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mugenowns 5y ago
I got a promotion. I start my new position on Monday. Small raise. I'm currently cleaning my apartment, doing laundry and I plan to go to BJJ class later. Someone please message me or comment at like 11 am Pacific time and make me go. I've bitched out on BJJ all week
rallfreedom 5y ago
Started keto this week
I’m overweight. I’ve been on TRP for over a year now but mostly focused on frame and mentality and just kinda brushed off the being obese. I had a friend who was a 6 but started hitting the gym everyday for a year and is easily an 8, the amount of girls attracted to him now is insane with that little boost. So I said screw it, I’m going on a diet
I read keto subreddits, bought a cookbook. I’m cooking and watching what I eat daily. I’m a week in and 6 pounds down. I’m only drinking water and have been tempted to do otherwise but I’m staying true to myself. I say I’m doing this because girls, but that never really motivated me before. I’m doing this because I want to look good for me, I want to look in the mirror at my naked body and not be ashamed.
[deleted] 5y ago
Worked 7 days this week. Need money for a new wardrobe to raise SMV.
Losing weight (only recently on RP). Went from 200 to 192. I can't decide whether the 2lb/ week rule is genuinely healthy or just BP conditioning, preventing men from raising their SMV. Either way, I have one meal a day, and feel fine. I plan to hit 185 by next week. Goal weight is 150, and to eventually build to 180 in muscle. I don't have much muscle to preserve anyway.
I'm reading the Social Skills Guidebook, I'm tired of being a shut-in. I read the Rational Male a few weeks ago, but decided to put RP reading on hold until I finish this book. You need to be social first, then adjust your social habits and tendencies to be RP.
Negatives were that I didn't study electronics this week. Jacked it, been trying to do NoFap (PornFree doesn't work for me). Been on Reddit too much.
Ahh, June 22. My past Oneitis' birthday. Maybe I'll become her Oneitis. The irony is sweet.
Zen_YS 5y ago
Positive
Negative
Plans
(I'm not a native speaker, so bear with me)
FrickengChicken 5y ago
**Little Background:** I've known about trp for a while, I don't identify with some of the attitudes here (and some of the rage), but I do like the sense of community and self improvement. I want to get more successful and such a community might help.
This last semester I fucked up a bit in college and I have a week to try to make it a bit better, but it's going to be nowhere near my expectations. Next semester I'll finally take this seriously. On the flip side I have an excellent resume, with tons of extra curricular and even involved in some companies. Unfortunately I wasn't responsible to get an internship this summer, I will use to improve myself, study in advance and invest into learning some areas of CS that might interest me.
Positive:
- I've been using the previous day to-do list scheme, and it's working well.
- Have made a few lists regarding what I want to get done in Summer
- Deleted instagram from my phone, less focus on others and on my long time oneitis, or other girls I don't give a shit in reality but seem to get fucking invested on.
Negative:
- Too much porn
- Stuck at home, don't really have friends outside of college town or other activities, so I'm stuck in my small village. Have no car, dependent on public transport. I'd like to have a solid group of friends, and in reality I had some (or still haven) but I just don't care enough. I want to get out and see shit, do shit, feel wind on my face
- Haven't worked out, I have weights at home and I love to workout but being at home just crushes me.
-Procrastinating a lot
- Some friends that I considered myself somewhat close to (not inner circle but nice friends) apparently don't really feel the same. In these situations I usually get mad and say fuck the world, but I'll try to be calm and just say fuck it, whatever.
Plans:- I gotta get some work next year or try to do some freelancing online, I need money, my money. I wanna get the motorcycle driving license, my parents hate them but I need to get a motorcycle, I feel the need to finally rebel, I'm 20 yo and feel like a kid.
- Gonna advance myself this summer, reduce lazyness to a minimum. Stop focusing so much on girls.- I wanted an internship for money and to learn, since I'm not getting one I'll learn by myself, there's ton of resources on ML and Blockchain, I'll investigate this summer and also try to contribute to some open source project.
