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Northleader 5y ago
is this thread still active - i have not seen any posts since this date
CockyAndHot 5y ago
Work experience with dad. $
Did 2 days with 8x2 + 5x3 + 2x2 of 100kg benchpress, totaling 51 x 100kg benchpress.
Slightly unhappy.
Overall Week: 8/10
discoSwindler 5y ago
Thank you to this community and all the materials that are out there. I started climbing a month ago, up to 5.10a now. Back to my baseline bench and squat (115 / 135) respectively. Started my own LLC, and built a platform on AWS to start making things move when I need them to. And most importantly, started approaching more women, got rejected a bunch, failed shit tests, but I wouldn't have learned if I hadn't tried
TrenGod37 5y ago
Lifting:
Hit PR on bench 385lbs (yearly goal of 405)
Went 4 out of my goal of 5 days.
Financial:
Sucked. Was trying to save 20k (yearly goal) and car and dental apt. Messed that up along with eating out too much.
Needs work. Going to work overtime to make up for it.
Career:
Asked boss to put me in a management position. Results are pending. I been there 8 months though and have already received 3 raises so I’m doing a decent job if you ask me
LTR
Practicing shutting the fuck up and not allowing her to bring me into her with her petty arguments. I’m getting much better.
That’s all I have for this week
SandyShoes08 5y ago
That's a damn good bench, congrats!
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Holy shit my PB isn't even half of that. Are you huge or just committed?
ETA: Both?
TrenGod37 5y ago
Thanks. I remember when I couldn’t even do 215
HeilArminius 5y ago
1) Any tips?
2) Funny username. Did you get to 385lbs without it?
TrenGod37 5y ago
Without tren? I’m off cycle now so yes.
Tips? Keep going
Zen_YS 5y ago
Positive:
1. Long story short: she were rejecting the kisses during second and third date yet we were flirting, hugging and there were a stong moments of jealousy and interest during the conversations and texting.
Got bad and good exp. with a deviant artistic "NAWALT" (location - Belarus) I was dating around for a week. The things I have discovered:
There was to quite a few personal mental issues that are the reasons she's avoiding relationships. ALso she has a bit unchaste views on kisses ( i.e. it's okay for her to have a kiss with some deviant guys and girls similar to her level of deviancy) but she's refusing to do so with a normal persons.
I've gently proposed a free type of relationships since she is too insecure with getting deeper with her feelings and obsessions. So left it as it is just for having a casual hugs and kisses since she like to get to my apartment to tease the kitties I have
P.S. *Of course it may be the very complex way to send me to the friendzone while holding plausible deniability.
TO/DO Game:
I need to decrease the level of attention and validation I'm giving to girl so the dating will get less time consuming thing, bring more IDGAF behaviour.
Probably I'll try to give a stronger frame of what I'm looking for from her in order to avoid the time whores, who's playing just to get lovers or friends to tease their egos and spend time. But it might be a huge turnout.
Next I'll focus on work and improving myself. Too much time and possible income were wasted just to get pussy and "love they intrinsically cannot give you".
Negative:
Got cold.
hungrybath 5y ago
Cut down social media use. Only used now to keep up with friends and events.
Sorted out contact lenses. Feeling more confident with them already.
Begun to change my diet gradually and eating more (skinny as fuck).
Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
I've started tracking some metrics from my life on a daily basis that I find important to my progress. I highly encourage tracking your life if you are wanting to improve in certain areas. It gives you a concrete reference as opposed to how you feel/think things are going. Here is the weekly snapshot:
Typical Wake Time: 7-7:30 or 9
Average Hours Sleep: 7.28 hrs
Days Calories Tracked: 2/7
Average Calories (days tracked): 2944
Dollars Spent (total nonbusiness): 77
Days Smoked: 1/7
Days NoFap: 3/7
Weak areas are NoFap, and meal prepping/calorie tracking. I find cooking and eating to be exhausting, need to find a solution to this so I don't stay a skinny fuck.
