking more, because diarrhea is not the only thing, that may happen. You may even die. This shit is toxic.
Nov51605 5y ago
I'm doing a fair amount of reading, and it does appear to be effective in more than only just localized applications as you are indicating https://www.discoverneem.com/neem-oil-for-genital-herpesvaginal-warts.html
That said, there can't be a hard-line stance of it doesn't work for STDs, there seems to be a scientific basis for it being effective albeit not completely 100% concrete due to more research being warranted
oneorigin 5y ago
This is not research, but only beliefs of some people. In research studies it slowed virus reproduction when a tube was filled with oil. Any oil does the same. It means nothing.
It can't possibly help with STDs when put inside a stomach. Penis is not in a stomach.
Demiurge_Decline 5y ago
Women who are 5's are more troublesome than 9's. With 5's you have to manage their self worth, and the many orbitors seeing a quick easy kill = magnified by hypergamy. With 9's you just have to manage less true orbitors but (they're higher value) magnified by hypergamy. In short, with 9's they have higher self worth so they dont need to prove themselves, not seeking attention, nor the ole regular postal worker or MLM marketer who calls her beautiful wont move the dial...
VictxrSenpai 5y ago
I can relate. That fuck my life feeling when your waiting for results is 1 of the fucking worst feelings in this cruel world.
minisrikumar 5y ago
Which STD did she catch?
Also, I probably would have asked for more information about the situation before just flipping her off lol
Stay clean homie
meemow 5y ago
Chlamydia. Mate, if you saw the way she was acting and heard the things she said when I was telling her the girl I was seeing before I was exclusive with her got a test, you would know. That and the fact she said it came from nowhere.