Not sure:
- Not sure if I should uninstall tinder, I barely use it, got 93 matches but barely talk to them, I kinda use it as an ego boost, I'm a bit picky and really got no text game (I just say shit, nerdy, random, stupid, creepy, fuck it, I just say whatever and spam gifs for the laughs), I've got laid with it. But since I'm not in college town and it takes around an hour to get there I'm not sure if it's worth the distraction it brings. Besides I want to focus on myself.
- A girl that has been one of my closest friends for some solid 5 years (to whom I bitched about girls and vice-versa), I'm getting farther away from her, I'm a lone wolf usually, but lately with my bitch levels decreasing I just get disgusted regarding our old conversations and hearing her talk about guys is simply boring, she's hot but I'm not interested, I like her, she helped me and was good company when I felt lonely, she has endured tons of shitty bitching from me in the past, but I don't want this. I want to hang with her and some other girls I'm friends with, but lose the bitch factor I've always had. I need to become a man and that probably includes getting away for a bit.
Flintblood 5y ago
Positive:
This is sort of a backlog update. I lost about 3 to 4 inches of body fat around my waist in the past 3 to 4 months critical mass on that was it she’s about two months ago and I. I’ve been toning and building upper body since then.
I don’t shy away and women take more than a passing interest in me. If they’re looking, stare, in my direction for more than two seconds I look back and smile and maintain eye contact.
I’ve made it a point to try and strike up small talk with female strangers that would ordinarily be a little out of gaming range. Safe sandbox practice I suppose, before upping my day gaming efforts.
On some level, I’ve come to grips with the fact that in terms of maintaining the body, women have lice in ease your load compared to men. It’s not that I never see women working out, but usually those women are doing so for sports, if they’re younger (<23 yo). It seems to me that most females 18 to 25 can have doughy bodies as long as they have tits and a booty to give them somewhat of an hourglass shape. I’ve grown to be OK with that in regards to feeling like I put in a lot of effort while a lot of women don’t yet they still get play, but today I relapsed and started posting on groups like Inceltears and Braincels.
I’ve only had 5 alcohol drinks in the past 2-3 months. Abstaining for body reasons not moral ones.
Quit casually consuming anything porn-like about a month ago. I even felt bad about checking out softcore like the Roommates Show on HBO. I watched it to try and maybe gain some insights into the young single female mind, but found nothing more than softcore. Ironically, it’s the men in this show who have absolutely no dialogue, well unless it’s a beta coworker. If the men are getting any, they are silent bodies only.
Negative:
Once a week I relapse and find myself defending some incel or lookism related post. Still, though I mainly defend their right to post without being ridiculed or labeled a threat. They have legit redpill observations; it’s just what they choose to do with it that’s maladaptive.
I’ve been slow to challenge myself socially or with gaming. I tried Tinder but then quit because someone had me banned, probably for a shirtless pic that didn’t show much face (still testing the waters). I knew it when it happened because one moment I was on and then the next, the app restarted and then began to prompt me through the sign up process again.
whydoueventry 5y ago
Recently finished uni semester. Got a month's break before uni starts again. I've set myself a few goals that I will continue after the month as well:
I'm also getting into the habit of posting in the weekly improvement thread so I can track my progress and gain motivation - haven't had a means to do that until now. At this stage my main goal isn't to get girls but to work on myself to maximise my SMV potential and get out of my unhealthy extremely beta lifestyle and own my shit.
bestsparkyalive 5y ago
Positive:
Lost 50 pounds in under 2 years and transformed my body and confidence self esteem all that crap.
Finished first year electrical school 2 weeks early and did a mountain biking trip solo.
Going back to my job I had before school where I am well liked around the company.
Signed up to go back to school at the end of October, twice in one year is not done by many.
Negative:
I keep sticking around my on and off girlfriend. Our core values do not align at all and I am scared that she will find a way to absolutely destroy me in the future. Doesn’t help that I’ve never been in love and she’s my second lay ever... just makes it harder to leave her for More than a god damn week. She’s been physically abusive to me twice and lied about fucking some dude the first time we broke up which I never found out about till 11 months later which is the reasoning for my current state of.... not feeling well. I need help. I am weak. I feel so alpha in my life except when it comes to her.
