A fun spirit beats being a head taller!
(the post is finally updated and finished, thanks for bearing with me...)
There are lots of strategies for getting women's sexual attention. The best results come from excelling on multiple fronts. If you're just funny, you're the funny friend. If you just dress well and never do anything, maybe you're the nerd friend or the gay friend. Show you can fuck, fight, and lead through subtle social maneuvers.
If you want check out my IOI post on here a few weeks back for practical tips in improving your appearance. Your body, clothes, face, and posture combine to make your sex appeal billboard. It may not be the biggest or most eye-catching at first, but your billboard can still be the best designed with the best wording. We respond to ads that appeal to us and how we want to feel: same kinda deal with advertising your sexual and social prowess.
Be careful not to let this self-help stuff corrupt you into a shallow narcissist. Develop yourself as a man of substance, character, and ass-kicking, and you won't need to nail every bullet point in some checklist.
The strategies below for getting positive attention are all essentially different styles of creating frame, inviting others into it, and maintaining positive momentum. Most women love being led to fun. They don't want to make all the plans and risk failure. If you are willing to risk falling down and don't it's sexy.
If you do fall down, and get up with a laugh and a smile on your face, you can still get the girl by displaying risk taking, confidence, and perseverance. Like if some goon knuckle-knocked you on your sweet spot, or wild dogs charged the room, if you face the danger laughing like it's nothing serious you have shown a total lack of fear. Same kinda thing when a women busts your balls, if you have balls of steel she will want to suck the chrome off 'em. They criticize to see if you will buckle, like you might surrender to the goon and the wild mutts.
'Can this dude protect my little babies, and will they be genetically able to survive hardship?' ...is the eternal question of every pussy. This is subconscious, and most people don't acknowledge their drives and motives that much.
There's an art to this, and a balance. Don't be an approval addicted attention seeker, be a value creator. This will naturally attract people to follow in your wake, hoping to get a little bit of that value.
It gets better with time, because an older man has faced more adversity and had more victories. Hopefully as you age you have a plan, and set your own reasonable standards for success, more and more.
OK, enough theory, let's get to some strategies!
Bring the party
Lead an activity, preferably something physical. Come prepared, whether it's sports equipment, a board game, or refreshments.
Be the party
Jokes, quick stories, smiles, fun energy. Do small silly things or gently tease people open to it. I like to create little scenarios by asking a goofy question about someone else nearby. If they don't bite, that's fine, move on.
Make your own rules
(within the bounds of common sense and basic respect) Small acts of defiance like smoking 24 feet away from an entrance that requires 25 feet. Learn to tell the difference between necessary rules and petty regulations.
Fitness and style
Duh. Ripped and dirty clothes only look good on ripped and dirty men. XXL tents do not really hide the got, they just turn shirts into flowing blouses. I'm not the expert here, Mark, so take your butt over to the right forums.
Peacocking
Peacocking is wearing unusual adornments or threads to catch the eye and start conversations. Stuff like tattoos, piercings, and dyes fall into this category as well. This is risky and not for novices! A flashing light on your crotch will not make up for failing in other categories of attractiveness. Keep it low-key so you don't become a 'that guy'... although at least you exist and people are talking about you. It could backfire socially, especially if you are nervous about it and don't own it. Mystery can pull off a fuzzy hat because he has titanium frame that his Dr. Seuss fluff hat is the coolest thing ever. Since he has so many confident friends and beautiful women in his wake, you don't want to risk direct social combat even if his hat is stupid as fuck. Attack the hat and you are still talking about him, directing attention to some other dude... all part of the fuzzy plan.
Don't be the instigating angry goon or the wild dogs starting trouble. Be the laughing town champion.
Anyways, there are more strategies available, but rather than try to list them all I want to hear ideas from you guys!
elephantricity 5y ago
My best friend is a blue pilled natural. His energy is just magnetic. He pretty much always has something either witty or funny to say. A lot of it comes from just not having a filter. Sure, sometimes he says something that is just dry and no one laughs, but every every dry 'line' so to speak, he will have 9 others that hit. He is definitely my roll model in terms of having that million dollar mouthpiece. Just being around him gets me laid, its insane. A true alpha.
DocZTheRockstar 5y ago
I'd say watching stand up comedy, looking up funny one liners, etc then experiences with different types of people helps. Group situations too. Chandler from Friends was great at it but didn't have the Alphaness to back it up. God Matthew Perry played him perfectly!
DancesWithPugs 5y ago
Yeah not every witty comment will work. But if you go from 5/10 to 9/10 with practice, you have it made!
If you get a reputation as funny, and people are used to seeing you make others laugh, it gets easier to get good results. At a stand-up comedy show, not everyone in the crowd understands the joke or find it all that funny. They've been caught up in a social energy wave.
Thanks for the comment.
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boofboimac 5y ago
Can you learn to have a million dollar mouth piece? Or it’s just naturally within and the gift of gab is hereditary
IncomeByEtnicity 5y ago
While I don't think it is genetic, it is heavily influenced by being brought up by a talkative parent.
IncomeByEtnicity 5y ago
Sorry about what went down here man, the comments on your post are total chaos. haha. Don't see why this post on TRP would attract so many crazies.
Lots of love to your idea of positivity and being the fun person who doesn't take himself too seriously. If you walk around with a high "Pucker factor", women are just going to side step you.
[deleted] 5y ago
Whatever, whatever I do what I want.