On another note, began work on founding a second company. In the mean time, I'm optimizing my first business so the income from that can support me perpetually. Made some good moves in the business area.
set-theorist 5y ago
Good on you, I like idea of tracking these metrics. Do you use an app or just input them into excel or something?
Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
I'm a pen and paper guy, so I write them in my planner at the end of each day. At the end of the week I compile them for review.
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Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
I track my hours slept every day with a sleep tracking app. So my average hours is just the sum of hours slept that week divided by 7.
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Pragmaticpandas 5y ago
Use your google search bro
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Positives:
I'm cutting a bit late this year because I wasn't where I'd like muscle-wise after my bulk but I've cut down from 195 to 180 in the last 6-8 weeks. I'm trying to get to 170 so I can have the 8 pack. It's not very big but I play soccer and I'm planning to box at super middleweight (168 lbs) so I'm fine with that. I'm only 5'10 as well. I plan on starting my bulk a bit earlier this coming year. Ideally I'd like to be a lean and ripped 175-180 next summer.
I'm doing a quasi monk mode and it's been going well. Just focusing on working out, meditating, reading, etc. In these last few months I've just become so tired of gaming girls at bars. The area I live in is just filled with vapid whores who can barely even hold a conversation and I've basically quit drinking for the most part so I'm gonna try to focus on day game and cold approaches.
Negatives:
I looked at my ex-LTRs instagram yesterday. I deleted all my photos of her but she still has a photo of us on her profile from when we were going out. I was the one who broke things off but as I've gotten so tired of fucking randoms I've started thinking about her more lately. I've mentioned it in past posts but looking back on the relationship really gets me down. I'm pretty sure she had bipolar disorder (I know... I know... don't ever fuck with bipolar girls but this was before I discovered TRP) but I don't know for sure. But basically we'd have these cycles of a month or two where we were the best couple in the world followed by a month or two of her just being moody, depressed, and picking fights for no reason.
And that's why the relationship just gets me down when I think about it. During her "up" periods she was a great partner. Submissive, would split every check and offer to pay fully other times, was always wanting to do fun things (she would buy us concert tickets out of the blue or just show up at my house spontaneously and just say "hey let's go to the beach), she was an absolute freak with me in bed, low n-count (she only had been with one man before me, a 3 year relationship).
Idk just some thoughts I have. Let me know what you guys think.
Shaney96 5y ago
I get what you mean regarding your ex.
My example would be last night: I was in a club feeling totally isolated and I recall thinking back to the comfort of being with someone whom I shared a strong emotional connection with.
I think this could be your case also. Oneitis? Yeah, probably. There's no concrete definition, but I'd still say I've got oneitis for my ex, even though we split 10 months ago and I have absolutely no desire to fuck or see her again. Don't give up hope.
You know, I think it's pretty human for a man to want a strong emotional bond with a woman. Perhaps when I get shit on (metaphorically) a few more times in the future and get The Pill rammed down my throat, then perhaps I'll see having connections women of less importance unconsciously.
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Yeah I think most men strive for that bond. It’s just that in today’s day and age of basically every decent looking girl riding the cc thru college it seems it’s hard to find a decent one. I know they’re out there but I just prefer monogamy. I’ve spun plates since the breakup and while yeah sex is fun it doesn’t compare to doing it with someone you have a great bond with.
SandyShoes08 5y ago
Week 4 of calorie restriction and weight lifting again. Down 6 pounds, from 186 to 180 at 5' 9". I was originally thinking my goal weight would be 170, but seeing how my belly still looks at 180 I think my goal might get moved to 165.
Lifts are continuing to progress despite calorie restriction. This is because I had stopped working out and I'm now well below my PRs.