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one_more_iteration 5y ago
I need to fucking stop seeking/accepting validation from average girls. It's wasting my time and it is getting pathetic. I have a plate who's a 6.5, gives me no shit whatsoever, swallows and lets me bust inside her. I should be content with that for now. I'm in the perfect position to shed these last ten pounds and focus on the gym.
What am I doing instead? Texting, hanging out, gaming average girls. It's such a feminine thing to do but it seems to be the only way for me to derive any self worth. It's been like a year of this shit.
Just needed to vent.
WhiteGhosts 5y ago
noticed my arms have gotten bigger due to fitness.
i have created this guilty pleasure of listening to old britney spears songs, the kind of songs teenage girls and gays listen to. try to lower the volume so my house mates won't hear it, it's a little embarrassing
idoril 5y ago
That Britney song thing made my day :-)
Tlerhoh 5y ago
Good:
Bad:
bone_shadows 5y ago
Quit all drugs/alcohol months ago, saved a bunch of money One month into my candito strength program Got a new full time job with a construction company that rakes in 600 a week
TheOneAndOnlyRob13 5y ago
Pros:
Cons
Overall, a net positive this week.
[deleted] 5y ago
Great progress. Could you describe or share your mission statement. This is something I've been interested in. Do you meditate? If not, I definitely recommend taking it up through an app like headspace.
TheOneAndOnlyRob13 5y ago
Here's the mission statement I wrote down:
[In my optimal life, I will be in the top 20% of guys in the SMP. To specify this, I have broken down this life into separate sections: physical, social, financial, habitual.
Physical Lifting is a regular habit of mine. I have a ripped look; not a huge build of a bodybuilder. My body fat % is 12% or less. I am well versed in many forms of combat, such as boxing. In terms of diet, I eat balanced. No processed garbage, artificial things, etc. I know how to cook, so I make my own meals. I take my health very seriously.
Social I am the Alpha of my social circle. This means I lead, not follow. I choose men who mostly share the same mindset and mentality as I do. Obviously, I possess all of the traits of a leader. Natural confidence, tight social game and seduction game, conversational skills, and interesting things to talk about. In regards to women, I prefer to stay out of long term relationships. It’s just who I am. I will never get married. In this game known as marriage, I choose to not join. Why fuck myself by getting the government involved? I assert dominance wherever I go. But, most importantly: My Mission is much higher on my priorities list than women or social events!!!
Financial Financial Freedom: The ability to live a less stressed life than most other people. I don’t need a lot of money at my base form; just enough to save and pay my bills. I am conservative with money; I opt to save rather than spend. Treating myself to stuff is a thing, however. I have my own place early on. Part of being a man is going out on your own. I made my own way. I only get help when I absolutely need it. Self-Reliance is KEY!
Habitual Morning Routine: Wake up at 4:30 AM Make bed. Cold Shower Meditation Get dressed. Nightly Routine Interval Shower at 8:30 PM Get clothes ready for tomorrow. Meditate Write tomorrow’s goals on the whiteboard. Read (self-improvement). No Porn, masturbation, video games, or junk food. Lifting weights (first for strength, than for aesthetics). Reading ***Writing Cooking Ability to run my own place. Speaking multiple languages. Some form of musical instrument (prob. guitar)]
And yes, I do meditate twice a day.
Zed-Student 5y ago
-Cleaned my room. -Changing my sleep hours. -quit video games -start doing push ups, and eating right
suprathepeg 5y ago
Goals week of June 18, 2018
Spiritual - 5 mins daily meditation - done Physical - figure out diet - I figured out protein intake and water intake, need to get more fiber. Psychological - finish WISNIFG - continued, not done. Probably go over it again. Financial - Find way to hold wife accountable to live within her means. - not done. Personal - do one activity alone - not done, should get this done tomorrow afternoon.
Key lifts are all up either by weight or by reps. Making an appointment to sit down with a dietitian, want to have % of body fat down by 5-10points by September.