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[deleted] 5y ago
I have frame from watching shoujo like Princess Jellyfish. Is sleeping with a pillow and comfy covers beta. I feel that I need a rundown? Is cryptocurrency(why is cryptocurrency not in windows 10's dictionary it is 2018 not 2012 I just checked my Any.do calender) good should I invest in a house if I don't want one. Please spoon feed me. Google and library's don't exist. No one in the history of the world can help me. Which is why I am reaching out to you on the god damned world wide web. If I can't solve my own problems I am as helpless as a toddler. Jesus and God can't help me. But strangers on the internet can. I am so damn smart. I should be a writer or something. Naw(not in the dictionary either I guess southern slang isn't a real world like ain't) people hate good writers. They mainly enjoy writers who regurgitate what they already know and like. If I want to make it I need to write a story like Twilight and Naruto. Then I might get my dick wet. I don't want that though. I need sex for value. I am not a good person or man if I never had sex. Prolly(not a word?) why I'm still a virgin. I might put some effort on payday. But I would rather buy( I'm spelling it wrong for discipline I want to fix it bad. I might do it later if I think about it)/(fixed it becuase I never read the book Mark Manson's How to not give a fuck because I give a fuck or meme man's Gorilla Mindset) Monster Hunter on PC even if idiots are having problems becuase they are using outdated computers.
BostonPillParty 5y ago
What the fuck did I just read? Are you schizophrenic?
EDIT: after reading how your post history, you clearly are either a young child or actually mentally ill but I don’t give a shit either way because let me share good advice despite all of this: shut the fuck up and read the side bar. Don’t contribute. Don’t even reply on here. Just read the sidebar & PDF, learn, try out things in real life and your psyche will change and you’ll be a productive member of society, and a happy one to boot for using TRP principles.
[deleted] 5y ago
You do care I get my rocks off bullying nerds like you. And I hate bullies. If you didn't care you wouldn't have looked at my history and made an assumption. I bet losers fuck your girlfriend and you don't understand why. This is your brain on nofap. Not even once.
[deleted] 5y ago
Diagnosed with schizo affective disorder. Its a mix between schizophrenia and bipolar. The only benefit is that it can go away for ten years. It will come back but it isn't permanent like depression, bipolar, and depression. With medicine they are normal. Look into mental illnesses. You might have someone in your life with a mental illness and you wouldn't know it unless they told you. I didn't know I had it till I begged my parents to take me to the hospital. The red pill was made for people like me. We live in a society. A society where people wouldn't drink water if Trump told them it would make them sick. Mentally ill people need to rise the fuck up.
BostonPillParty 5y ago
I feel you man, my pops and brother had full blown schizo so permanent shit even worse.
Learn what you can. Maybe an outlet is still good like writing but perhaps in a journal, what you wrote in response here is hot nonsense in the public’s view and probably isn’t going to do you any good when most people downvote it and say nasty shit. I knew something was up hence not berating you. Life is tough man, I empathize with you and your challenges but you could be the best fucking schizo affective disorder having guy on the planet if you work on yourself and try your best.
Goodluck.
[deleted] 5y ago
I never gave a fuck which is why I even took myself to get checked out. Real people never met my expectations. My therapists and docs have all said I'm fine. But if society doesn't think that I have to adjust. Nobody except my parents have called me crazy. My close friend told me I wasn't crazy when I was actually having a full blown episode to surrender. Do not fight it. You will not win. You can't fight the earth. I am not an anime MC like these people are.
whatsthisgarg 5y ago
My new favorite poster. I'm really looking forward to reading more of your stuff.
[deleted] 5y ago
Cool beans. As soon as I get a smidgeon of recognition. Goodbye Jojo(asktrp) 死ね。Unsubbed just like 4chan. I hate self improvers so go damned much. They wouldn't use a spellchecker if someone told them not to. They probably won't edit their own posts. My therapist told me I am normal but I don't believe professionals. I am like the woke atheists and agnostics. I can't believe in something I can't see. I don't have faith in the sun,air, gravity or even god. I am dumb for being a christian I accept that. Christians are happier than atheists. The science is clear. I am very careful with my words. And I'm not a psychiatrist.
whatsthisgarg 5y ago
It's true. Look up "sadder but wiser." It's a recognized phenomenon.
tbh you don't sound happy.
[deleted] 5y ago
I don't care about happiness. Most good writers suicide just like famous actors. If I am happy enough to not kill myself I am golden.
strikethrough123 5y ago
That's enough Internet for tonight.
[deleted] 5y ago
I love bullying smart but depressed people. I bet you don't take medicine or get surgery either. I don't go to church for the word. I go for fellowship the science is clear. An imaginary friend is better than no friend. I read the bible on my own. I use Youtube as a cliffnote.
Xman0142 5y ago
I seriously recognize this guy through his writing style. He is a friend of mine from college who is really cool, but like he said is going through a mental illness problem. Really intelligent and even a great guy to be around, but is seeking help and dealing with it. I showed him reddit and Im actually really glad he actually posts on here because I know it helps him. Im going to tell him to keep posting.
DancesWithPugs 5y ago
I know a lot of people didn't get the memo but the existence of the internet is not an excuse to dump garbage on our virtual lawns. Stop enabling.
It's not helping anyone else to get random abuse and nonsense. I doubt that it is helping him either, this hobby of pissing off strangers. Why don't you please guide your friend into something more constructive? He wants to write Furry Monster Hunter fanfic, so be it.
Xman0142 5y ago
And who the fuck are you to say what people can use the internet for?
If you don’t like it log off man it’s not that serious.
If you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it. He didn’t disrespect you nor was anything he said harmful so grow up.