I'm to the point where squats and deadlifts are starting to get hard and not fun, but more weight on the bar each workout is the name of the game for now. Gotta do that as long as I can, it is a lot easier than figuring out some other program for weekly or monthly progress. I've never advanced to that level so it will be a learning curve when that time comes.
I'm also doing arm only days (bicep, tricep, and forearm) between my compound/full body days, which I haven't done before. That seems to make the bench press and press more manageable and help my shoulder or tendonitis issue less painful. Hoping I'll see some size gains on the arms at some point too
djh860 5y ago
Worked out 8 times this week m-f mornings at my reg gym and 3 after work outings rock climbing with friends. Most proud of hard work at gym in am. Good level of intensity. I box heavy bag and to stair machine alternating each day. I do core everyday.
I read red pill daily and I started reading no more mr nice guy. Received the game in the mail on Tuesday .
I spent time each day considering my blue pill past and thinking about how I would change things up. It’s helped me drop my anger at past gf because awalt . My bad for not knowing.
I tracked daily food consumption and am focused on losing 20 pounds.
WhiteGhosts 5y ago
Lifting:
My biceps and triceps have grown.
Education:
Had a 3 hours test about dutch criminal procedure (i study law in the nethrelands) I think I fucked up. It's going to be a long summer and it's probably going to tear me apart. Oh well.
LTR
Tried to get close in on a 6/10 girl. She pushed me away. Then I saw her in the gym (she works there, hate it) where I work out. I chose to ignore her. Guess what, she talked to me. I didn't say much and try to end it asap. I realized that she had a 7/10 body but a 5/10 face. Not worth the time.
Complimented my petite chinese house mate on her dress. Guess she liked it. Guess i'm the only guy in her life that said something nice to her lol.
Now I am going to do extremely shit work in the next few weeks to have some fucking money to spend. Ughh
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Positives:
Negatives:
PM_ME_UR_1ITIS_SNAP 5y ago
Recorded a track. It was better than my last but I still have a monotonous voice. I either need to write to fit that voice or work on my vocal range.
Got my license. Finally have a way to hang and bang without the girl picking me up.
More volume on my lifts. Working out for size for a while because I want to be cut in college.
Cutting down on soda consumption.
I'm jacking it alot though because I have a lot of free time. Wake up, lift, eat, watch TV, write, record, sleep. Fucking easy mode.
CockyAndHot 5y ago
2018 - First 6 months review
Physique
Strength
Social
Skill
Wealth/material
disabledtrp 5y ago
Positive:
Presented myself to give a talk to another conference. will know if i was selected in about a month.
I haven't skipped a day of gym and i'am gaining strength, so is awesome.
Mentally, i'm accepting the fact that the "Disney Love" doesn't exist. The frame is becoming myself (something i was scared about, probably my whole life, but now that i have another point of view, is awesome).
Started to control food macros and i'm in a steadily weight loss. 2kg less :)
Negative:
Couldn't finish everything that was work related this week, things got complicated. i will need to do some crunching next week.
Tinder match didn't talk to me last saturday to go out. I didn't send her anything either. If she is really interested, she will come to me, if not, IDGAF
Anxiety has been a problem this week again, but reading TRP is slowly getting better.
The conference i presented my proposal didn't write back, has been a week since papers call is closed. I have a feeling that i will not be selected (even if i'm the only in the country that can do presentation on the subject).
No more tinder matches, i should start going to bar's, but time is limited, so i don't think this week is gonna happen.
Shaney96 5y ago
Positive:
Went out last Saturday and last night for night-game. Last Saturday I met with 3 lads from an RSD page, meaning we actually pushed eachother to approach and shit. Met with one guy last night and that was a tough night man... Only faced rejection but I believe nights like that are important.
Went down to London to meet these two guys, one of whom I met through the /seduction sub. Did some comfort zone challenges including dancing in front of a busker right outside St. Pancras station.
Supposed to have a Tinder date in an hour but she flaked. She was on about rearranging but she's already flaked so I'm ghosting her. This whole journey with women is strange man.