[deleted] 5y ago
This is what red pill is about, self-improvement. Good for you!
enkae7317 5y ago
Not exactly this weekend but a few days ago I started to pick up lifting again. Going 3x a week with a beginner split I saw on fitness subreddit. I stopped for a year because of school + work but now thats no real excuse.
staticrevision 5y ago
Game
Talked to way more chicks. Realize I need to talk to literally everybody about everything because everyone thinks I'm amicable and funny.
Started thinking about posture and presence more. I look to take up space in a room now and I notice everybody mirin when I'm around. I do whatever the fuck I want in public now which mainly means being athletic and walking on my hands, doing flagpoles, and climbing shit. Gonna start working on being able to do flips but haven't made it a priority.
Fitness
Befriended the badass ripped calisthenics bro at the gym. (Always doing badass shit like planche and handstand pusbups) weve talked before but I made sure to get his number and let him know im eager to train with him. He says he's ready to push me to the next level. Started a mini 9 day cut today. Love cutting cause I know what I'm doing and can't wait to look extra peeled again. I already have made it as far as most people are concerned(lean and muscular) but I'm about to go on vacation to Colorado for a week and want to look extra crispy. Plan on gameing Colorado stoner chicks. Hopefully manage to get some back to my cabin for smokey time fun.
FrickengChicken 5y ago
Hey man, how did you befriend the dude at the gym?
I want to meet some cool people but when working out I'm just zoned out and despite saying hi to a few guys I'm used to see or helping someone in the press, I barely speak a word.
Archergold88 5y ago
Finally got past 1 month of being consist at the gym. Seen great gains in just 1 month. Damn I love noob gains. Unfortunately I’m still stuck being a loser masterbating to porn. I’ve tried everything and I still cant manage to stop this shitty habit.
keysomea 5y ago
Saw my ex-LTRBin the supemarket with her new boyfriend and they are both very fat (my ex to be skinny when we dated) so I’m feeling pretty good bout that. On other news: 6x/week on the gym for about a year now definitely seeing some improvements after owning to make my routine, 6th day of NoFap, reading about CBT on that David Burns book (recommend it), and setting some more long term goals. Bad stuff: Did not medidate neither took cold showers in 3 days as of now. Need more discipline. Keep up the good work dudes!
[deleted] 5y ago
Recently got out of a relationship. Made out with a french girl I met at the bar last night, definitely came off too into her though because she didn't add me back on FB. She suddenly became super attracted to me after I flirted with this other chick but then when the moment came to go for the kiss I was shaking like crazy from the nerves and was jusf acting far too attentive. Was aware of how I fucked up and will get better. Ill keep doing it until I get over that nerves thing, it seems to hit me every time I get close to hooking up with a hot girl..
Anyway went out again tonight and tried on one chick, was dancing with her and holding her hips but her friend came and blocked me. Turned around and this asian girl was eye fucking me, was grinding on her for a minute before these two guys she was with literally grabbed her and physically blocked me out haha. She kept looking back trying to come back but one of them starts kissing her neck super aggresively, she was turning her head away but eventually gave in with an unenthusiastic makeout, i guess she was just the submissive type and probably drunk. Should have made out with her right away. Need to take advantage of the signals when I see them.
Turned to my left and saw this kinda cute looking girl, started dancing and she comes up to me and says "I'm not with him!" Pointing at her friend, so I grabbed her and started making out with her. She was a terrible kisser and had absolutely no sense of rhythm which was a big turn off so didn't bother taking it further.
Was a good experience, the more I go out the easier it seems to get, slowly. Tomorrow night I will pull.
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Rgfnd 5y ago
I’ve progressed to stage 4 of the Redpill phases. Anger by far was the longest phases and still comes occasionally. I’ve always wanted to get married and have a family but now I’ve swallowed the pill I’m not sure anymore. The sadness phases has got me seriously thinking about MGTOW. If AWALT, what’s the point? Hookups don’t mean much to me anymore and I’ve never had any deep connections/bonds with any of my plates. For the more seasoned redpillers: is there a light at the end of the tunnel?
ravenpuk 5y ago
2 month ago i ended my 5y submissive relationship, This week was my first attempt (ever) at game (game ,trying to bring a stranger to bed ,not sure if synonyms) . It may seem odd but this was huge for me! But even better ,i went home with the 3th even if some other better looking guy was trying to counterplay me. Bottom line is, TRP is changing my life and i love it! Not just game but confidence, self improprement and most of all self awareness . I'm kicking out old beta me and i never felt better!
throwaway35626362 5y ago
Started to gain respect from peers. My voice is heard, I have people I can trust, I no longer feel like an outcast.
