Eh most women like to cuddle after sex. Certainly not something they look down on.

Never had a female co-worker who divulged every bit of her sex life to me. How are we supposed to take these posts for fact?

Quite honestly i think the definition of love is not when she is atracted to the alpha but persists on the beta. This is a good shit test to see if she really likes you, or only likes the appearance that you are dominant

Conclusion - she's soooo alpha, any more alpha her clit grows into a dick

Yeah I don't think the act of cuddling is wrong per se. If you're into the girl it helps build a good connection and I would think after giving her "the best sex of her life" putting one arm around her and spooning her from behind gives them the tingles they're looking for. However the act of asking her to cuddle is kind of beta.

If I've fucked a girl hard and well I take the opportunity to give her a few light kisses while running my hand up and down her waist. I think there's a case to be made for striking a balance between rough sex followed by a bit more tenderness and intimacy after you've finished.

That being said this girl sounds like a whore so it's not really the best example.

Sorta on topic with this post, I find it funny how women can talk about their sex lives at work and nothing happens. I got in trouble multiple times for even a slightly sexual joke and had to have a "talk" with the store manager or department manager. But women can straight up talk about getting dicked hard the past weekend with a greasy random hookup they never met before and management won't bat an eye. I called that shit out but of course it never works.

There was a question on AskTRP a while back from a guy whose girl just wanted to cuddle. He tried to escalate and she said "But what's better than cuddling?" He was looking for responses.

My comeback was "Post-coital cuddling."

IMHO, post-coital cuddling combined with follow-up texts about what a great time it was are your best defences to any lingering chance of a sexual assault claim, especially if you were silly enough to include alcohol in your evening.

I'd have just fucked him again

Maybe that's what he wanted. To escape, he already fucked her after all.

Played properly, this can be a good escape strategy.

Never underestimate the value of playing beta when you want to get rid of a tiresome girl with as little drama as possible.

So I read somewhere, I can't remember now, about a dude who called a woman he was dating and asked for 'cuddling', she thought he was just joking around and wanted to bang her, she arrived there and they actually cuddled, she left and never answered his messages ever again.

Nothing wrong with cuddling if your chick wants to and you aren't a little bitch about it. This guy was most definitely a little bitch about it.

What's wrong with cuddling? Damn, man needs some cuddling too at times. Even the worst douches and chaddest of Chads do, I bet. What's wrong with these bitches?

He should of just initiated the cuddle and judged her reaction, it's almost best to adapt to your situation instead of trying to pre-plan everything like he did by asking.

Just go for it, if it doesn't work then stay cool and move on like it never happened, asking and trying to make everything go a certain way just made him look needy.

Wtf I love cuddling. So I shouldn’t initiate or are some bitches hoes

Let the girl ask to cuddle with you. Not the other way around.

This chick sounds trashy as it is. No surprise she doesn’t like to cuddle. I’d have her fired for talking about her sex life at work. I’ve turned down potential plates for being so candid. Don’t have a thing for crazy

Eh, this thread, mainly the title, screamed at me a bit at first, because I have a thing I do from time to time (which is actually efficient and involves actually applying some things I learned from lurking here) - when I meet a girl I'm interested in or connect on Tinder or some other app, often in the pre-meeting conversations, I ask if she likes to cuddle.

I know the consensus is to never text for anything other than logistics, which I do aside from that. But if I'm gonna make an impression via text, might as well plant some potential escalation seeds. How they respond to that question (usually positively) speaks volumes. They probably are used to guys pussying out of asking anything like that and trying hard to make a "respectful" impression, like the club guy in the other thread.

Never mind the fact that it often has the conversation take a sexual turn which she's into, something which wouldn't be on most beta's lexicon. And that's doable without getting to attached or having the bar set high, as long as it's made clear that we might not be feeling it in person (usually we are though anyway) then there's not really much to lose. Cuddling is like a gateway drug for getting laid.

Of course OP's story probably has nothing to do with it and the woman was probably more put off by the idea of asking to cuddle once you are already in bed which is silly and redundant.

To be fair though she sounds like a borderline psycho.

Bitches say they want to cuddle. Then when you do, they think you’re a bitch. Wtf world

Is this sub still convinced women want committment? 5sec of emotional investment,and they're out! Cmon TRP. stop deluding yourself

So by her saying "I'm the top woman here" she's trying to say she's alpha af?

him leaving simply would've just been the cherry on top - im sure he could EASILY fuck her again after cuddles if she was raving about the sex.

basically what she was getting at was a super honest insider female psychology (what this sub is all about) that it was a 9.5 because he didnt abruptly leave her wanting more.

I think the mistake was to say that he wanted to cuddle, not the act itself. Women don't like it when men are too considerate or ask for permission. Personally I like to have sex in the spoon position, creampie the girl and cuddle while keeping my dick in her pussy. I have even fallen asleep like that a few times.

If you ever want to cuddle just fall back in bed and relax. The girl will slowly lay down next to you, then you pull her in close to you.

"I'm the top woman here."

Can anyone explain the logic here for me?

How would this translate into a situation with an LTR?

Yeah, nothing wrong with cuddling because I do love cuddling naked with a woman after sex (even if there is no emotional connection).

But who the fuck asks to cuddle? Even when I was more of a nice guy, I never asked. It just naturally happened.

If its the first time they fucked, blue pill or red pill aside, that is kind of weird. Who asks a girl they just fucked to cuddle?

He may have thought he found a keeper. But instead he fucked a high number count woman that had already lost her ability to pair bond.

To my understanding, the above FR demonstrates that the act of cuddling is at some level on our brain seperated from the act of sex and serves a different purpose.

What kind of retard doesn't like cuddling? You have to be borderline socio. Cuddling and being cuddled is super relaxing after sex. I get it tho, cuddling/sleeping with her after sex is like the gate way to getting feelings. I think these "independent" girls don't want to cuddle, because they don't want there feelings fucked up and destroyed.

title is a lie, should be renamed:

"The asking for permission like a little bitch effect"

Honestly sounds like this girl pegged said dude as a alpha, and in typical blue pill fashion all the guy had to do was just act and he fucked it up with blue pill words.