Kinda finished my bulk. Basically this is my first bulk and it got too dirty, and I feel uncomfortable with my body fat percentage, so I'm starting a cut from today.
On the way back from London I instigated a conversation on the train with 3 older birds, which lasted over an hour. It was fucking hilarious. Had people further down the carriage looking back and got someone from the table beside us in on the conversation.
Negative:
Last night was a fucking bomb. I mean, I've never faced so much rejection in a night, so I guess that's good, but it was painful. Being in a packed nightclub with music I wasn't enjoying, feeling pretty isolated. Whenever I'm in a club all I can fucking think of is women. I'm never with a group of lads who are drunk and just having fun. I went out sober so was only drinking water, so this didn't help my mental state.
Gym not at all this week so far, and only twice last week. I'm trying to get my website to a point where I'm happy to release it (it's basically just a fucking blog), and I'm also trying to help out/cope with family shit, which is helping test my Stoic development...
Neutral/Vent:
When I went out last Saturday there was this 2-set and my mate approached because I was too much of a pussy to make the first move. I go over and get talking to one of them. 30 seconds later I go in for the kiss and we're getting off. Instead of thinking 'oh wow this pick-up shit is great, look how much confidence I'm getting', all I thought was 'this bird's a pretty shit kisser.' Then last night when I was in one of the sets, even though the girls were pretty fit, I was just bored. It's like I was thinking "Is exerting all this energy socially and going around getting blown out of all these sets really worth it..? I don't even massively enjoy myself even if I am dancing with a fit bird. Instead, I'm just like 'yeah, this is cool'. Is this shit really worth it..?"
BostonPillParty 5y ago
Dude great job. Looking at rejections as a positive is winners mentality type of shit. I like adding a period of time in my day for a type of reflective meditation where I can look back at my day and think about what went well what did not and what can be adjusted/changed/learn from. Highly encourage you to try this and really process projections in terms of what you learn from it, what you could do better, or you could try differently…
But you missed 100% of the shots you don’t take, so great fucking job, keep it up.
Shaney96 5y ago
Thanks for the response man, seriously. I have few people to talk to and the guy I was with was rather inclined to gloat about his past experiences with ONS' and all his closes and shit, so that wasn't helping.
Even some fucking internet motivation like your comment helped me out. I'll look into that form of meditation. I do journal each day but I sometimes find it difficult to scrutinize each part of the past night, so doing it meditatively could prove helpful.
BostonPillParty 5y ago
You got it dude. +1 for journaling
Only things with meditation: stick with it. It’s like going to the gym for your brain, so you may only last for a minute, but if you try it for a month you’ll be able to make some serious progress as the days go on, providing you have a consistent habit and don’t miss two days in a row ever.
Shaney96 5y ago
I'm not trying to suck my own cock here, but I've been meditating for a couple of years. Currently part of my morning routine is 20 minutes every morning.
I feel I don't see the effects because it's just 'part of what I do', if you get me? It's like going to the gym.. It feels weird to not go to the gym, although you can see the physical effect of not going to the gym.
I think I'll just try different types of meditation, for what I currently do is just focus on my senses (observe sounds, pay attention to what I can feel, smell, etc..) and note my thoughts and allow them to pass. Thus, reflective meditation and perhaps practising gratification is something I'll look to do.
Cheers again.
BostonPillParty 5y ago
Right on, I think it’s helpful to distinguish that there are many forms of meditation, each with a different outcome or effect.
I like resources like Meditate.IO because it shows a modern dichotomy amongst the various forms of meditation.
I myself try to do a silent meditation in the morning, usually an awareness/mindfulness set. And at night I do the reflective meditation where anything goes. Shit I’ll even talk out loud about a situation that didn’t go well to make sense of it. It’s weird and maybe not traditional but reflection can take many forms. Glad to hear you’ll experiment with these different forms, hope it helps!