I still don't really have any friends that are girls but I'm more concerned of being at least above average in respect with my male classmates
315skwot 5y ago
This week has been weird but great. I made some friends with some burnouts( i think, i feel bad for saying that but that's how i see them ). They are my roomates and it's nice to have real close friends again. I spent time in college slogging and feel like it's been ages trying to make new friends. I was really popular in high school but realized in college its not what i wanted then and buried my head in my books. I'm an interview away from doubling my salary and i think it's amazing how much TRP has helped me in this regard. I apply (lol) 'game theory' to my interviews, play dread game and it's fucking stupid how much people will pay a 22 year old. I also am learning how to be less modest, I went to a good college, workout a lot and am lucky enough to work in a job i like and have already seen my prestige in the local community rise as a result and this is kind of embarrassing but i feel like i'm finally getting good at something i love and it's such a nice feeling.
It's surreal being valued.
My mom died when i was in highschool and it's always been "you did really well considering your circumstances", people don't realize how much that hurts. I want to be 'great' regardless of my 'handicap'. My dream is to bring blockchain to healthcare and i know a lot of you think it's imaginary money but i've been told i was wrong a lot and we'll see how far i get.
It's always nice being here. I train at a metroflex and they call it 'the last stronghold for people serious about strength' and that's how i feel here. I tell people (rarely) that im on TRP a lot and they say 'you are the last person i would expect to be on here'. I'm learning how to be more disagreeable i guess and it's paid off so much. coupled with impostor syndrome, i never felt like i could prove my worth until now. Girls are still a struggle but its cause i still am concious about my (now almost non existant) acne, but ill get there. Once again, it's cool how much i've learnt here.
Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
Quit weed this week. Huge breakthrough for me. It was creating self defeating cycles in my life that were starting to undermine everything I truly want.
Recommend this for all red pill men. Weed sedates you and kills your natural drive-its death for progress.
mindset_warrior 5y ago
That's the thing with weed - it affects everyone differently. What's more is that it will affect you differently depending on your state of mind and point in life. I've had a complicated relationship with Mary Jane over the past decade since I first started, but I reckon we always know what the right thing to do with it is. When it gets too much, its necessary to go cold turkey to prove to yourself that you can. A lot of times, tho, it comes down to your social group. If you're hanging out with 4 stoners, its inevitable for you to become the 5th. All in all, weed is strange mistress and we have to learn to deal with her effectively. What's most important is your goals - if weed is holding you back from them, you've gotta let go.
richi0003 5y ago
Its been 9 months since i quit weed. I can assure you that he is absolutely right
Stubrose 5y ago
Good shit man, just did the same thing. I'd always find some bullshit excuse like it helps me sleep or whatever, but I was just lying to myself.
HealthInspector0331 5y ago
I quit weed recently as well. I still have a small clip and a blunt left in my swisher bag, and have no desire to spark them. It was killing my Chi, we don't need weeds in our inner garden.
eddie_hascal 5y ago
That's great. I still use but have noticed how much it can set back.
[deleted] 5y ago
I did the same thing this week and I also started getting 8 hours of sleep every night (previously I was somewhere between 5 and 6 hours).
I feel more energized and happier overall. These are big achievements for me as I was smoking weed for 5 years and my sleep schedule was off the chart with no regular hour to go to bed.
Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
Reading into it, I realized weed actually has negative effects on quality of REM sleep. Smoking everyday has been harming my sleep for years without me even realizing it. I attribute the increase in energy to increase in sleep quality.
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Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
Look in to the way weed affects your REM sleep- using before bed could still have an impact on your health
imtheoneimmortal 5y ago
I quit alcohol, sometime I smoke weed but I got good sleep and I got my objectives anyway, it just chill me a lot
RoughTeddy 5y ago
Responsible use is fine. Just be vigilant and make sure it doesn't become a hindrance to your success.
imtheoneimmortal 5y ago
to me weed now don't compromise nothing, rather it make me chill on weekend and good sleeping, alcohol is just fucking bad.
Ok 1-2 beer but stop
theromanshcheezit 5y ago
Weed is probably the most anti-red pill drug out there. It dulls motivation and weakens your work ethic.
mindset_warrior 5y ago
True, but I feel it might play a roll in snapping the mind out of its usual thought patterns and open it up to seeing the world in different ways sometimes, i.e. snap out of the matrix in some sense.
theromanshcheezit 5y ago
Depends on the person and how often you smoke but it’s expensive and for someone who’s not really entrenched in the RP lifestyle, it can initiate a relapse.
jcorye1 5y ago
I made some aggressive changes in my life, setting some hard boundaries and really letting up on the perfectionism to say the most witty thing ever for every conversation with a chick. I said something I thought was funny, and this one woman was just not buying what I was selling and I flamed out. It happens, my life didn't end, and I didn't even fret over it.
djh860 5y ago
Began the process of owning my blue pill habits. Began the process of unlearning faulty facts and logic about women. Bought no more Mr nice guy and the game. Began reading suggested web sites to understand basic terms and ideas such as plates.
zaheer12a 5y ago
Basically, just took the pill two days ago. My story is quite similar to the incel who turned his life around (sidebar) up untill the point where he took the pill.
When I found TRP I finally saw some sort of confirmation of my beliefs. Everyone I talked to about relationships, women, etc. Said I had negative feelings about women....
Anyhow, day 3 now.
Hit the gym yesterday again after a hiatus. Quit the gym during Ramadan because timings just woudnt work out with working out and being able to drink while doing so.
The plan is to work on my endurance in the next 5 weeks before I head over to China for 6 weeks. Need to be able to climb 1000+ steps to the top of mountains and shit.
disabledtrp 5y ago
Positive
Started to lift like a week ago. everyday. little by little. (look my username)
i'm preparing the presentations for 2 upcoming conferences and a workshop
finishing up a product to launch into the market, hopefully, next week.
tried to talk and get a date with a friend of a friend (7HB body, 6HB face) that i saw at a company anniversary like 8 months ago and just recently got her IG, got nothing. no problem. getting accustomed to rejection.
got a 5HB on tinder, not much, is a writer, maybe even a feminist but it was easy. it was a constant test but passed them all. she is playing hard as saying that she is busy on saturday to go out but if she has time she will let me know. didn't talked anymore with her, IDGAF, dunno what will happen. will be my first real date in my life (29M). i know 5HB is low, but i believe that practice make the master, so, i don't care if i screw up, i will just move forward.
Negative
Managing anxiety has been a problem for a while, and even if i'm getting better, remembering things brings some anxiety that is hard to handle for a short while. It made me lose a couple of hours per day until i can focus on things again, i need to work more on this.
ananyo007 5y ago
Hey man. Don't let any disability neg you. Market your weakness. Make it your strength.
I've a speech disability after a botched impacted molar surgery. It gave me a weird accent. I used to be insecure of standing out in social situations. But I learned to live with it.
Whatever you have, wear it as an armour. Make it your own power. Improve in other aspects of life and don't be afraid of standing out. You've got the spotlight because of whatever you have. Own your weakness.
disabledtrp 5y ago
Thanks for your words ! is what i have been doing all my life really, i wouldn't be standing where i'am if not. Not gonna lie, with women is a bit heavier in my mind than in other situations, but mostly why by nature i'm an introvert (even if doesn't look like). I usually use it for a good jokes material, so is handy to break the ice in most situations :)
andtoc 5y ago
That's pretty much it. I need to push harder physically and also work more efficiently. I wish you all the best this coming week!
disabledtrp 5y ago
As someone close to the game / mobile industry, just be sure to focus on the marketing perspective more than the tech part. the mobile stores are overpopulated, so discovery is the key. be sure that you have a real market (even if is niche), title, keywords, good screenshots, good 30 sec videos, reviews, press, youtubers coverage.
is nice to focus on the tech, but today, 60%-70% of the effort must go to marketing.
my 2 cents !
andtoc 5y ago
Thank you for the advice, will take it into account. I think I thought this one pretty well through strategy-wise, although I am going to work on it more. I do think that the quality and positioning of the product is more important than the marketing side. Am I wrong?
disabledtrp 5y ago
Positioning has to do with marketing. Everything depends on the product and what is your budget. no idea what you are doing, but as a rule of thumb, a minimum of 50% of the budget (of money & time) must go to marketing. Apps or games, is better to have a MVP asap, keep iterating as soon as possible, publish as soon as possible to satisfy your core market and start spreading the voice. I love quality, but if is not a critical part of the product (you are replacing a competitor with poor quality for example), you can sacrifice non-essential features and get into the market asap. You never know if you need to pivot or prioritize something else if you are not in the market, and delivering to your potentials customers.
hungrybath 5y ago
Got a gym membership and started working out. Finally taking action rather than constant mental masturbation.
Quit porn. Moderating actual masturbation.
auricomous 5y ago
how much do you count as moderate? for me it seems it's fucking my life and I need to stop for 30 days to kind of reset. Moderation is great to start but at least for me at the minute it's not enough
hungrybath 5y ago
At the moment, moderate for me is once a week on a Sunday evening. You'll only find out through trial and error what works for you.
CockyAndHot 5y ago
Overall week 8.3/10
Fitness 8/10
Social 10/10
Misc 7/10
fcking77 5y ago
I'm not improving, I started therapy to deal with my insecurities and jealousy. I slut shamed my girlfriend, I've fucked up and I think we'll going to break up anyway.
iiKarambit 5y ago
I had a major issue with having girls like me and me never actually hanging out with them, I was to pussy to even ask them to. But yesterday I just kind of said fuck it, I asked a girl if she wanted to do something fun. Told her what we were gonna do. Asked what days she was free, told her when we were gonna do it. And now we have a meet up arranged.
Easier then I thought, just had to get over the hump. And she’s a solid 8 and I can tell she’s into me
I’m 17 known about this sub reddit for about 2 years, ironically I heard about it from the news and they said how terrible it was for society. I was in a pit of depression and had onetentis for this girl. Found the sub reddit and it didn’t change me. It gave me the tools to change myself. Now I am actually using them. Started to lift about 6 months ago, I’m focused on goals and hopefully soon I won’t be focusing on girls.
Thank you
[edit] I also figured out what dread was and used it to my advantage.
FirstNamesMusic 5y ago
Through the ups and downs of a year and a half here is my progress:
250 to 190, working out 5 days a week.
Bought my first house, have 2 roommates who pay me rent.
Put myself in a leadership position in my local community and church.
Job is going well, but am about to switch for more $$$.
During this year and a half, the last thing to fall into place is the women. I dated a few, but nothing really felt different (even when applying TRP), but finally life feels as if I have unplugged from a photo filter and I'm seeing the world the way I want to see it, and the women now see this. I can't fully explain the difference between 2 months ago and now. Probably confidence mixed in with my achievements.
Bad:
I'm not an asshole about it, but I do what I need to/want to. I live near my family who are extremely conservative (I am as well), but they can't seem to comprehend me not following their constant nagging advice. They take it as a slight, so this has been a bit of a strain on my family relationships as my parents cannot seem to grasp I am not a child anymore.
Other than this, life is grand. Though, I am worn out honestly. Need to take some time, this year of straight grinding is amazing but I need to meditate/pray on some things.
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I like that you sublet them in your own house. Really smart. There's a millionaire (assuming) I know, who sent a kid off to college. 2/3 * 4 years of principal and interest paid off by two of his friends who lived with him.
Congrats on everything, may your life be ever greater
renzo_0078 5y ago
Seeking to improve. Stuck in the loop of adopting a new habit (like lifting) and it works for a while. After some time of consistency, the old habits come back. It has been like this for social life too. It feels very seasonal and I have no control over it. It's embarassing to admit it and tbh this may not be the right place but I know that here, I'm with the correct crowd.
burner138 5y ago
I didn't post last week, since I wasn't near a computer. I am here now. Positives:
I have been keeping to my workouts and i did have a couple of off days over the weekend for fathers day when I went out with the Pops. I had an interview earlier this week for a job outside of my city and more up north but its a good hour commute to and from depending on traffic and lights. I have high hopes. I am almost done with all bills and have been dieting real well. I am trying to kill my cold approach and trying to come up with ways to cold approach at work (I know not to shit where I eat, so i'm keeping it casual).
Negative:
I have been playing video games still and trying to slowly get away from it.
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djh860 5y ago
I want to offer an idea from internet marketing for the sole proprietor. If you’re trying to sell something that can’t be purchased on impulse like consulting or engineering then you spend a great deal of time and nothing ever seems to work. In these situations it’s best when tracking results to consider everything a victory. I think this idea is well suited to TRP. Example. Young smoke says hi to you. Victory! Young smoke makes eye contact across the room. Victory ! You speak to the smoke show receptionist in marketing. Victory! You ask a woman out. (Regardless of outcome) Victory! In marketing we do this because it takes time to build critical mass. We need guideposts along the way that show us we are on the right track.
What guidepost you choose is up to you. Why should we declare these victories? They are evidence of positive change in behavior and we want to make sure we are doing the behaviors that will lead to success regularly.
MyRedditAccountSSV 5y ago
This is also how we measure accomplishment in streetsales when a new person starts.
Not by the ability to sell, but the ability to reach attainable goals such as ”I want to say hi to 100 people today”. Once you reach it, success! After that, you set something else. ”I want to stop 20 out of 100 people”, success!
After a while you will be a well-established salesman, something that is comparable to daygaming girls.
Continuing a positive cycle of reaching an easily attainable goal and setting a tougher one is the pillar of success.
InternationalGate1 5y ago
Not this week, but last week I decided to get back in shape again. So I started running (cardio) and lifting again. I have proven to myself once before, that I can do it, and obtain quite a change, as I exercised quite heavily during 2015-2016, but unfortunately I turned into a slob for the next two years until now.
This time, my plan is to not go overboard with the physical exercise, but make it into a life-long routine that I can keep up with. I will not be all fanatical about it, like I was two years ago.
roomrider 5y ago
I started going on a 3 mile run with a friend every morning. I do pushups right when I wake up to get the blood flowing and pull-ups after running. I'm also getting off of my Juul/Sourin Air and switching to a mod with lower nicotine concentration. Also sleeping earlier and waking up earlier. I get about 8 hours of sleep a night and am trying to get it up to 9 this summer break. Finally, I'm starting to learn how to use Microsoft Excel and am seriously considering starting a business with some responsible close friends.
oneutch 5y ago
Good.
- 22 days of zero videogames.
- I finally started going to the gym four times a week and bought a bike to help me in the weight lose.
- I'm reading how a crazy man and absorbing all the TRP theory that I can, obviously I had some practice too.
Bad.
I still need to work in self confidence, cause my voice still breaks and i lose my coolness when I speak with authority figures or very beautiful women.
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Now I am aware that many of the figures that have influenced my life are either white knights or feminists and have introduced into my stupid oneitis ideas among other thing, I don't want to blame others for having been a BB all my life (especially because I used video games as an escape and that was entirely my fault) , but if i want a profound change need to surround myself with other kind of people.
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With school over(for potentially 1+ years) I can finally stretch my legs and get back to skills that matter to me and will potentially help me survive in the real world.
Positives:
Negatives:
Technically I could list 10+ other more legitimate problems but they are so far down the line/outta my hands that it's not even worth stressing about them on a week to week basis even. I just gotta take things one day at a time and recognize that the time for running away from my problems is over…
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I don’t have racist friends , it’s literally 1–2 dudes I barely see. They are still really nice to me so I don’t have a reason to ban them - ghosting them is best.